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It can sometimes be difficult to find support from family members, friends, or like minded people. While you might have a best friend or a support system and network such as groups on social media, you might want to seek support without any social interaction.

Our listeners provide emotional support through active listening. Active listening helps process your emotional distress. The following page can be filtered to seek listeners who provide long-term help and support. You can also browse listeners according to your preferred language as well as for different topics amongst other filters.

7 Cups is a chat site/app that has different options to find a good listener. You can meet new people and text chat with other individuals going through tough times - you are not alone! Everyone goes through a hard time at some point in their lives and we are here for you. Whether you are facing relationship problems, panic attacks, struggling with substance abuse, loneliness, depression, anxiety, or any other mental health issue, our site/app is a safe space based on confidential, anonymous support.

A good idea is to consider what form of support you would like in the first place - we have plenty of options to explore and one of the best ways is to give them a try to find out what works for you. We understand that different people have different needs and preferences. All these support services are appropriate for different situations.

This page can help you seek a trained active listener to talk to through 1-on-1 conversations. These listeners come from different walks of life and all are ready to offer a compassionate listening ear to people who would like to talk to someone else. You can select their username to view their detailed profile page with their shared bio and other information such as whether they have lived experience of mental health conditions or topics, their reviews, as well as their training and other badges. While our listeners do not provide direct advice, their support can help you vent your feelings and concerns in a safe space and you can work together to figure out healthy coping tools.

Listener conversations can vary in duration according to your listener's and your personal availability. Some listeners have the option to schedule chats with them in advance. You can always browse for listeners and leave them a message so that they can get back to you with their availability.

There are several other ways you can find someone to talk to at 7 Cups. These include the group chats and subcommunities. We are glad you are taking the first step towards support!

Our group chat rooms are online chat rooms that serve as different support groups where you can send text messages 24/7. We are a global community with people from all over the world. Some chat rooms include the Sharing Circle room, which is a non-judgemental safe space based on the traditions of AA and similar support groups. This space can prove helpful if you need a group of people to talk to who can listen and get to know you over a long time. Sharing your feelings and experiences as well as listening to those of others can help feel supported. You can expand your support network and make online supportive friends and connections!

On the other hand, if you would like to interact with people and talk to someone over forums, we have dedicated subcommunities for over 45+ topics covering a wide range of mental illness support topics through various sub-forums. Our subcommunities provide support, awareness, events, as well as opportunities to participate in light-hearted icebreakers.

Apart from the above mentioned mental health services at 7 Cups, we have affordable therapy options allowing you to seek online therapy for mental health problems with an online therapist, licensed psychologist, and other mental health professionals. This support is affordable as compared to other online and offline services or other options like support through insurance companies. Therapists are also available to talk to throughout the week on working days.

While our community can help support you after you have lost someone else to suicide, 7 Cups is not to be used in the state of active/passive suicidal thoughts - for such cases, please visit helpful resources such as the Samaritans or National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. For a complete list of helpful resources, click here.

If you would like to gain further insight and helpful information about different mental health topics, you can visit our Community Questions and Answers pages, or read our Expert Mental Health News and Advice articles. Other main features you can explore include our self-help guides and growth paths based on treatment protocols available for free!

The bottom line is, you are never alone - 7 Cups is a community aiming to provide compassion on a global scale. There are various ways to talk to someone at 7 Cups. These include 1-on-1 conversations based on active listening and support through trained listeners, group chats with support discussions and Sharing Circles, and the subcommunity forums. Other features that you may find helpful include the growth paths, community questions and answers, as well as expert advice sections.

HopieRemi
L Epitome 19 5561
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To Listeners, I do not do random casual conversations. You can message me for 7cups related questions and mentoring. I reply to PMs as soon as I can.  If messaging, let me know if you are seeking peer support, mentoring, or chat support. I can also edit Forum Posts. To Members:  I have been honored to be a listener since June 2016.  Time boundaries and personal boundaries are important for me as I do not talk about myself or use this for support and I have limited time. I do not offer advice as that can be harmful to you. I am able to support any topic outside of sext, active suicidal ideation, or homicidal ideas. If you feel like you're in crisis (Suicidal, homicidal, self-harming), please check out this helpful resource [https://www.7cups.com/crisis/].  I mostly offer support in the group room as a Moderator and the forums as a Community Mentor. I do accept chats on Fridays and Saturdays, if it is a topic I support. If you are contacting me, please let me know in a few words what our conversation will be about. If you need immediate support, I recommend you browse [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/] for a listener who is online. If you have been referred to me, please send me a message and let me know you are a referral. By the way, my favorite color is Blue. What's yours?
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SirenOfSerenity
L Epitome 19 2228
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Listens toTeens & Over 18 Last activein last week
🚫⚠️ Topics I don't prefer are: Sexual Topics, Relalationship Stress/Breakups, Depression, Abuse, Self Harm, Addiction, PTSD or Casual Chats.  I lack personal experience with Depression, Abuse, Self Harm, Addiction, OCD, ADHD, BPD and PTSD. * My chat availability is 30 minutes to 1 hour maximum * You can view the topics I accept in my profile's "Categories" section 🪷  For Family Stress, I'm an only child with no siblings and I'm not a parent yet. So although I may have no relatable suggestions, I'm willing to listen 🩷 ------------------------- Pronouns: She/Her, Age: 29, Eastern Standard Time Zone 🇺🇲  You can call me Siren or Serenity 🪔 I am of Light, because I have experienced and gained wisdom from my "dark". You too, can shine your way through your darkness 🌤  ------------------------- 💌 3 Facts About Me: Originally from the Caribbean Islands 🌴 my zodiac sign is Taurus ♉️ sun with a Cancer ♋️ moon and my personality type is INFJ-A 🌙✨️
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KindnessMatters2020
L Pinnacle 16 6595
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Sometimes you just need someone to talk to about something difficult, sad, frustrating, or emotionally-charged. I am happy to just listen or to help brainstorm solutions.  Besides being a verified active listener, my other roles here include: -Quality Mentor -Listener Coaching Team Mentor Leader -Safety Patrol Outreach Team -Verifier for Verified Listener Team
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JustSophia
L Sage 6 2336
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I am currently on a self-care break. If you message me, please do not expect a response. I will update this message when I return. I'm an older woman (she/her) with lots of compassion, and I'm comfortable talking about a variety of mental health issues.  I've been through a lot with my own bipolar disorder so I can offer real empathy.  Please note:  I will not tolerate explicit or inappropriate sex talk. Green status indicator = Available to chat.  Orange status indicator = Online but busy. I will respond as soon as I can.  Red status indicator = I am unavailable but you are welcome to leave me a message.  "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."  - Thomas Edison
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blissart
L Epitome 8 5928
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Listens toTeens & Over 18 Last activein last week
Personal request - i dont take  LGBTQ issues .I chat for a maximum of 60 minutes at a time to make sure my focus is solely on you .  Please be aware I will not offer you any advice on your situation or tell you what you should do. Instead I will listen to you with understanding and support you to open up about how you are feeling in a safe and supportive environment. Pls dont substitute this with therapy or counselling
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EvelyneRose
L Epitome 18 1285
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Hello! I chose the picture of an apple because it represents to me growth and potential. The apple can grow to become the best apple it can be. I think we all have potential, and I also believe that most people are not solely good or bad- we are a combination of light and dark. That's just human nature. I've been here since 2013, and I am now in my 30s. I have always been told I'm a good listener and person to come to. People have come to me years after talking to them because they remembered I was someone to confide in. I like to think of myself as open minded, non judgmental, and compassionate. I try to be honest, but tactfully so. I find the best people in my life are those that tell me what I need to hear, not what I want to hear, and that is something I practice with others. I hope to be here for you, and I will cheerlead you on. I cannot give advice, but I will be a support for you. I take casual chats, so even if you're just bored or need someone to talk to and don't have a pressing issue, I am happy to talk to you.  My strengths lie in the subjects I have listed on my profile, so I will not be the best fit for everyone (and that is okay!). I hope everyone can get the help they need from whoever it is, even if it's not me. If I cannot help you, I will let you know and try to connect you with someone that can. I do the best with chats that can be asynchronous, as my schedule varies and I don't want to promise I can sit down for a real time chat if I cannot. That is unfair to both of us time wise, and time is a precious thing. Updated March 23, 2023 I have joined the admin team as a Quality Specialist for the volunteer community. I am still involved in all the things below, but as I am now involved widely across the site in different ways, if you need to know who to talk to regarding any of the below activities, please PM me and I will direct you to who you should talk to, whether it be me or someone else. If you have questions about anything Quality related, please PM me!
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kindheartedLily
L Connoisseur 10 757
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✨Unfortunately, I'm unavailable to take on new member chats✨ If you need support, please reach out to another listener by clicking here to browse listeners [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/]. Please note that it may take me a few days to respond to messages. I appreciate your patience and understanding in advance 💙 Hi and welcome! I'm so glad you're here💙 I'm a verified and trained active listener on 7 Cups who is here to listen and offer support. As someone who has struggled with their own mental health, I understand the value of having someone to talk to during tough times. I use my education, along with my own lived experience, to support and guide others on their journey. I'm here to listen with zero judgment. You are not alone 💜  🔶 My roles on 7 Cups🔶 Lead Team Leader of the Listener Coaching Team Quality Mentor Adult-Teen Listener Coach Chat Support Safety Patrol Team Teen Transition Mentor Adult-Teen Listener Verified Listeners Team  Team Lightship **This is a great tool to convert GMT to your time zone: https://greenwichmeantime.com/time-gadgets/time-zone-converter/ [https://greenwichmeantime.com/time-gadgets/time-zone-converter/] ------------------------- Status Green: This means I am online and available to start a conversation. Please don't hesitate to reach out and message me.   Orange: This means I'm online but am busy talking with other members and am unable to take more chats. You are more than welcome to send me a message and I will respond as soon as I can. Red: This means I'm offline. Please don't hesitate to message me and I will respond when I am back online. 
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AnnaSilverberg
L Exemplar 4 4358
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🔔Currently not accepting member chats unless referred🔔 💙 Please find another listener: here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/] 💙   .·:*¨Hay¨*:·.  ₓ˚. ୭ ˚○◦*˚There˚*◦○˚ ୧ .˚ₓ ✨ I am Anna ✨ 💙 A Verified Listener here on 7Cups 💙 • ───── • ✧ • ───── • 𖥸 • ───── • ✧ • ───── •  ✨💙✨ We all have a history, different stories and experiences. 🌿 💚I’m here to provide support and listen💚  I don’t give advice because that's not what I'm here to do  But getting advice from others isn’t what we truly need  ⭐️We talk, that is the path to our own solution ⭐️ 🌿 〰 Healing isn’t linear 〰 🌿 Small steps are just as important as big ones. I believe that no matter how often we fall, the important thing is to get up again.  🌞 Never stop healing 🌞 ✨💙✨ ✨  •··•··• •··•··• •··•··• •··•··• • ───── • 𖥸 • ───── • •··•··• •··•··• •··•··• •··•··• My Status here at 7Cups: Ambassador - New Listener & Quality Mentor Team ATL (Adult Teen Listener) Chat Room Mentor Chat Room Moderator - Global Chat Support Peer Supporter Smile Spreader Quality Mentor (Adult & Teen) Quality Mentor Leader for:  Anonymous Evaluations & Listener Coaching Team 🔆  I'm also a graduate from the: 🎓 Quality Listening Program  Leadership Development Program - With honors Group Development Program - With honors  ✧ ⋆ ───── ⋆ ───── ⋆☆⋅✧⋅☆⋆ ───── ⋆ ───── ⋆ ✧  Silly badges acquired in chatrooms for fun: Knower of Fonts * Glitter Spreader * * Busy Bee ✧ •············• ♡ •············•.✧.•············• ♡ •············• ✧  💖 Twin Brian 💖 🚀 @Jenna 🚀 ✧ • ───── • 𖥸 • ───── • ✧ ✨ Listener Twin ✨ 🌈 @YourCaringConfidant 💚 ✧ • ───── • 𖥸 • ───── • ✧ 💠Kindness Twin💠 💎 @Kristynsmama 💜 ✧ •············• ♡ •············•.✧.•············• ♡ •············• ✧  Chats I’m comfortable with: ADHD, Anxiety, Autism Disorder Chronic Pain, Domestic Violence Family Stress, Financial Stress General Mental Health Getting Unstuck, Managing Emotions Obsessive Compulsive Disorder PTSD – Trauma, Self-Esteem,  Work Stress 💙 🚫Chats that I don't take for personal reasons/lack of knowledge:🚫 .Loneliness. .Men's Issues. .Life threatening illnesses. .Grief. .Relationship Stress. ✧*⠈⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠂⠁⠈⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠂⠁⠈⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁*✧ ✦⋆☽ ⠁⠈⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠂⠁⠈⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂⠄⠄⠂⠁⠁⠂☾ ⋆✦ My chats are ⏰ one hour ⏰ long. They can also be offline chats, depending on agreement.  🔔Green: I'm online, feel free to send me a message.  🔕Orange: I am busy, but there's a chance I might be able to reply. 📭Red: I'm offline. Replies can vary, but I do my best to reply as soon as possible.   ·✦•············•✦•·············•✦ ·˚°◦❤◦°˚· ✦•·············•✦•············•✦· 
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Sunisshiningandsoareyou
L Epitome 6 4344
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Listens toOver 18 Last activein last week
(Updated, current month 2024) ❤️ *on a break* ❤️  ------------------------- Response Time/ PM-land access:  🌻 Members:  New Member Chats: I'm completely unavailable for new members. (Members I've never talked to before whether new or old on cups)  Regular/ Recurring/ Old Member Chats: People I've talked to/ supported over a committed time frame, I love to hear updates from you, and am happy to see your messages. But please know that I'm unavailable for LIVE chats and can only reply offline, when I'm able to. (Responses may be several days delayed) So whether you're a new member or someone I've talked to before, if you need Live/ Immediate/ Urgent/ Regular/ Long-term support chat, please reach out to another available listener in cups.  You deserve prompt support, which I cannot offer, for an unforeseeable time! ❤ 🌻 Listeners:  I'm available for Peer Support and Chat Support only when I've accepted your request either through Chat Support/ Peer Supporter request forms or in the LSR, so please before messaging me for any of it, ask me in the room, as otherwise I may not be available to respond timely! Mentees/ Coachees: I'm so proud of you for trying your best to improve as a listener, and happy to hear any updates from you!  I'm typically unavailable for Live chats, and offline responses may vary, feel free to drop your questions though, if not too urgent, and I'll respond as soon as possible! If you need a live chat, let me know a little in advance, mentioning the topic for the chat/ kind of support needed, your time/ availability in ET pr cups-time and hopefully, we can schedule for a live chat sometime!  Not available for any personal chats/ PMs unless stated/ agreed to otherwise. (Due to a high influx of messages, I'm unable to prioritize replying to messages with just a "hey/hi/ greeting", thank you for greeting me, but please do share a bit about "what" you're reaching out for, whether as a listener or a member, as it helps me understand how to respond better and faster. Messages with only "hey/ hi/ greetings" are missed often.)  I'll be around, in the forums and chatrooms when I can though, feel welcome to tag me in your posts or replies, happy to see you! 🥰 I've sadly not been getting notifications for all the tags lately, apologies if missed your tag. Feel free to send another tag or a personal message, if needed.  (I know) Extremely slow response rate: I'm on a break from several activities/roles here, but have been catching up with PMs and tags as much as possible. Responses will be slow and delayed, your patience is appreciated. Send a follow-up, if I missed your important message or if you need an urgent reply. <3 Support shouldn't be delayed, so I highly recommend browsing for other listeners when you need some emotional support. Please remember you are awesome and not alone here. ❤ Stay great and take good care, everyone.   Response time for all my current (regular) members/ listeners (and mentees) would vary as I am not logging in here regularly as earlier, I apologize if messages are delayed.  Send a follow-up, if needed. Thank you for understanding, YOU do come first and there's plenty of support available at all times, please do find an amazing currently active listener  HERE [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/], and I hope you receive the best support available! 💖 ------------------------- Hello, Amazing Human, Welcoming hugs and high fives and cookies for you! (Take what you need hehe) I am Sun, Thank you for finding me here, I understand life isn't always smooth sailing, we all have our ups and downs. I know I won't be able to solve all your problems, but problems shared are problems halved, right? Or even if not halved, I do feel sharing can help reduce the burden of overwhelming thoughts and feelings in your mind ~ your mind is not a notepad, it shouldn't be a place to "store" thoughts and feelings ~ share away, your mind deserves to feel lighter and better and so do *you* ... Besides being a trained verified listener here, I can offer you a kind, empathetic and non-judgmental ear and help you guide through these dark times. Feel free to Talk/ Share/ Vent and I'll be more than happy to listen to you, provide you with a safe and comfortable space and help you feel better in any way I can. Please do keep in mind that I can't and won't advise you, I can help you guide through the roads, but the steering wheel will always be in your hand and the direction to choose will always be your decision solely since you know your journey and your destination, the best. Rest assured, you've got your passenger seat covered for any support and encouragement always!  I am a persun who believes in the power of sharing smiles, happiness, kindness, encouragement, hope and positivity And I would love to share these with you too if you allow me to (always at your pace and comfort of course).🌻 I am pretty respectful and polite to everyone and personally do not use any offensive language including any kind of passive-aggressive/ provoking remarks, so would certainly expect and appreciate the same from you. Everyone deserves basic respect and decency! 💛  People looking for inappropriate sexual chats and/ or interested in making any sexual advances towards me~ this is an emotional support platform ~ and we do *not* entertain such kinds of conversations here. Please refrain from sending any messages, if you're here for any reason other than seeking emotional support, thankyou. I don't take chats on topics such as chronic pain, panic attacks, sexual health and self-harm. Feel free to browse other amazing listeners for these topics and those not listed under "categories" HERE [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/]. ❤  💛If you are currently having crisis thoughts (active or passive, or actively harming yourself) *offers hugs*, I know how terrible it can be to be in this hopeless situation, please however respect our boundaries as a listener, our limits and that 7 cups is not a crisis platform, we do care and therefore ask you to reach out to relevant channels of support. You can find resources here:-  7cups.com/crisis, please do connect with a hotline. You may not believe it at the moment, but you are *not* unworthy of living, you are not taking space unnecessarily, you are not your current situation neither your current thoughts. Nobody exactly knows, but we gotta keep hanging on tightly, to see for ourselves when and how it gets better because it does, *someday* and you need to be here to experience it.  Brave it in this very moment, reach out for help. You owe it to *yourself*. 💛 The topics I am comfortable providing support for include general mental health struggles, getting unstuck, managing emotions, student life-related topics, friendship/ relationship/ family stress, social anxiety, self-esteem issues etc. and more are listed below, under categories! Feel free to send a message if you see me online (green status) and I will get back to you as soon as I can, we can then schedule a time and day for a chat or agree upon offline messaging, whichever is more comfortable and suitable for us. 🤗 At Last, remember that you are not alone, your mental health is important, you are a brave person to seek support,  you are here and I am proud of you for that.  If you give me a chance I'll try my best to be there for you, to be there with you and remind you that even if the clouds appear to be very dark at any point in time,  the Sun Is Shining And So Are Youuuu. 🌻🌞🌻 You are one Amazing human, you are important, you matter and You are deserving of kindness, happiness, support, love and all things amazing in life! It's cool to be kind, people!🤗 Have an amazing day/ night ahead! ------------------------- MY ROLES @7 CUPS- The most important and my favourite one is to provide everyone with a  friendly, supportive,  inclusive and cheerful environment along with sharing some cookies and hugs. 🥰 🍪🌻🤗 # Trained and Verified Listener to provide quality listening to members  # Safety Patrol  (profile flagging ) Team member to try and keep the community safe for all.  # Peer Supporter (for listeners needing support after a hard or triggering chat  or in general not feeling good about their listener role and needing a space to vent about "mild" site-related issues)  # Chat Support  (I can provide support with ongoing chats to listeners)  # Listener's Verifiers Team member  (I take mock chats for listeners under the verification process)  Want to get verified? Check here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ListenerVerificationProject_1839/NewAdditionalCriteriaToBecomeVerifiedListenerGoingLive_230276/] or feel free to message me for more information.  #Quality Mentor  #Listener Coach  # Global community mentor and forum supporter ( Needs Reply Team ) #Listener Chatroom Supporter  #Doorkeeper (feel free to message me if you'd like to open / close rooms)  #Ocassional- Events, Pop up discussions, listener events and safety support sessions Host  # Advisor/ Helper for the Peer Appreciation Program. Click the button below to appreciate yourself or a peer In the community  Peer Appreciation Form [https://forms.gle/hfwDBA8dTaP6bhta9] Join our team by clicking the following button: Smile Spreader [https://forms.gle/rgPfNwytBgJRChp7A] #7 cups Internship,  Leadership Development Program, Group Leadership Dynamics,  Building Community Program and the Content Development and Marketing program's graduate. ~ proud 7 Cups Academy Alumni hehe!  ------------------------- THANK YOU FOR READING, FEEL FREE TO SEND A TEXT ANYTIME, I'D LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU  SOON!  STAY AWESOME, STAY HYDRATED  and TAKE CARE! 🌻❤ #ByeByeCliques, do check out this [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupModZone_168/CommunityManagersOffice_2008/WarmWelcomeEveryoneByeByeCliqueChallenge_238987/#] post for more information and to join the movement. We are a safe and inclusive place for all, and *you* do matter! 🤗
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anonhelp123
L Advanced 4 372
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Hello and welcome to my profile here on 7 cups! Embarking on this journey as a Listener was a transformative decision for me. My aim is to assist you in navigating any life challenges you may face. Here, you can truly be yourself, so take a moment to unwind and let's engage in a meaningful conversation. My professional background, characterized by navigating high-pressure environments, coupled with my own personal life experiences, has equipped me with valuable insights. A key understanding I've gained is our collective desire to live life fully and richly. While I'm here to support you, please note that I am not available for long-term member chats. I also am unable to take random incoming member chats as it wouldn't be fair to to other members and mentees who may have possibly scheduled a chat session ahead of time as well. Feel free to express whatever is weighing on your mind, relax once more, and let's begin our dialogue :) Just to ensure that you've actually read my profile and have understood the above please use this code: ]d-6+i}s*g{q*e/ and initiate the chat starting with this code. Cheers!
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daydreammemories
L Virtuoso 3 2118
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Hi ~Just a human being 🌿 On a self-care break. Response time may be slow. Thanks for your patience💙 (Currently not accepting new member chats❤️ Warm welcomes to you wonderful human, reaching my cozy corner.⛺️ Let's have a cup of tea and talk it out.🍵 Remember that you're not alone, and we will get through this together. I hope you all get the help you truly deserve, stay awesome.💚) I try to keep it respectful at all times, and I expect you to do the same, so we can create a really awesome place for you to share and feel safe. Everyone has their own unique story, and I'm honored to listen to yours.😊) ~It is in our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light. 🌠 ------------------------- I'll be there for you              When the rain starts to pour ; ) " There is still a joker roaming around the world. He will make sure that the world never rests. Whenever possible -and wherever possible - a little fool will jump out wearing long donkey ears and jingling bells. He will look deep into our eyes and ask, who are we? Where do we come from? " Jostein Gaarder, The Solitaire Mystery ♧ ------------------------- Dear fellow reader, how have you been?😊 I’ve been meaning to write this for a while now, and I finally took the courage to do so. I appreciate your patience going through my profile. We are stuck in a world with tons of problems, each and every one of us carries their own. These problems can change, but from my own personal experience, there is never a time when we don’t have any. I can relate to that as well, I know you do too. BUT, the way we approach our problems matter. That’s what helps us grow.  I know we might never recover from our pains, our bad memories are always going to be a part of us as well, although, the important part is that they get lost between the good ones. I’m not going to tell you what to do and what not to do, but to let you know that my main reason to be here is that I simply care. I want to be with you when making tough decisions, when dealing with something harsh which life threw at you. I’m not a saint or an agnel. I make mistakes and take some actions that I might end up regretting, I’m not going to judge you when you do as such. Pinky promise. ------------------------- Some things that I’ve come to learn during my life: (The list will be updated during time lol) ✨You can’t be the hero in everyone’s story. ✨You don’t need to keep everyone satisfied to feel happy. ✨Take your steps based on what feels right to you, not everyone else’s. ✨Space and time make some things better, if you’re not sure they apply to a situation, try them. ✨We all gain our initial deep motive to help us keep going in hard situations during time. Time certainly makes you a master. Take your time, and build that motive. This doesn’t mean that you will go through challenges happily, but to solely be able to get through them eventually. ✨I agree that even best friends can’t be hundred percent there for each other, I agree that us as listeners have our own issues going on as well. But I truly believe you might still find someone caring about you in silence. If you feel like troubles are there weighing on you, and it feels harsh to move on carrying those burdens, I’m here to help easing up that pain as much as I can. ------------------------- About me: 🕊️A fellow soul in my 20s, searching for the meaning of life and pursuing my passion in college.  🕊️I love learning new languages. 🕊️I’m passionate about reading, listening to music, and hiking. 🕊️I love reading mystery novels and watching movies in this genre.  🕊️Friends and Modern Family are my two comfort shows. 🕊️I'm a pretty good photographer 📷. 🕊️Green is my favorite color 💚.  🕊️I am here to at least make another fellow soul feel a bit better.  May all your days be blessed, Take care!😇 “Message in a bottle is all I can do Standing here hoping this gets to you” T.S. 😊 💕 My amazing twin listener: Ultraterrestrial ♡ My awesome twin member: CloudCola ♡
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LavenderHere
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(I've stepped away from 7cups for the forseeable future.) Thank you for visiting my profile, you're welcome to hang around and read it. You can send me a message as well. I open 7cups once in a while so I'll reply to you if I see you hanging out:) However it will be an extremely delayed response.  https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/Lavsupdatesthread_266226/?p=3 *spots a nice human* Hey there! I've dealt with a lot, and I want to let you know that if you are dealing with a lot too, you are not alone. It helps to just talk about stuff!!! Feel free to reach out and talk to someone-it helps. Please see- I am sorry if I am unavailable while you are reading this, so please talk to another listener [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/] if you want support now. Or if you want you can drop me messages and I'll reply within 48 hours. I am here for you! 💜I am now an ATL so both teens and adults can message me💜 Please note- I am generally unavailable for casual chats. 💜   💜💜Let's make it a happier place for everyone!!💜💜 Quick note- I am no longer an ambassador. For any VL related queries, please reach out to @ASilentObserver [http://7cups.com/@ASilentObserver] I can talk about most topics. Chats I am uncomfortable with- Self harm, a member under influence, parenting (like I'm uncomfortable talking about things from a parental point of view. If you want to talk about your parents, that's okay) Members- Please go through the first part of my bio before sending me a message/request (I've indicated till where). If that seems like a lot you can simply read the highlighted and underlined portions I chat for not more than 45 minutes at a time. I am here to listen compassionately and without judgement. The chat will be confidential.💜💜 I can talk about all topics except self harm and parenting. (You can talk about your parents, but not about your kids please).💜 I am uncomfortable chatting about self harm (due to personal reasons) If you want to talk about it please contact another listener. Also if you are thinking about doing it now then please contact a crisis resource 7cups.com/crisis [https://www.7cups.com/7cups.com/crisis] I am uncomfortable talking to members who are under the influence (of alcohol or any other narcotic substance) I am comfortable chatting with neurodiverse members and DID/OSDD systems. I do take chats about sexual assault, PTSD and LGBTQ+ issues💜💜 I do take chats on sexual health (but I am very selective here). Please don't ask me to control your urges or for any inappropriate "help". Please keep in mind that this website is for emotional support, and I would appreciate it if you can be respectful and considerate. I may be unfamiliar with some of the topics you may want to talk about, but I can read up on them during the chat or in-between chat sessions...since sadly I can't know everything (though I wish I did). However if I didn't mention a topic, I am comfortable talking about it. My triggers- Self-harm (and related descriptions). For all members- before reaching out to chat, please check my status- Red(offline)- I am offline and not replying. However you can still drop messages and I will get back to you later. Response time 48 hours Green(online)- I am online, free and open to your chat requests… Orange(Busy)- I am here but I already am talking to too many people here or busy somewhere on 7cups so I am unable to give you the attention you deserve. I recommend you to look for another listener by clicking here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/].... Response time 3-4 hours max.  Note for all members Please note that if I am in the chatrooms and my status is offline, that means I am not currently available for chatting in the PMs.(Usually it means I am about to log out soon and therefore can't chat). In that case you can send me a PM and I'll get back to you in 48h. I do care about you a lot because you are an awesome person...I'll do my best to support you!! If I am unable to do so for any reason, please feel free to reach out to another amazing listener here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/]. You may not be comfortable with me, and I totally respect that and want you to get the best help possible. My PMs are a safe space where you can talk about things, and I am here for you. I care for you all💜💜 I have been facing memory difficulties (due to dissociation), so I may not always remember details about what you tell me, or sometimes I might lose track of what you are talking about. I sometimes might also miss out on tags or messages for the same reason, in which case you are very welcome to follow up with me or tag me again within 2-3 days. Please bear with me on that, and remember that I am here for you, and I am trying my best. My sincerest apologies for the same. Also I'm slow to reply to tags so if it's urgent, message me the link to the post as well💜 *💜sends lots of love for you💜* Please note that I do not check in regularly (since I find it hard to keep track of that), so my listening style is more like you can peek in anytime you need support. Members whom I've spoken to before are welcome to drop a message when they need support as well💜.  Important note- I am a trained listener but I am not a professional therapist so I will be unable to give you advice and/or therapy-like support. You can still drop me a message if you want to talk about what you're struggling with, I'll be here to listen to you. If you are looking for professional therapy (paid) here at 7Cups and you are an adult then please click here [https://www.7cups.com/online-therapy/?ob=1] Unfortunately 7Cups doesn't offer therapy for teens but I hope you get the support you need and deserve. Please note- I am unavailable for casual chats with anyone- be it listeners, members or friends due to time commitments. If you want to talk to me, poke my PMs anytime and I'll surely get back to you!! *💜sending comfy vibes💜* If you are willing to live chat with me, but can't spot me online, please drop me a message so we can discuss availabilities and schedule a chat. Looking forward to speaking to you! Please go through the part of my profile above this before sending me a request!   Some Quick resources for emergencies Crisis link here [http://7cups.com/crisis] or you can chat anonymously for crisis support here [https://nycwell.cityofnewyork.us/en/get-help-now/chat-with-a-counselor-now/]. For Self harm urges, alternatives here [http://7cups.com/forum/SelfHarmRecovery_65/InformationandResources_1079/DistractionsandAlternativeCopingStrategies_221562/] For panic attacks- here are grounding techniques [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/TraumaRecoveryResources_481/GroundingWhenTriggered_42512/], more grounding techniques [https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-article/grounding-techniques-article], breathing exercises (Youtube [https://youtu.be/vXZ5l7G6T2I] or Gif [https://i.imgur.com/bg6J9md.gif]) and muscle relaxation [https://youtu.be/I0wVZIxoe-Q]  A little bit about me ;) If you have lots of extra time, then maybe you may want to read my full bio- You could call me Lavender but everyone just calls me Lav. Some people like to call me cool nicknames like Little Lav, Lave, Lavy, Lavvie, Law(?), Empa, or even Lab (short for laboratory- I love lab)- so if you are too lazy to type Lavender and are bored of Lav then you can call me all that.   The lovely @courageousheart96 [http://7cups.com/@courageousheart96] dedicated an emoji to me (I'm so honoured hehe)- the lav heart💜💜 💜💜You can use pronouns they/them for me💜💜 I am an ace (asexual) and an ally for the LGBTQ+/MOGII community. I am currently a full time uni student in a STEM field (Biotech), which means time is tricky at times. But I try to be here as much as possible.  Some mental health issues that I live with are depression, PTSD, OSDD and chronic anxiety. Members please feel free to message me if you want to talk about these with a listener who has experience. Languages- I speak English, French (well I don't "speak" French well, it's kinda rusty) and I am trying to learn basic Korean. I also speak (but won't be chatting in) Hindi My trigger- self harm 💜Hugs are no longer a trigger for me💜 I said a lot already so I would prefer it if you don't come up with very personal questions (and please don't ask any personal questions for a second time). Please understand that is because I love my privacy and you should love your privacy too!  Also I run a snack-shop here at 7Cups, so there are cookies and cakes and all sorts of awesome stuff for everyone💜 As of now my primary focus is on supporting listeners on the site. Due to personal reasons it is not possible for me to be available regularly for live member support chats. I do live member chats on-and-off and I always update my bio accordingly. I am, however, always open to new members via slow pace chats. Members are always welcome to seek support from me by exchanging offline messages with a maximum response time 48 hours from my side. My favourite place on 7Cups is the PMland- so feel free to text me anytime and I'll surely get back to you within 48h. And my PMs are a spam-friendly space for all :) 💜💜 A quick note- My country shown changes from time to time, since it reflects the country I am currently in. This is to ensure transparency regarding the timezone I am in. I generally reply to all PMs within 48 hours. If I'm on a break or unable to reply timely for any reason I'll surely add that to the top of my bio. If I did not reply within this time, it does not mean I'm angry or anything, because of memory issues or technical glitches I may sometimes miss messages. My sincerest apologies for the same. So in that case please feel free to send me another message. Also response time may be a bit delayed on weekends but I'll try to ensure it's within 48 hours. 💜 You might know me from my previous username (empatheticLavender2924)- changed it since this one is simpler:) My roles here- 💜First and foremost- I am a verified listener [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/QualityProjectsVerifiedListeners_144/IWanttobeaVerifiedListener_46935/1/] which means I am someone who will try their best to listen to you. Members if you want to connect with a verified listener you can click here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=121] 💜 [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=121]I am a  [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=121]listener verifier [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ListenerVerificationProject_1839/JointheListenerVerifiersTeam_46938/1/], which means I can help other listeners here to get verified. So if you want to get verified [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/QualityProjectsVerifiedListeners_144/IWanttobeaVerifiedListener_46935/1/], or have any queries about being verified, drop me a message! I am also an ambassador for the VL team. 💜I am a Teen + Adult Quality Mentor [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/MentorsandTeenStars_1964/QualityMentorsAllyouneedtoknow_219055/] which means I can help listeners improve their listening skills. To reach out to a mentor please go to https://www.7cups.com/listener/listenerMentors.php. I am also a Listener Coach [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ListenerCoachingProgram_2057/2021ListenerCoachingTeamGeneralInfo_251726/] which means I can reach out to you if you fill the Listener Coach Request [http://bit.ly/7CupsLC] form to improve listening skills. 💜I am also a Chat supporter [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ChatSupport_101/WhatistheChatSupportbadge_227368/] so I can help listeners with ongoing chats when they are stuck. I can provide that immediate help in the listener rooms and if needed, PMs. 💜Peer Supporter [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenersOnlyForums_38/HeathersSpace_208/WhatisaPeerSupporter_15860/]- Dear listeners, if after a tough chat you need a safe space to talk, vent and process your emotions(related to the chat), please feel free to PM a peer supporter (me or anyone else here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=98]) 💜Listener Learning Discussions Host [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ListenerLearningDiscussions_1896/ListenerLearningDiscussionsTeamRecruitment_222848/]- I host listener learning discussions regularly to help listeners handle various chat topics better.  💜Safety patrol [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/SafetyPatrolTeam_1685/CallingAllVerifiedListenersApplytoJointheProfilePatrolTeam_152025/1/]- I flag profiles with an inappropriate username/profile picture/bio so feel free to send me such profiles. I have attached hyperlinks so you can find out more about each of these roles. Feel free to check those out💜 Shout-outs: 💜💜Meet my awesome lovely almost triplets!!💜💜 @Rose644 [http://7cups.com/@Rose644] -An awesome angel- You are so kind and considerate. Also I love to smell your pfp lol. *hands Rose my fav book* Enjoy oldie-land at 7cups!!  @Hope2103 [http://7cups.com/@Hope2103] - Just like your name, you are full of hope!! You were a cheerful presence on 7Cups! I miss you so much!  Rose, Hope- I am so happy to know you and meet you here!!  My listener buddies- I love to see you around here @listeningsarinn [http://7cups.com/@listeningsarinn] @Izzy274 [http://7cups.com/@Izzy274] @Jenna [http://7cups.com/@Jenna] @InternalAcceptance [http://7cups.com/@InternalAcceptance] @CommunityModEden [http://7cups.com/@CommunityModEden] @courageousheart96 [http://7cups.com/@courageousheart96] @CommunityModChristine [http://7cups.com/@CommunityModChristine] @BubblegumWings1234 [http://7cups.com/@BubblegumWings1234]  (Please ignore the order...also sadly I can name only a few people here- though I have met many many listeners here and they are awesome too- so proud of them all💜) Hope and Music Zone Quoting some of my favourite inspiring lyrics- 🎵"Whatever hurts you is gonna pass and you'll have learn from it when it comes back...You'll be doing better, doing better"- (Louis Tomlinson) 🎵"They say home is where the heart is, but my heart is wild and free"-(Passenger) 🎵"When I get older, I will be stronger, they'll call me freedom just like a wavin' flag," (K'naan) 🎵"Let your heart sweet heart be the compass of your soul and you should follow it wherever it may go! When it's all said and done you can walk instead of run 'cause no matter what you'll never be alone."- (Lady A) 🎵"If, all the time, it feels like only a deep darkness lies ahead...And even the moonlight has fallen asleep, Believe my friend That the sunshine, your smile is hidden somewhere in plain sight. Somewhere away from this chaos There's a fresh start." (Translated from Hindi, Aaftaab, The Local Train) 🎵"The sun goes down and it comes back up, the world has turned no matter what. Oh if it all goes wrong, darling just hold on" (Louis Tomlinson) 🎵"Though there's rain outside, it'll be warm and dry, the thunder and lightning won't hurt you now. So go to sleep, my love."- (Ed Sheeran, Sandman) 💜💜Here are some comfort songs for you💜💜 Comethru [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jO2viLEW-1A] (Jeremy Zucker) Sword from the Stone [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABFpMiKXz3o] (Passenger) Hello World [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=al2DFQEZl4M] (Lady A) However it comes, wherever it goes [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6TreWCNDX5M] (Passenger) Zero o clock - 00:00 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sBWesVezIrc] (BTS)- this link has English subtitles Anyway [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5HzpPl5a9EA](Noah Kahan) A gentle reminder I promise you can still make a beautiful life for yourself, even if you lost many years of it to abuse, mental illness or trauma💜  For any online friends of mine who are struggling with PTSD (or trying to heal and get better from stuff like depression) and hiding in my bio- I have a sweet analogy for you. Sometimes the weather is not good- sometimes it is sunny and sometimes cloudy and rainy. Sometimes the rain is a storm that destroys everything. The storm felt never-ending and overwhelming. However the storm has calmed down, and is not scary and risky anymore. The sunlight comes back, but all you can see is the damage from the storm (post-trauma effects). The damage looks terrible but you can't look away from it.  Here- I'll remind you- look how far you've come- you've survived the scary storm. That's amazing. There will be damage and that's totally ok. Remember you can make it through- since you survived the storms you are strong enough to slowly clean the mess and heal. That is sad as it will remind you of the storm, and the mess is huge. It takes time to clean up, but you can do this. I know you can. And to those friends of mine whose storms aren't over yet- I see you, I hear you. I know you too are doing your very best and did nothing to deserve this. It might feel like the storm will never end- it will be here forever. But the storm will be over. One day things will get better. And after that you might have to do the post-storm cleaning (or post-traumatic healing) and that is hard, but you got this. One day you'll look back on everything and be really proud of yourself- how hard you tried and how far you've come. If you feel like you are trying but tired, and scared and worried, I hear you. It is tiring to manage everything, and sometimes it is hard to talk about it. But if you want someone to be there for you- I am just one PM away. Come talk to me about it (or any other listener here). We are all here for you, and you can do it because you are amazing and brave. The end of my bio;) This bio is so long, smh so I'll stop here. Sending lots of healing beams for you, yes you amazing fairy!! You deserve love and support💜💜 Please see- I am sorry if I am unavailable while you are reading this, so please talk to another listener if you want support now. Or if you want you can drop me messages and I'll reply within 48 hours. I am here for you!! My PMs are open at all times for both members and listeners!  If you are an adult (listener or member) and can't PM me, you can tag me in a forum post anytime (by typing "@LavenderHere ") that way I'll get a notification and reply to you! Also random people lurking in my bio- you're welcome here (I spotted you hehe) *💜sends cookies💜* Also before I forget- 💜💜Congratulations on reaching the end of my bio!!!💜💜 *💜special cookies for you💜*
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