School and Parents
Hi everyone, so I have been really stressed out about school, and I have been lying to my parents about my grades, and I feel horrible about it, and I'm not sure if I should be honest to my parents about it or not.
Basically, I love reading and watching TV shows, and since our school is all online now, I can't seem to stop myself from watching those shows. And I'm starting to finish my homework 5 minutes before it is due, and my grades are really going down. Adding on to that, I just had this math test, and I lied to my parents about getting an 80 when I only got a 66 percent, and I don't know what to say really. This morning, my mom asked me about it, and I just said that it's because the teacher entered it wrong, and now, I really don't know what to do since they can legit see my grades online. And I can't decide if I should be upright about everything and tell them about the poor grade and the TV show addiction problem I have.
I also have a great relationship with my parents, and I know that they are going to support me if I say anything, but there's something inside of me and that feeling that I just don't want to tell them about it.
Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do next please?
@HopeSmileDream
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@7motivation
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@HopeSmileDream
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@7motivation
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Hey, @HopeSmileDream 
I'm sorry to hear that your impulse to watch TV shows has been getting in the way of your academics and studies. In a way, I do get the strength of the impulse. I've felt an urge to switch tabs during online class too.
I can see that you've noticed a drop in grades recently-and I imagine that'd make you feel quite worried. Procrastinating on your homework till the minute before it's due is something I've done too, and yikes-it's a pretty tense feeling, rushing to complete it by the deadline... In a way, I get why you'd be so worried about the possibility that you're addicted to the shows.
It's pretty difficult to let go of some TV shows, there's almost an instinctive feeling to watch them the moment you're free, or in some (most) cases, take time away from other tasks to watch them. It messes up schedules quite a lot :(
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The Math grade incident sounds pretty impactful. I feel like you didn't want to reveal your score was 66-were you uncomfortable or scared doing so to your parents? Like, you didn't want to admit to them that that was your score-because you were ashamed of it.
It's great that you have parents you know will support you! I imagine that'd be pretty reassuring if you wanted to come clean with them, though of course-I'm not saying that you should, or shouldn't.
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You mentioned that it was easier for you to binge series, as your school work was online. Do you mean it's easier in the sense no one is watching over/paying attention to what you are doing, and so it becomes easier for you to not focus on the studies?
Take care, I hope you're doing okay presently<3
@loyalTree3713
Thank you so much for your response! To answer this question "I feel like you didn't want to reveal your score was 66-were you uncomfortable or scared doing so to your parents?" I think that part of the reason I didn't want to tell was partly because I was ashamed about not trying hard enough, ashamed about lying about it, and i think the really big part of it was that I wasn't very honest with myself about it too, if that makes any sense. To tell them that I got a 66 would be basically remind me that I didn't even try to get a good grade (since I was still stuck on the TV shows - and I lied about studying when I really never studied for it). And my parents always say that all it matters is if I try my best, and to be honest, well, I didn't. And telling them this score, I think they would realize that I just did not try (since I hardly get really bad scores).
To answer this question: "Do you mean it's easier in the sense no one is watching over/paying attention to what you are doing, and so it becomes easier for you to not focus on the studies?" It does! Oh my, this really struck the point i was having trouble with. It really is easier to go watch these shows and not focus when no one is watching. A while ago I did notice it, so I tried sitting myself in the living room where my mom is literally right behind me and could see what I am doing. and it just started feeling uncomfortable? so I went back to my original place. I guess I'm just really conflicted between letting my parents know about everything so someone can enforce it onto me or trying to do it myself (which isnt really working).
and omg, thank you so much again for your response/super understanding ones too and well wishes!
Hey, @HopeSmileDream
I think I understand what you're referring to! This wasn't quite close to the best performance you could have given, and you feel bad that you didn't put in the effort you would usually have.Coming clean to your parents would involve explicitly admitting that and feels like an external acknowledgement that you didn't work hard and performed as well as you would have!
You mentioned that you usually get high grades, so I can imagine this must have felt like a bit of a plummeting situation and is something you feel incredibly guilty about. You don't want your parents to know that you didn't try hard enough-because you feel a sense of shame along with it. Your parents expected you to try, not necessaarily to achieve-but you didn't try, and had you tried, you could have achieved. The thought that you didn't try makes this an experience one would like to forget/not be consciously reminded of/admit?
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It's great that you noticed a sort of correlation between your habits and whether you consciously knew you were being watched! You're quite observant :o I see that you experimented with studing in the living room, but that didn't feel too comfortable (which in a way, I get haha-) and I'd say you succinctly captured the dilemna in your sentence,
"I guess I'm just really conflicted between letting my parents know about everything so someone can enforce it onto me or trying to do it myself (which isnt really working)."
You mentioned that attempting to solve this by yourself wasn't working too well, may I ask what you feel when you have to study? Like, say you have a test tomorrow-could you lay out a rough overview of what your thoughts are from the night before-what are your plans like and how does their execution go?
[Also, my apologies for the delay in response, I have tests going on now :) I'll do my best to get back to your replies as soon as I can though!]
A side note: Something that worked for me was to get involved in, and interested in the class I was studying. I used to try and get myself to interact more often with the professor and develop a sort of relationship with him-so I wouldn't feel like missing his class :P
Hello, @HopeSmileDream
How are you doing? Are your studies coming along well?<3
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