Shared Experiences!♡
Hey hey, everyone coming across this post. I hope you're doing well. 💛
Grief and loss, is something I feel most of us have experienced in different forms, with varied intensity of emotions, thoughts and emotional reactions to it.
As earth-shatteringly difficult it is to experience loss of some kind and do not even get me started on loss of a love one hehe (oh but I definitely will come here too💛), or cope with it, I feel something that remotely, I say remotely because I'm not much of the opinion that anything ever truly helps or fills the void in your life and the hole in your heart! (Much love to you if you feel the same and Kudos to you if you found something that helped you in any way💛).
Again, I feel something that *remotely* helps is that we aren't alone in our experiences!
It's not like "seeing someone else in pain makes you feel better about yours", more like "seeing someone feel what you do, say what you cannot and understand what you find incomprehensible somewhere, somehow, in whatever small quantity possible too, makes you feel *seen*, makes your pain feel seen, reminds you that what you experienced is 'worthy' of a reaction from you, also helps you understand your feelings better, because sometimes you're not even sure what to really call that 'sudden feeling of a big lump forming in your throat when you're sitting around people giggling and doing their thing' when everything feels 'okay' around you".
(Apologies for getting carried away haha, I'm not proof-reading this one, and it's just something straight from my heart, hopefully to yours, typos included😅)
Anyway, circling back again, what I find remotely helpful is the idea of shared experiences, of people connected in their grief! Which is why I love reflecting on how someone perceives loss and grief for them, hearing what they have to say about it too!
Sometimes it's these shared experiences, heart felt words and raw emotions that remind me I'm not alone, and a lot of times, this is comforting to know!
Going forward, I'd like to share some quotes I find comforting with the hope that anyone coming across them here can have a little "oh you see it too?" moment, knowing they aren't alone either and someone has had experienced something as they have and stood by to share it with the world also. The massive amount of courage it takes to talk about it, to relive all of it all over again, to be *brave* for comforting someone else! Most people may not even realise how inspiring they are! 💛
Please feel welcome to share any quotes you like that provide you comfort or reflect on any you see here also! 💛
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
@VictoriaLove7
Love this one!⭐
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Thank you, Sunshine! 🌞❤
Yes yes, it is a beautiful proverb ⭐, I love it too! ❤
you wrote a topic that is very thoughtful and beautiful too, Sunshine! 🌞❤ 🤗❤
Be gentle to everyone you meet, including yourself, especially yourself.💛
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Hi Good Day Sunshine! 😊 ❤️ Thank you for this amazing forum post! This deeply resonates with me as I say so many times that we should be extra kind to others as we may have no idea what it is that they are going through at the moment.
Your forum post reminds me of a story I once heard:
A man got on a bus with his two children. He sat down and his children found seats elsewhere on the bus. The children were loud, boisterous, interacting with other passengers. They were seemingly out of control, would not stay seated and being quite the nuisance to others around them.
Many passengers were becoming quite agitated with having to deal with the deplorable behavior and one woman finally spoke up. She addressed the father of the children that was paying no mind to them and simply looking off into the distance.
She told him that she felt he was a horrible parent. That good parenting starts at home and that clearly he had done none of this. She felt it shameful that he would allow his children to behave this way, that he was ignoring them and that clearly they were out of control with him doing nothing about it.
Once being addressed, the man came out of this daze and quickly apologized. He told the woman "I'm so sorry. We are just coming from the hospital. My wife and their mother just died and I guess none of us aren't taking things so well at the moment".
Please be gentle, please be kind to yourself as well as to others. One never knows what the other person is going through at the moment.
*high fives* 😊 and *hugs* ❤️
@SparkyGizmo
Aww I'm sure it did, Sparkyyy Sparkkk, you're one of the loudest and most genuine while staying consistent at it, when it comes to practicing kindness and preaching kindness, it is a delight to *feel* everything you say, simply for how incredibly heart-felt it always is, reminding everyone of the supreme power of being kind to oneself and others. ❤
🤗*high fives and big hugs back*🤗
Thank youu for sharing this heart touching story, Sparkyyy Sparkk, it's so true, we simply never know how one is truly feeling, where they are coming from or what do they have to go home to, or the most unfortunate situation, if they even have somewhere they can refer as "home" to.
While being kindness may not do a whole lot to help someone's situation, it matters and makes a lot of difference, as often times, people need that teeny reminder of the good in the world, of hope, of love and of kindness and sometimes our little (not even an "actively thought-out") kind act can be that lil glimmer of hope they need/ could use, at the time.
I feel, on the streets, every little smile too counts. Smiles are contagious, if someone doesn't have one on them, we can lend them ours. Kindness can be practiced as simply as that! 🥰
Thank you again for sharing, Sparkyyy Sparkk, you always have something of deep value to share, and your very sweet way of making me feel so *seen* always, incredibly grateful to you, all day, everyday! ❤
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
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@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
It is beautiful, Sunshine! 🌞❤
Thank you for this thoughtful poem and the reminder! Remember to owlways be gentle to you too! 🤗❤
@VictoriaLove7
Aw thank you. You as well!❤
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
🤗❤ thank you, Sunshine! 🌞❤
On remembrance:
"I keep the memory somewhere inside me~ where it's safe. I take it out and look at it when I need to. As if it were a photograph."
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
It is so beautiful, Sunshine! 🌞❤
It is so true, a memory being kept safe and it can be looked at like a photograph 🥺❤🤗❤
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Bites Sun's knee gently though.
@CalmRosebud
Hahaha lovely Rosey Rose xD gentle bites are okiee lol. 🙈
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Okey ♥️
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
It is a beautiful poem, Sunshine! 🌞❤
Two seats 🪑🪑, one is Laughing life and the other one is aching grief.
Me hopes that there will be more laughing life for youu! ❤
Also, we can sit there, you can take the laughing life seat 🪑, Sunshine 🌞❤ & me will take the aching grief seat 🪑, so that you will have more happiness! 🤗❤
"Waking up in the morning
is the hardest part about losing someone,
something about sleep convinces you that
you'll wake up with a fresh start
but every morning I wake up
and remember you're gone"
We'll see this through, together.💛
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
It is a beautiful poem ⊂(ᵔ◡ᵔ💐⊂)❤, Sunshine! 🌞❤🥺❤
It took a long time to go through the grief, but together, we'll see this through 🤗❤
Grief does come in waves, and after many many years of grieving, I can attest that, no, it doesn't stop anywhere, nor have I ever felt the "same" ever since, a part is missing, but what does comfort me is that, the people who left with parts of me, left some parts of them with me too.
Without them being in-person with me too, there's something of theirs that belonged to them, now within me.
In a way, they are around still. For as long as this heart beats, this heart remembers.
For as long as this heart remembers, it loves.
For as long as this heart loves, it grieves.
For as long as this heart grieves, it remains unchanged. ❤
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Sun is shining and so are you. Here is a big soft hug for you. I just read this and I know that feeling of “missing.” Someone once told me there is a word in Portuguese that even expresses it better, it’s “Saudaté,” which means a sort of feeling of longing, melancholy, desire and nostalgia for a time in the past.
Love and Courage, Patience
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou my sons 13th birthday in 7 days, I'm the 30th ❤ he's a angel in heaven now. Grieving is so hard. Struggling a lot right now
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
It is so poetic ୧⍤⃝💐 & beautifully written, Sunshine! 🌞❤🥺❤
This is my favorite part (∩˶ᵔ ᵕ ᵔ˶ ∩)💖
For as long as this heart beats, this heart remembers.
For as long as this heart remembers, it loves.
For as long as this heart loves, it grieves.
For as long as this heart grieves, it remains unchanged. ❤
(*´◡`*)ꕤ💖
"Missing someone is sadness wrapped in the blessing of having known them." - "How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard."
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
It is so true, Sunshine 🌞❤🥺❤ missing someone is a bittersweet thing ღ(´͈ ᵕ `͈ ღ)💗
Thank you for this reminder of the blessing of knowing someone though they are no longer with us 🥺❤🤗❤
& the quote ⍝ʕ´ᴖᴥᴖ`ʔ⍝ “how lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”
