Depression Community - How do you actually feel today?
I fell like the whole world is against me and sometimes I purposely hit my head on things to take away the pain. (Sorry for being graphic)
I feel like I can't get out of bed, or shower, or get dressed.
I feel exactly the same way... right now. You're definitely not alone.
I had plans today to have breakfast out with an acquaintance...I forced myself to accept the invitation....so on my day off, I woke up early, even brought my son, dressed nice, sat there for a long while...and finally I called, and the person "forgot".
THIS is why I don't like people. And precisely why having friends is too much effort.
People suck.
The main thing to take away from this is that you went out with your Son. What did you guys do after that?
I have a little girl, she is two and manages to pull me from depression. There where people I knew that did the same thing to me as they did to you and I used to get hung up on that moment. Feeling abandoned and forgot what I had.
So now I try to remember that I have my daughter and try to make a day of it. I concentrate on making time with her while I am not at work.
Do the same with your son. Remember you have him and spend some quality time with him. Try to remember the good times as a mum because friends come and go but family is forever!
I hope this helps you.
thank you. We sat and had a nice breakfast out. I called my husband and he joined us....I just felt disrespected. My time is valuable and this person didn't regard that. We are grown up not 13 so when someone makes a brunch date with me I write it down and show up.
So in general, I avoid exposing myself to this kind of thing. And she's the one who invited me, lol. Go figure.
There are just people that never grow up. With them... Wear your heart on your sleeve and those that meter to you, have it where it will matter most.
I am glad you turned it around and made a better day of it. You deserved a better out come :-)
Oh my goodness. You're kidding right? That's terrible. Obviously this "friend" wasn't a very good one. <3
My heart goes out to you. For me, it takes so much effort to get up, get dressed, get someone else dressed, and then go out into the world while carrying this HUGE depression. You deserve a metal for showing up. Thank you for sharing what happened and how you feel.
I'm sorry I have people that say they will get back to me and then I hear nothing. It's just and makes me feel bad that they think it's ok to do that. I would've gone with ya! :)
I'm feeling very, very fed up with people and their unrealistic expectations of me. Just leaving my room and actually talking to someone is a big deal and it takes a lot of effort, so why is that not good enough for now? Why can't anyone see that I can't do 389 impossible things at once?
I really feel for you. Depression is so misunderstood by people who don't have it. If I appear to be making any small progress, the people in my life think I'm "better" and then want more from me. It has taken 3 years for my husband to ask me how I'm doing Instead of assuming what he wants to be true. I'm walking this road with you.
People are indeed very quick to assume what they want to be true. It coincides with comments like "you look much better lately", which makes it so much harder to tell someone I'm not doing better at all, or worse even. It's very hard to communicate depression to anyone and it makes it more difficult to actually go out there and face my fears, because more often than not I feel ten times worse when talking to people. I don't want to hear that I should just "exercise more" or to "just think positively". I understand they are just trying to help, but it actually does the opposite, especially when they then turn around and say "but you're not really trying, you're just lying in bed all day". Or that I'm not getting better because I never listen to their advice, because I'm "too lazy".
Ugh, sorry for ranting to you, but your comment spoke to me on many levels.
Thank you for your ranty thoughts. I don't want or need advice from friends and family about how to fix my depression, I need acceptance, true understanding and compassion.
This is very true. Well said!
Talking to someone is enough. You don't need to do more then that if you don't want to.
Take things in small stages. Start off with having a conversation with someone then next time go out and have coffee or go to the cinema or go shopping.
The thing to remember is to challenge yourself but at the same time not to give yourself to much. People are people, I work in retail and I have seen the very stupid but I have also seen the very intelligent and competent (they are far and few between but they are out there).
So take things at your own pace.
I hope this helps.
Thank you for this! It's motivating to know there are people who do see that very small steps can actually be huge improvements. I'm trying very hard and it's hurtful that the only thing others seem to see is all the things I can't do.
Anyway, thank you <3 You're very kind
I have been where you are and although I don't know your situation (I won't even pretend that I do) I do know your feelings and emotions.
You are not alone.
Keep posting on here and let us know how your doing. We are here to help!
i am feeling very overwhelmed
@sarahmac1983, can we help you in some way? I know being overwhelmed with life's events is an awful feeling. I'm glad that you've reached out to us.
Let me tell how are you feeling today. I hope today your brain is kinder to your.
I soke to a listener and feel better
I feel ok today. I had a problem with how my husband treated me in comparison to some family members and I think I've accepted that things won't change unless I help make a change. People only treat you the way you allow them to. Think it's time I start doing that :)
@HisBestFriend1030, you've realized the hidden truth which so rarely people are willing to accept. You, and only you, are in power to choose the way how to react. You are able to choose one thought over another and that is the secret of healthy mindset. I'm proud of you, darling.
Wish you all the best!
Overwhelmed. Splinter in my foot and possibly one in my finger. Loooong day. -_-
@OceanMermaid, sorry to hear that, lovely.
How are you feeling today? I really hope the pain of blissters did lessen a bit.
I feel lonely. My cousin I haven't seen in twelve years said he is coming then I yelled at him because he said that before and never follows through. I miss him a lot but he is not putting any effort into coming back into my life.
It's okay, @LoneWolfAshes96, sometimes we act in anger, because we feel hurt and vulnerable. You are missing your cousin a lot, you don't want to be disappointed again. It's good that you are aware of your emotions. It takes a great deal of self-awaraness. Would you consider apologizing to your cousin and telling him that you miss him? Maybe it can bring you some relief.
Please, let you tell me how are you feeling today. Lots of love!
I feel uplifted after spending a week at my boyfriend's house relaxing away from home. Came back today in a great mood then put straight back into my home environment and was reminded why I ran away for the week :/ moving back to uni next week thogh so I some light to hold on to :)
Great to know, @lavenderFarm4174!
I know how stressful is moving in and out, even when it seems simple and straightforward, so I wish you the most uncomplicated and relaxing process ever.
Hugs!
Scared stiff, empty, & lost.
Sorry to hear that, @creativePlace744. Are you scared of something specific or is it anxiety's making? Either way, it must be heard for you. I'm proud of you that you've reached out. It was brave, wonderful.
Sending hugs!