How do I cope..
I have been dealing with a lot of different things for years. I honestly believe it is all starting to pile up and it’s hitting me like a ton of bricks. I am crying multiple times a day every single day. To better understand where I am coming from, here is what I’ve been hit with:
-One of my parents passed away.
-One of my children is in a relationship with someone who may be a danger to them
-I have lost a lot of loved ones and friends in a very short period of time. They all passed away
-I am worrying about my one child and their relationship. It’s scaring me.
-I lost two of my pets due to sickness— I had a miscarriage and lost my baby
This is only part of what I am dealing with. It’s all hitting me very hard. I just don’t know how to deal with all of it and what to do anymore. I’m lost and broken. That’s the best way to explain it.
If you got this far, thank you for reading.
@ConcernedWife2017
Hello there ConcernedWife2017 🌸
Sorry for all the negative things you have been dealing with. It's surely impacting on your mood and emotions, that's understandable 💙
Grief needs its time to heal, unfortunately it's not something we can adjust with, in few days/weeks. Support and care is the key for the healing path, do you have chance to be supported by your partner, any close friend or someone in the family? Open communication about your feelings is important, glad you have been able to do that on here 🤗
The situation with your daughter I remember to be something that really concerns you and despite some red flags saw also by someone else in your family, it seems like she is not perceiving his behaviors same negative way, is that correct?
I hope you can still surround yourself of things you like and think about your self care in between of everything, that would be really important to balance the negative emotions and to prevent health problems because of it. Sometimes when it's too much things could erode our own healt/wellbeing.
Sending you good vibes and feel free to come and share whenever you feel to 😊
@MeaningfulSilence
Hello. Thank you so much for taking time to read my rant and answer back. I appreciate it very much.
Thank you very much. It surely has been impacting my mood. Very much.
You are correct. And everyone is different with grief and the time it takes to heal from it. There is no set time to heal for anyone, I understand that. This has been 3 years for me, for my dad. The other people I have lost have been around the same time, some longer, some shorter. It’s all just so crazy. I know it is part of life, but every single one of these people died at a young age. Some younger than others. It’s hard to grasp. My husband has helped me when I needed it. I don’t tend to bring it up with other people because I don’t want to feel like a burden. 7 cups has been a blessing at times for me when I need to get things off my chest.
Yes. You are correct. My daughter is not seeing her bf’s behaviors as negative. I’m starting to wonder if it will sink in and I am hoping it does soon. Since the last time I posted about their relationship, something bad happened that I can’t bring up on here. And that honestly now has me extremely worried for her safety with him. I have an even worse gut feeling now than I did before that something bad will happen to her if she stays in the relationship. I am praying and hoping every single day that she will see his bad behaviors and that she will leave.
I try so much to do the things I love and I still do them as much as I can, but at times, those things do not even help. My mind is in overdrive with all these thoughts about everything and it’s getting to me. I try so hard to let go, but some of these things are just there. Hard to forget, you know? Especially with my daughter’s situation 😢
Thank you for the good vibes. I am hoping something gives here soon. Thank you for messaging me back.
@ConcernedWife2017
I can understand how it's difficult to forget about your daughter, because it's a situation worrying you on daily basis. It's there, no way. Sorry to hear that something more negative happened, I remember you saying you two have an open communication, hope that it keeps being strong and strustworthy so that at a point it will help you both looking at problems in order to find a solution.
When someone dies at young age is always harder to face, without comparing any grief, just to agree that it's really difficult to accept. Miscarriages are surely impacting for every woman's life, the hospital didn't offer you the psychological support a woman should have?
Also losing our ''furry friends'' isn't a joke.
Glad that coming on here is of help, keep on coming to share if it helps because you deserve all the care you can receive 💙
@MeaningfulSilence
Yes. I mean as parents we never stop worrying about our children, but when a situation comes up like this, it’s even harder. We do have an open communication, but it seems like she leaves stuff out when she talks to me about him. The reason I found this out is because of another conversation that she had with a family member. Then I have seen and heard the way he talks to her sometimes. I think she might be scared to bring it up. I’m not sure.
Yes, I mean a death is hard to deal with as it is, but when someone passes at a younger age, it makes it that much more difficult.
The hospital did not offer me anything at all after I had my miscarriage. I’m not sure why that is.
Yes. Losing a fur baby is just as hard as losing a human being. They become family and you love them just the same.
Thank you so much. 💜 Sometimes I feel like if I bring some of this stuff up to a friend or family, they judge or get irritated that I talk about it. I certainly don’t want anyone judging my child because even though she has her own thoughts, she can be swayed to someone else’s. And unfortunately, I’ve seen it.
@ConcernedWife2017
I totally understand ConcernedWife2017, you can come here and share, without worrying that you or your daughter will be judged, you certainly don't need more worries!
I wish you that the new coming week won't be too difficult and hopefully there will be some positive things for you.
Take care!
Hey, it is nice to see you back again.
I know that you are dealing with a lot. It also does tend to feel like griefs pile up on top of one another.
What kinds of things are you doing for yourself during the day in the way of distraction? Are you able to talk to anyone and get some therapy? @ConcernedWife2017
@bestVase7265
Hello. Thank you. I am hoping some of this will “fix” itself, but I don’t have a great outlook for that happening.
I am currently looking into some different types of companies who do therapy because I don’t know what else to do. Too much is going on and it’s taking a huge toll on me.
When I am actually able to, I listen to music, take walks, read, play a video game, paint, draw- all the things that I love to do. Except even those things don’t tend to take my mind off of certain situations. It’s really tough right now. I can’t even explain how the situation with my child and her bf is worrying me to my core. It’s not a good feeling.
I know how much it is worrying you, but the more that you can focus on those distractions the better. You are doing all you can for your daughter and need to trust that she will find her way back to her senses. If she starts cutting off contact with you that is a different issue, but at this point focus on those things that you can do to care for yourself. @ConcernedWife2017
@ConcernedWife2017
Hi 🙂
How was your Monday so far?
Let's cross our fingers 🤞 and maybe things won't be too difficult this week!
@ConcernedWife2017
I remember a friend this happened to.
Grief Share groups are excellent. Strongly recommend them. https://www.griefshare.org/
You can also chat more with folks here.
So sad this happened!!
@ConcernedWife2017
Ok your mom brain has put the picture together.
BF is an abusive jerk and if you let him, may kill your daughter.
Don't let him. You are the parent. Protect your daughter!
@RogueOne1983
I am doing everything I can, and I am hoping she will see the light soon with him. This is one of her more serious relationships, but it’s a bad one and she doesn’t see it yet. I’m hoping she does soon.
Yes, he is a BIG jerk and emotionally abusive towards her. He hasn’t physically hurt her, and he better not. If he does, the law will be after him in a heartbeat. I don’t play with that crap. I am trying to protect her at all costs.
@ConcernedWife2017
I know; this whole post is dripping with concern and love.
With you in spirit!💙
@RogueOne1983
Thank you very much 💜
@ConcernedWife2017
Most welcome, worried mama. 💛💙
