Devastated
I am struggling with anxiety with the holidays coming up. I wanted to have a one in one chat with a listener. That was a mistake. He belittled me and said things like he couldn’t believe I was worried about family gatherings and I needed to get over it! I would like to come back to this space because it was being helpful. But now I am angry and hurt. If this is how listeners are it is terrible. So upset.
@lavenderLake6596 Welcome to 7cups. I'm sorry you had such a negative experience with a
listener and especially on your first day on 7cups. That is not how
listeners should treat you. From my personal experience as a member,
there are also many kind, helpful and compassionate listeners on here.
Please don't give up on trying to find support. It's totally understandable that you're struggling with anxiety about family gatherings with the holidays coming up (I can very much relate) and it's a good thing you are reaching out for help. You are not alone and there are many supportive people on 7cups who want to be there for you.
@Ilona7 thank you so much for your reply. I so very much want to report this listener but I don't know how or if I should. For trying to help relieve some anxiety this has created more. I am worried about trying out another listener. Your words definitely made me feel better and I appreciate that.
@lavenderLake6596 I'm not sure how to report a listener either, but hopefully someone who does know can respond to this post and help out. Either way, I can imagine this experience has only made you feel more anxious, and you did not deserve to be treated like that. I hope you have a better experience with the next listener you talk to. Sometimes it can help to select a listener that is experienced (by looking at how many people they have helped before) and has positive reviews from other members.
@lavenderLake6596 Yes, you should report that listener. You can do it in the Help Center: Submit a request.
You can find a better listener by using the Browse Listeners page. Look for one who has a lot of good reviews and a Chat Now button.
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@lavenderLake6596
I am not sure what all types of people ...... apply to be a listener .... and honestly from what i have read here some people have issues with being told any item that might rub them wrong ( me included) ..... honestly i learn more from that then the rah rah type.....
some people who have never experienced dysfunction or family drama .... there are some who literally all family is great ....lol....... we also have listeners from other countries and cultures that may also explain some issues ....... of course you should report them as they may not be cut out for that....
if it is causing you a lot of anxiety do you feel you have to go to family thing?
Can you put a limit like you can only stay a certain amount of time spent? or boundaries that if certain actions or topics come up you excuse yourself and leave , this may not work if you have to travel to family .... but perhaps you can talk a walk or something to decompress the anxiety.
