Out Of Site *but* Not Out Of Mind. ❤
Hey hey lovely people coming across, I hope July is treating y'all well. 💛
(❤This is not a farewell thread❤)
I was a bit hesitant to make this thread, mostly because I could consider a "why" behind "some" people not being on the same page about this. And hey, that's okay, we all think and work differently, have different experiences and lessons and how we apply those learnings in our future etc, makes sense for two people not agreeing over something, or having a different perspective on the same thing. Glass half full or half empty lol.
Having said that, I'd go ahead with it anyway xD because I have my reasons in place and I for one, value them enough to give them a space.
Hopefully we have some others who'd be on my page too, or least be willing to see it the way I do. I promise it won't hurt to try. 💛
When I was new to the forums (or 7 cups in general) I remember coming across these farewell/ on hiatus threads and it really spoke something haha, it was lowkey strange crying and feeling upset about someone leaving, someone that I don't even know or would ever know. Un-freaking-believable how things work for empaths sometimes. All the empaths in the house, I gotchu! :')
Being in those threads, reading the different posts, what really stood-out for me was the "mass-tags", or simply, tags, a lot of them.
Newbie me used to think if I would ever make a post in one of these threads meant for farewell, not too hard though, just passing thoughts that would I even be umm "important" enough that someone, anyone, an apparent stranger on the internet, would want to know if I'm around or not, or care about my where-abouts and how-abouts in general, and then I used to think if I'll find any people that would want to know or be tagged in these posts, if I do eventually make one someday.
I've always been fascinated by these threads and have realised that tags in these posts hit different, it's a bittersweet feeling that someone cared enough about you to let you know or make you aware of their where-abouts, to use their 'apparent' last moments in this platform (for the timebeing) to let *you* know that you've made some impact on them and their journey so far, that they remembered you in those moments, or that they didn't want to go before that one last "glance" at you.
I love-hate getting tagged in these posts. I love it because of the above said, it feels *unexplainable* kind of good to realise that someone would think of me right before they decide to leave (for whatever time frame that is), it's nice to know that I created some sort of impact that they knew in their heart and their mind that hey hey atleast Sun would want to know and would care enough to know about me. (Sun really does care and appreciates every single of these tags, yall)
And well ofcourse, hate (it's a strong word and I typically avoid using it, but really haha I hate goodbyes of any kind xD), hate because oh my, now that you've tagged me, it's just another reminder that we've established some sort of bonding and it is really awful to imagine this place without you now. But *sigh* it be like that sometimes! :')
Okay now all of that aside. And to quench your confusion about how the title links to the content lol. Let's move ahead xD
I've been on this platform for over 2 years now, and I've met countless people here, all amazing in their own wonderful ways.
Some I meet through forums, some via personal chats, some in group chats, by working together in a project and so on. Different people and different ways to meet them and see them around, I must say, I don't forget people quite easily, and definitely not the ones that have been kind, to me or in general. Now thing is, on a platform like this, there's a plethora of kind people haha, human brain can only memorize somewhat heh? xD
Soooo the other day, I was randomly thinking about someone from here who's unfortunately not around the site anymore, and it clicked that, we should have a place to throw in these random reminders out there.
A place to not just show gratitude towards someone who once was a more connected part of your life here, but to also sort of leave a "tribute". I get this might sound too mushy and philosophical (in a way) too lol, but I kept myself in this place (again, #PerksOfBeingAnEmpath 😛) and thought to myself, that if I were to take a break or step away from this wonderful place and people for a while, somewhere I'd want to be "not-forgotten" also, and then another thought to support, how gratifying it would feel to someday come back and see that there was atleast one person that thought of me even when I wasn't really around, or that, maybe just maybe for one person even, me being out of site, didn't have to mean, me being out of their mind altogether.
Trust me when I say this xD it felt beautiful to just picture this haha. Now I'm only wondering how it must feel "actually" someday, when it does happen, because *sigh* as much we'd like to deny, we know there's a life off cups, that can go all things demanding and pull us away sometime, something I believe everyone here has experienced in their time being here (especially on a listener account) or should be willing to accept, because again, #reality is definitely a good mirror!
What I do also know, is that, I'm not alone. I'm not the only one who randomly thinks of people here when they aren't active or around, for xyz reasons. Have seen so many people mentioning how a certain someone has made their life better and how they wish they could check on them or simply thank them for it.
A simple message like "I'm thinking of you." works magic.
Hoping that we all can use this space to give a shout-out to those that randomly cross your mind, be it while coming across a forum post by them, a series they mentioned they like, remembering someone with the name "orange" when you're nomming one (it has happened lol) or someone with "moon" in their name when you're gazing at night sky etc etc there's countless opportunities for these kind souls to cross our minds. I know you know it already. 💛
Who knows, some day they may or may not come across the tag and I can bet anything on this, it would make them feel happy and *remembered*. Orrr even if not, it'll be a good surprise to yourself how much you remember someone or about them still, despite the many days/ weeks/ months/ years being passed.
Disclaimer: We do want to be mindful about the guidelines, so ofcourse no sharing any personal information or chat details, or anything that you'd know is not good for a "public" forum space, that affects your anonymity or chat confidentiality or someone else's.
We'd use this space for giving a shout out, a message. Something as simple as "I'm thinking about @AwesomeHooman today, they supported me with _____ (brief topic if you're comfortable) or like they were my mentor/ they lead great discussions, they were a friendly face in rooms, they made a good forum post etc anything. Or an even simpler message-- @AmazingBeing I miss you.
Sounds good, people? 😮💛
*sending lots of love and light to everyone* and *offering hugs to those that need them*
❤ We're all real, all humans with emotions here, it's okay to miss people, feel upset about or maybe even cry. None of us are alone in #BeingHuman. ❤
Positive, Caring, Appreciative shout-outs only. Any messages violating such are subject to be removed under forum guidelines. Refer Here if there's any confusion. 💛
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Good Day Sunshine, brilliant forum post my friend! 😊❤️ From one empath to another, just reading your words caused me to shed more than a few tears. I won't be very eloquent in this response I imagine and I don't even care about not being so. This is my time too, I'm allowed to feel. My feelings matter too and I don't always have to show up around here being polished like a brand new penny.
Dayummm if you didn't speak to something that I have been feeling for quite some time. I see these people as our "missed angels" our "missed soldiers". I don't know, I don't even have the words right now to express it all. Some, we know what happened, some we don't know what happened. Sad either way when we simply miss someone that was so very good to us. Someone we formed a bond with, someone that was special to us in some way, shape, form. ❤️
Where did you go? Will you come back? I miss you. Lots of stuff wrapped up in there. Maybe, I know where you went. In those moments, I have to feel like, I hope the other angels in heaven appreciate you being one of their crew now. In those instances, I try to tell myself that they are always here in spirit. Kind of like a guardian angel, looking over us, watching out for us.
I understand what you are saying about the forum post for saying "goodbye" also. Everyone see's that area differently. For me, when I see others posting that are close to me, I have many times tried to give it one last chance, try to make a difference, to open my pm's, to let them know I believe in listener retention. That maybe, just maybe with someone that cares, will provide a soft spot to land and to listen, might work wonders as well as providing options and resources of maybe directing a teammate to someone else also that they can speak with about conflict resolution.
For me, if I leave it's doubtful I will post there. I'm more of a go away quietly person if I have simply had enough (reached my saturation point, just like a sponge that can hold no more). Wouldn't be to be hurtful to those that I care about but maybe it's just my way. If I come to the moment when I feel like I don't matter enough to flat out leave, well, I'll just feel that I simply do not matter enough and will fade away, into the woodwork. Let it "die on the vine" concept. No grand flourish. I'm not saying this is the right approach. I would not advise this to others, simply saying "know thyself" and yes, I kind of do know me, lol. 😊
Good Day Sunshine, as a fellow empath it brings me to a concept that I always think about. Real life or here. Tomorrow is never promised to any of us. If you have something nice to say to someone, say it and say it now! I try hard to do this around here. Positive affirmations can work wonders. It's good to be especially kind to one another as we never know what the other person is going through. Just a few words at the right time could change everything. "Even the flap of a butterflies wings could cause a tornado". 😊❤️😊
Thank you for giving everyone a safe place in the forum areas to express their feelings, to express how much they miss others. There are quite a few that I miss around here and I guess I keep it in, bottle it up a bit and rarely share that with others. It does seep out though and unfolds organically from time to time.
*high fives* 😊 and big *hugs* ❤️
@SparkyGizmo *tag* I'm thinking it you
@kindSoul10
I'm thinking of you too my friend! 😊 You are on my mind and in my heart! big *hugs* ❤️
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
thank you for this great post, very inspiring and motivating!!!
@NewYorker11 *tag* hello in forums. :) Next time lsr again?
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou this is such a beautiful post and I'm totally in tears because it was just so poignant. I'm very grateful to have some wonderful people in my corner here right now but I have also met a lot of others in my many years here and this is a truly wonderful idea <3 So many put a lot of time and energy into this place and sometimes we do need to step away for a break or longer but their presence here was still important no matter how many people they impacted. It is sad when people leave and I may or may not cry when tagged in those threads (empath in the house!)
So here's to @QuietMagic and @Gozzil and @AnnaTess I hope you are doing well <3
@Lou73 hi ♥️
QuietMagic and @Gozzil and @Anna where are you hiding? :(
@Lou73 @kindSoul10
Not hiding just very, very busy! I miss you all and this site lots and know you are all on my mind often.
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Sun 💚😭 This is so beautiful, thank you, my friend. (Not going to lie, you scared me for a minute there 👀)
Huge tag to @imlistening01
The first time I ever joined a Listener Chatroom, you were there just having fun. You inspired my love of chatrooms, and although we never spoke again, I think of you often. Much love to you, my friend 💚
@WarmLightXO hey hey I'm thinking of you!
@kindSoul10
Awww *sends love*
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Sun, oh my god, I just read through and it's honestly so beautiful. The way that it was written was so amazing, it genuinely brought a smile to my face. It's so sweet of you to think about all of this and create a space for people to remember their cups friends who are on a break.
A while back, I took a really long break off of 7cups, and after coming back, I noticed that so many of my friends were no longer active. It just made me so sad to think about how I may never get to talk to them again, and I know for sure that in that moment, I would have loved to have a space like this to just leave a quick post about how much I miss them.
Sometimes I think about it and it's crazy how we're all able to build such special bonds with people here that we have never actually met. Honestly, I think that's one of the main reasons why the bond is so special. We like each other for who we truly are, not for looks, popularity, social status, personal benefits, or anything of that sort, but just for our personalities. There's no side factors that come into 7cups friendships and I think that's why it's so hard to forget a cups friend, even if they went on break for months and you've had no communication.
@imlistening01
heyy listening, my listener twinnn, I hope you're doing well! I know it's been ages since we've talked and I have no idea if you're ever going to see this, but I just wanted to say that I really do miss you. All of those sessions that we co-hosted were genuinely so special to me. Every moment I spent with you in those rooms was so much fun. I remember all the bonding conversations we had where we realized how similar we were, it was almost as if we were real twins. I just wanted to leave this here, I really, really do hope that you'll be back one day and you'll be able to see this :)
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Thank you, Sun for this beautiful, emotive, and wise post.
The people I miss the most are @Starmedia and @LuluRings who are some of the very very best people I have ever known online or offline. As well as super-amazing leaders (hard-working, brilliant, creative well organized, enthusiastic...) and compassionate and hiper-supportive to all the people they dealt with in all their roles.
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou this is such a great post
@fluffyUnicorns84, i miss you and think about you often. i remember in group chats you were always so kind and i loved chatting with you. you really made the chats wonderful. i miss you :( hope to see you around some time
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
I'm not crying you are <3 thank you so much for this post it means a lot <3
(we need a draft system because I have written this post like five times smh)
Here is to two of my cups family <3
@AstronomySkies I love you so much and I'll be here whenever you come back <# (a waffle heart for all the good times)
@StrawberryQ I also love you and can't wait to spam you and then get nommed by the spam filter :P
Also, I appreciate all the old commods who aren't here because they really left a major impact on me and they deserve a little shout-out <3
@Syd113 Aww hehe definitely still crying lol. (We really do omg, it's annoying to retype darn) So very kind of you, love these shout outs. ❤
@Syd113
Hey