Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #3) The Detriments of Gossip
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1. Why is gossiping bad?
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
3. Please reply to 3 of your peers  in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!
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Why is gossiping bad? Because it's negative. It hurts the person about whom we are talking about.
List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies! " I don't know their perspective well to comment on this"
@Petrichor2000 I like the statement of thinking about the other person's perspective. We are not mind readers!
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping adds fuel to the fire. It fosters negativity and can be very hurtful.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
I like the idea of responding with a positive note and defending the person, such as, "I have found them very easy to talk to!"
3. Please reply to 3 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!
Okay!
@JaimieF
Right, defending people is a great way to go about ending gossiping!
@JaimieF
Great answer! I agree chnaging the tone of the conversation and bringing up positive things about the person is better.
@JaimieF - great answers!
I also think it is a great way of stopping the negativity of gossiping by defending the person who is being gossiped in a positive way. Although that is not the primary purpose, it will not only make that person look better but also you!
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is basically assuming and spread information about other people, that invades other people's privacy and make your group not stable enough because everyone involved in this gossip will be untrustable and unreliable.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
You can say you are unaware of anything about this and don't mess up with people who like to gossip.
@Irena0225
Yes definitely! I agree, gossiping is basically assuming, and by doing it you are invading someone else's privacy. Great response!
@hopedreamlove Thank you
@Heather225
1. Why is gossiping bad? Gossiping does nothing to further the community. It's toxic to everyone.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies! Gossiping not only effects you, but those you gossip to! It plants negative thoughts in their heads about that member.
@CompassionateDreamer8522
Yes toxic is the perfect word for it!
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping hurts not only the person you're gossiping about, but also the people around you.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
Say something positive about the person being gossiped about instead.
@freshMint9376
I like how you mentioned that gossiping not only hurts the person who is being gossiped about, but also the people around you. Good answer!
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is bad because because it can be extremely hurtful, and it is not fair to the person you are discussing behind their backs. Instead of strengthening your community, you might just cause conflict and rumors and lose trust, which is just so harmful. It has no benefits.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
I really like the idea of saying something positive about the person instead of adding to the negativity, and that way you might be able to change the conversation totally.
@hopedreamlove
Hey! I really like your answer and agree with the statement, it's important to spread positivity rather than contribute to the negative.
@hopedreamlove
Hi Hope! I completely agree that it is really unfair for someone to talk about someone else behind their backs, and it could definitely hurt a lot as well. No trust with no benefits are great reasons for not participating in gossip and spreading rumours. Oh my, and I love how you mentioned for your statement that we should start saying something positive about the person and really turn the conversation the whole way around :)
@hopedreamlove
Loved your answer!
@Heather225
Gossiping is bad because it is sharing negative thoughts or feelings about another person who is not around. It is speaking badly about a person behind their back. A statement I took from the video was that people you gossip to subconsciously place you with that trait.
@CognitiveACE
I totally agree with you! Nobody would like it if someone talked badly about them behind their back - it is very important to treat others as you wish to be treated. Nice answer! 
@Heather225
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is bad because, in gossiping, a person is being discussed, often in a negative way, in their absence. The person being discussed is not present to defend herself or himself. Moreover, when we say something bad about someone behind their back, the person to whom we are saying subconsciously also think bad about ourselves. Gossiping creates and encourages an environment of distrust which in reality is harmful to everyone.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
The most likeable people for whom nothing bad can be said have probably never said anything bad about someone in their absence.
@shiningSound31
Thank you for sharing :) The definition of gossiping about how gossiping is when a person is being discussed while not being present is very on-point! I love how you mentioned as the video mentioned that people may perceive us in a negative category when we gossip, and I agree that gossiping definitely creates an environment of distrust. Aw, and the quote you have taken from the video was honestly super deep as well; the fact that the most likeable people never gossiped.
@DayDreamWithYou
Thank you for liking my response :) Your kind words are really an encouragement. Thank you, Dream 
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is bad because it is hurtful and it deteriorates trust. If you are talking bad about someone and they find out theyre not going to trust you anymore. The person youre gossiping to isnt going to trust you as much because if youre saying these things about one person, what are you saying about them? Gossiping isnt fair for anyone involved. You never know 100% of anothers story or the reasons behind their behaviors so what gives you the right to assess and talk about it, especially without them present to defend themselves?
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping
I like the statement, I dont know enough about the person or situation to comment. Ive actually used this before and it seems to work, but sometimes the other person rebutes with well surely you have an opinion, but I definitely operate from the mindset its not fair to talk about others behind their back.
@InvaderStitch
Great answer :) Well explained! I agree with your point about spreading positivity or not commenting if you're not involved. Gossiping can be really terrible and hurtful x.x
@InvaderStitch
Great answer! I like the statement you used too!
Gossiping is when saying mean stuff to make fu. Of. Some you and make them look bad.
i do not know enough about This what happen so I am not comfortable talking about this .
