Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #6) How to Accept Feedback
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Accepting feedback is a crucial part of being a good leader.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
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I recently got feedback on a Listener Learning Session I hosted. I appreciated the feedback and is working to improve my skills based on the feedback. This video is a helpful reminder on why feedback are important, i will definitely keep this video in mind whenever I receive feedback.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I became rude and raging. I answered roughly trying to say they are wrong. I felt angry and unfair. Because I thought feedback was provoking me to be angry and sad about it. Because I thought it was too rough feedback for me and they could do it in a more soft way.
I'd understand that feedback is a friendly thing, they are holding a mirror for me to my better self-understanding. So, firstly I must separate what I do from my personality, because a feedback is not about they hate me but about how to do work better. So, most important for me to hear out the feedback and being appreciative.
Sorry, don't get me wrong, I generally appreciate feedback, but this one was tough for me because this work is very important for me and I was too stressed about. So I said it even if doesn't excuse me.
@Heather225
How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
From the last bit of feedback I received, I felt sad and guilty to myself. I felt like I let myself down and the people who were giving the feedback because it's not what I normally am like or how I normally perform. But I learnt about what it was and now I am trying to improve myself from it.
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
Nothing differently really, I think the way someone accepts feedback can't be changed by a video. But an interesting thing which was mentioned was that feedback is like someone holding a mirror up at you and showing you a different perspective of yourself.
@Heather225
How did you react?
I acknowledged their opinion, however unsolicited it was.
How did you feel?
I was a bit frustrated (it was during a debate on female rights) but nevertheless appreciative of the insight.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I reacted that way because I am naturally compassionate and I give people room for doubt because everyone is entitled to an opinion, as long as it doesn't hurt someone else's values. I wouldn't do much differently since I am already quite open about the matter.
@Heather225
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
The recent feedback i recieved was a positive one , in which I myself reached out to the person to give me a feedback on something .
So I definately believe that feedback helps us grow and improve . It's also in the manner some one gives us feedback that makes the most impact, it should be constructive and not just critical or belittling to the other person.
Going back further to think of a negative /constructive feedback, I ofcourse felt defensive , bad and confused for a short while .
After which I tried to step away and think about the feedback later with a clear mind .
The video is great and highlights good tips on how to recieve a feedback and Make it of good use. I do try most of these already, stepping away and calming down, trying to understand from other's perspective, listening and asking for advise to improve and further more, thanking the person for helping me become better in my work .
@Heather225 I reacted professionally and understood why I was receiving the feedback that I did. I felt awful on the inside but as a leader, I know to not react in an unprofessional manner and that I will always learn and grow, even from mistakes. I wouldn't change the way I did this as I have learned this is the correct way to take feedback.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I reacted with openness. I understood why I received this and I openly took the feedback to improve. I felt glad, I like feedback as it can help me improve! I reacted that way because I had to. Its the best way to take feedback. If you was to take feedback with anger then you wouldn't be doing good and you would probably forget the feedback which means you won't learn from it. I would probably make sure that I take a few notes on places I could improve but other than that I don't think I need to do anything different
@Heather225
Can someone please tell me what the video is about?
My parents set restrictions on my computer!
@AdylynS
Nevermind I will answer the questions even though i could not see the video...
I was like "Ok, I need to do better at this"
I felt great because I was getting the support i needed
Because I knew what I was getting into and it wasnt a fresh smelly can of worms
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I think i reacted pretty well, i enjoy receiving constructive critiscism because it helps me be a better person
How did you react?
I thanked them for the feedback
How did you feel?
I felt well and not upset
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
I think i reacted pretty well because i like constructive criticism
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
Next time I get a feedback, the first thing I would do is to take a deep breath and see myself separate from my work.
