@Kristynsmama my Xmas was good, I did write a poem for my son, and I bought him a rugby shirt and rugby ball. He's 12 so I'm sure he'll like his gifts. And in Xmas day I went to sit by his cross under the willow tree. I sat with him a couple of hours and I put his gifts in his treasure box under the tree ❤ what I liked best about Xmas was kindness people showed me here on cups ❤❤ the worst part, I live in a old folks nursing home, yeah I'm 23, it's not an ideal situatio n. But anyways all the other residents here have gone home with their families for xmas and new years, so I was a bit lonely
Hi Tiny! I can relate to living in a space where most everyone was oh, about 50 years older than I was at the time! It can feel very isolating - I definitely agree! I am super glad that you've found 7cups and that you are able to jump on here and write! Writing can help process emotions and help you remember fond times or just good or exciting memories in general. Thank you for posting here! ((( Platy gives Tiny a GIANT-Platy hug and offers to sit with Tiny ))) to talk or to not talk, as needed. Another hug for @Tinywhisper11 !! <3 Platy
@cyanPlatypus6370 🤗😁❤ yaaay! Hugs gives you a giant tiny hug ❤squeezes you tightly ❤ I'm doing ok the other residents should be back here next week hopefully. For my Xmas present my carers are getting some of my pencil drawings printed into posters. So I'm gonna decorate a wall in my room as a cowboy and Indian wall. Gotta repaint it and but shelves and a few other bits, and make it cowboys 😁 I love cowboys😍
(This Platy smiled!) <--- thank you, Tiny!
You'd fit right in here! As children, lots of cowboys and indians play time (yes, I know - very politically INcorrect now), growing into rodeo and roping contests, sometimes but not always connected to the county fair and into the state fair!
That is such a cool idea for the staff to get your drawings printed and "posterized" hehe. The more you'll get to know me, the more I hope you'll understand when I create my own word for things - it's often to shorten what I'm saying. But do feel free to ask if something I said doesn't make sense!
If you were here, I'd drive us to the rodeo events and we'd have a grand ol' time! haha :D
It's nearly here! Happy New Year! 2024! Can you believe it?!! party noisemakers, confetti, and the dropping of "The Ball" at Times Square. and hugs for Tiny :) Platy of USA
@cyanPlatypus6370 posterized😂😂😂 very cute ❤ and yaaaay! Happy New year platy 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤ so your a cowboy??😍 I've always wanted to dance at the honkytonk, and watch a rodeo. Country music is my favourite 😁❤ I hope you have the bestestest year everrrr ❤
@Kristynsmama
1. My Christmas was good.
2. I enjoyed spending time with family and friends.
3. I hated cleaning up after dinner with 26 people on Christmas Day and 17 people on Christmas Eve. I love the holiday but hate the work that goes into it.
4. My family always writes letters to my daughter and put them in her stocking. On Christmas morning we go to her grave and read them to her. I also do a teddy bear collection in her honor and take them to my local neonatal intensive care unit.
5. I am looking forward to good health in 2024.!
What a wonderful idea, @Kristynsmama! #4 especially - that is according to me.
and that is very cool (another great idea) to write and then read letters at your daughter's gravesite.Kristy, you are so good at encouraging us here (7cups in general, but also in the grief and loss sections)! Please remember to spend time taking care of yourself too.
You are important, dear friend! <3 Platy
@cyanPlatypus6370
thank you for your sweet and kind words. I truly believe that my purpose and mission is to help those suffering from a recent loss and significant grief. It fills my heart full when I know that I have encouraged someone or helped someone through a painful time in their life.
and I am getting better at practicing self care!
@Kristynsmama happy new year to you and your family ❤❤ your daughter is old enough to go to heavens new years party, I bet she had fun, and danced all night, in a beautiful gown. ❤❤ sends lots of love your way
@Kristynsmama
- My Christmas was well! I had fun and ate some goood food :3
- I enjoyed the food!
- I did not enjoy the fact my dog had an accident at 2am :')
- I did :o we all had food together and then opened our presents as family!
- I am looking forward to more improvement hehe
@KateDoskocilova oh no I hope your dog is ok? And I take it you like festive food😂😂😂
Note to self: come back here and actually answer the proposed Qs for how my Christmas was.
Note 2 to self: this seems a safe place to answer the questions honestly, instead of writing only what I think the OP wants to hear.
aka be honest. and it's alright if Christmas wasn't as awesome as you had hoped. <--- That last part for everyone! <3 Platy
@cyanPlatypus6370
i am so glad that you feel safe enough to answer the check in questions honestly. And if you ever don’t feel safe enough to do so, you can always send me a pm. :). I’m looking forward ri reading your answers.
@cyanPlatypus6370 I've realised you don't open up much. This is your safe place ❤ everyone's safe place, and it's ok to open up, we are all here for you ❤❤ I know it's not always easy to open up, but when your ready then we'll be ready to listen ❤ hugs you tightly ❤
Tiny, hi. You have observed correctly. I am a very private person. Writing things out helps me to process what's up. But not sharing things or not sharing much is also a defense mechanism. It is hard(er) to get hurt if I am picky with what I share.
I'm still learning where is and where is not safe to share things. Especially things that have a big meaning or influence on/in my life.
Thank you (I think?) for calling me out on this. I read it as, "oh Tiny (for one) cares enough about me to want to know what's up... no what's up *for real!* " I do not feel like I have much really safe space IRL right now, so *crosses fingers* here's hoping for more safe space on 7cups, or by e mail, or just in a Word doc or even notepad. Thank you, Tiny, for caring enough to write/ask about me. (((hugg))) Platy
@cyanPlatypus6370
i can actually relate to this. I’m used to not sharing much because I’ve been hurt in the past. I don’t think that being selective is a fault. It might be a defense mechanism, but it’s okay to protect yourself. I’m glad that you have Cups as a safe place and hope that continues to be the case for you!
Kristynsmama
Thanks @Kristynsmama for the post.
1. My holiday was ok.
2. I enjoyed spending time with my wife, brother, nephew, and our friends.
3. I did not enjoy that my mom was not here. I also did not enjoy that I drank so much I don't remember going to bed for 2 nights, because I couldn't stop thinking about her.
4. I did not do anything to honor her, it's just too fresh and too painful this year. Hopefully next year I can do something special for her.
5. I'm looking forward to getting my life back on track. This has been a devastatingly hard year so next year must be better.
@VintageDougers hugs you tightly ❤ happy new year ❤ I hope this year is easier on you. And you can start to heal ❤
@Kristynsmama
1. Though I don't celebrate Christmas, it was up and down.
2. I met with a new singles meet-up group on Christmas Eve for Chinese and chatter and it was the highlight
3. Other than the meet-up, I didn't have anyone to be with and the main reason is that I had no contact with my family. I also didn't get any presents from anyone, but I didn't get anyone anything either. I also liked the period between Christmas and New Year's because it felt very relaxing.
4. I cried about my late aunt not being here anymore and her not being able to spend the holidays with me.
5. I don't know what I am looking forward to, I am going to take every day as they come.
