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Im not good at being human

callmeRM October 28th

I don't think I human well, or maybe I just don't know how

It feels like I have to try extra hard to be a human

The way I think, the way I talk, the way I do what I do is just so different from others and makes being human hard

I can think im adequately communicating but im not

I think I just fail at being human

No matter what I do I cant seem to do it right

Growing up I always heard the sayings that we are all not as different as we think and we are not alone

So for a long time, I believed that who I am and how I act is very normal and im not as different as I think

But maybe I am

Its the most frustrating thing in the world because it makes me feel like I can't do anything correctly 

Im just not good at this

I know it sounds silly - how can someone not be good at being human 

I think im just doing it wrong

And no matter how hard or how much I try I am just not good at it

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takemedicine October 28th

@callmeRM I relate a lot cuz of my autism, things that are considered 'normal' don't come naturally to me most of the time and so I often feel like I can't understand others too well😵‍💫

sellistens October 28th

There's no "right" way to be a human. Just do what feels natural to you and things that make you happy. That's human ❤️

PineTreeTree October 28th

@callmeRM If you look at others and think “these people know how to do this,” it might not be too accurate. They may look happy, say they are happy and they may even have things and people in their life you wish you had. Someone once told me, “don’t judge your insides by other peoples’ outsides.” 


You are human. You have skills and abilities. You also lack some skills and abilities. You have a deep and complex emotional life. You have the gift of being alive. And right now it sounds like you have deep suffering. Much suffering can be alleviated by staying in the present, being grateful for what we have, and treating our thoughts and emotions as if they were welcome guests in our own little private home. Sometimes our guests are painful or confusing. If we fight them they somehow want to stay longer. If we accept them for being who and what they are they soon leave and we have more peace. It’s a weird picture especially since we’d rather kick these unwelcome guests out and lock the door. But, spoiler alert, they know how to get back in and there’s nothing we can do except give them the love they need. And really what we are doing is treating ourselves (the whole package) with warmth and love. You’ll be with yourself your whole life and learning this skill will give you more peace and believe it or not, more opportunity.
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braveMoon5073 Thursday

This is very beautiful

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listener042 3 days ago

@callmeRM It'll maybe get easier when you realize that to be great at humaning is not the most important thing for a human, and a human can live a life of fulfillment without knowing very well how to human.

quietOak2764 3 days ago

@callmeRM Hii, I understand your pain. I’m incredibly self critical and never seem to know how to act. I’m either to loud or too quiet, too fat or too skinny, trying too hard or not enough. It’s like I can never be perfect. I’m sharing my thoughts experience because I’ve been on seven cups for just two days and seeing that people feel the way I do helps me a lot. I hope it helps you too. Because your not weird, u don’t stand out, it’s everyone’s first time living. No one knows how to act or behave. You know the saying the grass is greener on the other side?? Well my mother says that for others we are on the other side, our grass is greener. The people that make you feel like this must think your life is perfect. What I’m trying to say is to stop thinking so much about it, everyone is judgemental no matter what, no one in the world will ever be 100 percent happy with you so you can do yourself the favour of being happy doing what you want. You know what you want and what can make you happy. You’re the only person that can make you happy. I’m not sure if I was able to but I hope I helped and if you think I did please talk to me whenever you’d like.