2025 Week #8 Weekly Goal Sharing! (Monday 02/17/25 - Sunday 02/23/25)
I welcome anyone to commit to a goal here today.
But importantly, talk about getting it done..... or why it didn't happen yet.
To praise each other for our efforts and wins.
While supporting each other through trials and setbacks.
And to continue trying and not give up.
Remember:
Every Goal should be considered "Worthy".
Never belittle your achievements and be proud of yourself for your daily accomplishments!
Whether they be Complex or Simple.
Getting out of bed is a good day..... Good job I say!
Share your goals today, for support and encouragement.
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Do Your Best and Get Your rest.
Things are usually much harder then we think. Do your best. Be kind to yourself and Be kind to others.
@fearlessWriter78 @SoulfullyAButterfly @Kait @Apeatrice @decisiveBranch2794 @IchooseLife79 @cloudySummer @mytwistedsoul @KristenHR @Tinywhisper11 @CyclingThroughLife @Psalm139 @Enthenia @anonyTortoise3336 @spicyavocado3788 @neatBlueberry5213 @AmyK1234 @ivoryLakeuk @MusokeHere @seashell145
And Any Others. If you want to be added/removed to/from the tag list, let me know. 😃
@IsayUncle I've got a goal, this week for me would be about moving on. I've ruined an opportunity I had and now I'm just reeling from the shock of it all xD but it's okay, I'll learn from this. It's a bit hard cause my count for destruction is 3x this year.
Kindness is hard to find right now but I've already printed the missing posters and just waiting to find the courage to hang them and hopefully soon enough I'll find it :)
@BlueDarkAurora
3X this year!!! OH NO, that must be Soooo discouraging. 😢. I'm sorry.
I truely champion you for trying again. AND DON'T WORRY about being kind to others. Be kind to yourself. REST and rebuild your strength. YOU matter, and you deserve that.
You can do it. (((Hugs))) 🌼🌺🌻
@IsayUncle Thank you<3 Your words meant a lot to me<3 How are things going with you?
@BlueDarkAurora
NP. U hang in there. 😃
I'm doing OK, (with baited breath) as they say....... whatever that means 🤣
Thanks
@IsayUncle Hope your OK keeps getting better and better everyday ^-^ Thank you for being so kind<3
I'd like to say not screw up this week but I know that's not going to happen.
And I know the who "Be kind to yourself and we're all human." but how do you retain that when your job points out every single thing you do wrong and makes a big deal out of it? Had a name backwards on a report. The customer profile is FN, LN. One platform for background reports is LN, FN. The other is FN, LN. Sometimes I get them reversed and don't catch it. I do sometimes 20 in a day and maybe there's one that has a mistake. 1 out of 20 is 0.05%. Doesn't seem like a lot, right? But no, it's a disaster and I'm costing the company tons of money because I constantly screw up.
But then they say "it's okay." If it was, why did they make such a fuss over it? And naturally, I can't say anything because they are supervisors and they are gods---at least that's the impression I got that one time I got in trouble for resisting the directive and that entire thing was spun in their favor. Yet the company as a whole boasts integrity and fairness 🙄.
@Enthenia
I can understand the frustration. Human errors are possible if things are done manually. People should be able to accept 5%. But this day will pass. Some days at work could be terrible but some would be good. You can try to recheck your work before submitting so that you can notice it without anyone reporting it.
@kindFlamingo747 sometimes it's hard to tell what's the surname. Like today I had one that was entered in incorrectly. I'm waiting for the ID to be sent over before I submit the report but it appears that it was put in wrong when the alarm was created. The possible relatives on the background report have the same surname so that's what I went with. I don't have access to change the name, I can only view the information.
It is just annoying and if I say anything, I'm negative or bucking the supervisors authority. And having half the people working from home doesn't help things either. I haven't seen my actual manager in five months. Maybe more.
I meant account. No idea where alarm came from...
@Enthenia
Yeah that sounds confusing. But don't give up. Everyday is a new day and we all make mistakes at work. 2 weeks ago I was overburdened because of lack of resources and I missed to test one change and it resulted in production errors. I was very scared as I'm scared of being scolded. I should have said that I needed more time or it's not possible instead of saying everything has been tested when I just did high level testing. Thankfully my team member was able to resolve the issue within 24 hrs after it was reported by the client so it didn't escalate much. It's just a part of a job.
Sometimes we do a great job and it can go unnoticed but sometimes we make little mistakes because of the situation we are put into and that gets highlighted. I know when things like this happens at work u feel demotivated to work the next day but I'm trying to teach myself that it's okay may be it's the part of adulting and I need to accept it
@Enthenia
Awwwww, 😥. Sending some courage your way. 
@IsayUncle thanks but I don't know if I actually need courage. I'm here every single day excluding weekends and the days I force myself to take. Still have 100 hours of vacation time to work through. Really wish I could trade that in for a check but they don't do that anymore.
There's many things that don't do anymore...
Is it just me who is not able to post or respond here or anyone else as well?
I was trying to add just the goals but it keeps telling me that I sound like I'm in a crisis and if I need resources. There was no such word in the post for a change it was a positive post
@kindFlamingo747
sometimes the safety algorythimns are just super crazy on this site. ☹️. it is really frustrating too when its a simple point you're trying to express....
It was just a goof.... 😕
@kindFlamingo747
Sometimes just the simplest word or phrase gets rejected for the weirdest reason ?????? 😕😯
@IsayUncle i'm feeling so much better today. i had a good talk with someone last night, and it's like a switch flipped and i'm feeling wonderful today.
this week i'm taking notes from a webinar and need to get that done in the coming days to meet the deadline to watch. the webinar is long but i think having the deadline will keep me motivated and get me to complete it.
wishing you all a wonderful week <3
@fearlessWriter78
Oh, Good! Thanks and you have a good week too!
Well I ve been meaning to go for a run everyday, I keep stumbling over laziness. I'm too lazy to build even atomic habits.
@energeticSkies3610
1st accountability insight. 😁. LAZY, Really? Probably not.
Poor Lazy gets balmed so much, for things that are not even it's fault.
How about tired, that's legitimate? Or unmotivated.... I bet if you were being chased by a bear, you would start running - 😂 - I know there is chemical brain stuff, like endorohins or something like that. Age or being Stressed about something has a lot to do with it.
Maybe it's something you "THINK" you should be doing but you really have no idea how to enjoy it or even a desire to try it.
SOOOO, I'd say there's a lot to consider. and it will be interesting to follow up on Running, Meditation and the idea of being Lazy. 😀
what do you think?
Yes, you maybe right about that. I think I need to do this but no idea how to enjoy it. I myself tell sometimes that I am waiting for that push or trigger or that event that would just keep propelling me.
@energeticSkies3610
You hit the nail on the head! THAT IS A TOUGH NUT TO CRACK!
But, the good news is, people have figured out how to do it so we don't have to reinvent the wheel, just copy them. (It's Not easy though 😒😅) I think you'll be able to do it. 😃.
When do you want to start running?
When do you want to start meditating?
I'll check on your replies this evening.... Have a GREAT day!
I want to meditate now. I want to run at next sunrise. I want to stop bad habits the moment this sentence ends.
But... Nothing is happening... I'm sitting idle with myself nothing has happened still.. y not browse a little.. there goes all my resolve!.
@energeticSkies3610
That's great! Really! YOU WANT a lot of good stuff for yourself. Yes, that is good.
Which one of those things (JUST ONE) for now, are you willing to do, even when you don't feel like doing it.
Why should we do anything that we don't feel like doing? Of course some things are neccissity but what about other things. Why do them at all when we don't feel like it?
Tell me a little about yourself IF IF you feel ok sharing. I see on your profile page you are an adult... YAY.... You made it. HaHA. i wish i was a teenager again with what I know now. 😂
@energeticSkies3610
Guess What? I'm doing the same exact thing. I have a day off from work because of a snow storm and I planned on doing all of these things around the house. I've been up for several hours and already went back to bed to take a nap now it's getting close to noon time. Everything I look at is like uggh.
I know I will feel bad if I keep this up all day so I'm gonna start off with my 15 minute rule. Do one thing for 15 minutes. I'm gonna keep doing that until I gained some momentum because I sure do not feel like doing anything. Absolutely nothing. but then, i'll feel bad if i don't and things will be worse tomorrow.
I just wanna go back to bed and sleep all day. ☹️.
One task would be just sit idly and breathe to the point I'm convinced I am meditating.
Yes adult, still a child socially. Starting with poor hygiene who once under his family's care has seen better times. Since I left home and I became in charge of myself, it's like I hate myself. Those were teenage years I dropped out of college twice. Went after a girl once. Then went after a second girl after that. Tbh 2nd one was tragic. She was a just got kicked out by her husband homeless older than me and had two kids who are under their father's care. I started of as I wanted to help and I almost became one of the guy who wished her the worst. So that latter part explains how I ve been. Now I'm back in college again as parents decided to take some initiative in my life as I was getting nowhere and had them worried. Trying to not sabotage this "another chance". But it is kinda hard. Also all this led me to psychiatrist who think I may be a little schizo or bipolar and prescribed medication. I'm on and off medication wise as I'm not really sure if I am sick or not. It really depends on the day. Then in 7 cups I ve tried therapy. Also a listener. Also been here around 7 years, not regular tho. I ve always felt I'm crazy, all my life and I'm odd. When I was away from home I did so much weed and other stuff in the hopes of finding me or curing me or sabotage me. Now I'm sober complete. I definitely have ADHD, OCD behaviors which I ve overcame after years of substance abuse. And now I'm here because I'm into my 3rd semester and I starting to pick up some old patterns and I'm worried that I ll just fall again.
@Enthenia I want to share a stupidest mistake I made at work. I had a client call and there were 3 clients sadly my manager also joined. I was sharing my screen. Towards the end the I couldn't stop sharing screen and ended up showing chatgpt and the prompt was to respond to my manager's congratulations mail .
I just hope he lets it go or haven't seen 😔 Had he not joined the call client wouldn't have minded it and no one would have got to know the mistake
@kindFlamingo747 sorry about that. Right now I'm dealing with trying to figure out how things are filed. I keep saying that files and folders need to be named the same way every single time for the sake of consistency and clarity but no. Spent ten minutes trying to find a document because someone else put the wrong year on a form. Then tried to pull information from another document but it's password protected. How am I supposed to get the previous amt. if I can't view it?
But again, if there was management that actually got involved instead of working from home and letting the leads run rampant, things like this wouldn't happen.
my goal is to become a better partner and human being in general, be more loving and listening, be more there.
@n0tl1b3rty
Be more listening.... A wonderful way to start. Good luck.
That is so so hard for me sometimes and i forget when I'm out in the social enviroment so I do wish you the best of sucess in that area. That's awesome you are trying.! 🤗.
Thank you for understanding and sharing your experience! It's like i hear what someone says, yet I fail to really understand it and process it! It is very frustrating and damaging to all parties urgg
@n0tl1b3rty
Urrrrrgggg is exactly right!
Have you (per chance) read the guidelines for being a good listener. When I read these, I was stupified because I was doing exactly the opposite of "ALL" of these these things my entire life.
That's because I was always trying to help someone, hench, giving advice, sharing my experiences, saying "not worry" etc.
I never realized being a good listener is not about helpng someone fix something, it's more about letting them kind of depressurize so they feel relieved and more importantly, valued. And I honestly believe we are all valuable gems in one form or another. Perhaps, in the rough and dirty and unseen but none the less, extremely valuable.
Urrrrgggg, SEE... HERE I am doing it again! (I really am trying to be a better listener but sometimes I can't help myself).
Anyway, there are a couple of great literay tools, I refer too, that have been helping me for the past couple of years. Would you like me to paste them here to read later?
The one good thing I have learned is the difference of recognizing when I'm being a good listener and when I'm try to give my insights to help. Giving my insights to help IS NOT a bad thing. There is a time and place for both. Listening and Giving insights. They are completely seperate and serve two completely different purposes. Of the two, learning to listen, really listen, is the most valuable of the two.
I used to get jealous of people that had that easy manner that encouraged other to speak openly about anything. Some come by it naturally because we are all different.
For those of us that it don't come so easy, I think, it can absolutely be leaned and used in our daily lives and after a while we really start to see the difference.
I'm really sorry about the long blah blah blah. I hope some of it helps. I totally recognize I did not use the guidelines of being a good listener... but i hope that's OK because I'm still trying to learn myself. 🙄. (I think it's life changing to become a good listener and worth all the effort.)
I hope you have a great day.
I still think you did awesome listening here! What you are saying is incredibly helpful and makes so much sense, truly. I have never read the guidelines for being a good listener! I'm thinking i definitely should, it would be awesome if you could paste it here!
I am also the type of person to try and help, fix, share my opinion etc. when I tell someone they can open up to me, and it hasn't proven very well at all. I love to talk and talk and talk, but I often fail to truly, deeply connect and listen. I need to focus on hearing people and not trying to provide advice right away.
Like you said, giving insights is in no way bad! I think there is definitely a way to approach situations, like maybe listening and then asking the person if they'd prefer insight or comfort?
The people who can do such things with ease are so incredibly lucky! I have been struggling with this so bad and it has ruined a biiiggg relationship for me! I need to definitely work on this if I care to improve and show her I'm worth another chance!
I am proud of you!
@n0tl1b3rty
Thank You. 🤗. I'm really proud of you too. 😀
A couple years ago I signed up for the listener program here on 7 cups. These guidelines were the first things that I read about being a good listener. I had realized that each one of these sentences, I did the exact opposite. I chose not to pursue becoming a listener until I can master some of these guidelines.
I'm a pretty hard nosed old cur so I initially thought, why listen to someone and not give advice or try to help? After putting a ton of thought into that, I realized these guidelines are about just being a good listener, not being a fixer, not even being understanding, not being a solution Finder, not trying to bond similar experiences. Once I realized that, I saw the wisdom in these guidelines. (but still very hard to accept and follow at first.)
I fancied them up and printed them in the Word document so that I can post them in a couple places around the house. I used to randomly repeat them in a mantra as not to forget them but i haven't done that lately. I have drifted from that discipline.
Here is a poem I liked a lot about what being a listener is.. by Jenna. I also included the link to the original thread.
The Listener by Jenna Tuesday
In quiet corners, hearts unfold,
Whispers shared, both young and old.
A gentle nod, a steady gaze,
A soul that wanders through their maze.
No need for answers, no need for praise,
Just holding space in tender ways.
With each deep breath, a story told,
Of broken pieces, brave and bold.
Through tears and silence, laughs that spark,
You guide their ship, out of the dark.
Yet every word they softly weave,
Becomes a gift that you receive.
For listening is more than art,
It’s pouring love into each heart.
And though you’re tired, still you know,
You help them heal, you help them grow.
https://www.7cups.com/forum/poetry/YourPoetry_2617/TheListener_336847/?post=3662954
Enjoy and have a great day.
Listening, over time may show her, it's not about you and she'll probably like that a lot. It's a slow process, but a hopeful approach! 😄
I believe I am going to force these habits into my life! Discipline is about sticking to something no matter how hard it is or how unmotivated you are! I will set a reminder to read through those guidelines and every morning and evening. If i engrave it in me, it will become easier with time.
Being a listener is completely different than being a fixer, and understander, a helper etc. You just have to be there and hear what someone has to say.
I am exactly like you, confused as to why someone wouldn't want advice. But recognizing that is the first step to growth, to change. I am still young and have to opportunity to shape myself into a better person while i'm still growing. These guidelines are incredibly wise and helpful.
You aren't alone! This will be hard to accept and follow, but we can do this together. Through the easy and tough, we both have our moments and can help one another out!
I struggle with understanding poetry, but I feel the more I read Jenna's work, the more deep and meaningful it will become.
I hope you are correct, and doing this will show her that this isn't all about me, but rather about her and showing her she is meaningful.
I hope you have a spectacular day! Grow grow grow!
We shall see how today goes. Forgot a refrigerated bar. Hopefully it's still in the fridge and not on the countertop. I just have less to get me through the day. There's a vending machine in the break room and there was a note about something being brought into the office --didn't read it because I never can eat any of it.
Was called creepy by someone in licensing. There's a meeting room that has a fridge (which is why she uses it when she comes into the office) and I use it to do my languages on my mobile. I used to sit in the front office but another girl would come in and switch on the lights and she seemed upset that I was there even though it wasn't even her work area. I keep the lights off to reduce the glare and that's why I was labeled "creepy" this morning. I waited a few minutes and left the room then sat in a unused corner. I use the meeting room when I do speaking exercises and it's not being used at six in the morning. The person who took exception at my presence isn't even there that early most of the time.
Here I try to be unobtrusive and I still get in the way...
@Enthenia
Awwww, there's nothing wrong with building your own calming work enviroment. It's just too bad, stupid people don't get it and then just to make themselves feel better talk down on others.
Even if you do quietly retreat, don't retreat in your heart. The more I learn about you the more amazing you are.. 💚. To the moon with those other people.
I hope you found your refrigerator bar! 😁
@IsayUncle I'll check when I get home. Have a slight headache and I think it's from not eating enough. I knew better than to grab one of those pastries someone brought in. I'd be in worse shape if I had.
Almost all caught up at work. Still waiting on an ID (had two that I needed) and enrolled in the next available class for the course. Got an email from the university about not being enrolled in any courses.
@Enthenia
Is that bad? The enrollment email?
@IsayUncle I think it was a reminder. I'm still in the billing cycle so it would be like wasting money. I had finished a course and normally it puts me in the next course but not this time. Maybe there are limited spots the higher up I get in the courses.
Left the bar in the fridge this morning so I was able to eat it when I got home. It helped.
@IsayUncle I would like to be added
Its been a while....just wanted to say hello and drop off some advice/motivation this week....
Be safe and have a wonderful weekend......
@CyclingThroughLife
You always lift my spirits when you stop in. Thanks 😃
I hope you have a great weekend too!
@CyclingThroughLife
Sooo..... how's things? You know you can still always share things. I know things were getting pretty discouraging but you were always staying pretty postive.
