Aging Up Support Thread
Hi everyone! In the past few weeks, the Teen Leadership Team has been brainstorming ways to better support our transitioning teens. In an attempt to provide you with a space where you can get support on transitioning into the adult side we are launching this Teen Transitioning Support Thread. Here is it how it will go:
â This is a safe space for all teens who are soon aging up or have recently aged up to share anything that concerns them about the transitioning process, ask questions and get support.
â The thread will be monitored by our Teen Transitioning Mentors. Most of our Teen Transitioning Mentors have gone through the aging up process themself and are passionate about supporting our transitioning teens. They will respond to the members posting in this thread.
Important!
â This is not a place to get support on matters other than aging up as a teen. This is so we can focus our resources on supporting the teens who are going through the transitioning process. If you are looking for support on a personal matter/in need of a listener, please check our browse listener page.
*Aging Up: A period when a member/listener who joined 7 Cups as a teenager turns 18 and is moved to the adult side. It is also referred to as the transitioning period.
This post is brought to you by the Teen Transitioning Program. Please read about it here.
I'm actually going to be looking forward to turning 18 as even though I may be not at the same position most 18 year olds are but I look at this as an advantage because i can build the life I want to as I'm starting from practically nothing.I can resonate with this quote "once you have nothing, you have everything".
@Hope will I still be able to chat with the listeners I chat with Joe once I move up? Thanks!
I'm already 18 and man I don't know if I'm ready to be on my own. Im going to a college farther away from home and I don't know if I have the skills that other kids have, and I'm kinda've lonely so I'm scared I won't make friends or my choice in college is wrong.
Other than that...being 18 is pretty cool, nothing much I'm worried about except I feel really scared about aging so fast, idk man.
I m turning 18 tomorrow.
I don't want to turn 18. I didn't do anything worthwhile until now and have been down and low like this for about as long as I can remember without an actual reason. all the years before I celebrated because I wanted to feel normal and be happy isn't everybody supposed to feel happy on their birthday? why do I always dread mine? one more year older, one more year I was alive in a sense. I wish there was something I could do to stop feeling this way or stop feeling altogether. I can't and don't want to be like this for another year.
@Hope this transition feel so uncomfortable. sorry ):
@Hope does this mean I'm losing all the people that had listened to me before?!?! 😭
@DraytonWantsToHelp
yes once you turn 18 you loose access to teen side.
You can keep in touch with your teen friends Using forums.
Also if u have listener account you can apply to become a teen adult listener so you can still be part of teen side as listener,
Here more information about becoming a adult teen listener https://www.7cups.com/forum/agingup/AdultTeenListenerProgram_2487/BecomeAnAdultTeenListenerATLSupportTheTeenCommunity_292412/
I am also trying to find the form to request a teen transition mentor that can help you with the transition to adult side.
@DraytonWantsToHelp hear the form to request a teen transition mentor that can help you transition to adult side. https://www.7cups.com/forum/agingup/AdultTeenListenerProgram_2487/BecomeAnAdultTeenListenerATLSupportTheTeenCommunity_292412/
@Hope
To be honest having to come to the reality that my birthday is almost up and I feel depressed on how my childhood was messy enough to were I don’t even want to acknowledge it. I don’t have friends that remember my birthday and I felt and tried to make this year good and I was actually feeling happy for the first time until everything fell apart and knowing that I had the ability of happiness but I let people around me and myself affect me is the hardest. I wish I was confident enough to be myself and not to let my emotions get the best of me. I don’t think am even prepared for college or university from fear of judgement.
@supernova84 i have also had a terribly messy childhood and i feel like im already an adult. it scared me so much i decided not to go to college, mainly bc i don’t have the money lol but my parents still treat me as a kid and my mom is constantly telling me “don’t think. just do what i tell u” she’s super controlling and narcissistic. ur a mother. aren’t u supposed to encourage ur children to be excited to grow up and to teach and aid in the process ? reassuring ur teen that everything is by ur side. she always puts me down and it makes me nervous for the real world.
@supernova84 Hello Supernova, thank you for sharing your feelings with us here. It sounds like reflecting on your birthday is bringing up difficult memories from your childhood. What matters most is how you see yourself now. You have made it this far - I believe in your resilience and ability to get the support you need. Please know we are all here with you to support you in this transition.
I would encourage you to fill Transition Support Request form here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfed4W09cnD4vPH09z7GRdrs64Jlu_qzavj6DHRF9oWGEFT5Q/viewform
We will get through this transition period together! Sending some virtual cookies your way!!
@Hope okey i do not want to even think about moving from the teen side to the adult side. Is the website going to change completely, or would it be the same? Will i be removed from the teen community room for example? I am quite new so i don't know how any of this works but, can someone please explain what changes 😅
@staymysterious61
i think the forums will be the same. but you won’t be able to message teen listeners anymore. you’ll be able to message adult listeners and ATLs. i think the chat rooms will be different as well
hope this helps (:
@staymysterious61 Hello Stay, Welcome to 7cups, and thank you for reaching out with your question. I am Obs.
It sounds like moving to the adult side is bringing up feelings of uncertainty for you. You are right to want clear information during this transition. Please know that 7 Cups aims to support all users through any changes in a thoughtful way and we are all here with you to support you during this transition.
To answer your question, yes as you will age up, you will have access to adult group chats to get support. For more transition support, I would encourage you to fill Transition Support Request form here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfed4W09cnD4vPH09z7GRdrs64Jlu_qzavj6DHRF9oWGEFT5Q/viewform
We will get through this transition period together! Sending some virtual cookies your way!!
@Hope If I’ve been talking to a long term listener for a very long time like 1 year+ and they aren’t an adult will I no longer be able to talk to them?
@chillinchimpanzee21
teen listeners can only talk to teens so once you aged up you will not be able to chat with them until they aged up.
I hope that helps you out.
@Powerandsunset25
but you can always stay connected by forums. Some teens that aged make a forum post to get in touch with teens
@Hope I am actually pretty excited about becoming in adult in the sense of the independance. I just hope i keep my head and stay responsible.
@littlePond1213 It sounds exciting to gain more independence as an adult. Being responsible is so important as you move into this next chapter of life. What aspects of independence are you most looking forward to exploring?
Also, you can submit a request for transition support here! We are all with you while you get through this transition process. <3
Thanks :)
I think I'm looking most forward to not having to wait for permission to do the things I want and handling "grown up" things like doc appointments and such.