Accepted the Closet
(For reference Im 18) I've pretty much accepted the fact that I will stay in the closet, family wise, at least. And for that to be secure, I make sure I'm in the closet with things outside of that. Ill always just say Im cis and straight. I dont think I would ever want to even experience coming out to them. I have a lesbian aunts, and they've gotten backlash. They live happy, but still. I dont want to deal with some other issue. Also, I feel like even associating myself with the LGBTQ+ comes with issues, and I just want to chill. I do dress how I want and do the things I like that won't change.
Although, my friends are the only ones that know to an extent. I feel like at this point with them I just say "yeah im queer thats it" But really I think Im bigender plus gay, but Ive changed what Ive said so much, because I was learning and Im not good with the labels. I just know Im me, and that's all. <3
Yeah, I actually just came out as bi to my fiancé, but probably won't tell many other people. Definitely still a secret from my family. Would cause way too much drama
What did your fiance think? And did it make you feel better? If you feel comfortable answering.
He was actually very sweet and not concerned or insecure. He said it doesn't change how he sees me and it's no big deal. I feel very relieved now. Me coming out was a bit of a process because I was nervous. I said originally I was talking about someone I know that thinks she might be bisexual and is afraid to tell her bf. One of his exes was actually bi as well, so I asked him about her. Then, today I told him I was really talking about me. And I am secure that he will not tell anyone that I don't want to know, especially because he never outed his ex.
As long as I don't want to open the relationship or have a poly relationship or anything, he isn't worried. I don't want any of that anyway. And I definitely won't cheat. He knows I'm still super in love with him.
Thats really awesome for you both! The fact that you both have that trust and you feel comfortable is great. Thank you so much for sharing. I have only surface knowledge of LGBTQ+ as an adult, its different from when your younger. So Im glad to have learned and heard from you.
May be I should follow your example. By some extent I’m kind like you. My family don’t know about it apart from some friends and just like you said I can do whatever I want. They don’t need to know.
Im definitely not someone to follow example 😅 I dont know much about this stuff. But I do know that I just want less drama. But I feel like we shouldn't feel obligated to "come out".
You said it.
@Mino1522
Making effort to prioritize your boundaries and safety is always a great step forward! Best wishes to you and your journey discovering yourself. 🌹