Hi, please dont judge

@happydays447

@happydays447 it's not easy to not have feelings for someone you knew of a good friend, and what you are feeling is a way of your brain to process the emotional termoils, it's healthy to to express your feelings and you know to do that very well!! I really appreciate for being truthful and honest to yourself 💕🙏

@Smoothbreez333 thank you so much for the support

@happydays447

You're not stupid for missing your friend.

It's natural to miss those who are no longer active in our lives. It's also natural to feel guilty.

If your friend was the one who was driven away, a simple apology will be just what the doctor ordered. But not with a phone call. Write your friend a letter.

Write a letter and make it as long as you need it. Tell him you're sorry, and tell him why. Tell him what happened, why you felt you had to distance yourself from him. Tell him how much you care about him, and how much you miss him. Then ask him to forgive you, but don't beg. When you're done, set the letter aside for a day and get some rest. Then go back to the letter and read it again. Edit it if necessary. Set it aside again. Do this as often as you need to until you know it's ready to be sent.

Please understand that if you don't get an immediate reply, that's okay. What matters is that you made your peace with yourself, and you've let your friend know how much you care about them.

@SoftyVanTurtle1916 Thank you so much for the advce! the only problem is, i have said sorry more thtn 5 times and he still wont forgive me. but thank you for the advice, its means the world to me.

@happydays447

Well, in that case the only thing you can do is to let it lie and revisit the potential for his friendship later in the future.

He may one day forgive you. For now, the best you can do is forgive yourself and move on.

*hugs*

@SoftyVanTurtle1916

@SoftyVanTurtle1916 *hugs back*

@happydays447

p.s. I forgot to say you're welcome... so you're welcome

@happydays447. I woke up with similar feelings too today. I had a best friend I cared alot about and his dad died. We were so close and I hate myself for having left university and his friendship we were in a bubble together and it was bliss. Now I don't speak to him I have a boyfriend but I miss him as a friend and I care about him. Its not an easy situation to be in.

@independentHemlock1305 i get it. it is really hard.

@independentHemlock1305

I'm sorry to hear about your friend's dad. Did you call/write to your friend to send them your condolences? I'm sure they would appreciate hearing from you :)

@happydays447 I'm so sorry this happened. I can only imagine how hard it also was to have a friend with issues and then deal with your own... I've been in a similar spot. It took 2 years for me and the friend to start talking again. It takes time, people heal and grow at a different pace. Don't blame yourself, these things happen, and it's okay to miss them, wish them good and happiness. I'm sure they mis you too. Try and remember the good times, and give it time. You've got this!

@Ariverrunsthroughit thank you so much. im also sorry this happened to you. <3

@happydays447hi I just saw that my sister was on this site and she talking about very deep scary thing and I'm so worried now that's why I made an account pls can someone talk to me x

@User1234534 you can just try to talk with her, for example you can ask her how she feels? And after that you just start listening to her

@User1234534 sure of course! what is she saying?

@User1234534 you can go and try to talk to her and reach to her very gently and try to be as much understading with her as you can , i think she needs to be listened and she needs to talk about what she's going through but maybe she's scared cause most of the people are mainly here for this reason

It will get easyier over the feelings and you will miss him less and less.

@happydays447 i understang what you feel and i know thats its absolutly horribke , you just start to feel guilt and anger 24/7 and especially after being in a dark place when you are the one that don't understand your own self , even if he kept rejecting you maybe its time for you to try to move on , i know it hard but if some people that were in your situation were able to turn the page even in a hard way then you are , i suggest for you to send him a one more last message where you say everything you wanted to tell him , that u also were in a dark place which led you to be like that with him , and to do your goodbyes for good , then focus on youself for good but trust me you can do it you'll see by the time just keep your head up and if you need to talk to someone you can always hi me up even if im new to this app

@cyb1110 Thank you so much, the only thing is i dont have his number, as i got a new phone, and the only way i could contact him was through snapchat, but my mom wont let me have it anymore. but think yo so much for the advice, it means the world to me <3

@happydays447 you can use a friends snapchat or creat a fake one just for a few minutes so you can send him the message even without expecting any answer the goal here is to get pff everyhting out of you shoulders , and anytime i hope you'll feel better you can do it i believe in you *virtual hugs* <3

@cyb1110 Thank you so much *hugs back*

@happydays447 Hi. I don't know exactly what you've been through, but I've lost lots of friends too. Can you talk to him? Try to remember all of the joy he brought you and all of the good memories and go with love. Appreciate existing relationships. This has helped me, and I hope it also will for you

:)

@LetsGetBetter08 Thank you so much, but i have tried to talk to him. he wont reply and it honestly hurts. thank you for the advice though

@happydays447 I hope that he responds and that it all turns out. Wish you the best, and glad to help

:)

@happydays447 can you try telling your best friend how you truly feel? try a DEAR WOMAN letter

@staya1ivef0rme61 i have but he dosent care. but thank you for trying to help. :)

@happydays447 can you contact him through a mutual friend?

@staya1ivef0rme61 no, i have tried multiple times tho

@happydays447 I've been in a similar situation, I did something while in a dark place that pushed my best friend away too. She was already dealing with a lot of stuff so I was just the last straw. Eventually we started talking again, mind you it was never the same but it was something. But that did take time. I think that your friend, should he ever choose to, will come around eventually. He likely just needs time to heal/deal with his own stuff. Give it time. In the meantime, I'd give yourself some grace. You were in a dark place, and acted accordingly, and that is okay. What matters is you learn from that and try to move forward otherwise you'l just get stuck in your regret (speaking from experience here lol). But try and cut yourself some slack. I think the things we do while in dark places don't define us, rather how we learn from it and what we do moving forward does (define maybe isn't the best word, but I hope it gets it across well enough). And missing him is absolutely valid, I don't think it's stupid at all. Like I said, try and cut yourself some slack, if you can lessen even some of the guilt it makes it easier to deal with. Sending hugs though.

@geolojess

@geolojess

@geolojess thx so much