How to deal with self-harm alone?

The best idea I can share with you is to NOT deal with self-harm alone. I understand that it can be hard to trust someone else with something like this, but being alone with it only makes it worse. Sharing what is happening in any small way with someone else is a very positive step in helping you cope with it and eventually to find other alternatives. If you don't have any family or friends you trust and you can't talk to a therapist, maybe you can try to find someone online that you can talk to. That can be a safer start. We have listeners who deal with this here on 7 Cups and there is also a self-harm recovery community you can join. But while you are still alone with it, you can also try the app Calm Harm. It offers many alternatives that can help you deal with the immediate urges. But I really hope you will find someone to talk to about it. Start small. Just tell someone a small part about it and see how they react. Slowly build trust and continue talking to the people who you see are safe to talk with.

In my experience, if you show some confidence on yourself and little support from family or trust worthy friends or life partner than self-harm can be controlled effectively. One should also not lose hope as there are worse situations than the one is feeling. Like if someone father is very strict, there are many kids without the love and care of a father. And they not feel secure and protected as you are. So there are positive points for many stressful situations. If the end self-harm is not a good thing and one should search for his goal in life. And make this world a beautiful place to live.

Sometimes I have struggled with the idea of harming myself; however I am able to stop by remembering anyone who has ever loved me or given me joy. Even if you feel worthless, I promise you there is at least one person who cares. Even people on this site can be that person. Try breathing exercises or meditation. Or, if those don't appeal to you, when you feel bad, do your favorite hobby or write or draw in order to get your feelings out. I also recommend the butterfly project. Draw a butterfly somewhere on yourself and name it after someone you truly care about. Now you have to take care of the butterfly. Hurting yourself hurts the butterfly. Hopefully, one of these tricks helps you out (:

I've found what really helps is I keep a box near my bed (where my urge to self harm often starts) full of nice things-like photos of loved ones, little meaningful presents that I've been given by family and chocolate, of course. Whenever I feel the urge to hurt myself, I just delve into my self-care box. Another thing is I've since removed what I use to self harm and hide it in my kitchen cupboard (I currently live in accommodation). For me, it creates just another reason not to self-harm (i.e I have to get out of bed and into the cold kitchen)

You shouldn't. Reach out to someone you trust, or even a listener on here to get the support and help you need. Self-harm is a sign of detrimental mental health, and it's really important for it to be addressed by someone who is willing to help. There are many ways to improve urges to self-harm, but having someone you can rely on to listen and talk to you about your issues is so important for getting on the right path to getting better. Try reaching out to someone on here or on another mental health page because there are many people suffering with similar issues.

A self harm period is a very difficult and trying time. Furthermore it's extremely difficult to find the motivation to stop. If you don't have the option of talking to someone about your situation, then there are several methods that you can replace and prevent yourself from self harming. Firstly, even it you yourself don't believe it, tell yourself positive and affirming things. Secondly, some things that you can do to replace self harm when you do feel the urge come along includes: rubbing an ice cube on the area, snapping a rubber band on your wrist, scribbling furiously on a piece of paper with a crayon, and have a fidget toy at hand. For anyone going through this, maybe you can challenge yourself to try one of these a week and see what works for you :).

The way you deal with self harm is that you try to focus your mind on other things so that you won't be tempted to self harm. Self harming only hurts other people. You're only going to hurt your loved ones or the ones that really care about you. Self harming is never going to be the answer for anything i can promise you that. I know what it feels like to be tempted to but just know that it's never the answer for anything. Try to talk to someone about it and let someone know those kind of thoughts so that someone can help you and so that your not going through it alone.

Self-harm is a hard thing to deal with especially alone. I dealt with it alone for a while, then my friends figured out and actually helped me a lot. I recommend talking to a friend you can trust about it. If you dont want to do that come up with some coping mechanisms. Some coping mechanisms can be, but aren't limited to, Drawing on yourself or, Rubbing ice on yourself. There is also the butterfly, Its where you draw a butterfly where you would normally self-harm, naming it after someone you love and who cares about you. You cant scrub it off or self harm other wise it dies.

I tried to deal with self harm alone, in the midst of my hardest times I needed help. But now I can manage my self harm urges alone through the tools I learn in counselling. I know that sensory things are great, hand creams, incense, fairy lights, music, etc In fact I have a Battle the Storm playlist for when I feel like self harming. Writing about it, journaling or poetry helps me sort out what I am feeling. Then taking some medication to calm me down, sleeping and sometimes just putting it off again and again help at my worst. When I know that I am really about to do it I try not let myself have the time. For me I do it before I have time to think, so I start spending time getting busy. This is what works for me so far #almostayearselfharmfree

Try writing or talking to one of the listeners on here if you need a distraction I always found going on a walk listening to music helped me, please though try and seek professional help. I also found an app called 'headspace' is extremely helpful and can distract you and calm you down. I always found self-harm to be a distraction from your thoughts so trying to find something else to do when you get the thoughts helps even if its crying in the shower for 2 hours but please try to speak to one of us or a professional

Hey man, just know that you are stronger than you think. There was a time in my life when I just didn't feel like living and so I turned to other things like self-harm because I just couldn't manage to tell anyone. I know everyone is saying to get with someone, but trust me, you are strong, you are beautiful, you are more than you could ever imagine and so you can get through this! Think about your own life and things that you truly care about, even if it's something that you think is stupid. Cherish those things and build on them. I struggled with self-image mostly and so I did all I could do to try to become better but I simply couldn't. There was one thing I loved though which was basketball and so I went to the court when nobody else was there and shot hoops. Soon enough I realized that I was actually starting to enjoy myself and this led to me instead of cutting myself, to playing basketball whenever I felt the urge to do something harmful. Through this, I created a way to not harm myself, but instead get my stress out through other things. Stay strong, you're a champion!

I tend to listen to music and funnel energy into working out rather than self harm. Even some of the saddest music I find is relatable and let's me release any pent up emotions by crying. Being secluded for 2 weeks at a time can really test you mentally when you're having a bad day and I find even talking to a stranger is enough to remind you that you can connect with someone in your darkest of hours when seeking help. I try everything to avoid self harm as I have been there myself, countless times. There is no shame in asking for help, everyone is human and everyone falls down sometimes.

Dealing with self-harm alone can be a lonely experience because of the stigma associated with it. If you are trying to stop the behavior, in my experience, it was useful to have supporters on your side. These are people that will help hold you accountable without judging you if you relapse. If you are not ready to stop, you may start employing some different coping mechanisms to lessen the risks associated with self-harming. Try to determine what role the behavior is playing for you, and identify alternative options for coping with that problem. You don't have to do it alone.

How you can deal with self harm, alone is simply taking it in small increments. Such as using an ice cube where you would usually harm yourself, until you feel the need that you don't have to. Another thing that you can do is draw a butterfly where you want to harm yourself, imagine that as one of your loved ones, whenever you hurt that butterfly, you're hurting your loved one. You have to think about the people that you love and the people that care about. With this process, you'll slowly train yourself to not need to harm anymore.

I wouldn't recommend dealing with this alone, honestly. If you have the feeling that no one would understand or accept it in case you didn't tell anyone, talk to your doctor about it and he'll give you advise on how to deal with it without anyone knowing about it. You can distract yourself in the meantime with drinking fresh ginger tea, snapping a wristband, putting marbles in your shoes and walk around or any other coping method :)

In my own experience, I found that writing all my anger and frustration down on paper when I got the urge to self harm. Even if you’re writing down the worst things imaginable, at least you are not harming your body

Meet people and experience new things and tell yourself that you'd do it tomorrow..It helps trust me..Do something you don't regret and enjoy yourself..If you enjoy yourself..the thought wouldn't come

I always tend to use my coping skills or talk to a trusted friend or family member. If that doesn't work, I usually call my mentor or my therapist.

read, eat, hangout with people, do what you love, put your blades where you cant easily get to them, give your blades to someone wholl take them, cry, pick yourself up, move one, write, get help, talk to someone, try. just try.

You are not alone! We are here for you, you don't have to be alone! There is a lot of self-harm coping techniques that you can do. There's a self-help guide here in 7Cups too! You can always try it out!

Try meditating, go on walks, listen some soothing music, pamper yourself, go on movies alone, take a solo trip.

Always use positive self talk. Remember what you manifest becomes your reality. For example, if you tell yourself everyday: Today I am going to distract myself to avoid self-harming. The more you say it, the more you think it and then it becomes your reality.

For one you would have to stop and that is the hardest part for many. There is some things that can help you stop, like the butterfly project. So you would draw a butterfly on the body part that you harm the most you want to try to keep it alive so you can’t harm in or around it. And try talking to people who you trust about what your going through. Or a complete stranger, just get things off your chest it helps instead of dealing with the thoughts alone, try saying them out loud to someone let them know what’s going on inside your head.

Dealing with self-harm is a difficult task. It should never be done alone. However, if you are unable to talk to someone about it right away, there are a couple things you can do. You can find something that can distract you to not think about whatever is making you feel the need to self-harm. That may be watching your favourite TV Show or writing down your thoughts. In the long run though, you should talk to your parents about your self-harm, talk to a crisis hotline or see a doctor or counselor.

When you feel like harming yourself, I recommend you draw on the area you want to hurt. Also, try some self care activities.

Try to think about happy things that will help you overcome this self harm. It will help you and make you feel the need to do it less

Repeat over and over again: “I am strong, I don’t need to hurt myself because others are hurting me. I can get through this”.

Self harm is always a bad option and wanting to become better is a great choice. It’s always difficult to do, but here are some things that might help. If you have anyone to talk to then talk to them. Even on here, there are so many of us willing to talk to you and help you through your troubles. Go on walks. Walks can help clear your mind. You can listen to music to calm yourself and your thoughts down. Writing things down, all your thoughts and feelings, may also help. Considering therapy and professional help is also a great choice.

Find someone whom you trust to talk to. It can be anyone, a friend, family member, pastor. Get educated about your problems, find a community, best case scenarios would be one in reality and online, and praying helps, sometimes.

know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE ! i know it sound cheesy but we are all here to help you ! :) think about all the time that you didn't self harm and you felt proud of yourself .. if you don't do it you can feel even more proud ! and we will all be proud to !! you can do it sweety, keep on going and don't ever give up