Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #9) Passive-Aggressive Communication
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What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
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What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
A: 1. the silence treatment. 2. subtle insults. 3. procrastinating on purpose. 4. subotage. 5. keeping score.
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
A: My parents or my cousin have gave me some of these experience.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
A: passive means not reacting visibly to something that might be expected to produce manifestations of an emotion or feeling. not participating readily or actively; inactive. aggression means characterized by or tending toward agression. usuing daring or forceful methods. From the above definition, one can see why this passive aggression are so damnging to our community becase they are tactic, poisnous. However, this world is full of reality; so that is why life is cruel.
5 signs of passive-aggressive communication- The silent treatment Subtle insults Procrastinating on purpose Sabotage Keeping score One example of passive-aggressive behavior I've experienced in my life- Actually there are two. Silent treatment and procrastination. Why is passive-aggressive so damaging to our community? I believe that it brings negativity upon us and on everyone around us as well. Also, it results into lack of trust and doesn't allows us to communicate well with our fellow listeners and members.
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
Silent treatment
Subtle insult (indirectly insulting)
Sabotage
Procrastinating on Purpose
Keeping Score (People who keep track of favors)
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Silent treatment and Procrastination on purpose. Are something I had mostly experienced. It really sometime intolerable.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It does not sort the issue between people and more room for misunderstanding and that can create distance and chaos. Small thing can become a big issue because of it.
@blindHeart12 I liked how you mentioned how big a small problem can be because of passive aggression.
The silent treatment
Subtle insults
Procrastinating on Purpose
Sabotage (deliberately messing something up)
Keeping Score (keeping track of favors)
I have encountered the silent treatment by my so called friends. Thankfully, I have found much better friends from all around the world. The silent treatment creates a counterproductive environment that ends up becoming toxic rather than helpful. The silent treatment can easily be escalated if it's ignored for too long.
@MarleyR
Glad you have found better friends from around the world!
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
Silent Treatment
Subtle insults
Procrastinating on purpose
Sabotage
Keeping score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Silent Treatment and subtle insults.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive aggressive communication is primarily damaging as it creates a lack of trust between people. Lack of trust will lead to people not cooperating with one another and failing to produce expected results.
@cuteeeezombieeee
Agreed! Trust is an important foundation to uphold!
@cuteeeezombieeee
Thanks for sharing and thank you for helping our community.
@cuteeeezombieeee agreed! thanks for the insight!
@cuteeeezombieeee
Yes. Trust is so important.
@cuteeeezombieeee Right, passive-aggressive behaviour breaks trust and harmony.
@cuteeeezombieeee Totally agree with the lack of trust! Nice one!
@cuteeeezombieeee really great answer !
@cuteeeezombieeee Trust is SUCH a big one. Great call out!
@cuteeeezombieeee, I also agree that it affects the trust of the community. If there isn't trust people won't feel comfortable to share with others and that is when the productivity decreases.
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The Silent Treatment
2. Subtle Insults
3. Procrastinating on Purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Back in high school, I had a small group of friends who I thought of as close but they gradually talked to me less and less, and eventually just stopped talking to me – giving me the silent treatment. I tried approaching one of them to talk but they just told me they had something else to do and walked away, avoiding the topic altogether and that was the end of it.
Even now, I am unaware of the reason why – it might have been because they didn’t like me and decided to stop associating with me. Whatever the reason was, the only thing I’m sure of is that it left quite an impression on me.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive aggression is damaging because there is no direct communication to be had, leading to tension, confusion and misunderstandings. This in turn would only reduce the warmth in this community, which is not at all what the 7 Cups culture is about. As a result, this would stunt our overall growth and progress.
@Cristen
Well put and thanks for sharing
Wishing you the very best
@Cristen Thanks for sharing!
@giggleZebra2708 @Lww873
Thank you both too! All the best in the program~
@Cristen You said right, warmth is needed in a community which is only possible by clear communication.
@Cristen I agree that passive aggressiveness can lead to the growth and development of 7cups stunting! I also like how you mentioned warmth!! <3 It can definitely have an impact on the warmth too.
@Cristen Keep up the good work !
@Cristen I am sorry to hear you experienced that in high school. The silent treatment is a form of bullying in my opinion. I experienced being bullied around Jr High age for a small part of one of the years by some of my good friends (before this we were good friends and after all of this, believe it or not), and it also left quite an impression on me. I can relate a lot to that.
@Cristen
Amazing answer!
"Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm." --Winston Churchill
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication? What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life? Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
The five signs of passive aggressive communication are as follows:
The silent treatment: If an argument or conflict breaks out and it results in ignorance of the other, hinting to them that the effect of the conflict still persists.
Subtle insults : These usually confuse people and undermine their confidence and sometimes the latter might not even realise that it’s an insult.
Procrastinating on purpose : When a help is required and the other keeps procrastinating it on purpose to show the power they hold in dictating one’s schedule.
Sabotage: This tactic causes people to deliberately mess things up for the other person highlighting dominance and control.
Score keeper: Someone who keeps record of all the favours done and keeps reminding the latter to owe them someday back. It can be a form of revenge as well
I remember being ambushed by the tactic of silent treatment, sometimes arguments and conflicts are bound to happen in any relationship but the others in it tend to give me the silent treatment, ignoring my messages for a short period of time and only get back to me when they need me for their needs. Passive aggressiveness is a bane to the community because it undermines one’s self confidence and creates an array of misinterpretation and miscommunication.
@giggleZebra2708 i agree! thanks for sharing
thanks for sharing your story and thanks a lot for helping the community ❤️
@giggleZebra2708
Yes. Having self-confidence and good communication are very important.
@giggleZebra2708 Miscommunication / or hurtful communication (via passive-aggressive behaviour) is indeed damaging to a community.
1. The Silent Treatment
2. Subtle Insults
3. Procrastinating on Purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
In middle school, I had a friend who was super competitive and we had sort of clashing personalities. We used to use passive aggressive communication all the time and i remember feeling confused all the time because of it.
It is damaging because it is an unclear form of communication that can be taken many ways. things can be resolved much easier if everyone uses plain english and speaks clearly so no one gets (more) hurt.
Hello friends :)
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The silent treatment
2. Subtle insult
3. Procrastinating on purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behaviour you have experienced in your life?
Sabotage and as is common, was by someone close to me. It actually took quite some time for me to understand as it wasn’t any sort of direct betrayal. It was these little things she’d do, every time I try to do something.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
The chances of misunderstandings and assumptions are always present in any conversation. However, a passive-aggressive approach takes this to a whole other level. It is quite easy for something that could have been easily resolved by talking to turn into a full-on conflict when one or both parties aren’t direct.
It’s actually more hurtful than if someone were to directly shout at you because, with those kinds of people, you know when the fight is over. But with passive-aggressiveness, it’s almost as if you have to second-guess everything they say, to ensure that there are no misunderstandings which can be pretty taxing for any relationship. So in a community with loads of people, the detrimental impact is large.
@FawkesCare12
I am really sorry that someone close to you sabotaged something for you, Fawkes. It can hit harder to know that she had been doing it here and there a lot without directly doing one thing. Betrayal of any kind, no matter the size, or time they take is equally hurtful and I feel how you must have felt when you learned about this. You seem like a person who is very aware of what happens around you, I hope you are given direct answers and people are not taking you to a maze. You deserve certainty and clarity, just like anyone else!
I agree that having a direct conversation is much better even if it means a person will be yelling at you because you know when they are done and where the situation will go from there. With passive-aggressive people, it's just hoping they will stop at one point but you never know if they ever will. It is indeed not nice for any person involved, I value your answer. Thank you for sharing!
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@lueurspace
Aww.. thank you space for taking the time out to write such a meaningful reply. Truly means a lot.
Hope the day ahead is as amazing as you :)
Hello Everyone!
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1) The silent treatment
2) Subtle insults
3) Procrastinating on purpose
4) Sabotage
5) Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I have experienced more or less all of them but mainly The silent Treatment and Subtle Insults.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive Aggression is so damaging to the community and it additionally makes a solid obstruction between us. It ruins the trust and serene climate in the community. It deceives individuals and makes an unwanted, untrusting, and muddled climate.
Thank You!
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