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persistentFarm8730
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PathStep 10 Compassion hearts47 Forum posts15 Forum upvotes27 Current upvotes27 Age GroupAdult Last activeMarch, 2023 Member sinceMarch 14, 2023
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Hello there, I am here to provide a listening ear for those who need it. I understand how challenging it can be to go through difficult times, and I want to offer a safe and non-judgmental space where you can freely express yourself.

As someone who is also going through a tough time, I know how overwhelming and isolating it can feel. But please know that you're not alone. Together, we can support each other and navigate through life's challenges.

So please, don't hesitate to reach out to me. Whether you want to talk, vent, or just have someone listen, I am here for you. Let's journey through the hardest times together and come out stronger on the other side.





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~Fear of being alone~
Relationship Stress / by persistentFarm8730
Last post
 March 24th, 2023
...See more Hey, I just wanted to share what's been on my mind lately. I've always been the type of girl who's only had crushes, and my fear of betrayal, attachment issues, and low self-esteem have always kept me away from being in a real relationship. However, I got married in my late 20s. He's the first ever person I grew mentally, emotionally, and physically attached to over time. Eventually, I learned to love him, but our relationship became toxic, and now we're separated. The thing is, I love the idea of being in a relationship and having someone by my side. But now that it's ending, I'm finding it hard to accept that I'll be alone again. However, I know that letting go of him is the best thing for both of us since we're not compatible and he's not happy with me. The problem is, I'm worried that I won't find love easily in the future because I'm a reserved person. While some people find me friendly, it's never easy for me to open up and let someone into my heart. I keep having these negative thoughts about dying alone, and they're really eating me up inside.
In dilemma, Need suggestions
35 & Over Community / by persistentFarm8730
Last post
 April 16th, 2023
...See more Despite my attempts to reconcile with my husband after a month of separation, he's still holding onto the hurt from when I hurt him during the first eight months of our marriage. when he became abusive to me during our second year, he blamed me for his actions. While I've asked to start anew, he feels I didn't live up to his expectations and wasn't the partner he desired but he could try to forget the wounds we caused to each other. He's committed to our marriage, which is why he can't make a decision to end it. If you were engaged he would end it without giving it a second thought. He feels I didn't love him enough and gave him no peace of mind throughout our two years of marriage. However, he's also suffering from our separation, and the only positive thing he sees in me is my ability to take care of him. I'm unsure whether to walk away or try to reconcile again. I suggested couples therapy, but he thinks there's nothing wrong with him, and I should seek help alone if necessary.
Seperation depression
Depression Support / by persistentFarm8730
Last post
 March 17th, 2023
...See more Going through divorce or separation can leave you feeling like there's an endless void within you, as if a part of you has died. This can make it incredibly difficult to navigate through the thousands of emotions that come with it, and each day can feel excruciatingly long. Personally, I am currently going through a separation after being married for two years. Our marriage was rocky from the start, but I had hoped we could work things out, although I was wrong. My husband was the first person I had ever emotionally, mentally, and physically attached myself to. Even though my brain recognizes that it is probably best for both of us to end things, my heart longs to start fresh, to erase the wounds we have inflicted upon each other, and to remarry, as our best selves. Unfortunately, I know this is not feasible, as my husband cannot let go of the past or his ego. I realize that a healthy marriage cannot be conditional. After he made me leave him from the USA to my home country, I immediately started a part-time night job remotely to help myself find stability. These five hours at night are the only times I can function somewhat better,although I still have mental breakdowns during my work schedule every now and then. Going through this time is so painful and emotionally draining. I fear that I will never find love again, and the thought of being alone forever is overwhelming. I Don't know what the future holds for me. I know my husband thinks I am unworthy of him or his love and that he cannot love me for who I am. And it freaking hurts. Divorce or separation is undoubtedly one of the most challenging life events one can experience, and it is not something that can be fully understood until it happens to you. It can lead to a deep depression that can be difficult to overcome.
~Painful Seperation~
Relationship Stress / by persistentFarm8730
Last post
 March 23rd, 2023
...See more Experiencing divorce or separation can create an endless void within oneself, leaving one feeling as though a part of them has died. The emotions that come with it can be difficult to navigate through, and each day can seem like a never-ending struggle. Personally, I am currently going through a separation after being married for two years. Despite the bumps in our relationship, I had hoped to work things out. However, my brain acknowledges that it is probably best for both of us to end things. Nevertheless, my heart yearns to erase the wounds we caused each other and start anew, as our best selves.Sadly, this is not a possibility, as my husband cannot let go of the past or his ego. I have taken up a part-time night job remotely to help me cope and find stability, but it still feels like an uphill battle. The experience is incredibly painful and emotionally draining, and it is hard to imagine ever finding love again. I fear being alone forever or what the future holds for me. My husband thinks I am unworthy of his love because I am not the person he expects me to be. He can't love me for the way I am. It freaking hurts. Divorce or separation is one of the toughest life events that one can go through, and it is not something that can be fully understood until experienced personally.
Wanna vent.
Relationship Stress / by persistentFarm8730
Last post
 March 16th, 2023
...See more Dealing with seperation is taking a toll on meI didn't really choose to leave my husband, he made me do it. At first, I was really angry about it, but as time went on, I started to feel less frustrated and angry. He wanted me to change to meet his expectations so that he could love me, it was a career choice but it was something I wasn't good at and didn't enjoy. I tried to make things better, i tried to reconcile, i suggested him marriage therapy but he made it difficult by adding a condition that I couldn't meet, he rejected to go on therapy together. I tried my best to learn what he wanted, but I didn't make much progress and I learned slowly. He was abusive to me in the last year of our marriage. I don't think a marriage can work if there are conditions attached to it. I'm not sure what to do because I know my marriage was toxic and abusive, but I'm scared to get a divorce because I don't want to be alone and I'm not sure what will happen in the future. I know i had my enough shares of mistakes in our marriage. But i really did try in our last year of marriage. I even tolerated verbal,emotional abuse for the sake of marriage and for hurting him during our fights in our first year of marriage.
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