Is Your Family Accepting?

I've never formally come out. I just exist in my queer way, with my queer friends, and people can tell if they pay attention.

My mom has proven to be prejudiced, so I won't ever tell her. But i think she had her suspicions when i was a teen.

My dad's side of the family seems okay with it. My younger cousin is also queer just like me, so we bond over that together.

Trans MtF here, mid 20s, still living with mom & dad

Short Answer: Yes, but with a lot of asterisks

Long Answer:

I'm out to a few of my more mature cousins on both sides of the family, and they're very accepting. Among my parents' generation, I'm only out to my mother, and I was outed when she discovered my HRT vial going through my stuff. She's okay with it, just upset that I felt that it was better to hide it then come clean from the get-go.

My late grandmother was a Catholic, but she would have been totally accepting of it. She was one of those people that saw beyond inflexible doctrine. I'm fairly sure that my dad's side because of that will be very accepting after the initial shock factor wears off. My mom's side is much more traditional, so I have my doubts.

I have not come out yet... because I dont really know what I am, I think I am pan or bisexual. But my family, especially my mother, I think they would be extremely accepting and supportive. I dont know if I even have to come out or if I just one day, when I am in a relationship with a girl for example could say to my mum: " Mum, I have a girlfriend" And she would be completely okay with it although I never came out to her.

I'm not sure that my family is accepting, but they are not *not* accepting. When I came out they brushed it off a bit, which was fine, it was better than them being angry. However, when I talk about my like of women they always tell me to stop talking about it, versus when I talk about liking men they ask about them. They respect it, but they don't really support it.

I wrote a coming out note a few years back and buried it in my dresser because I was too afraid of what my family would say. It's not like they're physically violent when it comes to the community, they just sometimes make backhanded comments about it. Anyway they ended up finding the note in my dresser some time last year and confronted me about it, but just left it at that and never acknowledges where they stand on it. I still feel like I never came out to them at all, like they forgot about it and it hurts.