Share your nightmares.
A place where we can reflect on our bad dreams and give support to each other.
All my nightmares lately have been related to how people would react to finding out about my depression, self harm, and suicidal thoughts. It's generally related to them seeing something (like seeing me swallow a handful of pills) and just not caring. One also had my sister yelling at me about my self-harm but it was set at my best friend's house which is the place I feel safest. I suppose it's all just a reflection of my fears surrounding letting people in on what I'm dealing with. I know they're irrational, but these always make me wake up so so stressed out. And they're usually the kind I cannot get out of, like I wake up and fall back asleep to be right back in the nightmare.
It was me and my little sister and there was a guy who had us trapped at my grandmothers house and he could basically control this alternate universe with his mind and he didn't seem to want to hurt us but if we acted up in anyway he would and no matter how many times I asked he wouldn't tell me why he wanted us here and eventually I just woke up and it disturbs me that I never figured out why he wanted us there and that we never got out
Last night I had a bad dream about school. I hate school dreams, I haven't been to that place in over a year, I don't want to think about it or dream about it but I see myself there often.
This dream was different than normal. There was a boy on the field shooting a gun. All of us were told to go to our classrooms and stay there. The people in my class weren't very nice to me in it, they either ignored me or prevented me from taking my seat. From the classroom we could hear people outside on the field trying to take care of the situation. The boy wanted to shoot himself with the gun. Then we were told it was safe to go to class and I was panicked because I didn't bring the correct work for that day.
I was sitting on my boyfriend and punching him repeatedly in his face, whilst feeling all my pain and telling him that he could never understand my pain, I felt completely upset and punched him so much he was almost dead, when I woke up I was disgusted at myself and saddened by watching his face be hurt so much but also mad about how he lacks empathy in daily life which led to me dreaming this
@modestBirch2426 - How would you feel about talking to him about this?
I've been having a series of nightmares involving being chased. Last night though, tired of it all. I just looked the intruder girl in the face, grabbed her wrists, dragged her out of my house..then laughed at her confusion.
It was then followed up with a dream of the guy who chases me around the globe trying to kill me. Instead of running I turned, looked at him and asked "Why are you doing this?" He just looked baffled, shrugged, then responded "Look Lady, it's your dream."
I woke up.
@WickedGrim
bet that confused guy doesn't come back :)
@KrinkTheMellowUnicorn & @astm
Thanks! I hope it doesn't come back. Since dreams of being chased are usually associated with feeling overwhelmed or pursued by a problem...I think this means I've finally got the reins in hand! Take THAT, subconscious.
Although the whole ordeal was kinda humorous. I woke up smirking.
@WickedGrim - Fantastic! Congratulations!
I feel like nightmares are all I have. I wake up scared and exhausted. I go through my day exhausted.
I dream about school a lot. Someone is always trying to hurt me. The other night I woke up shaking.
I'm not really sure how to combat these nightly occurrences. It's impossible to get a good night sleep when this keeps happening every single day.
So this isn't exactly a particular nightmare story. If I posted my nightmares then I'd be here every day.
I wish they would stop
@discreetAcres6234
how long have they been going on?
@KrinkTheMellowUnicorn they used to show up every few nights but for many months now they've been pretty constant
@discreetAcres6234
has anything else in your life increased in a similar way over the same period?
@KrinkTheMellowUnicorn I guess it could be stress related. I don't know how to fix it though. Stressful situations keep coming up and I have to deal with them. There is no way that I can de-stress, it doesn't work for me. And every night I don't want to sleep because I know that it won't be a good nights sleep and I'll wake up more tired than before
@discreetAcres6234
sounds like a vicious cycle - losing sleep is one of the more stressful things there is...
one other question: in the nightmares, are they simply unbearable or is there a chance there is a fear they are presenting to you that could be faced and possibly endured or even overcome, in the dream itself?
@KrinkTheMellowUnicorn my dreams often seem to include someone running after me trying to kill me and I'm just trapped and keep running into more people who attack me. And they're faster than me so I can't escape. I feel so helpless. Other dreams involve high school which aren't too bad seeing as they make me upset as opposed to terrified. I guess I'm still not over how horrible high school was for me. I still see the bullies faces very clearly. And even people who were nice to me become horrible in my dreams.
The other day I had a dream that my dad was possessed and was going to kill me. It's terrifying. I could feel sharp claws over my skin. It was like I was experiencing it in my waking life. All I want is to try and get some rest but the nightmares don't let me.
It's like I'm living in a cycle of nightmares and it just keeps going with no good in sight
@discreetAcres6234
sounds exhausting! i still dream about school anxiety sometimes, decades later...
somewhere upthread we talked about how nightmares of being chased or attacked or danger have to do with the mind trying to plan for and overcome possible threats. Maybe deep down right now you do not feel safe or you are worried about something "out there" coming after you?
@KrinkTheMellowUnicorn I've only been out of high school for a year but the dreams still happen frequently. Maybe they'll stop as time goes on.
I don't feel as if anything out there is unsafe. I actually feel quite secure. I have no idea why these dreams are occurring and what they might be trying to tell me. Maybe they just want to scare me
@discreetAcres6234 - I'm so sorry to hear that you are struggling like this. Nightmares can really be terrifying. And then you have to get through your day extra tired.
Can you think of anything that helped you in the past?
@OceanRest I honestly can't think of anything. There doesn't seem to be any real pattern to them. They just happen over and over
I had a horrible dream where I was shot repeatedly. The worst part was that it was as if I could feel the bullets. I was just continuing through the dream with bullets in my body and it felt physically uncomfortable for me outside the dream. I hate these kind of dreams where you can feel real, physical things
@discreetAcres6234 - sounds horrible
@KrinkTheMellowUnicorn it was. But I haven't been getting much sleep lately so the nightmares are less frequent
@discreetAcres6234 - hmm, well that's one way to avoid nightmares but you need your sleep!
@KrinkTheMellowUnicorn I have discovered a new sleeping spot which oddly gives me good sleep and minimum nightmares. I experimented today, I tried napping in my normal spot and then my new spot, I had nightmares in my normal spot but good sleep in the new one. I have no idea how this works but okay body, you carry on doing your thing haha
@discreetAcres6234 - that's kind of cool... absolutely let your body do its thing. it must know something!
@discreetAcres6234 - that's kind of cool... absolutely let your body do its thing. it must know something!
@discreetAcres6234 I have heard that to name a fear is to tame a fear. Perhaps by writing out your nightmares you'll tame them.
@writecolorread it's worth a try
how have you been doing lately, @discreetAcres6234?
@KrinkTheMellowUnicorn I've been sleeping better, thank you for asking :) I've discovered that sleeping with my light on actually helps me sleep continuously and for a good number of hours instead of waking up multiple times. The nightmares are still there but most are pretty tame. The worst ones I've had lately have been about me getting shot, they were the kind of dreams where it actually feels like I've been shot in real life.
But there has definitely been an improvement. I think another contributing factor has been me going to sleep a lot earlier than I used to.
I get nightmares about my ex often because he abused me and it plays a major part in my depression.
My most recent one was where I was in this room and I had just "woken up" and I started to get out of bed when I saw him standing in the doorway. He started screaming at me then went to hit me but I ran past him for the front door of the house but it was locked and I turned round and he was there behind me. He hit me a few times and I just sort of tried to cower in a corner while he said all the things he was going to do to me then he started laughing in my face then I woke up.
I really hate the dreams with him because it takes me a long time to calm down from them and it's even worse when I'm staying with my current boyfriend because I feel embarrassed by them but he is very supportive thankfully
@KirstMaryJean - I am so sorry to hear that you had to struggle through such a relationship and that you still have trouble with the influence this man had on you. What do you think you can do for yourself after such a dream? I am glad that you now have a supportive boyfriend.
My thoughts are that nightmares happen when the mind interprets an internal discomfort ,of any sort , as an external threat. So an anxious person will carry the anxiety into a dream and the anxiety sprials into a nightmare. The person will then struggle to wake up and remember unhappy thoughts. I'm going to start another Solving Nightmares thread because I think nightmares need looking at . [ look at them hard enough and they often go away ]
Most of my dreams are about a man who looks like me with white hair and glowing red eyes going around killing loads of convicts... nearing the end of the dream I walk past a mirror I look into it and realize... I am that man, then I wake up, I haven't ever gotten past that part... what does it mean?