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amiablePeace77 December 11th

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What is difficult for you this Christmas season, and where do you find happiness despite your current situation?

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amiablePeace77 OP December 11th

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User Profile: soulsings
soulsings December 12th

@amiablePeace77

What is difficult for you this Christmas season, and where do you find happiness despite your current situation?

I find the commercial part of Christmas no longer as attractive as it once was. I give leeway to my daughter to shop for the grandkids. I no longer am tuned in to what children want for gifts. 

The hardest thing for me is the loss of parents. I was not always seeing eye to eye with them but part of me imagined safety and security and caring in their presence. I have friends but none of them has that connection that I feel like with a parent. In some ways I am fortunate to have the opportunity to let go. No one lives forever and at some point I would have to let go anyway.

The dark days and nights are challenging and the cold weather. I appreciate Spring even more in the depths of Winter.


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User Profile: Tinywhisper11
Tinywhisper11 December 12th

@soulsings 🙁 I'm sorry soul,  it must be hard for the holidays to change so much for you over the years😥 but I hope memories are enough to give you some comfort ❤❤ gives you a giant xmassy tiny hug ❤❤


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soulsings December 13th

@Tinywhisper11 thank you for your consoling words. Gentle hugs

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akunknown December 12th

@soulsings

I’m so sorry for all the difficulties you went and are going through. 

If you ever need to talk or wanna talk about anything, please reach out to me about it. If it’s easier or more comfortable or convenient for you, we can even start a pen pal with each other and chat about anything you want to or need to there if you like. But we don’t have to if you don’t want to. It’s up to you.

The tightest most kindest and friendliest hugs❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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soulsings December 13th

@akaunknown oh you are so sweet to offer. Hugs to you too.

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MorningDewHorizon December 12th

@soulsings Oh, I’m sorry to hear about your parents. This year, Christmas will be different for me and won’t be like it usually is: celebrating with family. I work every Christmas evening, which has made it hard to adjust the timing for dinner, opening presents, and so on. To make things easier for everyone else in the family, I’ve chosen to celebrate on my own or perhaps with a friend.

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User Profile: soulsings
soulsings December 12th

@MorningDewHorizon thank you for your kind words. Change happens. Nothing stays the same. Hope it works out for you.

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amiablePeace77 OP December 12th

@soulsings

It is true that no one lives forever, and we need to let go but I find during the holiday season so many memories can come up that it feels difficult. 

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PetiteSouris December 15th

@soulsings

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Tinywhisper11 December 12th

@amiablePeace77 memories, and being alone is the hardest part of xmas, I see and hear of so many families celebrating and the love they share. I would like that🙂 but what makes it happy, is that I finally get to celebrate and have fun 😁 I decorated a ginger bread house yesterday, I got so sticky with icing😁😁😁😁

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amiablePeace77 OP December 12th

@Tinywhisper11

I am so glad for you that after all what has happened in your life you finally can celebrate and have fun!

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User Profile: akunknown
akunknown December 12th

@amiablePeace77

What is difficult for you this Christmas season? 

Not being able to spend time with my dad and great grandmother who passed away. 

Despite knowing and accepting everyone goes at some point bc time is eventually over for all of us no matter what and that it’s just a normal process of life that’ll never change, it’s still difficult without them. 

Where do you find happiness despite your current situation?

In memories (good memories of course), meditating, writing songs that are happy themed, being on here. 

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User Profile: Tinywhisper11
Tinywhisper11 December 12th

@akunknown sorry about your dad, and great grandma🙁 the holidays are always the hardest when we lost people we love 😥 hugs you tightly ❤❤ you should write a xmas song😁❤

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akunknown December 12th

@Tinywhisper11

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️ And writing a Christmas song is a great wonderful gift of a suggestion but I already wrote one. But thank you. I appreciate the suggestion nonetheless ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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amiablePeace77 OP December 12th

@akunknown

To me the Christmas season is a time of joy but also a time when we miss loved ones most who are not with us anymore. Nice that you have those good memories and other things to help you.

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PetiteSouris December 15th

@akunknown

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stormieandpaws December 12th

@amiablePeace77

for us Christmas  is very hard due to so much being lost close to Christmas. memories of  the last Christmas with my 3 kids. before they was taken into foster-care and later we lost parental rights. seems memories of them been coming a lot this year.


then trigger warning Christmas  holiday from school as a kid  was a lot of abuse in very bad ways. mostly by my oldest brother and his friends. so feelings and memories been coming  up about all them times. when mom  went to  watch other peoples kids leaving me with my brothers. guess he  feeling of abandoned  coming up too. this a emotional one. now  that been away from family for some time it seem more memories coming up. also in more detail ways. so that making Christmas  hard this year.

also feel lonely due to really have no one around us this Christmas. we  will have dinner at mental health club. with others who also have no place  to go. so  at least we  will be around others.

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amiablePeace77 OP December 12th

@stormieandpaws

From what you describe I can see how painful this time is for you. Good that there are people you can join and remember 7cups is open 24/7 also on Christmas.

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@amiablePeace77

thank you we glad 7 cups is here it does help

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purpleTree4652 December 12th

@amiablePeace77

Hi, Ami,

What is difficult for you this Christmas season, and where do you find happiness despite your current situation?

I'm poor and my life has been unstable.  I've found peace living alone and with my cat.  

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amiablePeace77 OP December 12th

@purpleTree4652

So glad to hear that you found peace despite all the challenges you have. I hope the next year will bring some positive surprises for you!

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GreenCircleGaia December 12th

@amiablePeace77

What is difficult for you this Christmas season, and where do you find happiness despite your current situation?

Given there is a nation-wide postal strike, that limits ordering gifts for loved ones, I am gifting through e- gift cards & e-cards. Not the same as sending through the mail, but still being able to reach out, given the circumstances.

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soulsings December 12th

@GreenCircleGaia sorryyou have a postal strike to contend with. That must be a major inconvenience.

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GreenCircleGaia December 12th

@soulsings

Thanks. It is, to a point. However, given the circumstances, I have found a way to 'gift' through 'e-gifting'. As well, this year, I am gifting (aka donating) my yearly 'gifting budget' to a local addictions/mental health organization over the next 12 months. My loved ones are supportive of this initiative. As well, as much as we struggle, there are many others whom need that extra support. I am happy to help - as these people are my neighbours, too.

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soulsings December 12th

@GreenCircleGaia that is in the spirit of the season of giving without expecting a return. 


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thoughtfulTree9494 December 12th

@amiablePeace77 Navigating my expectations for the kids, my husband and in law relationships

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amiablePeace77 OP December 13th

@thoughtfulTree9494

I hope mindfulness will help you with this challenge.


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slowdecline48 December 14th
  1. The tasteless orgy of commercialism that is the soul of Christmas, instead of what it used to be so long ago. I've never been Christian but I would respect it more if it were still about the story of the baby Jesus in the horse stable with Mary, the three sages showing up to commemorate it, etc.
  2. It gets lonely, in the holiday season.
  3. Allergy season is just around the corner. Oh boy, I can't wait for that s***... 😒
User Profile: PetiteSouris
PetiteSouris December 15th

🎄@amiablePeace77🎄

What is difficult for you this Christmas season?

I was supposed to go visit my dad for Xmas this year, but he left his physical body in September. I just remember how sad his face was on video call as he knew it was the end for him. 

Where do you find happiness despite your current situation?

I am happy to be able to give the stray cats in my neighborhood food. Today, I couldn't find two of them and became worried but they appeared later on in the day. Usually they come to the door or the window to ask for food. I also feed the wintering birds. I have to stock up on their favorite feeds tomorrow, mostly sunflower seeds. 

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amiablePeace77 OP Sunday

@PetiteSouris

You suffered a great loss, hugs, and it's only normal to experience this time which you might have spent many years together with your dad as difficult now that he left. 💙 Remember that 7cups is open 24/7 also during the holidays.

Nice that you support the cats and birds, they might have a hard time finding food.

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soulsings Sunday

@PetiteSouris I am sorry for the loss of your dad. Losing a parent is so difficult. Both of mine have passed. I had to reinvent myself. 

Good that you are taking care of the birds!

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