Is therapy scary?
hi. im ht & I just joined the app yesterday. the past month i have been struggling a lot with depression and anxiety. I am on lexapro & have been for over a year now & have never had any issues with it. it’s always worked so good for me & helped me so much. over the last month i have lost my dream job, my car, moved out of my house due to my living situation, been searching for jobs but seems like nowhere is hiring, been looking into college but it seems impossible for me due to financials and have had such an overwhelming amount of stress on my shoulders. I have been bottling all of this up and this past Friday I had a mental breakdown. Uncontrollably crying, multiple panic attacks, etc. Over the weekend I was fine, I felt normal again but then Monday came & everything went downhill again. Yesterday I just cried to my boyfriend & I told him I need help. I’ve never been to a therapist or a counselor because I’m scared for people to know that I struggle. I have never wanted to admit that I need help. But also the thought of having someone who doesn’t know me & I can talk to them about anything and everything I feel without judgement sounds awesome. I’m just nervous because it’s such a big step. I’ve always been told that getting therapy is “weak” & I know in my heart that’s not true but the nervousness & the worry is still there. I don’t personally know anyone who goes to see a therapist/counselor but I figured someone here might. If anyone does & has ANY advice at all please share. I would love to hear others experiences with therapy/ counseling & hopefully I can gain some relief about seeking professional support❤️
@ilovemycat16
It’s completely normal to feel scared about therapy, especially after everything you’ve been through. Losing your dream job, your car, and having to move are such massive changes, and it’s absolutely okay to feel overwhelmed. Your emotions are valid, and it makes perfect sense that you reached that breaking point.
You’re not alone in this struggle. So many people feel that initial fear of opening up to someone, particularly when society has ingrained the idea that asking for help is a sign of weakness, but seeking help is one of the bravest things you can do. It takes immense courage to acknowledge when you need support.
Therapy can be a beautiful safe space where you can talk about anything without fear of judgment who genuinely listens and helps you navigate through the chaos. It’s a precious opportunity to unpack those heavy feelings you’ve been bottling up and to find a path forward.
Yes, it’s a big step, and it’s perfectly okay to feel nervous about it. This journey is about you, and you deserve to feel heard, understood, and supported. If you’re considering therapy, trust that it can lead to healing and growth. You’ve already shown incredible strength by reaching out and expressing your need for help. Embrace that power within you, and take this important step toward the care you truly deserve.
@ilovemycat16 hi i'm Lola ❤ welcome to our cups family ❤ that's a lot to be dealing with, bless you. I have depression anxiety too, been seeing a psychologist for a few years now🙂 it's more like having a friend than a therapist, someone who will listen and wants to help. So don't be afraid honey, and please know there is no shame in asking for help ❤ and you know you've came to a great place here at cups, we are all here to help you any way we can, gives you a giant tiny hug ❤ goodluck with everything. Never give up on hope ok?
Thank you so much for your kind words and advice. It means so much to me. It helps a lot to know that I’m not alone in my struggles. I’m so thankful I have found an app that is full of such amazing & kind people!! Thank you again! 🫶🏼
@ilovemycat16 ❤❤ always here for you ❤
@ilovemycat16 it's not scary if you understand what it is
@ilovemycat16, a really great post which not only will help you but hopefully, will resonate and help others in similar situations.
Like anything you have no direct experience of, it is normal to be nervous about starting therapy. However, it is a step towards you taking control of your life, getting things right for you and being able to accept other things.
There are so many types of counselling and therapy, so finding what suits you is important. Likewise, finding the therapist that is right for you is very important. Just because a person is trained to a high level, doesn't mean that they will be able to connect with all clients. This is just human, not inability or an issue on your side. So it is ok to look around and change if you feel that they are not the right fit.
I did EMDR and it changed my life for the better, but it is absolutely not for everyone. I had tried CBT before and standard counselling, neither which I felt worked for me. (in the case of CBT, I had zero connection with the therapist, it almost put me off going elsewhere, so please, learn from my experience to accept that it was not for you, rather than you are the problem)
Just think, if you had an issue with your digestive system, you'd see an expert who specializes in this area of the body. The mind is the exact same, if there is any issue, why would you not see a trained professional. Everyone, EVERYONE, at some point in their life will struggle with their mental health. It is ok to be proactive in dealing with it, after all, it is your life and your future.
I really wish you well :)
Even I do think so, I have been struggling for a year by now actually it was long years but my family doesn't cares about it and i just too like when want something do it by any force so I did forced them I am not sure when they do will find and get for therephy I am not sure abt that too either but one of the guy i knew was acting like one theriest and it was horrible i told him I am not feeling comfortable but he was forcing to answers his questions only because for him to feel good for him it was never about me.
An eitre day was ruined we'll all these years are ruined because of other things I am just feeling dead stick everyday , i don't evn like the sounds that people see i just wanted to in clam but people don't let me too.
I see the chaos of world now it's just about never letting others to be in peace .
But i don't like the way of them I want be in silence and be in a world of my world clam peaceful musics .
They are destroying me.
It's like i don't want a live like more .
Just dragging on hope.
I do evn want a see how therephy it works.
In my personal opinion, which is agreed on by many, professional help is the right way to go.
I despise help from people, but even though, for the first time in any part of my life do i wish this. I want professional therapy.
when ur dealing with so many things, ur body starts doing things which u dont fully understand, and believe me it will impact u negatively even more on long term. So if possible, have professional help, it wont be scary if u put ur mind to it, and those people know what they r doing. They r kind, they r good listeners, dont be afraid. Just take the first step and go, and then you’ll find help coming from every single corner. And we’re here to help in this app as well, strangers but friends we r.
i hope it becomes easier to u 🤍