How to deal with self-harm alone?

Dealing with self harm alone can seem scary, but understand that you alone are strong! The best way to deal with it is to get to the bottom of why you’re doing it first, stop yourself and think. Remember you are worthy, you are strong and you are loved. Keeping positive is key and having faith will help you get through this. As long as you put in the effort to change, you can do it, you can deal with self harm even if you are alone. Give yourself time to heal, give yourself love and remember you were given this body, and only this body.

Do it safely and have first aid ready. Have emergency numbers and helplines in case self harm goes wrong. Try to tell someone about it in case someone can help you and feel less alone. Work out your triggers for self harm and what impacts on your thoughts and feelings. Work out the root cause of why you started. Self harm is a short term relief not a long term one so try to prepare a long term alternative or therapy/help. Some people use ice cubes, play dough, clay etc to distract from self harm thoughts and to not hurt themself

First and foremost you need to try and identify why you self-harm. What is going on in your life or has gone on in the past? What feeling build up in the lead to self harming. What feelings do you get after self-harming. If you become more aware of these things, you will then be in a better position to identify what your current coping strategy is (self-harming) how it isn't effective at removing the problem, how it causes more damage and pain. You will then be able to work through what has went on and put in place more positive coping strategies such as mindfulness. However I must add there is no harm in asking for help, support or advice.

Don't deal with it alone, it's not a good thing to go through it alone. Speak to a loved one, or someone you trust about it. They'll be there for you if they really care

Self harm is often connected to other mental health problems, like depression or borderline, so to really get to the root of the problem support from your surroundings and professional help are really helpful. However there are so called skills that help withstand the emotional pressure or tension that would otherwise be coped with by self-harm. There are skills that are more intense, others are less intense so start off by determining how intense the pressure/tension you’re experiencing is from 1-10. 1 is barely there while 10 is the point at which you lose control and turn towards self harm typically. The goal is not reach the 10 because in such a state self control is really difficult to maintain. The key is to be mindful and notice tension before it reaches this critical point at which it’s almost impossible to hold back. So to become more concrete, there are many skills you can use to lower your level of tension. Softer skills can be: drawing, solving puzzles, focusing on a game, painting your nails, taking a walk, doing a breathing exercise. Medium skills can be going for a run, taking a cold shower, letting out aggression safely by beating into a pillow or putting a fizzing vitamin tablet on your tongue that creates an intense sensation. Hard skills (that need to be used carefully in some cases) can be chewing a hot pepper or even ammonia capsules that can rip you out of very intense states of stress. Other tips are ripping paper, to safely destroy something or if you have the urge to cut use a red (soft tip!) felt pen or even red watercolor and a brush to paint the “cuts”. The same message is sent to the brain and the tension fades without you having hurt yourself! So depending on how high your starting level of tension is, you should use softer or harder skills. Work your way down the scale until you feel relaxed and safe. That can take a while sometimes but it’s worth being patient. Different skills work for different people, try different options and think of new skills yourself! It’s best to make it a habit to use them, they’ll work quicker and better that way. Good luck and take care!

we need to understand that a person who is at stage to self harm" is really needing some help to come out of negative beliefs and patterns and live a normal happy life. To harm self, a person has to be in a very negative frame of mind with low self esteem, weak will power and inability to see perspectives and delusion ed reasoning . To be aware that one needs to come out of this feelings, is a battle half won. If , for any reason, a person doesn't need professional help, and wishes for self help, there are many resources at his disposal. But most importantly , he will need to have a strong will . Self help books, volunteering for social cause, developing hobbies, reaching out to people and friends , meditation are few ways .

Make sure to get rid of the tools you use. Then distract yourself each time you feel as if you need to hurt yourself. This can be done by icing the area that you want to hurt yourself in, drawing on yourself when the urge comes, making sure you clean your marks so they don't potentially scar or get infected. make sure you don't pick at the wounds and to just leave them be. If it upsets you to look at them then cover with band aids. Put ointment on the areas if needed. Remember you are in fact loved

Dealing with self-harm alone is not recommended. But online communities can provide some help if you choose to seek help but remain anonymous. You are still dealing with your self-harm alone in your offline life. However, on an emotional level you are not entire alone. For example, 7 Cups is among the online communities. You will find a self-help guide for people living with the tendency to self-harm. Also you can post questions on the community forum and hopefully other members will provide some suggestion. In case you are in a crisis, volunteer listeners will direct you to the professionals or crisis hotlines. It depends on your comfort level.

Some ways that personally help me deal with self-harm and may help you is listening to comforting music, let yourself cry and don’t feel ashamed of it, try to tell yourself to breathe (inhale 1, 2, 3, 4, exhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) and one day it will improve and you will find your happiness. In addition you can also scream into a pillow which isn’t much use but it will make you feel better, research on how to resist the urge of self harming whether it’s drawing in your room or dancing! take care of yourself! 😊😘❤️

Though recovery is completely different for everyone, especially if the reasons for self harm are different it's possible to recover without professional help (though is can be harder). I can only provide what I know and have experienced. Firstly you'll need to know how to care for inevitable Injuries (how to keep them clean and stop bleeding etc.) this varies depending on your type of harm so is worth looking up specifically if you can To stop you'll have to understand why you harm and your feelings associated with it (whether you self harm due to sadness, to cope with pain, to see blood or others)the better you understand an issue the easier it is to find a solution. You can do this by recognising what triggers your urges when they're happening, focus on how harming makes you feel either through just paying attention or taking note. Once you understand why you harm you can begin to understand how to risk the probability of harmony yourself. This can include avoiding triggers that make you feel like harming or more essentially finding coping mechanisms to use instead of self harm. A few reccommended are :drawing on your skin to resemble an injury, flicking a band or using an ice cube yo resemble the pain or more mental techniques like distraction (going for walks, grounding exercises). Understand you will also need support to deal with the emotions you have with self harm, this can come in many forms. A journey to stop self harm can be difficult but be patient with yourself (relapse isn't uncommon) and just try to process things as often as possible, learning healthy coping and eventually leaving harm behind.

You can deal with self-harming better when you truly distract yourself from your urges. Things are harder when you try and focus on trying not to hurt yourself. Find new hobbies, meditate, listen to uplifting music, do artsy things and stay the awesome you that you are. Talking to someone who you truly trust, or even a listener on 7 Cups, might just help you. just naming the emotion you are feeling out loud to someone might make things feel better already. Most importantly love yourself and don't give up... everything which is hard now, will pay off a lot in your future.

Do some other things that will distract your mind from thinking about self- harm. On my experience I usually read novel or watch a movie or listen to lively songs whenever I have a thought that I want to harm my self so bad. I hope this will help. You can also seek for someone to talk to. We may not always have someone to talk to personally but you can just go to 7cups to talk to us, we are wholeheartedly willing to listen on your story and maybe offer something you need which is a listener and someon to talk to on that moment.

The best way to deal with self-harm alone, is don't. Find a support system. Even if its not a professional therapist. Find a friend, or a loved one, you can count on and go to when you think you may self-harm. Talk with this person, let them help you work through your emotional confusion and pain. Let them be a voice to put a different perspective on what you're going through. Sit with them in silence if nothing else, using them as a reason to not harm. Dealing with self-harm on your own is difficult, and scary. And when you fail, the results can have a devastating effect on your self-esteem and confidence. You may not be doing it to actually commit suicide, but it is easy to lose control and do something you regret when things get to tough. I have been there. I never wanted to die; I was ashamed that self-harm was the only way to deal with my emotions. The physical pain made more sense than the emotional confusion. I always did it in secret, out of shame, and passed the cuts off as cat scratches. One night, after a particularly rough week, I lost control. I disassociated and stabbed myself in the leg in front of someone. I scared them, I made them worry. More importantly, I scared myself. I tried to deal with my self-harm on my own, and I failed miserably. I hated myself at that point. That person made me get help, and I couldn't be more grateful. Please, if you are self-harming. Find someone, anyone to talk to. It could save your life.

To the ones who are self-harming … I know you are exhausted. I know you are confused and scared and that you want this to stop. I also know that you have courage, strength and a depth of feeling that is beautifully rich and honest – and that it sometimes brings you pain. As confusing and as painful as the thought of hurting yourself might be, when it feels as though there is no option, it is understandable that the confusing, unthinkable things become an option. It will be that way for any of us. Most people who self-harm keep it a secret. Secrets put a wall between people – between feeling seen, understood, loved and validated. They isolate. They have a way of breathing life into shame, guilt, confusion or loneliness that might already be causing breakage. Whether self-harm is a secret or not, here are some things you need to know. To the ones who self-harm. You are not alone. The loneliness of it all feels as though it could break you some days, but you are not alone. The people who love you want to understand, but they need your help for that. Let them in. We all have battles that we need an army to help us fight.

since i have dealt with this in the past the best way is to try to work on yourself and try to start with a hobby, start trying to accept that whoever you are, are enough and you deserve happiness as much as anyone... life can be harsh and sometimes it might feel like you are not worth the happiness but there is nothing anyone could have done to deserve that. try to start caring for yourself, you should be proud of you for trying to reach out. you have done so much for yourself. its you who wants to help you. try accepting and loving yourself.

Self harm is a serious issue which often has a lot of underlying reasons. Self harm is not something that you should deal with alone. It may not seem like it but it actually is a cry for help and you should speak to someone about it as soon as possible. All though it seems like you are in control and the effect feels like a temporary release it does not last and does not resolve the reasons that are causing you to do it. Talking to someone about it can really help. You can talk you a family member or friend or call a helpline, even speak to some one here at 7cups about it.

There are lots of people you can talk to about what you are going through. It is important to tell someone you trust and feel comfortable with, as they will be able to help and support you. Young people told us that they have been able to talk to: friends family someone at school, such as a trusted teacher, school nurse or pastoral care staff a youth worker their GP or healthcare professionals such as a counsellor or nurse charities and helplines (some of which are listed below). There are no rules about how you should tell someone. The most important thing is that you feel comfortable and trust the person you decide to tell. Set time aside to talk to them. Remember you can set the pace and it is up to you how much you want to tell them. If you find speaking about it too difficult, you can tell someone in writing or in an email. You can even ask a friend to speak to a trusted adult on your behalf. Let them know you need help with how you are feeling. There is no need to give details about how you have harmed yourself and you don’t need to talk about things you feel uncomfortable talking about. Try to focus on the thoughts and feelings behind your self-harm rather than the behaviours. If you decide to talk to a GP or other health professional, you can take a friend or family member with you to support you.

Finding safe ways to cope, some of these include temperature factors. Some of the methods I used to deal with self harm were rubbing some ice on the area, however ice was not always around, so i would carry some elastic rubber bands, those ones your mom uses to close chip bags, and i would hit myself with those to feel something. Taking a cold shower also helps, but if you are more of an artistic person i wuld most definitely recommend drawing some butterflies on the area and keep them there until the ink fades, I know it's hard, but you can do it! if you like this idea but you are not as artistic, I would draw some lines with a pen or felt tip.

I felt like I couldn't deal with it. It just kept getting worse and worse but I finally found a way. Music and sport. I right my own songs and pour my heart into them. I also did Thai boxing which really helped.

Connect with a local therapist or you’re work, school, collage\university, or you’re local suicidal hotline. If you do not like speaking up in public you might want to download a coping app or a meditation app, although this only helps some people you should definitely give it a try. If not you could take a walk and embrace the wonderful world that you’d be missing, make a meal and stick some music on and make a day out of it, walk to a famous landmark and take photos. If none of these make you happy you could simply just do some set a goal and try to do by the end of the year or month or whatever, it could be something like get slim, change my diet, give to charity, make 2 more friends, change my mood, save up for a trip, get a job. Anything at all. Just make YOU happy, but don’t be selfish thousands of people are out there for you to be loved my I mean there’s only 5% of the ocean found maybe you could find 2% more.

There are many coping mechanisms for self-harm. I wouldn’t recommend doing it alone because it is much easier with support from family and friends. However, if that is what you choose to do, there are a few things that might help. First, you should identify why you are self-harming. Some people self harm for a release, because it makes them feel better, as a distraction, because it is something they can control, to feel pain. Depending on why you self harm, there are different ways to deal with it. Some things you can try are finding something other than self harming to satisfy your urge. Some examples are walking, listening to music, doing a puzzle. Something calming or distracting, or something that releases energy. Some other suggestions are making a goal to not self harm for a certain amount of time, and keep increasing it, using ice, snapping a rubber band, tearing paper, and drawing on yourself. I hope this helps!

Someone once told me to replace your blade with a marker. Draw on yourself instead, that way the problem doesn’t permanently stay on you but it can be washed of. Use different shapes or colours for different problems and when you feel better wash it of. The idea of it is that the problem doesn’t stay on your skin permanently bug you can remove it when you are ready scars you get from a blade is often permanent so being able to wash away my problems really helped me because I felt like I was a new person after the ink was washed away.

Although I don't recommend managing most things alone, I understand that at times, that is the best scenario. Some things that I've heard can make a difference: use ice on the area you are thinking of harming (feel the sensation) , draw on the area in red (blood), put warm water (blood) on the area. Personally, I think if it's possible, write down what you're feeling or make a "template" in advance for the situation: What you feel, what you think self-harm will help you with, what other options you have than self-harm, support people/groups and how you would help someone in your situation cope (sometimes it helps to see the problem from a different perspective).

Something to do, in my experience, is to hold an ice cube. The cold feel will give you the same pain as other harm, without the worry of actually hurting yourself seriously. There are also other tricks, such as drawing on yourself with a red pen to give the illusion of blood, and using a rubber band to smack against your wrist. You could also exercise, such as doing lots of sit ups, to give that same pain feeling while also doing something productive and helpful to your body. Of course, everyone is different, but I hope this helps!

Try to reach out and not deal with self-harm alone. I know it can be scary to reach out to people, including friends or family, but it is best to include someone in your life you can talk to about this. But if you are here and stuck ask yourself, why do I want to hurt myself? What are the short term and long term outcomes of hurting myself? Do the benefits you reap when harming yourself outweigh any of the costs of the self-harm? I am unsure of your type of self-harm, but some types of self-harm can lead to infections or scarring. Do you want this moment in your life to be a reminder on your body for the rest of your life? I have some regrets when I look at my own arms and legs - though I still struggle. Know that this time will pass.

You need to realise what you are doing is unhealthy and you do need to learn new coping mechinisms. Not all coping meathods you see online will work for you but take some time to find what does work for you. It isn't easy to deal with it alone so expect some difficulty and this ultimately means there will be times where you have to resist those urges with everything you have and you might give in to these urges and relapse. This is ok. It is an addiction and is very hard to quit but it is ultimately for the good of your physical and mental health. It is ok to want to deal with it alone but if you can find someone you trust like a very close friend who might also be struggling with this as well and you guys can support each other. Good luck, I believe you can do this :)

First and foremost, I’m so sorry you’re struggling. I too have endured my own struggle with self-harm. Dealing with self-harm alone is arduous and not recommended. There is a plethora of resources available for this and many services that will allow you to discuss these things with others. I found trying to deal with this alone made it worse as I was always able to justify my actions. It wasn’t until I sought help from a mental health professional that I began to make positive strides. Being honest and open with a therapist regarding this will ensure you are provided with the best resources available that will be effective towards helping you.

There are a variety of non-violent self-harm alternatives I'd suggest. Some are about putting the urge into something beautful e.g. draw a butterfly where you want to hurt yourself. Other strategies involve safer forms of inflicting pain such as holding an ice cube in your hand. Such methods are only a google search away, I'd recommend them to anyone with the immediate urge. Should it be more of a feeling that you might hurt yourself that day, try to distract yourself and find a place to put your energy by engaging in activities you like in the creative or the movement areas. If possible contact someone and promise not to hurt yourself. This is common practice for doctors, it holds the patient accountable and it's a way to take reaponsibility off them.

Self-harm can be a really tough thing to deal with when you are alone. The thought of it and the inability to control those thoughts can be incredibly scary, when they are going through your mind. I don't think there is one good way to deal with self-harm alone, but it is you that needs to figure out what works for you. You could think of mindfulness exercise that calm you down, or getting rid of all the sadness/anger/frustration by exercising or just distracting yourself with some good old netflix. However, the most important thing when you have to deal with self-harm alone is to accept what is going on and the thought going on in your head, even though it is scary and strange.

Facing such a large issue on your own is difficult but it is not impossible. As someone who has dealt with self harm on my own, I tried to find the little things in my life that makes me happy. Sometimes I would think about how hurting myself isn't going to make anything better even if it was the only thing I could control. I began to realize that I can take control of some aspects in my life and that made me overcome this idea that self harm is the only thing that I control because at the end of the day you control your life and there is always a rainbow after the storm, you just have to be willing to wait for that storm to end to see that beautiful rainbow.