Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #3) The Detriments of Gossip

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is an easy way to make yourself feel good, but it comes at the expense of someone else. Someone who likely doesn't deserve that. It's negative energy that hurts people, and also ruins your own reputation, since people may now assume you gossip about them as well.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

"I don't know enough about this situation to comment on it." I like this one because it's one that I use often myself when looking to avoid gossiping.

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

It's unfair, it erodes trust, and it makes you less likeable overall, which isn't useful because image is one of the things that are key to effective leadership.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

"studies show that when you gossip about someone the person you're saying it to subconsciously places you with the same negative trait"

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

The video puts it very well, but in summary, Gossip creates a negative relationship or group, and also as the "telephone game" Ends up being so far from the truth it's surprising. It bring down the vibes and positivity in the gossipers life, as well as feeding these negative thoughts also makes the gossiper a more negative person themselves.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I did not know that gossip causes a subliminal thought in the person being gossiped at, about the person gossiping. That's very interesting .

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is toxic and spreads negativity. It is also unfair to the person you are gossiping about as they are not there to defend themselves. It can also make you look bad and make the people around you not trust you.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I like the statement, "I don't know enough about the topic to comment." I also like sticking up for the other person by saying something positive about them.

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?
It is toxic and it will make people think negative about you. It will also make you paranoid, you will think that other people will do the same about you.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
It will make you more likable. It is a hard habit to break but it will make a positive impact on your life. People will take a shine to you.

@Heather2251. Why is gossiping bad?

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
3. Please reply to 3 of your peers  in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!

I do have to say as someone who is Deaf, please don’t rely on Youtube videos to demonstrate, I prefer reading than watching a video. I doubt this’ll get seen by you but yeah!

Gossiping is bad because it places the other person to put you in that similar mindset that you’re not a nice person. Losing the trust because they wonder if you also talk about them in a negative manner.

I don’t know enough the situation enough to comment on it.

1. Why is gossiping bad?
It's mean. It's only meant to make someone else look bad while making yourself look good, which is really just silly. It also often backfires.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
I like the bit about not knowing the other person's perspective, so not wishing to comment on what I believe they were thinking or feeling in their absence. That's a good one.

@Heather225

Thank you for the Post Heather, honestly, it made me realize that people still do that. I didn't think about it because I usually just don't engage once the gossip talk starts, or I try to find people who don't gossip in the first place. But let's answer your questions!

1. Why is gossiping bad?

I am not quite sure how this is even a question. Gossiping can hurt so many people, because once it starts, it always gets out at some point.
People who have experienced that will definitely know what I mean.
So gossiping does not only make a person engaging in it less likeable, it also hurts the person the gossip is about. I don't see any positive parts in this, and that's why I think it should be avoided.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

Changing the topic can be a really nice way. This way we don't judge the people gossiping for their actions, create a safe environment and don't start discussions on people who are not attending.
Topics can include travelling, hobbies that we have in common, or anything else that is lighthearted and interests and includes all people.

All of this can be used in and out of the Cupsland, sadly gossiping happens in a lot of places.

Thank you for reading through my words, I really hope you were able to understand my point of view on the topic! 💜

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because speaking negatively about someone behind their back would leave you and people around you in a negative state. Person who is listening to the gossip would subconsciously create a bad image of the gossiper, so they wouldn't trust them and would wonder if they are also being gossiped on. It's generally poisonous cause the intent of it is to make someone look bad (who aren't there to defend themselves) and make yourself look good by sharing a piece of information about them.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

- By changing the topic or let the gossiper know you are not having any of that.

Examples of statements to get away from gossiping (I don't know enough about the situation to comment on it, I don't know the other person 's perspective so I prefer not to discuss what they were thinking or feeling in their absense)

- Point our good qualities about the person who's being gossiped about and stick up for that person in their absence

- Change the subject to a more positive topic for example traveling, health, exercising, visiting family at a social gathering or being involved in any interesting or exciting events.

1 gossiping makes other people look bad, can be really hurtful and make other think you are doing it too to them.

2 I think I would either change the subject or sayi do not know much about what is going on so I can weigh in about it.