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I need a new friend

cyanMoon6064 July 29th, 2023

My best friend and I ended our bestfriendship of 12 years this year and I haven’t get over it. It has caused me to have depression and I guess I’m looking for a friendship to take my mind off it.

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FrenchMarbles July 29th, 2023

@cyanMoon6064

I'm really sorry to hear that you went through such a difficult time 😔 Losing a best friend after 12 years must have been incredibly tough for you. It's completely understandable that you're still trying to cope with it all. Remember, it's okay to feel the way you do, and it's essential to give yourself time to heal.

Building new friendships can be a great way to find support and distraction during challenging times 💛 You deserve genuine connections that will help you grow and bring joy back into your life. I'm here for you if you ever want to talk or share your feelings. Together, we can explore ways to find new friends and ways to manage your emotions. Hang in there, and remember that better days will come. 🌈✨

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passionateEast518 July 30th, 2023

I am so sorry that happened to you. My best friend of 20+ years has not been treating me very well lately. I know what you are going through.

passionateThinker3248 July 30th, 2023

I'm sorry you are going through that, I'm going through the same thing myself. My ex best friend has been making me feel worthless and truthfully doesn't feel like they are my friend anymore

cyanMoon6064 OP July 30th, 2023

I need some courage to talk to speak to her about it again. Because honestly, I don’t want to lose her as a friend. I mean, it’s twelve years

Sudmantohelp July 30th, 2023

@cyanMoon6064

I can be your friend


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cyanMoon6064 OP July 30th, 2023

Would be glad to make your acquaintance!

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Ar4571 July 30th, 2023

@cyanMoon6064

I completely get it.

for me, the hardest part is trying to rekindle a deteriorating relationship by trying to be the first one to talk. It’s rough.

More power to you brother/sister. I know you can get through it.

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cyanMoon6064 OP July 30th, 2023

How did you even start? I’m going to it today and I’m dreading

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Ar4571 July 30th, 2023

@cyanMoon6064

It depends. Are you gonna do it online over text or in person?

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Ar4571 July 30th, 2023

@cyanMoon6064

Also, if this isn’t rude to ask, are you a girl and is this another girl who you were friends with?

Just asking since I’m a guy and my friend who this happened to was a guy too. I know that female friendships operate a bit differently than male ones.

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Ar4571 July 30th, 2023

@cyanMoon6064

I know you can. That hope you have will turn into action and that action will turn into courage. You can do it. Those 12 years weren’t there for nothing. Good luck to you. Tell me how it goes if you can.


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Armon23 July 31st, 2023

@cyanMoon6064

I am very sorry you lost your best friend of 12 years! That is definately something that would be extremely hard for anyone! I can be your friend. Anytime you want to talk, I will listen to you!

Armon

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cyanMoon6064 OP July 31st, 2023

Hello, actually both of us decided to work things out. Ytd we sat down and had one of those conversations that we used to have. Currently, I’m still dealing with my slight depressive episode but we are trying to work things out.

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Ar4571 July 31st, 2023

@cyanMoon6064

Thanks for being willing to listen, I really appreciate it. I’ve basically got friendship issues.

I moved to study at a different university in a different city. I made some friends there but didn’t like it all that much.

So I transferred back to the university in my home-city only to see my previous friends have all moved on. So I’ve basically lost most of my friendships within the last year.

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cyanMoon6064 OP July 31st, 2023

Oh man. I’m so sorry to hear that. But speaking from someone who had been through college and work, not all of the friendships we get to keep. An example, I didn’t meet my best friend until after I graduated from college and we happened to meet in a Starbucks with this group of friends.


Overall, what I’m really trying to say is, friendships can appear in the weirdest places and strangest circumstances. Sometimes, you just need that one particular friend that makes all of these friendships seem like confetti.

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Ar4571 July 31st, 2023

@cyanMoon6064

Thanks, that’s a bit reassuring.

you say ‘college’ right? I’m assuming you’re from America then? (I’m asking because I’m from the U.K.) What did you study during your time there?

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cyanMoon6064 OP July 31st, 2023

Actually I’m not. I’m from Singapore. Majority of the time, I just use terms interchangeably. My course of study was business management, majoring in finance.

And, those close friends that you have through boxing and judo? It’s great especially when you guys have a common interest.

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cyanMoon6064 OP July 31st, 2023

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Do you have one particular friend to help you through?

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Ar4571 July 31st, 2023

@cyanMoon6064

Yeah, on top of University I’ve boxed and done Judo. So I have a few close friends from those places.

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Moonsi August 1st, 2023

Hii moon, it's hard to move but you have to. I am with you as your friend.