I need a new friend
My best friend and I ended our bestfriendship of 12 years this year and I haven’t get over it. It has caused me to have depression and I guess I’m looking for a friendship to take my mind off it.
@cyanMoon6064
I'm really sorry to hear that you went through such a difficult time 😔 Losing a best friend after 12 years must have been incredibly tough for you. It's completely understandable that you're still trying to cope with it all. Remember, it's okay to feel the way you do, and it's essential to give yourself time to heal.
Building new friendships can be a great way to find support and distraction during challenging times 💛 You deserve genuine connections that will help you grow and bring joy back into your life. I'm here for you if you ever want to talk or share your feelings. Together, we can explore ways to find new friends and ways to manage your emotions. Hang in there, and remember that better days will come. 🌈✨
I am so sorry that happened to you. My best friend of 20+ years has not been treating me very well lately. I know what you are going through.
I'm sorry you are going through that, I'm going through the same thing myself. My ex best friend has been making me feel worthless and truthfully doesn't feel like they are my friend anymore
I need some courage to talk to speak to her about it again. Because honestly, I don’t want to lose her as a friend. I mean, it’s twelve years
@cyanMoon6064
I completely get it.
for me, the hardest part is trying to rekindle a deteriorating relationship by trying to be the first one to talk. It’s rough.
More power to you brother/sister. I know you can get through it.
How did you even start? I’m going to it today and I’m dreading
@cyanMoon6064
It depends. Are you gonna do it online over text or in person?
In person. It’s a long story but our Sunday is always being the dog out day tgt
@cyanMoon6064
With my friend what I did was find a place that’s nostalgic. A place where we both had a memory together and we can bring it up with a phrase like “Remember when we used to (Insert event/memory)” to get the ball rolling.
for us it was this park that we used to get into a lot of fights in when we were kids.
from there, the memory helped us remember what our friendship used to be and it took off and we rekindled it.
Since you’re going out with your dogs maybe you can walk to a place where you and your friend shared a memory?
@cyanMoon6064
(Sorry, there’s no reply button on your latest message. So I had to backtrack to this one).
Well, surely that’s a glimmer of hope right? That you two have an unspoken bond of taking your dogs out together? I do get the frustration you’re dealing with though. It’s a real struggle trying to be the one carrying a relationship while the other person see
And since you shared your age I think I should also share mine. I’m 19, hope that doesn’t change anything.
@cyanMoon6064
Also, if this isn’t rude to ask, are you a girl and is this another girl who you were friends with?
Just asking since I’m a guy and my friend who this happened to was a guy too. I know that female friendships operate a bit differently than male ones.
Yes, we are both females but our friendship isn’t those that you see in shows or movies where there’s a lot of giggles and what not. And right now, I’m just dreading having to start the conversation because I’m afraid that she’s not going to salvage the friendship. Things have gotten to such a bad situation that I’m no longer confident to say she will definitely put in the effort.
@cyanMoon6064
Oh I definitely get that. You feel like you’re the only one putting in any effort to maintain the relationship right? That’s rough.
Has she agreed to meet you in person? If she had, I’m sure she cares enough to at least talk if she’s agreed to meet.
if you don’t mind me asking, how old are you two? I hope that doesn’t come off as weird. Just wondering since age can influence relationships and friendships right?
@cyanMoon6064
I know you can. That hope you have will turn into action and that action will turn into courage. You can do it. Those 12 years weren’t there for nothing. Good luck to you. Tell me how it goes if you can.
Hello! A little update! Took your advice and broached the topic though it was only at the end of the day(too much hesitation and overthinking in my head). Im glad I took the leap because the conversation turned out well. And I’m really thankful to you for all the encouragement because it was at the back of my head the entire time
@cyanMoon6064
That’s great to hear. Honestly, you’re real welcome. Sorry for the late reply, I’ve been dealing with some personal issues myself. Anyway, I’m very happy for you.
@cyanMoon6064
I am very sorry you lost your best friend of 12 years! That is definately something that would be extremely hard for anyone! I can be your friend. Anytime you want to talk, I will listen to you!
Armon
@cyanMoon6064
Thanks for being willing to listen, I really appreciate it. I’ve basically got friendship issues.
I moved to study at a different university in a different city. I made some friends there but didn’t like it all that much.
So I transferred back to the university in my home-city only to see my previous friends have all moved on. So I’ve basically lost most of my friendships within the last year.
Oh man. I’m so sorry to hear that. But speaking from someone who had been through college and work, not all of the friendships we get to keep. An example, I didn’t meet my best friend until after I graduated from college and we happened to meet in a Starbucks with this group of friends.
Overall, what I’m really trying to say is, friendships can appear in the weirdest places and strangest circumstances. Sometimes, you just need that one particular friend that makes all of these friendships seem like confetti.
@cyanMoon6064
Thanks, that’s a bit reassuring.
you say ‘college’ right? I’m assuming you’re from America then? (I’m asking because I’m from the U.K.) What did you study during your time there?
(2/2)
Do you have one particular friend to help you through?
@cyanMoon6064
Yeah, on top of University I’ve boxed and done Judo. So I have a few close friends from those places.
Hii moon, it's hard to move but you have to. I am with you as your friend.