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EmmaV
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Number of ratings75 Number of reviews21 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceSep 11, 2014 Last activeover 6 months ago GenderFemale PathStep 509 People helped146 Chats410 Group support chats131 Listener group chats373 Forum posts163 Forum upvotes188
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CURRENTLY IN EXAM SEASON SO MAY TAKE A WHILE TO RESPOND TO REQUESTS. THE ONLY GUARANTEE THAT I'LL REPLY STRAIGHT AWAY IS IF IT SAYS I'M ONLINE :D



Hello! I'm glad you've found me on 7 Cups of Tea. I'm a trained active listener and I like to support people struggling with sexual assault, depression and self harm. I'm a massive fan of Matthew Gray Gubler and Mariska Hargitay :D . I play the guitar and sing a lot and I'm the worship leader at church. I enjoy playing netball and volleyball and I'm currently at university to become a neurosurgeon :D
I've overcome a lot in life and would like to help by listening to you. If I'm online, then please feel free to start a chat. If I'm offline, then send me a message and we can set up a time to connect. Glad you are here!
I'm thankful for every step I take, every hand I shake, every breath I make, and kisses like snowflakes~Matthew Gray Gubler
Being fearless means busting down those walls of fear and being who you are, not who someone else thinks you are. People like to put others in a box and tell them what they can and cannot do or who they can and cannot be. No one can tell you who you are and what you are made of, only you yourself know what you are made of, and only you yourself can do the work to become who you want to be. ~Mariska Hargitay
SOMETIMES YOU FIND YOURSELF IN THE MIDDLE OF NOWHERE,
AND SOMETIMES IN THE MIDDLE OF NOWHERE YOU FIND YOURSELF

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CAN WE GET SOME CLARIFICATION? :D
Group Support / by EmmaV
Last post
 February 14th, 2015
...See more Hi guys:) ****APOLOGIES FOR THIS REALLY LONG POST BUT PLEASE READ IT**** So some people contacted me in frustration about a few things and the first I want to address is language in the chatrooms. Now, we were all taught at the start that in the member rooms, all conversations have to be done in english (which is kind of fair) and I believe in the beginning of the chatroom days, this was actually in the rules for everyone to see. However, while discussing this with someone yesterday, I discovered that it was not longer in the official rules for the site so when we mods have been telling people to speak only english because it's "the rules" the rule actually isn't there. This has caused a lot of confusion and is one of the main reasons why members refer to us as "the gestapo" among other things and there is a lot of tension.  (Could we put the rule back up if we are going to enforce it??) Next, I totally get that to make this a welcoming place for all we need to keep the chats in english (its the one language all mods here speak so it is easier for us to monitor conversations than if someone was abusing another user in another language) but for many members, english is not their first language and it can be really daunting entering a room full of strangers chatting away really fast. While I'm not saying that we should converse in every language (as it would be nearly impossible and pretty impractical) we should not be so quick to shut down people who give a simple greeting in their native language (whether it be a member, guest or listener). I mean, it's not hurting anybody and you can generally tell if it is a greeting or a massive long message about what's going on for them and if there's any doubt, we have many different online translating tools at our fingertips. Obviously if they started a big long message we could politely say something along the lines of 'I'm really glad you feel comfortable chatting here but to make sure everyone else here understands and can join in with your discussion, we ask that everyone chats in english. If you feel more comfortable chatting in your native language you can always request a specific language here {with link}.' something that is non-threatening and helpful for everyone. I have seen some listeners come into the room with a simple 'bonjour' and then they get several requests from french speakers because someone took the time to say a simple hello. Yes it was english but it helped members feel more accepted, did not harm any others and is that not the ultimate aim of the chatrooms?  What I'm basically trying to say is that Although we should keep the chat in english, a simple greeting in another language is not breaking the "rules" of the site and could even be encouraged (my person opinion anyway :D ).   Now for the not so cool aspect of this. It was brought to my attention that some mods were muting other users for greeting some members in a language other than english and, according to this person's account, were allowing a detailed sex chat to continue on. I cannot be 100% certain that this is the full story however it is worth addressing all the same. It is not that users dislike mods enforcing rules but it is the lack of consistentsy that drives them to outright disrespect many mods here. Some regular members have worked out which mods will bend the rules and allow such chats and so when other mods try to stamp it out, there is a lot of hate towards the mod who is trying to keep the chat safe. This creates a really hostile environment and mods that believe they are not doing the right thing when they are. In short,BE CONSISENT WITH HOW YOU MOD AND LET'S MAKE SURE EVERYONE IS READING FROM THE SAME PAGE:D So that's pretty much it:D:D    KEEP BEING AWESOME!!! Emma <3   Thoughts??
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Nice person to talk :)
very patient and caring :)
She understands people.
Emma was really helpful. She helped me to unpack why i was having suicidal thoughts which is great because it means I am less likely to act on them. She listened to my problems and seemed like she really cared about what was going on in my world as well as help me realised why the professionals I have to work with treat me the way they do :) hugs Emma I hope we can talk again soon
Sweet girl, nice , lovely. >hugs< -lizzie
Talking with EmmaV was really helpful. She understood what I was going through and although she didnt trivialise my problems she let me know that i was alone and it is not my fault
Letting me talk about what happened has really been a good release. I'm glad to talk with another survivor who actually understands me
Has been really good and supportive. making things make sense for me. I love her and hope we can talk again
good
she's really friendly and keeps the conversation going.
cool!
Emma is really helpful, showing that I'm not alone and I'm not crazy
She is great and encouraging. She has shown me that I don't need to cut anymore, I can recover
She gave some good honest feedback.
Emma is awesome!! I'm glad I had the chance to chat with her. She understood my situation and was really caring:):) Would recommend
Great listener!!!
Very good listener, I'm glad to have gotten a chance to talk with Emma.
thanks emma for listening...it helped a lot i just needed that
A very nice person.
Great listener :)
Extremely helpful
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