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Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 8:00am
Try and watch something interesting on tv, or rather talk about a nice topic with your friends. It really helps. You can also try to think about your passion and do something creative, Nights are the best time to do something good about yourselves.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2021 1:27am
Understandably, night time could particularly take a toll on the mind. All your doubts and sorrows that you could have been successfully ignoring throughout the day, seek your attention at night time. You feel puzzled and are unable to have answers - making the thoughts repeat themselves in your mind. It, then, is helpful to practise mindfulness towards your thoughts and feelings and look to observe and understand them from a distance, not just at night, but throughout your day. Just as a caring parent goes a distance to help bring a smile to their child's face, allow the same care to flow from you towards your mind. Get to know your mind and its needs more, its health more, and direct it towards engagements which bring it a lasting fulfillment.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2020 6:09am
Over thinking at night, means disturbed mind and poor sleep, for stopping it make some rules to self, like
1) Writing diary before sleep and try to improve situation with positive thinking.
2) Relaxing your mind and body.
3) Meditation
4) Talking with positive people and getting solution
5) Postponing thoughts on next day, like "let's see tomorrow.
6) Activity scheduling.
Know this over thinking leads to depression which is always bad for a person, and depression changes perspective towards life, So thinking is good but overthinking and per predictions are useless. so be positive and live in current time not in past or future, things are unpredictable.
Nighttime anxiety is a recognized condition. Finding some relaxing activities, like walking, reading, sketching, listening to music, can help. Also some find that smelling Lavender oil or taking Lemon Balm extract capsules can help as well. You can also try writing - take a piece of paper and write down all the words that are going through your mind. That can help your brain sort it all out. You can also try just accepting it - say to yourself "OK, you are worried about something, it's ok. I'll be with you and you can be the way you are for as long as you need to be." Then take a few deep breaths and listen to what comes back.
I spend a lot of time doing things that I like- for example: being intentional with my friends/relationships, taking time for myself, spending time outside, or just doing different things.
When I wake up in the night and my mind is racing, just like last night, there are two things that help me get back to sleep feeling better. The first is remembering the quote, "The best bridge between despair and hope is a good night's sleep" by E. Joseph Cossman. Because it's so true! How often does the thing we seem so anxious or angry about get drastically reduced in the morning after some sleep? I trust in this. Then the next thing I do is pay close attention to how it all feels physically inside of me and I turn my attention inward. Usually this puts me back to sleep fairly quickly. It takes practice, but eventually it becomes a sort of meditation; as thoughts re-enter my mind I simply move back into the physical feelings. What I've found is that initially it was a little scary- these were feelings I'd rather run from, but I did that by over thinking! Eventually I learned there is comfort and even peace by going INTO the feelings, because it's there that the whole me resides, not just the piece of me that seems so controlling in my mind.
create a bedtime routine for yourself turn off the electronics and pick up a warm beverage and good book instead
Try to distract your mind. you can read a book before going to sleep or you can watch something delightful to freshen up your mood. Then try to sleep, follow a routine like this,it will help slowly.
Hi! Overthinking is something many of us are susceptible to. It is a part of human nature and you should not feel ashamed when you do so. One possible way to overcome overthinking is to complete a relaxation ritual before sleeping. This can help to clear your mind and place you in a comfortable mindset. I personally use the free app Pzizz which has a sleep guide that takes you through the processing of drifting of and allows you to personalise the track as you would like. Try to normalise this routine as your mind will then recognise the realization ritual as a sign that deep sleep is near.
It can be hard to quiet the mind at night, but one thought to keep in mind is that it's night time and you can't do anything until the morning. Some techniques that help are deep breathing, counting sheep, visualizing yourself in your dream environment, reading a book, or even listening to soothing music.
Make sure to get an early night and help your brain relax by cutting down phone and laptop use at night, try and avoid blue light in your room, no caffeine after the evening and try not to eat too late at night. Then try and do relaxing activities like baths or reading to keep yourself in a nice frame of mind before you sleep
Anonymous
February 9th, 2020 7:33pm
In most cases, I find that people who say they are "overthinking" turn out to be "underthinking" -- that is, they tend to forget many facts that are highly relevant to the thing they're "overthinking" about, letting their worries grow to monstrous proportions with little resemblance to reality.
The best way to stop "overthinking" is to recognize it as "underthinking", then do a meditation exercise for a minute or two, or five. Get yourself grounded, outside of the things that are worrying you, and take a clear look at all the facts that might have some bearing on your difficulties.
When you have the facts in mind, practice acceptance: if you can change things, change them. If you can't, then no amount of "overthinking" will do you any good, so add that fact to the others you have pulled together, and practice letting go of the things you can't change
This is really an awkward thing to deal with but with practice it can be over ruled by having patience and learn how to focus, firstly a quiet room as possible is best and either sitting or laying down and a pair of headphones would be an advantage, think of something that really calms you normally: rainfall, gentle wind through trees etc and by using media find a suitable meditation/relaxation sound/video and play this to yourself without interruptions and concentrate on the smallest details in the sounds just imagining yourself to be there, find a sound file that's suits you! and if it works/calms you revisit that situation again and again so you end up with that being your cushion where you can lose the other thoughts behind, I find this been done when your in bed so you can just drift off.
1)Before going to sleep, write everything that is worrying you down in a journal or diary. I find this to be very helpful.
2) Another tactic is to think in a week, a month or a few years how much will the thing you'll be worrying about matter? Often it will be not at all.
3) Try to establish a routine before bed, not looking at screens etc.
Good luck xo
When I am overthinking at night, I always look up happy, inspiring and encouraging quotes. Or when that doesn't work, I get a piece of paper together with a pen and write a good page full of positive thoughts, things and/or compliments I have gotten. Or I write down all nice events that did happen already, or are soon to be happening. Things I am looking forward to. Also I tend to think about how far I have already come in life, what I already overcome and what I have achieved. Doing one of these things always helps me to stop overthinking. You should really try!
I try to have a nighttime routine, which conditions my brain to just shut up when it's time for bed. I brush my teeth, wash my face, put on some lotion (try lavender or chamomile scents to help you fall asleep/relax easier). You can also try incorporating some other soothing activities, like drinking (caffeine free!) tea, or reading a book. I also like meditation practices when I feel like my mind is just racing. I like to do breathing exercises and imagine a stream or river in my mind, and take each thought that comes into my head and placing it into the stream, like a stick that just floats away.
Over thinking at night usually means we are unable to leave behind whatever happened during the day, but there are ways to stop overthinking! Personally, I like getting into bed and taking deep breaths. I try to feel the mattress supporting my weight (in this way I'm focusing on things other than the events of my day). Other times, I focus on my breaths, in and out. Other people like to meditate before bed, and to those who like meditation, I recommend an app called Calm (it has meditation exercises snd even a section called sleep stories that are actually effective). Some others like to write down in their journals. It depends on what helps you unwind!
It is not possible to stop thinking altogether but you can gain control over the content of your thought process. If excessive thinking is getting in the way of your sleep you could try relaxation and mindfulness exercises.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2018 11:21am
Listen relaxing music that it works better for you to keep away all the thoughts you can have, sometimes read a book can help you too because will keep your mind focused in something, if you drink you can tak one drink or two to feel more relaxed and have better dreams also you can draw whatever you feel in that moment as I do when I'm feeling the axiety to do something I draw how I feel or what am I living in that moment cause when I'm done it's like I just translate what I felt and feel more comfortable with mysefl cause I just draw what I feel
Take a deep breath, and perhaps find some peaceful music on YouTube to fall asleep to.I enjoy sounds of rain, there are many options to try! Imagine pleasant things, tell yourself stories and create a world of your own in your head.
Breath deeply, and know that the next day will bring new opportunities and experiences for you to enjoy.
Let the worries, anxiety and doubt fade away into a mist, and allow yourself to peacefully drift into sleep.
Look forward to all the potential that the new day will bring, be motivated and ready to take on the world! Wishing you peaceful sleep, and wonderful dreams. :)
Anonymous
April 8th, 2022 10:05pm
There are a few tricks I would like to suggest. Go with whatever floats your boat.
1. A hot bath before bed.
2.Read few pages of books.
3. Take a small walk before sleep. 4. Avoid intoxication and digital screens.
6. Avoid heavy meal before bed.
7. Listen to soothing music (classical/binaural).
8. If you can't stop your thoughts and just keep changing your sides but can't sleep, get up and do some small task and give one more try.
9. Pray before getting into bed. Be grateful.
10. Get a professional help rather than relying on online information.
Everyone is unique because of their experiences.
I really struggle with anxiety-related insomnia. My brain wouldn't sleep but my body would, leading to sleep paralysis and night terrors. One thing I find really helps is meditation, especially ones that are designed to help you sleep. There's an app I use called Smiling Mind. It's completely free and has something like 16 different programs, including 3 for sleep. It has definitely helped me sleep better and overall my concentration and anxiety have improved. Meditation doesn't work for everyone but I hope it works for you. I find it incredibly helpful, even during the day. Hope this helps!
Routine. Our bodies and minds are responsive to doing the same thing over and over again. You must start by showing your body what to do.
First- Develop a physical routine at night and stick with it. Good examples include turning off lights where you are and putting all electronic things face down. Also something that is your favorite or a "happy" task such as drinking warm tea or watching a favorite show. Whatever it is, do it at the same time and stop it at the same time every night. This repetitive behavior will eventually be "picked up" by your body clock and signal the "winding down" for your mind.
Second - Perform repetitive mental tasks before sleep. Same idea as physical but you control your mind to do certain tasks before putting your brain to sleep. At first you will seem to have no affect. Keep at it and eventually your brain will slowly give you control, generally over several months. Being nervous about a big meeting or some other life event can disrupt this process and that is why it takes so long. Give your brain time to bow to your will and continue to will it into your desired behavior. After a long time of falling asleep at the same time and after the same thoughts your brain will get the habit and respond more easily.
If this process takes more than 6 months or if the "same thing" keeps block you from creating a routine talk to a therapist and discuss what is coming up for you.
Remember you move your mouth and you move your arms so your brain is in your command. We let it free so our feelings are allowed expression, but we decide what comes next. Find the balance of take command and keep free thinking for yourself and you will likely find joy in every day.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2020 1:01am
Do you meditate at night? Do you play special sleep music? Do you make a list BEFORE you get into bed about all the things that are bothering you, and all the to-dos on the list? We call this a brain dump. Doing a brain dump BEFORE you get into bed, and through the day can really help keep the mind clear of what if, and how about and remember to do things. Meditation also provides calm and better sleep quality. So lots of things that you can do, they all require adding the list, but it is worth it, if you do them regularly.
Anonymous
November 13th, 2019 4:09am
My personal solution to this is to have some kind of talking (radio, a podcast, familiar TV) going quietly as I'm falling asleep. Without this, my thoughts tend to run wild and keep me awake. But with the chatter in the background, something calm and quiet but that still has words/dialogue to listen to, my mind is more easily able to listen to that instead of it's own incessant chatter. Listening to something I really want to pay attention to like an audio book I've never heard before is not a good choice for me because that keeps me awake too. So it's about finding the sweet spot of holding a bit of my attention without holding too much of my attention.
I personally experienced long nights of thinking, especially when I should be sleeping. And of course, i think about the worst memories I can... shame, fooleries, how-I-should-have-react, and anticipating the worst possible things... That makes me turn on one side and the other all night long, and I get warm.
I never got to stop thinking in circles, but I have discovered that reducing my body temperature was an effective way to find sleep. Any tip to fight overwarmth is valuable : remove a layer, turn radiator down, refresh with a wet towel. My prefered is : open a window, stay 5 minutes there, hear night sounds. Then my bed is colder, and it's so much easier to fall asleep !
i have been a over thinker for almost all my life. but i have found some solution that help me. Reading a good book is a good escape. It keeps my mind occupied. or Listening to some good songs.
Drinking some warm milk along with the book is my ultimate remedy
sometimes i replay a scene from a movie or a series and imagine different senarios.
Going for a run can also be a solution for times when i don't feel lazy. When i'm tired i sleep better.
And if nothing else helps, I try to think about some pleasant experiences that made me happy
I have similar problem. But I usually do things that will distract me. Like reading novels, listening to music, and the most helpful thing is just to let it all out. Let someone listen to you, or just write your thoughts to a book or your phone's note app.
But sometimes I do more than just writing my worries. I'll also write what kind of mistake I did. And how I'm going to improve myself.
There are many things that you can do, really. Even writing song lyrics that explain your feelings might help. Or writing poet. I hope you'll find your own way of ceasing your worry!
It can be helpful to have a bedtime routine, which helps prepare your mind for sleep. Additionally, strategies like free writing or meditating before bed, can help to calm these thoughts.
Examples of an evening routine can include: taking a hot shower (physically helps you to sleep), making sure you have a tidy and organised space to sleep in, or having a calming drink. It can also help to play music that you determine to be soothing. If you stick to this routine, your mind will start associating it with sleep.
Adding journaling or meditation to this routine, can help you get all of those thoughts onto paper, before calming your mind for sleep.
This is hard, because at night your brain reflects on everything that's been on your mind for the past day. It can really cause a lot of sleepless nights. Try clearing your head by talking about everything that bothers you and if that doesn't help i'd recommend writing your thoughts down before you go to sleep. You could also try to distract yourself by reading before sleeping or falling asleep whilst listening to music or watching tv. Try not to get frustrated when you feel yourself overthinking because that will just make it harder to go to sleep, you'll get very worked up instead and that doesn't solve anything.
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