Weekly Prompt #7: How do you handle situations where you feel like you're being put on the spot or forced to speak up?
Hello everyone, I hope you are all being easy on yourself this week.
Last week we discussed: How does social media affect social anxiety? Thank you to all who participated and shared their thoughts for discussion. I enjoyed them. I hope you all did too. If you didn't share yours, please share them here and I look forward to reading and discussing them with you.
This week's prompt: How do you handle situations where you feel like you're being put on the spot or forced to speak up?
When you feel like you're being put on the spot or forced to speak up, it can be challenging to keep your composure. However, it's essential to remember that you have a voice and a right to express your thoughts and feelings. So I am looking forward to discussing and learning with you all. Remember, everyone's experience with anxiety is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all solution. By sharing our stories and strategies with one another, we can create a supportive community of understanding and resilience. Let's continue the conversation and support one another on the journey toward greater wellness.
I shut down completely an get very mean and aggressive. If i wanted to speak up i would.
@ASilentObserver
I'm only now learning that my voice is equal to everyone else's voice, and that my thoughts are fine to express.
In the past, and to some extent now, I would simply shut down if I felt the pressure was on to speak.
@ASilentObserver
I shutdown.
Then it is like someone else takes over, which usually results (strongly depends on situation) in something comedic but undertones of sarcasm. Those that know me (the real me) would recognize that the comedic to soften the blow of the strong meaning undertones of sarcasm
@Barltik2065 I get it how challenging it can be when you feel put on the spot and an automatic response takes over. Feeling misunderstood in those moments makes total sense. Your true self coming through with humor and sarcasm is a way to cope at that moment. What helps you feel understood and connected in conversations where you feel forced to speak up, if any
Thank you for sharing your emotions and experiences with us Barltik and please know you are not alone with these experiences. We all here with you to listen to and support. Please keep sharing what you feel comfortable to share.
Thank you for validating me. And the many others here.
I am unsure how or if "what helps you feel understood and connected..." There is.
This is a good question. But I am at a loss :(😞
@ASilentObserver
I breathe and take some time to think, then try to express my thoughts the best way possible. I usually end up finding better ways and words in the aftermath of the situation. When it's an emotion that triggers me emotionally, or that concerns a beloved one, the emotions often affect my judgement and thus my participation... I'm working on my emotions regulation and learning to speak more effectively.
@ChocolateCupcake24 I hear this can be difficult, having to speak up when you'd rather have more time. It makes sense to want to find better words afterward. Focusing on your emotions at the moment can make things harder. You're making progress in learning to speak more effectively. What aspects of regulating your emotions are you finding most helpful so far?
Understanding that my emotions aren't always adapted to the situation, that they're triggered by identification to possible past events. I take time to assess what I'm feeling and putting things into perspective. Sometimes though, when I'm overwhelmed, anxious or not confident, I can get dragged by my emotions.
Also, what I find helpful, is the power of breath and laughter. They are great tools to limit the emotion's intensity, and at best even control your emotions.
What about you @ASilentObserver?
@ChocolateCupcake24 ,
Hello there , power breathing is very new to me. You mentioning it here prompted me to check that out , and thank you so much . Its truly a bliss🤗🤗
@ASilentObserver
@ASilentObserver
I usually just clam up. I have a great fear off publics speaking.
For example, if I know there's a chance where I might be called on, say, in Group Meetings, I will think of all possible scenarios or incidents that I might be called on for. Then, think of all possible things I could say or comment on. But when something happens unexpectedly or suddenly, my mind often goes blank and I would look at other people, as if calling for help or guidance as to what I should say and hope someone else will speak up instead.
@ASilentObserver
@Jaeteuk great thoughts Jae. Appreciate you for sharing them with us. I hear how frustrating and anxiety provoking this can be for you. Moments that require quick thinking on the spot can be challenging. You have taken the time to prepare beforehand which shows you are proactive and invested. What feelings come up for you in these moments?
When I'm prepared, I still feel nervous if called on to speak up. It also depends on the people that are present, if there is someone that makes me feel intimidated, I will feel even more uncomfortable speaking up, afraid that the person will judge me. Luckily, I don't have many of these instances that happen with my work, a lot of the times, Group Meetings are just listening to one person giving the briefing and only those who have thoughts or comments will add to what was being said. The only meetings I have are one-on-one, and since I feel comfortable with my Manager, I'm usually not as nervous. But I do hesitate sometimes, not knowing if I should say certain things. During meetings with my Manager though, I usually make a list of what I need to convey. Then, depending on her reaction, I'll decide then if I should mention everything from my list.
@ASilentObserver
Being forced to do anything is not right. Do I handle these situations well? No, and no one does even those without anxiety.
No one should be forced to speak up or put in such a toxic situation mental health issues or not.
I get defensive irritable explode then shut down and run away anxiety has taken over my life in every way shape and form lately I need help so badly and can not seem to get it no support no meds no nothing
@ASilentObserver
I force myself to think positive self affirming thoughts and brush off negative ones. Also distract myself beforehand and try not to think about it.
