Whats some advice you d give urself if u could go back in time

@flowlikewater07

study hard 

@flowlikewater07 I would love to hear is respect someone say I will be okay give me a hug and support me not ignore disrespect me 

I would tell my teenage self: to take the psychology class Instead of intro to law, and that my messy room, lack of motivation, boredom, social awkwardness and feeling like I'm drowning in my homework were all part of the same problem.

I would tell my early 20s self to come up with a financial plan for going back to school for my bachelor's degree in another state, rather than holding onto unrealistic expectations of working a minimum wage job to pay my way and depending on the kindness of others.

I would tell my mid-20s self to get help with managing stress.

I would tell my late-20s to 30 year-old self that I am not stupid, just struggling to adapt to many changes while also managing ADHD. And I would tell my late 20s self that there is no shame in not being a career woman, especially if I'm not interested in a career, nor is there shame in being a stay-at-home mom. In fact, the work I have at home is much more fulfilling than work that I've had outside of the home.

Thank you so much for this post helps a lot xx!!!

Dear 13yr old me,

The current me (14 yr old me)

wants you to know that before trying to live up to your parents and others expectations, change yourself so your classmates like you better, hate yourself constantly and all that, make sure to love yourself too..

Your important too,

We still struggle,

Many things have happened to us,

We definitely aren't perfect,

HECK..

WE AIN'T EVEN CLOSE 😜

WE STRUGGLE,

WE HAVE OUR UPS AND DOWNS,

WE AREN'T PERFECT,

WE AREN'T THE BEST STUDENT IN CLASS LIKE OUR FAMILY WANTS.. BUT HEY, 13YR OLD ME...?

We're real..

Our gender, is valid,

The way we want to dress, is valid,

Our pronouns are valid,

WE are valid,

Your pretty,

Smart,

Trying your best to please everyone..

But hey,

Whatever happens..

Don't lose hope kiddo,

Your a fighter,

Your strong..

Don't forget that hon,

You are you,

And nobody!

Can tell you otherwise gurlie <333

Lysm cutie,

Remember to be kind to yourself honey,

Be yourself..

That's okay too..

And not mom or dad,

Can tell you you aren't valid..

BCZ you ARE..

And your classmates!?

Can go get themselves fixed,

It's not you who needs fixing,

You are the absolute best version of yourself..

Always remember..

You are real..

@flowlikewater07 is tell my younger self not to virtually cheat on the best woman in the world

don't be afraid to fail. try things, get out there. don't limit yourself because you are afraid of failing or afraid of what other people think. not everything will work out, you won't be talented at everything and that's okay. don't be too hard on yourself. don't shut yourself out. there are many cool people in the world who won't automatically judge you.

@flowlikewater07 I would tell me to not react to your hurt. Don't run from it. Find a way to respond to it. And respond with contemplation and thought. 
I'm really trying show compassion and forgiveness to my past self for not understanding this. I know I did the best I could with the tools and knowledge that I had to work with. I know I was hurt, but reacting only made the hurt worse...then I hurt myself and others with reactionary behaviors and mistakes. Those past mistakes have delivered me to the mess that I'm in now and they jeopardize my future. I've worked hard over the past few years to make changes and repair my life and my soul. And now I'm struggling with this panic disorder making it hard to see past the fear. Right now, I'm in a fog of DPDR and my thoughts are trying to tell me that it's too late, that I just messed up too bad. I'm trying to let this anxiety symptom be and not engage with it, just let it float by. And while I'm doing that, showing myself compassion and grace. :)

Your relationship status does not determine your state of happiness. Focus on what you enjoy. Life goes fast, enjoy the small things. Not every is as it appears. The world can be cruel, be kind to everyone you see.

If I could write a note back to myself from the past, I would let them know things I wish I knew then. To take more photos with family, to smile more, to be more social, and most of all, to be brave. A blast from the past: To learn German and visit my grand pops more and sit there and listen to him talk about history and learn German. TO visit my grandma and spend more time with her, Daisy, and my grandfather, talk with them, show Daisy more love, and to hug her one last time. To find happiness and safety in myself, rather than be afraid of others. Start eating healthier and exercise more. I would do anything just to be my 8 year old self even just for a day.

@flowlikewater07

I would tell my younger self  to stop trying to buy love it never lasts. If they deserve to be in your life they would be. You are enough Rayana stop doubting yourself and letting this people walk all over you, or it gonna keep destroying from the inside out. Put you and your mental health first.