Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #3) The Detriments of Gossip

1. Why is gossiping bad? Gossiping is bad because it can by hurtful for the people about whom you're gossiping, it creates a negative environment around you and the person to whom you are gossiping to, will have a negative thinking about you. In short, there is no positive outcome in gossiping and one should refrain from doing so. 2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping- Making a choice not to gossip is like making a choice choice not eat sugar. It takes practice, discipline and strength to commit to. But in doing so, you'll have a massive positive impact on your life.

1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is bad because it reflects badly on you and its only purpose is to spread toxic negativity that can slowly corrode and break down the relations of everyone involved – it’s basically like a slow acting poison.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
A statement I learned from this video is that you could also point out a quality you like about the person who’s being gossiped about, for example ‘I’ve always found XYZ easy to talk to’ – sticking up for them in their absence would thus help counter the negativity and bring positivity!

Gossiping is bad because it brings more negativity to a community that is all about helping and positivity. If I was asked to participate in gossip, I would say I get do not like talking about others I do not really know.

@Heather225

Why is gossiping bad ?

Gossiping is bad as it throws light into misinterpreting an individual, and forces a fake, bad facade on them, when in reality they might be a completely different individual.

List a statement that you learned in this video to stop gossiping in the comments!

I personally do not know any of the individuals commenting and it could also subconsciously make others perceive me in the bad light.

Hello Everyone!

1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is bad because it is hurtful to others. It damages the trust of the people in ourselves and the trust in each other in the community. It puts a negative effect both on you and the other person about whom the gossiping is going on. I feel, that if someone gossips about me behind me when I am not present, I will really feel so bad so how can I gossip about other people, they have feelings too like me and they could feel bad too. It spreads rumors about people. It also changes the way people look at you and others. It is always better not to gossip about anyone who is not present in the conversation so as to protect ourselves, others, and this whole community from losing trust in each other.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
I don't know the other person's perspective, so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence.

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1. Why is gossiping bad?

It’s a toxic action that harms people in ways we cannot even fully comprehend. There is no way we can completely understand what another person is thinking or going through. By backbiting and spreading rumours, we may cause damage to another person’s reputation, scar them both mentally and emotionally and in the process tarnish our own character.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping

Pointing out a quality I like about the person and sticking up for the person in their absence.

Gossiping is the very ugly, unfair thing to do because the intent behind gossip is usually to make someone look bad. It is not only toxic to the person we are gossiping about but for us too.

I don't know enough about the situation to comment on it.

@Heather225

Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is usually like igniting a fire in a forest. it leads to rumours. It usually tarnishes someone reputation. It is toxic to a community. There are alot of misunderstandings among people that arise from a tiny gossip.

What can i do to stop it?

Gossips usually take place when someone judges another person without knowing the full story or what they might be going through. Its better to avoid including a third person in a conversation.

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad

There are so many reasons why gossiping is bad but it still happens on a regular basis. No matter how bad the results are we still can’t keep from gossiping. Plus, we’ve all been victims of gossiping, yet still turn around and gossip about others. It’s a vicious cycle and it needs to stop. A few reasons why gossiping is bad would be:

Reputation

One of the reasons why gossiping is bad is because it can ruin the other person’s reputation. No one is born evil; we’re good people on the inside so everyone should be given the benefit of the doubt. However, if you’re one to maliciously spread rumors about someone, it can really fog their reputation thus affecting them when trying to meet new people or land a new job.

Trouble

Spreading gossip can offend people and rightfully so. As a result, you can be confronted about your bad habit. Not only is this embarrassing and awkward for you, but you usually will end up looking like the bad person for spreading gossip or rumors. Furthermore, people won’t want to associate themselves with you if you’re someone who has a reputation of being a gossiper or someone who is fake.

People lose faith in you

Once you’ve been pinpointed as the culprit behind the gossiping, people will start to pull away from you. Not only will they not trust that their secrets are safe with you but they’ll also start to wonder what other bad qualities you have. For example, if you love to spread gossip, are you also fake to people? Do you lie or exaggerate to make stories and gossip more interesting?

Legal issues

Sometimes gossiping can lead to legal issues! Gossip can affect someone’s health, business or emotional state. All of these are real reasons that someone could take you to court. Ironically, this will hurt your reputation as well as cost you thousands of dollars in legal fees.

Seriously hurt someone

Gossiping can really hurt someone. And we don’t mean hurt someone as in “make them cry” but hurt someone as in “cause emotional and mental distress leading to depression and thoughts of suicide”. Gossiping can cause irreversible damage if the gossip is bad enough. Plus, whatever you’re gossiping about could be a really sensitive and personal issue for someone that they don’t want publicly announced.

Bad habits are hard to kill

Gossiping can become a bad habit. Even if you realize you’re doing it and you want to stop, you might instinctively start doing it about certain people. Plus, once it’s a habit you’ll find it’s difficult to talk about anything else without adding gossip to it. You’ll turn into a broken record always repeating the same negative stuff again and again. Naturally, people will become bored and disinterested in what you have to say.

Negative energy

Most gossip isn’t good gossip. Therefore, if you’re always spewing nasty things about people, your friends are going to become turned off from you. No one likes a negative Nelly. Plus, no one wants to be poisoned with negative energy, thoughts or emotions. As a result, people will start to avoid you.

2. List a statement you learned from its video to stop gossiping in the replies:

I don't know the other persons perspective so I prefer not to discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence

3. A quote for all of you

"A day spent judging another I a painful day, A day spent judging yourself is a painful day"~Gautam Buddha

1. Why is gossiping bad?

It makes one unlikeable. It creates a negative cycle of people believing the bad things said about another person and somewhere makes them link those shared bad traits with the one who is gossiping in the first place.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

"I don't know enough about the situation to comment on it." -> This seems very easy for me because I almost always believe that there is something I don't know and in the past, it has worked out for me to say this.

If I know the other person, I will stand up for them and share what qualities I admire about the person they want to gossip about. This actually does two things, if it's in a group where this is happening, the person realizes that they cannot "convince" me to stay and gossip with them, and it shows others that they had a choice to walk away from it too, making them now realize that the person they are gossiping about doesn't deserve to be talked in that way.

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