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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Nov 11 - 17)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! We’ve reached the second week into the month. To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * Favorite fall flavor?  * Do you have any fall traditions? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 [a pumpkin-shaped mug with whipped cream on it that has a smiling face and orange hearts around it as well as a straw] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM 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Help needed in the Relationship Stress Community!
by KatePersephone
Last post
 November 3rd
...See more Hi everyone! I hope you're all doing well and enjoying fall so far. I am Kate, the Community Mentor Leader of the Relationship Stress Community. The community is currently in need of Room Supporters and Forum Supporters to help out in both the chatrooms and the forums! Here you will find some brief explanations for both of these roles, alongside their requirements and their information pages. ------------------------- A room supporter helps in providing a welcoming space for members in the chatrooms, as well as quality support alongside listening. The role is available to both members and listeners! Here are the requirements for a Room Supporter: Listener: * No “Newbie” badge (being a listener for 4+ weeks) * Have 2+ Group Support Chats Member: * No “Newbie” badge (being a member for 4+ weeks) * Have the “Supportive Smile” badge * Complete the “Compassion Course [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbuGsqFMbaKWtCoC1WHaCJfaKfwfI8YZ62CsqTI2BzqVNwDg/viewform]” For more information and the application check here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/ApplicationStation_2148/RoomSupporterUpdatedRequirementsandApplication_247786/]. ------------------------- A forum supporter focuses on maintaining engagement within a community through posting and responding to threads. It is also available for both members and listeners! Here are the requirements for a Forum Supporter: Listener: * Be a Verified Listener * Have 50+ forum upvotes * Have 25+ forum posts * Have taken the Listener Community Guide [https://www.7cups.com/listener-community-guide/] & Listener Oath [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ChatResources_61/ListenerOath_117/1/] Member: * Have 50+ forum upvotes * Have 25+ forum posts * Have taken the Member Oath [https://www.7cups.com/forum/Welcome_27/7CupsofTeaMissionCoreValues_207/MemberOathAllEncouragedtoParticipate_7447/1/] For more information and the application click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/LeadershipResourcesWhomToContact_2404/UpdatedSubcommunityTrackLeadershipRolesMasterpost2022_289838/]. ------------------------- Any help will be highly appreciated! 
Group Support Feedback for the Relationship Stress Community ✨💓
by KatePersephone
Last post
 October 27th
...See more Hello community! This forum thread has been created for the purpose of sharing the feedback our amazing hosts have received for the discussions they have hosted!
A boyfriend that doesn't give reassurance
by Seraphina0795
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more This is going to be long one so I apologise in advance So I met this guy a year ago. He was really sweet to me, always looking out for me and very caring and I did the same for him. He always warned me that getting too close to him is going to hurt because he had trauma since his dad passed away 5 years ago when he was 13. I thought I could help him since I had some family trauma too and I should support him and I was also in love with him. It turned out to be mutual and he said he would want to marry me when the time comes but the moment long distance came to be a possibility he started to back out. I tried to end things because it was giving me trust issues but he just wouldn't let me go and give no reassurance. Furthermore, whenever I used to bring an issue up he would get very defensive and blame the whole thing on me. We had many issues going on, and I tried to hold on to him despite how sad he constantly kept me, he never got me flowers, showed frustration on the days to be celebrated and stopped loving me but always came back when I broke up which made me doubt his intentions. Whenever I used to back out and try to leave him he would come back all miserable and the guilt made me let him come back but the last time I got a breakdown of all this he easily said he is fed up with me and just left I feel so hurt, so guilty and hate myself even though I gave him my best, trying to make cupcakes to apologise which he just dropped and didn't even eat. I don't know how to proceed anymore, I have medical entrance exam in a few months with a competition of 24 lakhs and I have lost all motivation when I never dreamt of a career other than a doctor.
I am the other woman
by Lexaurin47
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more I have a collegue, who I became really good friend with and developed feelings for this man. About 3 months ago he moved to another city. We stayed in contact and one day arranged a meeting. We had a cup of coffee and were talking. He was nervous all the time. When I was about to leave, as I wanted to get in the train, he pulled me back and kissed me. It was very emotional and at the moment it felt really good. After the kiss we felt both really bad, because he is engaged. He says, that he does love his future wife and that it was a mistake. I feel terrible. I was initiating contact and I knew, that he is engaged. He feels complete lost and scared, that he is gonna loose her. He is thinking about to tell her, he was shaking all the time... I told him, to say nothing, that no one is gonna know about this, it was a one time thing and he regrets it. So I told him that I not gonna call him anymore, to behave like nothing happend. But I would like to know how he is doing. I am in a position, where I cant be his friend anymore. I am the person who is remembering him of the guilt. I cant even ask how he was. And I feel cheap, i feel terrible, I am the other woman... While she was waiting for his tex or call, he was with me. I am the reason for her tears. I cant get rid of the feeling of guilt... I would like to make things ok, but I dont know what to do.
Any advice?
by kiddo339
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more Hi there, My partner and I have been dating for over a year, and are now facing our first deployment as a couple. Recently I have found he has been distant and really closed off towards me and I have been panicking a lot over it. Recently I had a lapse in my anxiety journey which I think scared him off a little, we are still communicating but not like we used to. Has any other military spouse/partner experienced something like this? TIA
Am I Wrong?
by PixieSabotage
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more Around four months ago, I ended a very tumultuous and complicated 8.5 year long relationship. There is a lot of love between us, but we argued too much and there was a lot of issues between us as well. I had previously tried ending the relationship but always found that we got back together for some reason. Now I find myself feeling like I overextended myself by trying to stay in a failing relationship for more than one year, and I aggressively fell out of love. Am I wrong for having moved on even before having finalized the relationship? I really did try to end it earlier but I was met with backlash. I feel guilty for hurting my ex, but I just want to be happy. Am I wrong to feel these conflicting emotions?
moving on
by BeeWamble
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more Hi! I broke up 2 month ago from a year and a half relationship. We loved each other, it just too many conflict around us, we just don't get along. I feel like our lifestyle didn't match that's why there is things that each of us couldn't tolerate in the others life. from the day we broke up, i settle myself to be better. To love myself more. so i don't seek to be back in that relationship ever again. i was doing so well. even tho there is times where i miss him (i still checked his profile online). weeks ago, i just found out he started seeing another girl. the girl is actually my friend, not a close one but still. it broke my heart and my healing process felt like it need to start all over from 0 again. it hurt to see that, im speculating that am i worthless to him? that its so easy for him to get over me? or he just need that rebound relationship to heal himself? he was so sweet to me, loving, never intended to hurt me, promise to marry me someday.  guy i always dreams of. But him get over me in just 2 month? well, ouch i need a way to heal myself from this, to stop myself from comparing my life to his.
Need some advice about a break in a relationship
by saz12
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more My partner or ex partner have been on a break for 3 months after he choose to go on one after saying I didn't do enough house work. I have not long had are second child (almost 8 months now) our oldest is 6 and very energetic. I have been doing the house work since showing him I heard wjat he said but it wasn't enough. He says he can't stop the voices that say I'm going to back track. He's been diagnosed with depression but isn't on meds and waiting on counselling just a week ago. We have both just lost a very good friend. But this good friend said to be life is to short just a day before he passed. I want to wait until after the funeral as my ex was very very close to him but should I give a time limit or a ultimatum about us or give him more time and to start counselling before this? I love him and want him home and even tho he said he misses me he just won't make up his mind about us so what do I do?
Avoidant Attachment Or Does He Not Like Me?
by crystalbanjo
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I’m a 20F, and I’ve been friends with a guy named Eli (20M) for a while now. I met him through my two best friends, Carly (20F), who has known Eli since birth, and Trey (21M), who has been Eli’s college classmate for a couple of semesters. We’ve spent time together in that group of four, and recently things have gotten more complicated. Trey had told Eli that he has found a liking towards Carly and when I met Eli for the first time, Carly told me that Eli has never behaved around a woman the way he has when I’m around, causing her to have the thought that Eli had a crush on me. Time progressed and Trey brings up the fact that they both should make their moves on Carly and I since Eli didn’t have the courage to, Trey kinda gave him the encouragement to make a move on me since I always thought Eli was funny and attractive. Eli and I ended up hu and we both acted like nothing happened the next day and the four of us kept hanging out and when we weren’t hanging out, Eli would every once in a while send me memes for us to laugh at and I would do it too.  All of us, plus some other friends planned a birthday trip for me and I told Trey that I would like to get close with Eli, so Trey brought it up to him and Trey then told me that Eli is down to share a room with me. Eli and I hu twice on a trip. The second night we hu, we were drunk and I confessed to Eli that I really liked him and that I was upset that he had been distant and barely spoke to me since a month from the last time I saw him. I also told him that I felt like I was being used, but Eli then said that he really likes me too and would never use me and apologized. After that conversation, I kissed him and he started kissing me all over my face and started becoming extremely affectionate and sweet. We hu and it just felt like there were so many feelings involved this time. The next morning I wake up, and he starts staying silent again like he did the last morning and just went off to do his own this with our friends and I did my own thing with mine at the trip. Now I’m confused about his behavior after the trip, he hasn’t made a move to reach out to me on his own, and when we were spending time together, it was always with Trey and Carly. He’s been distant, hasn’t spoken to me since we said goodbye at the trip and I haven’t had any direct, or meaningful conversations with him since the trip. I then realized that he took me off his private story for no reason, then Carly asked me if Eli had spoken to me since the trip and I said no which left us even more confused. She mentioned that surprisingly, Eli has tried to speak to her and Trey more which lead her to ask if Eli had spoken to me since then to see if. he had finally built up the courage to stay consistent Eli has also mentioned in the past (after our first hu 3 months ago) to Carly that he really likes me and my personality and that he’s trying to figure out his intentions with me, but it feels like he’s not making much of an effort to clarify things since he said that (3 months ago). His behavior has left me uncertain about whether he likes me or if I’m reading into things too much. Carly also mentioned that Eli is very avoidant and is afraid to open up about his feelings since she usually has to pry things out of him. I’m not sure if I should confront him again or leave things as they are because I don’t want to risk ruining our bond if he doesn’t feel the same way. I’m torn because, on one hand, I want clarity, but on the other hand, I don’t want to push him away by forcing a conversation when he’s already been avoidant. Carly decided to plan on talking to Eli about this in a subtle way since they’ve known each other longer, and she understands him better than I do. I feel like Eli would probably open up more to her than to me. I don’t plan to reach out to him directly unless he reaches out to me first. Eli also has a difficult family background, which I know affects how he handles relationships. I was also told by Trey that Eli doesn’t really interact with women nor has he ever has a girlfriend and that he is afraid to make a move most of the time because of how he is. Trey told me that Eli has hu with other people but fails to maintain it because of how shy and nervous he gets. During the trip, Trey had told me that the last time Eli had sex was a year prior to me and said that this is the first time Eli has ever been this consistent with a woman. But him removing me from his private story makes no sense to me now because I’ve done nothing wrong.  My question is: How should I handle this situation? Should I confront Eli again, or wait and let Carly try to figure out what he might be feeling/thinking? Any advice or similar experiences would be helpful.
Young Adult Drama
by boletoba
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more My boyfriend and I ‘broke up’ about a month ago, at the end of September. I lied and withheld things from my life that seemed small to me, but he considered me a liar. We had been arguing since August, and I ended the relationship because I was tired of the constant fights. He hates social media, and since we broke up, he has been jealous of the social media I have, so even after we ended things, whenever we argued, it involved social media or other guys I don’t even talk to. But he imagines things in his head. He is 29 years old, and I am 28. For about a week, we’ve been talking normally, but he is still very hurt by me. I didn’t value the relationship, I put my work first, I didn’t listen to him, and I didn’t support him. I was so focused on my new job that I didn’t make him a priority. I love him more than anything in this world. I feel like he still cares about me. Yesterday, we were together. We had lunch, watched a movie, and he slept at my house. We had sex, but I felt like it wasn’t the same. We talked, and he says he likes me, but he’s very hurt and isn’t able to deal with everything. I don’t know what to do, I love him so much, and I don’t want to lose him, but I feel like he is slipping through my fingers. I can’t concentrate, I can’t eat, I can’t sleep, I’m always sad, and I cry all the time…
What do I do?
by SevenNoel
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Me and my partner recently decided to take a break (I can’t tell if it’s a break or a breakup, im a little confused but I want to ask him in person) from our relationship due to me needing to heal from personal (recent) trauma, and my partner needing the time to take care of themself and their mental health (which is so fair and so valid).  We actually ended on really good terms and we communicated about it and all they keep asking of me is to take care of myself and to be kind to myself for them (because they have made a clear boundary of wanting space and being alone right now so communication is very short, long response times, and distance). Before I left their house (after we decided to split), they gave me a blanket, their hoodie, and let me keep their bass and promised that I’d see them again.  I’m having a hard time not reaching out and talking to them because im so used to doing so. I’ve found myself feeling so lonely and dealing with these heavy emotions completely alone. I just want to cry to him like I usually would and I just can’t. For the last 5 days I’ve mainly cried and slept. It’s all I can find myself ABLE to do.  I guess what im saying is im having a hard time distracting myself from this whole thing. I can’t even listen to MUSIC, and that’s like 97% of my life and I’ve just never been unable to listen to it before without sobbing. Whenever I just disassociate all I think about is how much i wish he was here. I just don’t know what to do with myself. I feel scared and sick to my stomach. I feel so alone. 
I still check social media of a person I developed a crush on while in a relationship and feel incredibly guilty
by sincereHuman9830
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hello everyone, any type of advice would be welcomed! I developed a crush on somebody while in a long term relationship with my bf and we ended up breaking up for a while. During that time I decided to give a chance to the other person, (we were just chatting) but things took a wrong turn because he would force me to be with him right after my break up and then got mad when I refused. Now I know that is called love bombing because he was really sweet and claimed he is serious about me in the beginning but when I refused to start a relationship with him right away he would ghost me, insult me, say that I am childish, immature, way too philosophical and complicated and similar things. That really hurt me, especially ghosting for days and then communicating as if nothing happened. It messed up with my head very much because even after my boyfriend and I started to date again I was so hooked on proving my worth to the other guy that I went and met up with him 3 months after. It felt good to tell him in person how I felt because of him and that I don’t want to be with him, but he tried to kiss me many times until I pushed him away. I felt even more lame afterwards because his intentions about being physical were confirmed. I spiraled into depression and shame even more after that but at the same time started working on my relationship with my bf. We are still together and even engaged now and things are going great. However, I constantly check the other guy’s social media and watch his stories anonymously. A thought came into my mind the other day: what the *** are you even doing? and I’ve been feeling very weird about myself ever since. I felt so guilty that I even confessed to my partner. It’s like I need to obsessively keep tabs on his life and I feel relieved when I see he’s not doing any better and not making any sort of progress in terms of friendships and relationships. But, it’s been 2 years. I feel like a weirdo and a crazy person. Why do I do that? :( on top of the guilt I feel like there is something wrong with me. If there is anyone with similar experience please share your story, thank you!
Help, I have no idea what to do
by amusingPapaya1227
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more So last year, I had a brief I don't know what you would call it situation with a guy who I had liked previously for so long. So it was amazing when he reached out and we started talking. However, he had just been recently broken up with, and I felt he still needed time to heal. But because I liked him so much I overlooked that and still talked to him over the next couple of months. It was so weird because we knew that we liked each other, but every time I made the move to get closer to him, it wouldn't happen. All this went on for the next 3 months until, we finally decided to be friends. At that point I wasn't even mad or hurt because he had been hurting me all through the months, and it was honestly a relief. I moved on from him completely, detaching myself but still here and there he would still reach out like over the summer and stuff. Also, around the same, there was another guy who added me, and we were just casually talking as friends. It was weird as I had no classes with him. Come the summer, we didn't really talk until he reached out near the beginning of the school year. So from September to around October, we were friends, but the beginning of October, we started to become more, but never started dating. Before we agreed to acc start talking though, we made a promise that we were not going to tell anyone at all because It would blow up my life at that time. The thing about this guy though is that he is not very liked among my friends and group, and he also talked to one of my close friends, and hurt her bad, but so did she to him. It ended bad so even just talking to him made me feel so guilty even when we were just friends. During this, we had a big fight as he told one of his friends about us but waited almost a week to tell me about it. I ended things, but then we got through it and were back together, but I made it clear that if we were going to try again, we had to be genuine friends first with no expectations. We went on like this for the last month, and there have been good times but also very bad times, most nights recently ending with us in tears. Mostly from us not being able to give each other want we want. He wants to become official and tell others, while I know that I never could or at least not now, and he doesn't think he can wait for me much longer. Not to mention I have become so attached to him and him I so neither of us are wanting to leave. Now in the past 2 weeks. The other boy from last year has admitted that he still likes me and that we want to know if I feel the same. I haven't told the other guy yet, and I have been responding to him, very friendly, however. I don't know what to do because I feel like God is bringing the first guy back into my life for a reason, and the other guy is bringing me so much pain and hurt, but so am I to him. My friends are telling me to leave the other guy as it has been a toxic cycle of hurting each other, but I don't know if I'm strong enough too. The first guy is also a follower of Christ and aligns with all I could ever want, both physically like attractive wise, and spiritually, while the other guy I'm not very physically attracted to, but have such a strong emotional understanding and the two, but it also makes it hard to do that more affectionate things. But, he treats me like a queen so incredibly sweet words and things that I never thought a guy, especially in my generation had the ability to say and do. I have no idea what I should do. One guy treats me better than I could ever ask for, but we can't be together as the physical attraction is lacking, he was with my friend, which would tear my friend group apart, and we keep hurting one another due to the fact we can't give each other what we want. The other hurt me once before badly, and I don't know if we will again. When we were friends, my feelings went away completely, and I don't know if they ever will. I have absolutely no idea who to pick and or what to do. I also don't even know If I want a relationship in my life right because of all the other things happening in my life right now. I don't know what to do at all, and I'm so sick of feeling guilty or sad or numb. I don't know what to do.
All about relationships
by deephealer11111
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...See more Relationships can be a source of immense joy and fulfilment, but they can also be a source of stress. This stress can arise from a variety of factors, including miscommunication, conflict, financial problems, or simply feeling overwhelmed by the demands of the relationship. If you're struggling with relationship stress, it's important to know that you're not alone. There are many resources available to help you navigate these challenges and build stronger, more fulfilling relationships. I am here to help you.

Relationship Stress

Welcome to Relationship Stress! This is a safe, supportive and inclusive place where you can discuss everything and anything related to Relationships.


What are the different forum topics for Relationship Stress?

Breakups & Divorce: Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Talk about it here.

Community Space: A place for introductions, icebreakers and check-ins!

Coping Tools & Resources: Need some resources? Find them here!

Dating Issues/Tips: A place for all things dating.

Friendships: A place for all things friendships.

Relationship Space: A place for all things relationships.

Sexual Health: Need to discuss sexual health? Do it here!

Share Your Story: Share Your Story here!

Teens Only Zone: A place for teens to discuss.

The Self-Care Lounge: Take good care of yourself here!


How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable). Check-in with us, join a discussion, or start one! Alternatively, you can join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.


Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our tag list to be notified whenever there is a new discussion or update within the community!


Relationship Stress FAQ

Q: Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to?

A: You can find sub-community specific guidelines below, which you should follow in addition to the general forum guidelines.


Q: Are there any live group chat rooms?

A: Yes! Adults can join us every Thursday in the Relationships chat room. 


Help! I still have a question!

If you need help, feel free to contact a community leader or post here, and someone will contact you!

Community Guidelines

Welcome to the Relationship Stress Community!!

✔ Maintain a positive and constructive environment in the Relationship Stress Community. 

✔ Kindly do not express judgments, attack or impose beliefs onto anyone within the community. 

✔ Please do not double post in different areas of forums & always ensure you're posting in the correct area so you can get better support.  To know the various forum areas & get an overview of the community, please Click Here!!

✔ Please do not SPAM any part of the forums with unrelated links or ads.  

Read the 7 Cups Guidelines
Community Leaders
Community Mentor Leader
@KatePersephone
Group Support Mentor / Teen Star
@KatePersephone
Community Resources

★ Making the Sub-Community your home!!

★ Get started with Relationship Community!!

★ Relationship and Friendship Support  Sub-Community Guide

★ Welcome Resource: Welcome to the Relationship Support Subcommunity!!

★ Discussion Calendar: Resource for you to know the upcoming support sessions on Relationships. 

★ Breakup FAQs: This is a great resource for all those who experiencing break-up struggles in their lives. 

★ 7Cups Self-Help Guides: to help you a bit to deal with certain issues you may face in your relationships. 

✔ Breakups

✔ Family Relationships

✔ Surviving Domestic Assault

✔ Forgiveness

★ Ember's Relationship Resources: a list of resources that could help you in understanding your relationships better. 

★ 12 Relationship Tips: A good checklist to improve your relationships. 

★ Relationship Support Wiki: the place where you can find some great resources on relationships. 

Other Resources:

★ The Relationship Support Forum Team: Learn more about the Relationship Support Community Leadership & Moderation Team. 

★ Apply to be a Forum Supporter!: If you're not a Forum Supporter and would like to be one, please apply through the application. 

★ Become part of the Relationship Support Team:

✔  To join Forum /  Feed Sub-Team, please Click Here!!

✔  To join the Adult Support Team, please Apply Here!!

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