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Soooooo what I've been learning (To my GREAT irritation.) is that everything everyone does everywhere all the time is OUR responsibility alone because WE are the only ones in our mind creating our reality. *explodes with rage* There is good news though...
And that is COOKIES!
Just kidding.
Well. Sort of.
The good news is that because the responsibility is ours, so is our ability to control the situation and create what we desire.
There is bad news though...it means taking time and having the courage and patience to sit long enough in those thoughts and beliefs that are causing us stress with enough deep stillness until the truth rises to the surface...until our volcano of chaos becomes a calm pond that reflects the clearest way.
Now this doesn't mean stop eating cookies.
It just means leaning into the inherent strength, courage and wisdom within you to refuse to be held by the past any longer!
And arguably, yes, perhaps a mild sugar coma every once in a while.
Now! One irritating method of self inquiry or investigation is something called The Work. Www.thework.com Everything on the website is basically free - the worksheets, tons of videos and trained, experienced facilitators who will guide you through your worksheet step by step.
This method of madness goes into the mnemonic RAIN (Tara Brach is the originator) which stands for Recognize or Realize what's happening, Allow or Accept it, Inquire or Investigate it with deep stillness, self reflection and courage and Nourish or Nurture, where the healing action takes place, naturally after the other steps, the way a gentle summer rain falls on a thirsty garden. And where cookies are eaten.
And this is not easy...RAIN that is, not eating cookies because during the process there could be many extremely intense emotions brought to the surface. It is VITAL for one's wellbeing that one intentionally manages those - either with using the 4D's:
- delay
- distract
- deep breathing
- drinking water
Or other tools such as art therapy, hypnotherapy, a professional counsellor, therapist, medication (When and if needed.), hobbies and interests, breaks and rest, learning more about health, a 'dammit doll' (A plushy you throttle or slam about to safely release rage.), movement, hydration, wearing comfy shoes, etc..
What matters is you KNOW you're done with the bs and you KNOW you can overcome what's happening and you NO longer accept being tossed around by the same situation over and over without grabbing it by the horns and looking it in the eye and saying NOPE!
That's a little intense perhaps...let's change that to 'without grabbing some cookies and milk and listening to some tunes.' Mmmyes.
What was I talking about. Oh yes! So, remember, these things don't change overnight; it's a skill we are not taught by our parents, caregivers or education system. Our old habits have worn deep ruts in our minds. And like any skill or new endeavour it takes discipline and practice, patience and perseverance to master.
My communication skills are complete twaddle so I apologize as this all made such little sense. I hope it helped somewhat though so please share any feedback or questions on the above ramblings and I'll be happy to take that into consideration.
In conclusion, cookies are great.
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