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Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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Response:
Quite often, when I find myself questioning "Why am I just not good enough?" the best way I tackle this is by taking a step back and evaluating the real reason that is making me feel this way. And, quite often, it comes down to that nagging voice inside me that just won’t stop bashing my self-esteem.
Especially when it comes to relationships – be it with family members or with a romantic partner – there’s always a pressure to constantly do the right thing to appease the other. It’s absolutely normal to sometimes question your actions in order to be a better person to your friends or significant other – what isn’t right is to have that inner critic take over your whole life, so much so that you end up being consumed by self-doubt. But worry not; there’s always a first for everything, and the first step to ending this constant negative self-talk is replacing it with acts of self-love. It doesn’t have to be as extravagant as social media makes us believe, either: just take some time out of the day to connect with yourself, reminding yourself that you’re an amazing person bound to do great things in life. You’ll find that building strong positive communication with your inner self will do wonders for your self-confidence, and gradually, for your relationships with others.
Before striving towards a healthy relationship with someone else, you need to establish one with yourself because, at the end of the day, you’re the one who has to live with you for the rest of your life. I know this isn’t something that will produce immediate results, but the good news is that you can start immediately ☺️
Good luck!

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Proposed Answer (Feel free to critique!)

Hi, thank you for asking this question, feeling like you're not good enough for someone is such a difficult emotion to experience, and it's great that you've taken the first step in reaching out by asking this question.

Feeling like you’re not good enough for someone, whether it be your parents, partner, children, other family members or anyone you care about can have a really negative impact on your own self-esteem and self-worth, and sometimes can lead to increased self-doubt and negative self-talk. This can all have a big impact on your life, making it hard to gain self-confidence, and feel like the amazing person you truly are.

Sometimes it can be easy to compare yourself to other people and their lives. Using social media can be really helpful to reach out and communicate with the people you care about, but at the same time it can portray false images of other people’s lives. The things people choose to share about their own lives often focus only on the good news, and depict people always having a good time, which can’t always be representative of their whole lives.

So, what can we do to feel enough for the people around us? There are many different options to try, and no single best way to start to improve on your self-esteem. We are all human beings, and different things work well for different people. A few different options you could consider are practicing self-love, and trying to focus on the positive things you do as a person, to help yourself identify all the great things about you.

Another option may be to take note of all the little negative thoughts your inner critic brings up, and think about how useful these would actually be in helping you to become a better person. Sometimes you might be feeling quite overwhelmed by all the things your inner critic is telling you were bad, or not enough for those around you, and by writing down and analyzing these things hopefully you can find a few healthy things to work on, in order to continue becoming a better person and maintain or create healthy relationships.

If you feel like this has been significantly impacting you for a long time, then perhaps therapy would be the right thing for you. Therapists would be able to give you more information and resources on how you can start to take your next steps towards improving your self- esteem, and guide you towards finding your voice to communicate effectively with others, which can help form healthy relationships and reassure you that you are enough for those around you.

In conclusion, feeling like you aren’t enough for the people around you is something that impacts a lot of people for their whole life, and there will always be times, at the end of a hard day, where you can feel the negative voice inside you trying to convince you that this is true. However, feeling like you are enough and building up your self-worth is not just down to good luck – hopefully by trying some of the ideas above or other options available you will be able to identify the real reason you are feeling this way and start to make steps to improving your self-esteem.

@SoulfullyAButterfly
What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
We have all felt this way at some point in time. The most important thing to remember is that it's okay to feel this way. We all have an inner critic and it helps us improve ourselves to become a better person. However, it is important to distinguish when to listen to that inner voice and when to shut it down.

Negative self-talk breaks our self-esteem and creates self-doubt. The most important part to focus on is whether or not you are good enough for yourself. Everyone is unique and shines in different ways. The rainbow has different colours and they're all beautiful. However, some people like blue more than green and that's okay. In the same way people like other people for different reasons. Because no one can ever be good at everything.

Not everyone knows where they shine or what they are good at that is okay too. Self-discovery is a beautiful thing and it supports self-confidence. The key is to feel good enough for yourself and to accept who you are.

You are unique and an amazing person. You are the best you. Your self-worth is not connected to what others think of you. If they think less of you it usually means they're not comfortable with the person they are. Nothing exudes more confidence than accepting yourself with your flaws.

To reiterate, it's okay to feel this way. Don't allow yourself to indulge in negative self-talk. Only you truly know your self-worth and your true strengths. Focus on that and embrace it until you believe it with your mind heart and your soul.

There's something beautiful and worthy in all of us.
What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
We have all felt this way at some point in time. The most important thing to remember is that it's okay to feel this way. We all have an inner critic and it helps us improve ourselves to become a better person. However, it is important to distinguish when to listen to that inner voice and when to shut it down.

Negative self-talk breaks our self-esteem and creates self-doubt. The most important part to focus on is whether or not you are good enough for yourself. Everyone is unique and shines in different ways. The rainbow has different colours and they're all beautiful. However, some people like blue more than green and that's okay. In the same way people like other people for different reasons. Because no one can ever be good at everything.

Not everyone knows where they shine or what they are good at that is okay too. Self-discovery is a beautiful thing and it supports self-confidence. The key is to feel good enough for yourself and to accept who you are.

You are unique and an amazing person. You are the best you. Your self-worth is not connected to what others think of you. If they think less of you it usually means they're not comfortable with the person they are. Nothing exudes more confidence than accepting yourself with your flaws.

To reiterate, it's okay to feel this way. Don't allow yourself to indulge in negative self-talk. Only you truly know your self-worth and your true strengths. Focus on that and embrace it until you believe it with your mind heart and your soul.

There's something beautiful and worthy in all of us.

[Wow, this discussion really helped me think more outside the box on where I need to be improving my answers. I think I'm going to defintely have to practice more with this]

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It can be really difficult to feel as if we are not good enough for others, especially during this day and age where constant seeking of affection on social media and other platforms is highly present. A lot of people are in your same boat, and although it may seem like the inner critic within you is winning, you are a strong and amazing person. When our brain focuses on our negative self-talk, it tricks ourselves into thinking that is what we truly are. Thus, in turn, when our self-esteem is lowered, the brain reacts with that same feeling to try and combat it. You have to remind yourself that you are worthy of self-love and to try and think more on the lighter side of things. This perspective that you need to be a “better person” for someone else can be a very damaging voice within our head. Sometimes we need to make sure we have a healthy relationship with ourselves before trying to go and reach out and please others. At the end of the day, what matters most is your own well-being, and it’s important to take a first, baby step, before diving right into things.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

At times we feel as if we are not enough for someone else and this feeling can be very frustrating.
Our inner critic might tell us things like "You don't live up to the expectations of your parents" or "You aren't a good enough parent to your children" or "You could be a better lover to your partner".
This all might lead to a lot of self-doubt because we start to honestly believe that we aren't enough.
Good news is that we don't need to give in to all those negative thoughts.
A great first step might be to get some information about how you can identify, recognise and reframe negative self-talk. It will probably take some time to become good at it but at the end of the day you will gain self-confidence inprotecting yourself from destructive thoughts.
Another idea is to tal with your family members about your self-doubts. Open communication might be the best way for you to figure out if their impression of you suits the idea you have of yourself.
Last but not least you can condsider starting therapy and get some professional help. A therapist will be able to work with you on developing self-love and be kinder to yourself.

@SoulfullyAButterfly , thankyou for the tips and discussion .

What to do when you feel you're not good enough for someone?

Not feeling good enough for someone is natural specially in the age of social media , which aids to comparison amongst different people , I understand and relate with how difficult it is to sit back and think why aren't we enough. Maybe it's a good question to ponder upon - "what's making me feel not good enough for this person ?" Or rather "what is exactly good enough ?" , I can assure you there's no concrete answer for what's good enough because we all humans are perceptive in nature and have our own judgements and assessments based on experiences which are personal to us , what may feel good to one wouldn't necessarily feel good to others , but so long we stay true to ourselves and have a healthy relationship with self , we can always start working on bettering ourselves, improving our confidence , esteem , self worth , relationships and interaction with others around us . Know that it is natural to feel pressured by the inner self critic , we all do feel the inner voice telling us we are not enough sometimes, and it's okay to take a pause and let that thought simply flow , the negative self talk and self doubt does get to us and make us question our worth or if we are good enough . The first step towards reducing the intensity with which this negative inner voice affects us ,is to accept that no one is perfect , accept ourselves as we are only with the intention to work on what we can improve in us for ourselves, not to please someone else . There will be someone who will always be dissatisfied by us in one or the other way , but as long as we know we are a work in progress, an incredibly amazing person who knows themselves through and through and is striving to work on themselves continually to be a better person each day , it is what matter at the end of the day , our self love and acceptance and the strive to improve for ourselves.
I do feel healthy relationships and our self esteem are complementary to an extent , for instance when we are feeling good within ourselves we won't tolerate anything less of a good and healthy relationship with a person , unfortuantely when we do struggle to keep up with our self esteem , we may sometimes give others the authority to control our emotions and so there's a higher chance we pay more attention to their emotions and behaviour towards us than our own in general leading to some very closed off relationships with not much space and understanding , therefore to aid our self esteem, it is needed we align ourselves with people who accept us for us , encourage us to be a better us and support us when we need them , also a good communication and expression of feelings is also the basis of a healthy relationship, be it with our family members or with a partner, friend etc , super needed to be gentle with ourselves, introspect with ourselves, our needs and wants and communicate them frequently whenever required to .
It is definitely not an easy road towards self acceptance and self love , but the good news is that you're capable of right about everything you wish for yourself , with some self belief and confidence and ofcourse a small step forward whenever you feel ready to take one . Good luck, I hope there are great things in store for you in your life journey ahead .

@SoulfullyAButterfly

What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

It's common to have moments of self-doubt and negative self-talk when imagining yourself in a relationship where you feel like the other person is better than you. We are only human beings after all, and comparison is natural! However, finding acceptance in a situation like this often comes from working on a relationship with yourself. This means working on self-esteem/self-confidence! Think about this for a moment, "What do you think are some of your best qualities? How do they positively impact the relationships in your life?" It can be anything about you, big or small. Just finding little ways to appreciate yourself can really improve your self-image. You are an amazing person (I mean it!) and you deserve to be in a healthy relationship where the other person can value you as much as you value them. I once heard that you can't love anybody else until you love yourself. While self-love is always a work in progress, I find this statement to be true. At the end of the day, I hope this helps you overcome that pesky feeling of unworthiness and recognize how valuable you are as a person.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

When we don't feel good enough, we might start to question our bond with our parents, children, family members or our partner. We often forget to have a good time with people and try to find solutions on 'how to be a better person'. Our self-esteem gets affected and negative self-talk becomes common. We might even try to avoid people, whether it be through social media or in real life.

But the good news is that each one of us is an amazing person and no one deserves to feel this way! The best way for these feelings to go away is actually different for everyone and we have to find it. It might be as simple as a movie or a book or as complex as finding the real reason of the insecurities. It depends on everyone.

The first step is really hard to take and going through the process of removing the insecurities is even more difficult.

But our self confidence increase and we learn and follow the concept of self-love. We realize the value of ourselves and see our self-worth! We are all human beings, so it is easy for the inner critic to come out and judge us and supply criticism and our feelings of self-doubt to emerge. By removing these insecurities, the inner critic's voice goes down and we find ourselves feel more free. Finding this way is just like us performing therapy on ourselves. It's therapeutic and helps us a lot too!

By removing these insecurities, we can also maintain healthy bonds. Having a healthy relationship is beneficial and can show us many great things of life.

Our communication skills increase. We also start to notice more strengths about ourselves too!

I hope this was the right thing to help you on your journey and that the information here helped you. At the end of the day, you will have to find that path yourself. Good luck on your journey!

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Sometimes, we feel inadequate in relationships with our partners, parents or other family members. One of the real reasons for this low self-esteem is because since we were only just children, we weren't taught to validate ourselves from the inside but to seek external approvals throughout our whole life. We might miss out on a good time hanging out with friends because of self doubt such as we don’t feel good about how we look. This is potentially formed by negative self-talk based on what is considered the "right thing" on social media. For example, if the new selfie trend is to look very slim, we might scale our own self-worth on how thin we can get and thus, if we cannot achieve the “right” weight, our whole self-confidence is compromised. We wouldn’t be able to see at all what an amazing person this one right here in front of the mirror is because the inner critic's voice of blinds us.

The good news is, it’s never too late to cultivate self-love and to develop a healthy relationship with ourselves. The first step is to recognize that we are all human beings and no one is perfect. One of the best ways to become a better person might not be to chase after societal standards but to take some time out to have real communication with our inner self. Some people find therapy helpful for them to untangle old beliefs, to look inward and to gain new information/ insights/ beliefs about themselves. With good luck, this process of internal introspection, embracing self-compassion and building self-confidence might be very fast, but please be at your own pace and enjoy the journey. At the end of the day, it is often said that great things aren't achieved overnight.

@ouiCherie @Star996 @Happy900

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Children learn to mirror their parents’ behavior. This often has an impact on our self-esteem in later years. We may feel we’re not good enough for our friends or partners or family members.

Excessive use of social media also has a negative impact on our self-esteem. When we come across hurtful content, the best thing to do is take a step back rather than engage in conflict.

The good news is that it’s possible to realize our self-worth through practicing self-love and taking care of ourselves. The best way to realize our self-worth is by understanding the power of our attitude towards ourselves. The first step is not allowing ourselves to be people pleasers. Trying to please others often means we are victim to people’s negative statements/comments. Human beings are born knowing their self-worth but growing up, they feel influenced by the negative comments/attitudes and expectations.

Cognitive behavioral therapy has always been considered a way of treating depression, anxiety and low self-esteem. Cultivating gratitude, using positive self-talk and practicing random acts of kindness are all fulfilling activities which put us on the path to becoming a better person.

Our inner critic is a voice inside us that weighs us down. Self-doubt is a crucial root of our inner critic. Self doubt amplifies our weaknesses and forces us to dwell on and overcomplicate situations. Negative-self talk and self-doubt are interconnected. This too limits out ability to believe in ourselves. The real reason may be influenced by external factors such as poor academic performance or bullies.

Throughout our whole life, there’s time to realize our worth and to realize how much of an amazing person each one of us is. Some tips to increasing self-confidence include focusing on our strengths and talents and using them to our benefit. A subconscious voice inside us is always there. Its up to us to let that voice know that we’re the ones to take control of our lives. Having a good time in a healthy relationship is eventually down to the fact that both partners have to accept each others’ differences and appreciate them instead of finding faults. These simple tips might help us work on our communication skills.

I hope the tips and information help you and just know that we’re all capable of doing great things if we believe in ourselves. At the end of the day, you are in charge of how you feel, regardless of who likes you or hates you. Good luck!