The overweight crowd

I was diagnosed with BED a few months ago, and it has really consumed me. I am 16, 5'4" and weigh 218lbs as of last month. My goal is to be 145lbs. I have an appointment with my doctor Thursday to talk about a nutritionalist. Although i have other mental illnesses, this one has really hit me hard. I have multiple injuries due to my weight and i'm afraid of dying early. I can't stand the thought of being this way. I used to think that eating disorders were only for "skinny" people... I just want to be better, but i feel like this fight is one i cannot win.

So pleased to see this thread. It feels like people talk about other eating disorders and there is support, but if your overweight you are judged and it's your own fault. People think it's easy just put some effort in to make healthy food choices and do some exercise.

Although we all know the logic and how to lose weight doesn't mean it's so easy to do. It takes a lot to deal with the reasons for being overweight and it's also a mental struggle not just jumping on a diet to wave a magic wand.

The thing that discusts me the most is how people say you only have a eating disorder if you're anorexic. no.

I just want to say that I am reading these vents and I am in the same boat as everyone else in this forum. I am a listener and I would be more than happy to chat with anyone of you guys about being overweight or any other problem. you guys a great.

This is exactly this place I have been hoping to come to but I never looked hard enough until today. I am 150lbs overweight and am so sick of it. I not only want to be skinny, I want to be healthier mentally and physically. Which is very hard to do with no support from anyone. No one understands that not only is food my addiction its my comfort and best friend. Like for example today I got into a fight with a friend and what did I do? I drove straight to get food. I felt so ashamed after. I know better especially since I'm studying to be a dietitian My emotions just seem to take ahold of me and I want to gain control.

Anyways, thanks for letting me vent and I hope everyone knows that they're not alone.

I was Obese throughout my childhood, Hated life, Hated what i was, But when i left school at 15, Since then i began loosing weight, And now at 16.5years old i can happily say ive lost 90lb and am really close to my goal weight loss (Only need to loose 10-20lb more which is nothing),

If anyone wants advice or help on weight loss you can ask me ;), My advice will be from personal experience, Not from some person who has always been in great shape and dosent know what its like to have never been overweight ;).

I've actually managed to lose almost 100pounds. It took a long time. Sometimes what best is to start out with changing one thing at a time. Focus on eating healthy. Focus on lean meats like chicken and fish, or if you don't like meat, beans, tofu are healthy alternatives. I find for a sweet treat, freeze some Greek yogurt. Also fruits and vegetables, have some of each with every meal. Work in a little excercise when you can. Start with walking to the end of the driveway and back. Gradually eating healthy will become a habit, and your endurance as far as walking will improve. Also good to note to check with your physician ro make sure there are no limitations as far as excerxise go. Sometimes any underlying mental health issues ie...depression, anxiety etc, make it more difficult to keep up with a program and make healthy changes. Just a thought. Good luck!!

I am so happy to see what direction this threadis headed in! More than I could have ever imagined. As the starter of this threadI feelI should maybe share my story.

I am 16 years old, 5'5, and 285 lbs. I feel that it is especially hard for us to talk about the struggles we have because they are things that other people do without thinking. We have to worry about how we are going to fit somewhere. I also feel that you are SO worried about who will judge you. And it goes both ways...

I go for a run: "Haha look at that fatty try to run"

I don't run: "Wow.. She should really work out"

I eat lunch: "You should go with a healthier option"

I don't eat lunch: "Why aren't you eating lunch!?!"

It's soo hard! Disclaimer: I don't mean to offend anyone but.... what really annoys me as someone who is overweight when someone who is a very good weight calls themselves fat... and it happens so often that I just want to cry every time it happens. Anyone else?

I'm 29 and struggled with my weight for many years. Back when I was in high school, my heaviest weight hovered around 264. Yes, there was a call from a specialist for surgery so that means gastric banding. I was far too young at around 16 for that.

I lost over 84 pounds over the years since then. Last time I checked, I was around 194 or 195. Find weight loss very hard since I've got hypothyroid as well. Went through a traumatic experience last month and realized that I didn't have to eat as much as I used to. Only in the past couple of weeks have I started eating again. I work with medical terms all day so I know looking up what happens to your body shocked me into not wanting to almost starve anymore.

Am very slowly trying to get back to me and eating and exercising again. I don't care about my weight right now. Right now, I care about getting myself back on track.

I'm 21 and I've been overweight all my life. As I child, I had to consume steroids and other drugs due to a health condition. They prevented me from growing in height and,as a consequence, I was a chubby girl from a very early age. I weigharound 210 now, and I feel bad. Miserable. There are days in which I don't even want to look at my reflection in the mirror. I have some good days when I feel pretty but most of the time I'm ashamed of my body. I feel as if everyone is silently judging me because of the way I look. It's a huge source of anxiety for me. I've been bullied all my life and in different forms. It's shattered my self-confidence and also how much I trust others.I've never been in a relationship and I feel very lonely and sad. Most people don't find me attractive and it really "weighs" on me. I'm a comfort eater too, so it's a vicious cycle. I've tried it all to lose weight, but nothing has worked for me. Going to the gym makes me feel awful because I'm surrounded with fit and good-looking people who make me feel invisible. I can't diet for more than a couple weeks at a time. I'm embarrased for my inability tocontrol my impulses over food. I'm embarrased because I'm not attractive, for being awkward and anxious. Most people would never be able to tell how shitty I feel, I usually appear to be very confident but I'm dying inside. I wish peoplewould stop judging not only me, but all chubby/overweight/obese people. We deserve to be loved and understood too. We are more than just our bodies. We are full of love to give and thoughts to share. I believe the right to speak our minds is for everyone, not only for skinny or fit people. I'm tired of people thinking that we are not worthy of attention or love or certain traits (intelligence, self-confidence, kindness)because we look different. They litterally wouldn't mind if you found the cure for cancer or lupus, if you're fat that's the only thing they will focus in, and it's so frustrating! Everything comes down to how much you weigh and it's unfair.I wish people would help us feel more comfortable in our own skin, because there are people who just cannot put off weight for diverse reasons (health conditions, medication,etc), and also becausewe allDO deserve to feel beautiful and appreciated! We are beautiful in our own way;but, whether skinny or fat, we all need some help to realize it.I might seek help (it's a short-term goal) but in the meantime I would love to feel loved and appreciated, and I want other people to feel that way too. I know what I'm worth and it's not reflected on the scale, I know it depends on other things! But it can be hard to remember this whenpeople talk about putting off weight all the time.Sorry if this was too long but I really needed to get it out of my system. Shout out to all the heavy beauties out there! (Sorry if I offended anyone, just let me know what adjective do you prefer :) )