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2025 Week #8 Weekly Goal Sharing! (Monday 02/17/25 - Sunday 02/23/25)

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IsayUncle Monday

I welcome anyone to commit to a goal here today. 

But importantly, talk about getting it done..... or why it didn't happen yet.

To praise each other for our efforts and wins.

While supporting each other through trials and setbacks.

And to continue trying and not give up.

Remember: 
Every Goal should be considered "Worthy".
Never belittle your achievements and be proud of yourself for your daily accomplishments!
Whether they be Complex or Simple.
Getting out of bed is a good day..... Good job I say!

Share your goals today, for support and encouragement.

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Do Your Best and Get Your rest.
Things are usually much harder then we think. Do your best. Be kind to yourself and Be kind to others. 

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And Any Others. If you want to be added/removed to/from the tag list, let me know. 😃

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@IsayUncle I've got a goal, this week for me would be about moving on. I've ruined an opportunity I had and now I'm just reeling from the shock of it all xD but it's okay, I'll learn from this. It's a bit hard cause my count for destruction is 3x this year. 

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Kindness is hard to find right now but I've already printed the missing posters and just waiting to find the courage to hang them and hopefully soon enough I'll find it :)

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IsayUncle OP Monday

@BlueDarkAurora

3X this year!!! OH NO, that must be Soooo discouraging. 😢. I'm sorry.

I truely champion you for trying again. AND DON'T WORRY about being kind to others. Be kind to yourself. REST and rebuild your strength. YOU matter, and you deserve that. 

You can do it.  (((Hugs))) 🌼🌺🌻

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@IsayUncle Thank you<3 Your words meant a lot to me<3 How are things going with you?

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IsayUncle OP Monday

@BlueDarkAurora

NP. U hang in there. 😃

I'm doing OK, (with baited breath) as they say....... whatever that means 🤣

Thanks

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BlueDarkAurora 1 day ago

@IsayUncle Hope your OK keeps getting better and better everyday ^-^ Thank you for being so kind<3

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User Profile: Enthenia
Enthenia Monday

I'd like to say not screw up this week but I know that's not going to happen.

And I know the who "Be kind to yourself and we're all human." but how do you retain that when your job points out every single thing you do wrong and makes a big deal out of it? Had a name backwards on a report. The customer profile is FN, LN. One platform for background reports is LN, FN. The other is FN, LN. Sometimes I get them reversed and don't catch it. I do sometimes 20 in a day and maybe there's one that has a mistake. 1 out of 20 is 0.05%. Doesn't seem like a lot, right? But no, it's a disaster and I'm costing the company tons of money because I constantly screw up.

But then they say "it's okay." If it was, why did they make such a fuss over it? And naturally, I can't say anything because they are supervisors and they are gods---at least that's the impression I got that one time I got in trouble for resisting the directive and that entire thing was spun in their favor. Yet the company as a whole boasts integrity and fairness 🙄.

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@Enthenia


I can understand the frustration. Human errors are possible if things are done manually. People should be able to accept 5%. But this day will pass. Some days at work could be terrible but some would be good. You can try to recheck your work before submitting so that you can notice it without anyone reporting it.

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Enthenia Monday

@kindFlamingo747 sometimes it's hard to tell what's the surname. Like today I had one that was entered in incorrectly. I'm waiting for the ID to be sent over before I submit the report but it appears that it was put in wrong when the alarm was created. The possible relatives on the background report have the same surname so that's what I went with. I don't have access to change the name, I can only view the information.

It is just annoying and if I say anything, I'm negative or bucking the supervisors authority. And having half the people working from home doesn't help things either. I haven't seen my actual manager in five months. Maybe more.

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Enthenia Monday

I meant account. No idea where alarm came from...

@Enthenia


Yeah that sounds confusing. But don't give up. Everyday is a new day and we all make mistakes at work. 2 weeks ago I was overburdened because of lack of resources and I missed to test one change and it resulted in production errors. I was very scared as I'm scared of being scolded. I should have said that I needed more time or it's not possible instead of saying everything has been tested when I just did high level testing. Thankfully my team member was able to resolve the issue within 24 hrs after it was reported by the client so it didn't escalate much. It's just a part of a job.


Sometimes we do a great job and it can go unnoticed but sometimes we make little mistakes because of the situation we are put into and that gets highlighted. I know when things like this happens at work u feel demotivated to work the next day but I'm trying to teach myself that it's okay may be it's the part of adulting and I need to accept it

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IsayUncle OP Monday

@Enthenia

Awwwww, 😥. Sending some courage your way. a-boost-of-courage-bean.gif

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Enthenia 3 days ago

@IsayUncle thanks but I don't know if I actually need courage. I'm here every single day excluding weekends and the days I force myself to take. Still have 100 hours of vacation time to work through. Really wish I could trade that in for a check but they don't do that anymore.

There's many things that don't do anymore...

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Is it just me who is not able to post or respond here or anyone else as well?

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I was trying to add just the goals but it keeps telling me that I sound like I'm in a crisis and if I need resources. There was no such word in the post for a change it was a positive post

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IsayUncle OP Monday

@kindFlamingo747

sometimes the safety algorythimns are just super crazy on this site. ☹️. it is really frustrating too when its a simple point you're trying to express.... 

It was just a goof.... 😕

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IsayUncle OP Monday

@kindFlamingo747

Sometimes just the  simplest word or phrase gets rejected for the weirdest reason ?????? 😕😯

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@IsayUncle i'm feeling so much better today. i had a good talk with someone last night, and it's like a switch flipped and i'm feeling wonderful today.

this week i'm taking notes from a webinar and need to get that done in the coming days to meet the deadline to watch. the webinar is long but i think having the deadline will keep me motivated and get me to complete it.

wishing you all a wonderful week <3

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IsayUncle OP Monday

@fearlessWriter78

Oh, Good! Thanks and you have a good week too!

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Well I ve been meaning to go for a run everyday, I keep stumbling over laziness. I'm too lazy to build even atomic habits.

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IsayUncle OP Tuesday

@energeticSkies3610

1st accountability insight. 😁. LAZY, Really? Probably not.

Poor Lazy gets balmed so much, for things that are not even it's fault.

How about tired, that's legitimate? Or unmotivated.... I bet if you were being chased by a bear, you would start running - 😂 - I know there is chemical brain stuff, like endorohins or something like that. Age or being Stressed about something has a lot to do with it.

Maybe it's something you "THINK" you should be doing but you really have no idea how to enjoy it or even a desire to try it.

SOOOO, I'd say there's a lot to consider. and it will be interesting to follow up on Running, Meditation and the idea of being Lazy. 😀

what do you think?


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Yes, you maybe right about that. I think I need to do this but no idea how to enjoy it. I myself tell sometimes that I am waiting for that push or trigger or that event that would just keep propelling me.

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IsayUncle OP Tuesday

@energeticSkies3610

You hit the nail on the head! THAT IS A TOUGH NUT TO CRACK!

But, the good news is, people have figured out how to do it so we don't have to reinvent the wheel, just copy them. (It's Not easy though 😒😅) I think you'll be able to do it. 😃.

When do you want to start running?

When do you want to start meditating? 

I'll check on your replies this evening.... Have a GREAT day!

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I want to meditate now. I want to run at next sunrise. I want to stop bad habits the moment this sentence ends.

But... Nothing is happening... I'm sitting idle with myself nothing has happened still.. y not browse a little.. there goes all my resolve!.

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IsayUncle OP 2 days ago

@energeticSkies3610

That's great! Really! YOU WANT a lot of good stuff for yourself. Yes, that is good.

Which one of those things (JUST ONE) for now, are you willing to do, even when you don't feel like doing it. 

Why should we do anything that we don't feel like doing? Of course some things are neccissity but what about other things. Why do them at all when we don't feel like it? 

Tell me a little about yourself IF IF you feel ok sharing. I see on your profile page you are an adult... YAY.... You made it. HaHA. i wish i was a teenager again with what I know now. 😂


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IsayUncle OP 2 days ago

@energeticSkies3610

Guess What? I'm doing the same exact thing. I have a day off from work because of a snow storm and I planned on doing all of these things around the house. I've been up for several hours and already went back to bed to take a nap now it's getting close to noon time. Everything I look at is like uggh.

I know I will feel bad if I keep this up all day so I'm gonna start off with my 15 minute rule. Do one thing for 15 minutes. I'm gonna keep doing that until I gained some momentum because I sure do not feel like doing anything. Absolutely nothing. but then, i'll feel bad if i don't and things will be worse tomorrow.

I just wanna go back to bed and sleep all day. ☹️.

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One task would be just sit idly and breathe to the point I'm convinced I am meditating.


Yes adult, still a child socially. Starting with poor hygiene who once under his family's care has seen better times. Since I left home and I became in charge of myself, it's like I hate myself. Those were teenage years I dropped out of college twice. Went after a girl once. Then went after a second girl after that. Tbh 2nd one was tragic. She was a just got kicked out by her husband homeless older than me and had two kids who are under their father's care. I started of as I wanted to help and I almost became one of the guy who wished her the worst. So that latter part explains how I ve been. Now I'm back in college again as parents decided to take some initiative in my life as I was getting nowhere and had them worried. Trying to not sabotage this "another chance". But it is kinda hard. Also all this led me to psychiatrist who think I may be a little schizo or bipolar and prescribed medication. I'm on and off medication wise as I'm not really sure if I am sick or not. It really depends on the day. Then in 7 cups I ve tried therapy. Also a listener. Also been here around 7 years, not regular tho. I ve always felt I'm crazy, all my life and I'm odd. When I was away from home I did so much weed and other stuff in the hopes of finding me or curing me or sabotage me. Now I'm sober complete. I definitely have ADHD, OCD behaviors which I ve overcame after years of substance abuse. And now I'm here because I'm into my 3rd semester and I starting to pick up some old patterns and I'm worried that I ll just fall again.

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IsayUncle OP 2 days ago

@energeticSkies3610

There is so much amazing benefit from meditating. The amount of knowledge I have about meditating is equal to 1 grain of sand in the whole world. But that one grain of knowledge that I did acquire brought me to amazing places.

I would love to share my meditating experience with you but at the same time I don't want to burden you with it.

Your idea to sit idly and breathe and call it meditating is a wonderful idea. For one it's a great starting point, and for two, you're setting some time aside to do that or at least being aware of your breathing. 

Thank you so much for sharing what you are going through. To be honest, I did not find any of it to be horribly extreme or not workable. For those of us that suffer a lot, from that point of view, it sounds like a lot of hard struggles that a lot of us struggle through also. 

Welcome to the club, with a warm embrace and hopefully some words of encouragement.

Congratulations on going back to college but at the same time I do understand that it can start to get scary when you start falling behind, or think you might fall again. The things that you're trying to do here on 7 cups prove that you really want to make this work and you're willing to expose yourself and and reach out. That takes a lot of courage, it really does, so let's see if we can put it to good use together.. 

If you want to, as accountability partners.
If you think you can work with me as an accountability partner, I guess we should come up with a plan. What do you think?

BTW, I totally blew it today. I'm gonna drink some coffee and take an energy pill try to work through the evening to get done which could have been easily done by 10 or 11:00 this morning. I ended up going back to bed and sleeping all day and I'm still so very tired I don't feel like doing nothing..

But I'm going to try. I will, I must! I swear, I will get something done, more than doing nothing! I know it will help with tomorrow. 

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I would like to hear about your meditation experience.


Thanks for reading my biopic.


Plan? How do we get started?


I hope you finished your chores. 15 minute rule sounds like an idea. With me the problem is getting started, usually once I get started I ll be like might as well finish it even if it's not up to my standards I had in my mind. Tha might be the problem too. The perfectionist thinking and procrastinating how to make it perfect. Which make small tasks into mammoths. Otherwise I ll be just doing it I have other things to do after this one. But instead I make it look like this task is all that matters especially when lacking passion for it.


It could be different from person to person. Like with you it sounded more like you were tired and lacked emotional energy. Am I judging wrong?

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IsayUncle OP 1 day ago

@energeticSkies3610

I did not finish hardly anything... Sometimes that happens. The good thing is that now it's only an occasional occurrence. Not too long ago, it was a normal every day battle/failure. I'm confident I'll do better today.

I think it was very astute of you to mention emotional energy. I hadn't thought about it like that but the truth is that I have very little emotional energy. i think that was a good point and i'll have to pay more attention to that.

I run mostly on logical energy and hopeful energy. 

Coming up with a plan can start mostly by just talking about the steps we take to accomplish a goal.

I have used so many techniques the past years try to get over my inadequacy of being able to start or complete projects and goals. I've discovered that these techniques or approaches have a lot of power to begin with but with time, the potency diminishes in the monotony of doing the same thing over and over again. The potency tends to weaken the resolve to complete something.

So the plan is to make steps to follow. A plan can also include techniques tricks and incentives to use to help follow a plan through. A plan can involve a timeline. I think talking about a project and discussing the pros and the cons is a very important thing to do before a good plan can be made. So I think that's important part of the planning.

If this accountability project sprouts into a long term asset, then I believe after the initial kickoff some natural plans and actions will start to evolve between us that helps us stay motivated, if that makes any sense. 

Some techniques that helps me may not help you at all, and vice verca but we should still share those things with each other. 

Part of my plan today, was hopefully to have a conversation with you, which I just did. And this has genuinely encouraged me to go finish today what I didn't do yesterday. 

I think the first part of any plan is to make clear what the project is or the day AND state the importance of it.

I'm making it clear that my project for today is to finish all my Core Balance Chores (CBC's). The reason these are so important is because they involve basic life maintenance and with those left undone, all other endeavors become extremely overwhelming.

For clarity I think coming up with a plan, should consist of talking about a project and then have some discussion of how to work it into a plan.

What do you know about meditation currently. What's your perception of it?


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IsayUncle OP 1 day ago

@energeticSkies3610

PS. That was pretty long winded, sorry about that., but i hope it helps.

Have a good day, if it can't be great! 😃

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energeticSkies3610 23 hours ago

Thanks. Meditation can bring some clarity into the way of thinking. Like to begin with how you are also self conscious and caught up in such thoughts. Meditation helps you to just let it be. I have genuinely felt the benefits of meditation within the first week of consistent mediation which usually I forget about as you said the potency wears off.


My plan is to find the right time of the day where I ll find myself in the right place to meditate. That way I can just make it a thing I do habitually rather than make it a goal. Or we can say my goal is to make meditation a lifelong habit.


The problem is I don't have any habits. My habits got demolished after I left home. This happened over decade, the last decade. I don't brush regularly, I don't eat regularly, I don't sleep regularly or at a fixed time anymore. Nothing is a habit. They are all just something I do when I feel unhealthy.


Whatever is the opposite of knitting, my life has become undone the same way. I need discipline. That is another goal. Maybe I should start be going to bed before a fixed time. This is something others have asked me to do so many times.


The only discipline or habit I have is when there is school and a timetable I need to follow but like I mentioned earlier I am into 3 semester and the potency is wearing off and I'm willfully missing classes. It is starting to sound like I am trying to make someone else live life for me. I want to take charge of my life. I want to live. And be happy, make friends, love my family. None of this seems easy or normal to me anymore. They are all tasks I need to learn from scratch.


So yes I would like meditate, go to bed in time, have habits, discipline, goals and live healthy and happy.

Plan is to meditate at least once a day for now. Since it is the beginning timing doesn't matter. Whenever I get a chance just meditate. I'm going to need a thing, a totem that would remind me of his at the right time.


What totem? Something basic like a wrist band or a key chain or a lucky charm.

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IsayUncle OP 21 hours ago

@energeticSkies3610

I have to say, this is a well written series of thoughts and complications all tied into a sensible point of view.

But I do feel that there is a sense of urgency to instill some hope into your daily routine. That sense of urgency comes from you, starting to choose to miss classes. The very thing that can be a stable foundation to build on, might crumble beneath you before you give yourself a chance.

With that said, I'd like to encourage you to do your classes until you and I can spend some time building some accountability with each other. I'm afraid that will be harder to do (but still doable).... if at this point and time, you let the one consistent thing you have going, go to seed. 

I'm doing much better this morning. Another snow day from work has allowed me the leniency to redo my Core Balance Chores. I'm more motivated from my failure yesterday.

In the future I'd like to share the evolvement of my CBC's. My introduction to this thread includes this sentence, "Getting out of bed is a good day.... Good job I say"

That was my very first Core Balance Chore, along with the resposibilty of making my bed when I got out of it.

When I divorced at the age of 60 with no means of income for retirement savings, my life was in an upheaval. I also had no rhythm or habits to live this new life plus I had to find gainful employment. It was all so hopeless 3 years ago. Not now, now things are hopeful. Try to keep your classes up as we try to connect some dots. That time slot for your classes will be filled in with time slots for employment down the road.... so keeping that rythym is important just for that reason alone. And we'll fill in the gaps as we go if you want.

I do wanna talk more about meditation but I think it's good what you're doing at the moment. Good job stay, at it. 😀


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energeticSkies3610 18 hours ago

@IsayUncle you are twice as old as me. about my father's age. There are things I shared here with you because of anonymity. Not that my father is bad. He is a good man and a good father. But there are things I don't want to tell him because it ll upset him. I understand my issues are feeble compared to some of you. But it's been too long more than a decade. those were supposed to be the good years of my life. and i spent them depressed. Now I am just trying to find every way I can find to get out of it, from feeling trapped within.

As an accountability partner. I am going to ask you to meditate with me. everyday. and keep tabs on each other. This is only if you agree so it is voluntary. I understand if you like to do things your way and don't want to do it with me. 

If you are, I recommend doing one meditation session from 7 cups every day at any time of the day, (when you wake up is my recommendation). This goes out to anyone who is reading this. I wouldn't call it a challenge instead it is more of a prayer to help us calm our soul. 

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energeticSkies3610 18 hours ago

@energeticSkies3610 by " if you are" I mean if you are interested.

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IsayUncle OP 16 hours ago

@energeticSkies3610

Sure that sounds like a great idea but it'll be hard to correlate a repetitive time. I've only been home these past couple days because of snow weather and we cannot communicate like normal.

With that said, "let's give it a try". I would also like to add or suggest, that we have a short discussion about meditation practices prior to our actual session. What do you think about that idea? I wake about 3am and bed about 8pm. I am in the EST time zone.

Let's zero in on a time. Want to try a 15 minute session between 6 and 7 pm this evening?

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energeticSkies3610 15 hours ago

@IsayUncle sure! That sounds like a plan. I lived in Canada during my substance abuse phase. Now im in GST. 

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IsayUncle OP 16 hours ago

@energeticSkies3610

BTW, I included my age in the hopes to encourage you, it's never to late to take charge. You can do it. The good stuff comes afterwards, not before.

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kindFlamingo747 3 days ago

@Enthenia I want to share a stupidest mistake I made at work. I had a client call and there were 3 clients sadly my manager also joined. I was sharing my screen. Towards the end the I couldn't stop sharing screen and ended up showing chatgpt and the prompt was to respond to my manager's congratulations mail .


I just hope he lets it go or haven't seen 😔 Had he not joined the call client wouldn't have minded it and no one would have got to know the mistake

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Enthenia 3 days ago

@kindFlamingo747 sorry about that. Right now I'm dealing with trying to figure out how things are filed. I keep saying that files and folders need to be named the same way every single time for the sake of consistency and clarity but no. Spent ten minutes trying to find a document because someone else put the wrong year on a form. Then tried to pull information from another document but it's password protected. How am I supposed to get the previous amt. if I can't view it?

But again, if there was management that actually got involved instead of working from home and letting the leads run rampant, things like this wouldn't happen.

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n0tl1b3rty 3 days ago

my goal is to become a better partner and human being in general, be more loving and listening, be more there.

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IsayUncle OP 2 days ago

@n0tl1b3rty

Be more listening.... A wonderful way to start. Good luck. 

That is so so hard for me sometimes and i forget when I'm out in the social enviroment so I do wish you the best of sucess in that area. That's awesome you are trying.! 🤗.

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n0tl1b3rty 2 days ago

Thank you for understanding and sharing your experience! It's like i hear what someone says, yet I fail to really understand it and process it! It is very frustrating and damaging to all parties urgg

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IsayUncle OP 2 days ago

@n0tl1b3rty

Urrrrrgggg is exactly right!

Have you (per chance) read the guidelines for being a good listener. When I read these, I was stupified because I was doing exactly the opposite of "ALL" of these these things my entire life. 

That's because I was always trying to help someone, hench, giving advice, sharing my experiences, saying "not worry" etc. 

I never realized being a good listener is not about helpng someone fix something, it's more about letting them kind of depressurize so they feel relieved and more importantly, valued. And I honestly believe we are all valuable gems in one form or another. Perhaps, in the rough and dirty and unseen but none the less, extremely valuable. 

Urrrrgggg, SEE... HERE I am doing it again! (I really am trying to be a better listener but sometimes I can't help myself). 

Anyway, there are a couple of great literay tools, I refer too, that have been helping me for the past couple of years. Would you like me to paste them here to read later?

The one good thing I have learned is the difference of recognizing when I'm being a good listener and when I'm try to give my insights to help. Giving my insights to help IS NOT a bad thing. There is a time and place for both. Listening and Giving insights. They are completely seperate and serve two completely different purposes. Of the two, learning to listen, really listen, is the most valuable of the two.

I used to get jealous of people that had that easy manner that encouraged other to speak openly about anything. Some come by it naturally because we are all different.

For those of us that it don't come so easy, I think, it can absolutely be leaned and used in our daily lives and after a while we really start to see the difference.

I'm really sorry about the long blah blah blah. I hope some of it helps. I totally recognize I did not use the guidelines of being a good listener... but i hope that's OK because I'm still trying to learn myself. 🙄. (I think it's life changing to become a good listener and worth all the effort.)

I hope you have a great day. 

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n0tl1b3rty 2 days ago

I still think you did awesome listening here! What you are saying is incredibly helpful and makes so much sense, truly. I have never read the guidelines for being a good listener! I'm thinking i definitely should, it would be awesome if you could paste it here!


I am also the type of person to try and help, fix, share my opinion etc. when I tell someone they can open up to me, and it hasn't proven very well at all. I love to talk and talk and talk, but I often fail to truly, deeply connect and listen. I need to focus on hearing people and not trying to provide advice right away.


Like you said, giving insights is in no way bad! I think there is definitely a way to approach situations, like maybe listening and then asking the person if they'd prefer insight or comfort?


The people who can do such things with ease are so incredibly lucky! I have been struggling with this so bad and it has ruined a biiiggg relationship for me! I need to definitely work on this if I care to improve and show her I'm worth another chance!


I am proud of you!

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IsayUncle OP 2 days ago

@n0tl1b3rty

Thank You. 🤗. I'm really proud of you too. 😀

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A couple years ago I signed up for the listener program here on 7 cups. These guidelines were the first things that I read about being a good listener. I had realized that each one of these sentences, I did the exact opposite. I chose not to pursue becoming a listener until I can master some of these guidelines.

I'm a pretty hard nosed old cur so I initially thought, why listen to someone and not give advice or try to help? After putting a ton of thought into that, I realized these guidelines are about just being a good listener, not being a fixer, not even being understanding, not being a solution Finder, not trying to bond similar experiences. Once I realized that, I saw the wisdom in these guidelines. (but still very hard to accept and follow at first.)

I fancied them up and printed them in the Word document so that I can post them in a couple places around the house. I used to randomly repeat them in a mantra as not to forget them but i haven't done that lately. I have drifted from that discipline. 

Here is a poem I liked a lot about what being a listener is.. by Jenna. I also included the link to the original thread. 

The Listener by  Jenna Tuesday

In quiet corners, hearts unfold,
Whispers shared, both young and old.
A gentle nod, a steady gaze,
A soul that wanders through their maze.

No need for answers, no need for praise,
Just holding space in tender ways.
With each deep breath, a story told,
Of broken pieces, brave and bold.

Through tears and silence, laughs that spark,
You guide their ship, out of the dark.
Yet every word they softly weave,
Becomes a gift that you receive.

For listening is more than art,
It’s pouring love into each heart.
And though you’re tired, still you know,
You help them heal, you help them grow.

https://www.7cups.com/forum/poetry/YourPoetry_2617/TheListener_336847/?post=3662954

Enjoy and have a great day. 

Listening, over time may show her, it's not about you and she'll probably like that a lot. It's a slow process, but a hopeful approach! 😄 

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User Profile: n0tl1b3rty
n0tl1b3rty 2 days ago

I believe I am going to force these habits into my life! Discipline is about sticking to something no matter how hard it is or how unmotivated you are! I will set a reminder to read through those guidelines and every morning and evening. If i engrave it in me, it will become easier with time.

Being a listener is completely different than being a fixer, and understander, a helper etc. You just have to be there and hear what someone has to say.

I am exactly like you, confused as to why someone wouldn't want advice. But recognizing that is the first step to growth, to change. I am still young and have to opportunity to shape myself into a better person while i'm still growing. These guidelines are incredibly wise and helpful.

You aren't alone! This will be hard to accept and follow, but we can do this together. Through the easy and tough, we both have our moments and can help one another out!

I struggle with understanding poetry, but I feel the more I read Jenna's work, the more deep and meaningful it will become.

I hope you are correct, and doing this will show her that this isn't all about me, but rather about her and showing her she is meaningful.

I hope you have a spectacular day! Grow grow grow!

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User Profile: Enthenia
Enthenia 2 days ago

We shall see how today goes. Forgot a refrigerated bar. Hopefully it's still in the fridge and not on the countertop. I just have less to get me through the day. There's a vending machine in the break room and there was a note about something being brought into the office --didn't read it because I never can eat any of it.

Was called creepy by someone in licensing. There's a meeting room that has a fridge (which is why she uses it when she comes into the office) and I use it to do my languages on my mobile. I used to sit in the front office but another girl would come in and switch on the lights and she seemed upset that I was there even though it wasn't even her work area. I keep the lights off to reduce the glare and that's why I was labeled "creepy" this morning. I waited a few minutes and left the room then sat in a unused corner. I use the meeting room when I do speaking exercises and it's not being used at six in the morning. The person who took exception at my presence isn't even there that early most of the time. 

Here I try to be unobtrusive and I still get in the way...

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User Profile: IsayUncle
IsayUncle OP 2 days ago

@Enthenia

Awwww, there's nothing wrong with building your own calming work enviroment. It's just too bad, stupid people don't get it and then just to make themselves feel better talk down on others.

Even if you do quietly retreat, don't retreat in your heart. The more I learn about you the more amazing you are.. 💚. To the moon with those other people. 

I hope you found your refrigerator bar! 😁

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User Profile: Enthenia
Enthenia 2 days ago

@IsayUncle I'll check when I get home. Have a slight headache and I think it's from not eating enough. I knew better than to grab one of those pastries someone brought in. I'd be in worse shape if I had. 

Almost all caught up at work. Still waiting on an ID (had two that I needed) and enrolled in the next available class for the course. Got an email from the university about not being enrolled in any courses. 

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User Profile: IsayUncle
IsayUncle OP 2 days ago

@Enthenia

Is that bad? The enrollment email?

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User Profile: Enthenia
Enthenia 1 day ago

@IsayUncle I think it was a reminder. I'm still in the billing cycle so it would be like wasting money. I had finished a course and normally it puts me in the next course but not this time. Maybe there are limited spots the higher up I get in the courses.

Left the bar in the fridge this morning so I was able to eat it when I got home. It helped.

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User Profile: energeticSkies3610
energeticSkies3610 18 hours ago

@IsayUncle I would like to be added

User Profile: CyclingThroughLife
CyclingThroughLife 16 hours ago

Its been a while....just wanted to say hello and drop off some advice/motivation this week....

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Be safe and have a wonderful weekend......

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User Profile: IsayUncle
IsayUncle OP 16 hours ago

@CyclingThroughLife

You always lift my spirits when you stop in. Thanks 😃

I hope you have a great weekend too!

User Profile: IsayUncle
IsayUncle OP 13 hours ago

@CyclingThroughLife

Sooo..... how's things? You know you can still always share things. I know things were getting pretty discouraging but you were always staying pretty postive.  

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