Is Your Family Accepting?

I recently found out that if I would ever want to come out I'd have to stay a leg or so deep in the closet. My parents aren't as open minded as I once had thought and that really stuns me emotionally. I only believe that I'd have one sister I could share my true self.

My family is great, I dropped hints before I came out by putting gay pride flags around the house😁but when I told my mum she was so accepting and my dad just doesn't really care because it's who I am, it's great :))

@DezEisenhour11

Well my mother was already aware of what type of person I am in terms of what I wanted to identify as. But, recently I came out to my father and it was not the same at all. I forgot to mention I have a homophobic grandmother that my mother and I tell nothing. But, my father did not talk to me for 2 weeks and did not come pick me up nor see me for about 3 more additional weeks. It was really hard but now we do not speak about it and have found something to bond over. Although he does make slick comments at me reffering to males when he is well aware that I like females. That is just the one thing that bothers me the most!

I wish but unfortunately my father doesn't view transgender people as their gender :/

I was in high school the first time I told my mother that I felt attracted to girls (after having dated several boys in attempt to ignore the attraction to other girls/conform to social standards). She promptly raised her voice, told me very clearly, "No you're not, it's just a phase, don't bring it up again"

So I buried it for a few more years. I dated more guys. I can recall two who I felt genuine attraction to, though at the time I told myself it was because, unlike the others, they were kind and didn't insist on constantly pawing me the second we got alone. It got to a point where I decided to date a girl anyway, and found one online. Eventually I did tell my parents. My father was more accepting and understanding, my mother still didn't want to discuss it. After some time I came to realize this girl was toxic (like the boys from before, she got upset with me when I tried to set boundaries and didn't want her constantly pawing on me). The subject slipped away again. I thought for a good long time that I had fallen in love with a guy, though in the end (while I still love him very deeply), we have determined that our love is friendship/platonic and not romantic.

By this time, I was finally learning more 'terms'. I finally learned about Asexuality, and so many more things became clear. I learned about being bisexual, and for a time identified as biromantic. Then I further learned about gender identity. For a time, due to how desperately I hated my breasts, I thought I might be non-binary. Still, I don't understand enough about it or myself to decidedly understand if I truly am, or if it was just something my head was testing out in attempt to figure myself out. By this time I have, at least, 'come to terms' with currently identifying as Asexual panromantic.

Now as was then, my father is still accepting. It took a great deal of effort from both myself and my sister to convince my mother to be as tentatively accepting as she is now. As I'm not dating, and can't say with any certainty what kind of person I'll end up with, I haven't felt the need to discuss it with her and put any more strain on our already strained relationship.

So, short answer to the question: Both "Yes accepting" and "No not quite". It was made clear to me not to tell my extended family (the same went for when I, as a Caucasian girl, was dating a black boy, I was told to keep him a secret from extended relatives who wouldn't agree). So I can say this much at least, I'm thankful that my direct family is much more accepting, even if not entirely, as my extended.

@DezEisenhour11

my family is the polar opposite of accepting i basically knew that the moment i came out the womb. we are so christian we've founded churches around the world and i am bisexual and i never see myself coming out to them even if i get a girlfriend i'll tell them if i marry her though. i'm so close to my family so it pains me to the core to keep this a secret from them but i don't want to hurt them. NEVER COMING OUT THE CLOSET CHECK

my parents are kind of accepting but only of sexuality they dont really accept with gender tho. my mom is mostly accepting but she still wants me to you know marry a guy and give her grandchildren its basically my job she has told me since i was little that when im pregnant not if but when she would help me with everything. my dad doesnt know but hes not one to oppenley judge so if i told him he'd probably just be quiet about it, now my family on my dads side would not be accepting at all they already call people pat of the lgbtq+ family, gross and openley hate them so not good im genderfluid but i am going to transition till i feel comfortable in my body and will get surgeries when im older to make my body more masculine im not very sure what my sexualit is but im only 14 and i have time to figure it out. so no their not really accepting

To be perfectly honest, my dad knew I was bi before I did and he always hinted at it. I've decided I'm not going to officially come out because I think it's too much pressure, especially since, if I came home with a girlfriend they wouldn't particularly care 💜

@DezEisenhour11

I realized when i was at sunday mosque (islamic place of worship) and they said that in their religion, the LGBTQ+ Community is not supported. And also when i was dragged out the closet by my dad & he said to 'just like boys' & not 'tell my friends this lie' even though not only did they all know, but 90% of them are LGBTQ+.

I do not plan on coming out at all. At this point, i am terrified, especially with being stuck at home. Idk, i might come out when i go to college (when i am in a dorm) so that i do not have to be afraid of getting kicked out . And also when i know i am able to take their comments and slurs.

My mother and two brothers are accepting of me. I know they love me no matter if I date men and women. Other family aren't accepting, but I don't care. As long as I have atleast one person, it gives me the courage to be myself and be bi.