How to deal with self-harm alone?

in my personal opinion self harm isnt something to deal with alone! and the amazing volunteers are here to support you, i think when feeling the urge to self harm you try hold back as long as possible using diffrent ways such as placing ice were you would like to harm, putting an elastic band or hait tye on your wrist and flicking it this will give a sting but leave no marks! when the urge is strong i suggest sitting on your hands and doing a breathing exercise till you have calmed down and the urge has passesd! remember there as amazing listeners here to help love and support you, you got this keep going !!!!

Firstly, it's really brave that you want to help yourself with your self-harm, and I know how difficult it can be to take the first steps when trying to stop self-harming. There are some things that from my own experience in the past have helped, but have a look at different methods too, as they might also help. So the things that helped me the most was distracting myself and channelling the emotion I was feeling into something else. So if i was angry I would scribble on pages or write down my feelings. I found exercise is definitely something that can help as well. Sometimes drawing on where I wanted to harm also helped as it gave me something visual which is sometimes what I needed. Just try to take every second you do not give into that urge as a success, and try to keep building up how long you can go without harming. Even if you slip up, that's completely okay as well, and focusing on the efforts you have taken to try other, more healthy coping choices really helped me.

Dealing with self-harm alone is honestly very difficult, not being able to talk to anyone is scary and honestly heart breaking. Self-harm is so dangerous, yet many of us tend to use it to help feel something or express something. I am so sorry to those out there who feel like they cannot share their feelings or what they are doing. I found help by finally reaching out to my parents about how I have been feeling because I was scared for my own safety. Everyone out there, you do matter and you are not alone. We are here at this safe place.

As someone who has self-harmed before, I know it is one of the hardest and most uncomfortable habits to talk about or to seek help for. For more severe cases, where you self harm with the intention or future plan of ending your life it is essential you seek out medical and professional help. In situations where you feel the urge to self-harm, try to remove yourself from the object you use to harm yourself. I have found being in the same room as the object often pressures you into use. Self harm can also become a habit, and it is not abnormal for someone who has self harmed during a panic attack or depressive episode to self harm when bored, since it’s something you get used to. Most Importantly be gentle with yourself!! If you are able to practice self care it can be a major milestone, in my experience self harm was wanting to make the outside match the inside, and for some it is a physical cry for help. Taking care of your body is a good way to regain control over your life. Don’t be ashamed if you relapse, that is normal, but know you can make progress

Self harming can be tempting when alone. Take a moment to breathe deep breaths, and try to alert someone on some platform that you feel this way. If it's a very persistent need to self-harm, a coping mechanism can be to use ice and red dye. Use a cup to place the ice in and put red dye over it. Then take the ice and put it over the place you felt the urge to self-harm. This method allows you to have sensation, without hurting yourself. Another method could be to use a rubber band around your wrist and when you have and urge, snap the rubber band over your wrist to experience sensation if it is a serious urge. Stay safe, and know your thoughts and feelings are validated!

Dealing with self hard along is never a good idea, find an adult or someone you trust and tell them whats going on. See if they can help you talk to a trusted adult so you can get the help you need to feel better. Getting help is the best thing you can do for yourself. Keeping your self-hard hidden will only make things worse and you will fall into a deeper hole. Find someone you trust and tell them about your feelings and whats going on in your life, make sure you trust this person and ask them for help.

I think the important first step is to throw away whatever tools you use to hurt yourself. Try to find a healthy way to relieve yourself when you get the urge to self-harm, an example would be art therapy, you could try colouring/painting. When I used to get the urge to self-harm I would take a bit of red paint and colour on my arm where I would have hurt myself. Try to acknowledge what triggers you to self-harm, and instead of acting on it, distract yourself from that type of thinking. Maybe watch a funny show, listen to some uplifting music, go for a walk and be around nature. Try to channel your energy into something more positive.

When dealing with self-hard alone, it is important to have both a mantra and a calming/ decompressing action to reduce the impulse. A mantra is a set of words that you can always remember to tell your self such as "I am worthy of care" or "I have the best intentions for my well being" to remind yourself of your worth. An action that helps calm you away from the impulse can be something like writing a letter, petting your cat, setting up dominoes, or wrapping yourself in a blanket like a burrito. It can be helpful to have a few always accessible routes of action to calm you in case one isn't working for you in that moment. One of my favorites is to paint or draw on my body while saying a self love mantra in my head to help remind me I do not want to hurt myself.

Set yourself a goal ( a small one) and use different things as a trial. For example, drawing what you feel or investing in a good book. I am currently i month free of self harm and im very proud of myself. Remember you can always do better but don’t be too hard on yourself. It wont be very easy but take baby steps. You wont have quit overnight so stay as positive as you can and remember it is ok to ask for help. You are allowed to feel down but never under any circumstances stay down. Remember always stand back up proudly. I am proud of you no matter how far you have come

Find an anchor such as message. A photo. A memory. Get rid of your triggers, anything associated with your self-harming experience. Seek out other ways to let out what’s inside you, for example to Paint. Write. Bake. Dance. Anything that nurtures you. Find what it is that supports you; friends, family, people who have been there, professionals, support groups. It can also come from within. Also, you only have to get through the next five minutes. Think of this as small achievable goals. Lastly, to practice mindfulness regularly, and when you feel like you want to self-harm, do something else.

Self harm is a very hard topic to handle on your own. I used to self harm and was very depressed. Eventually, with a strong support system, I found it rather easy to begin to engage in activities that made me feel better about myself. I started listening to music that made me feel happy vs music that made me feel sad. I began to exercise which helps with mood and confidence. I began to eat healthy and provided myself with lots of self love and care. I took the best care of myself that I could and slowly found my thoughts about myself changing for the better. If it helps, begin with exercising and following a regime. Eating healthy, getting plenty of rest and letting go of people who are not good for you.

Though recovery is completely different for everyone, especially if the reasons for self harm are different it's possible to recover without professional help (though is can be harder). I can only provide what I know and have experienced. Firstly you'll need to know how to care for inevitable Injuries (how to keep them clean and stop bleeding etc.) this varies depending on your type of harm so is worth looking up specifically if you can To stop you'll have to understand why you harm and your feelings associated with it (whether you self harm due to sadness, to cope with pain, to see blood or others)the better you understand an issue the easier it is to find a solution. You can do this by recognising what triggers your urges when they're happening, focus on how harming makes you feel either through just paying attention or taking note. Once you understand why you harm you can begin to understand how to risk the probability of harmony yourself. This can include avoiding triggers that make you feel like harming or more essentially finding coping mechanisms to use instead of self harm. A few reccommended are :drawing on your skin to resemble an injury, flicking a band or using an ice cube yo resemble the pain or more mental techniques like distraction (going for walks, grounding exercises). Understand you will also need support to deal with the emotions you have with self harm, this can come in many forms. A journey to stop self harm can be difficult but be patient with yourself (relapse isn't uncommon) and just try to process things as often as possible, learning healthy coping and eventually leaving harm behind.

You can deal with self-harming better when you truly distract yourself from your urges. Things are harder when you try and focus on trying not to hurt yourself. Find new hobbies, meditate, listen to uplifting music, do artsy things and stay the awesome you that you are. Talking to someone who you truly trust, or even a listener on 7 Cups, might just help you. just naming the emotion you are feeling out loud to someone might make things feel better already. Most importantly love yourself and don't give up... everything which is hard now, will pay off a lot in your future.

Do some other things that will distract your mind from thinking about self- harm. On my experience I usually read novel or watch a movie or listen to lively songs whenever I have a thought that I want to harm my self so bad. I hope this will help. You can also seek for someone to talk to. We may not always have someone to talk to personally but you can just go to 7cups to talk to us, we are wholeheartedly willing to listen on your story and maybe offer something you need which is a listener and someon to talk to on that moment.

To the ones who are self-harming … I know you are exhausted. I know you are confused and scared and that you want this to stop. I also know that you have courage, strength and a depth of feeling that is beautifully rich and honest – and that it sometimes brings you pain. As confusing and as painful as the thought of hurting yourself might be, when it feels as though there is no option, it is understandable that the confusing, unthinkable things become an option. It will be that way for any of us. Most people who self-harm keep it a secret. Secrets put a wall between people – between feeling seen, understood, loved and validated. They isolate. They have a way of breathing life into shame, guilt, confusion or loneliness that might already be causing breakage. Whether self-harm is a secret or not, here are some things you need to know. To the ones who self-harm. You are not alone. The loneliness of it all feels as though it could break you some days, but you are not alone. The people who love you want to understand, but they need your help for that. Let them in. We all have battles that we need an army to help us fight.

since i have dealt with this in the past the best way is to try to work on yourself and try to start with a hobby, start trying to accept that whoever you are, are enough and you deserve happiness as much as anyone... life can be harsh and sometimes it might feel like you are not worth the happiness but there is nothing anyone could have done to deserve that. try to start caring for yourself, you should be proud of you for trying to reach out. you have done so much for yourself. its you who wants to help you. try accepting and loving yourself.

Self harm is a serious issue which often has a lot of underlying reasons. Self harm is not something that you should deal with alone. It may not seem like it but it actually is a cry for help and you should speak to someone about it as soon as possible. All though it seems like you are in control and the effect feels like a temporary release it does not last and does not resolve the reasons that are causing you to do it. Talking to someone about it can really help. You can talk you a family member or friend or call a helpline, even speak to some one here at 7cups about it.

There are lots of people you can talk to about what you are going through. It is important to tell someone you trust and feel comfortable with, as they will be able to help and support you. Young people told us that they have been able to talk to: friends family someone at school, such as a trusted teacher, school nurse or pastoral care staff a youth worker their GP or healthcare professionals such as a counsellor or nurse charities and helplines (some of which are listed below). There are no rules about how you should tell someone. The most important thing is that you feel comfortable and trust the person you decide to tell. Set time aside to talk to them. Remember you can set the pace and it is up to you how much you want to tell them. If you find speaking about it too difficult, you can tell someone in writing or in an email. You can even ask a friend to speak to a trusted adult on your behalf. Let them know you need help with how you are feeling. There is no need to give details about how you have harmed yourself and you don’t need to talk about things you feel uncomfortable talking about. Try to focus on the thoughts and feelings behind your self-harm rather than the behaviours. If you decide to talk to a GP or other health professional, you can take a friend or family member with you to support you.

Finding safe ways to cope, some of these include temperature factors. Some of the methods I used to deal with self harm were rubbing some ice on the area, however ice was not always around, so i would carry some elastic rubber bands, those ones your mom uses to close chip bags, and i would hit myself with those to feel something. Taking a cold shower also helps, but if you are more of an artistic person i wuld most definitely recommend drawing some butterflies on the area and keep them there until the ink fades, I know it's hard, but you can do it! if you like this idea but you are not as artistic, I would draw some lines with a pen or felt tip.

Connect with a local therapist or you’re work, school, collage\university, or you’re local suicidal hotline. If you do not like speaking up in public you might want to download a coping app or a meditation app, although this only helps some people you should definitely give it a try. If not you could take a walk and embrace the wonderful world that you’d be missing, make a meal and stick some music on and make a day out of it, walk to a famous landmark and take photos. If none of these make you happy you could simply just do some set a goal and try to do by the end of the year or month or whatever, it could be something like get slim, change my diet, give to charity, make 2 more friends, change my mood, save up for a trip, get a job. Anything at all. Just make YOU happy, but don’t be selfish thousands of people are out there for you to be loved my I mean there’s only 5% of the ocean found maybe you could find 2% more.

There are many coping mechanisms for self-harm. I wouldn’t recommend doing it alone because it is much easier with support from family and friends. However, if that is what you choose to do, there are a few things that might help. First, you should identify why you are self-harming. Some people self harm for a release, because it makes them feel better, as a distraction, because it is something they can control, to feel pain. Depending on why you self harm, there are different ways to deal with it. Some things you can try are finding something other than self harming to satisfy your urge. Some examples are walking, listening to music, doing a puzzle. Something calming or distracting, or something that releases energy. Some other suggestions are making a goal to not self harm for a certain amount of time, and keep increasing it, using ice, snapping a rubber band, tearing paper, and drawing on yourself. I hope this helps!

Some ways that personally help me deal with self-harm and may help you is listening to comforting music, let yourself cry and don’t feel ashamed of it, try to tell yourself to breathe (inhale 1, 2, 3, 4, exhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) and one day it will improve and you will find your happiness. In addition you can also scream into a pillow which isn’t much use but it will make you feel better, research on how to resist the urge of self harming whether it’s drawing in your room or dancing! take care of yourself! 😊😘❤️

Self-harm can be a really tough thing to deal with when you are alone. The thought of it and the inability to control those thoughts can be incredibly scary, when they are going through your mind. I don't think there is one good way to deal with self-harm alone, but it is you that needs to figure out what works for you. You could think of mindfulness exercise that calm you down, or getting rid of all the sadness/anger/frustration by exercising or just distracting yourself with some good old netflix. However, the most important thing when you have to deal with self-harm alone is to accept what is going on and the thought going on in your head, even though it is scary and strange.

Facing such a large issue on your own is difficult but it is not impossible. As someone who has dealt with self harm on my own, I tried to find the little things in my life that makes me happy. Sometimes I would think about how hurting myself isn't going to make anything better even if it was the only thing I could control. I began to realize that I can take control of some aspects in my life and that made me overcome this idea that self harm is the only thing that I control because at the end of the day you control your life and there is always a rainbow after the storm, you just have to be willing to wait for that storm to end to see that beautiful rainbow.

There are a variety of non-violent self-harm alternatives I'd suggest. Some are about putting the urge into something beautful e.g. draw a butterfly where you want to hurt yourself. Other strategies involve safer forms of inflicting pain such as holding an ice cube in your hand. Such methods are only a google search away, I'd recommend them to anyone with the immediate urge. Should it be more of a feeling that you might hurt yourself that day, try to distract yourself and find a place to put your energy by engaging in activities you like in the creative or the movement areas. If possible contact someone and promise not to hurt yourself. This is common practice for doctors, it holds the patient accountable and it's a way to take reaponsibility off them.

When I would have urges to self-harm, reminding myself that though the feeling temporarily made me feel better, it hurt those who cared about me and embarrassed me later would often prevent me from going through with the act. Calling someone I know cares and asking them to talk with me or stay with me until the urges went away was always better than remaining alone. Other things that helped included doing something I wouldn't normally allow myself to do: drawing on the walls, hanging up a painting without waiting for permission, painting a closet. Creating something rather than destroying something can redirect feelings of helplessness, and even if you cover it up later, it will leave a feeling of having made a difference you can be proud of.

Start by being aware of which situations are likely to trigger your urge to cut. Make a commitment that this time you will not follow the urge, but will do something else instead. Then make a plan for what you will do instead of cutting when you feel this urge. call a friend and talk about something completely different take a shower (make sure you don't have razors in the shower) go for a walk or run, take a bike ride, dance like crazy, or get some other form of exercise play with a pet watch TV (change the channel if the show gets upsetting or features cutting) drink a glass of water

Someone once told me to replace your blade with a marker. Draw on yourself instead, that way the problem doesn’t permanently stay on you but it can be washed of. Use different shapes or colours for different problems and when you feel better wash it of. The idea of it is that the problem doesn’t stay on your skin permanently bug you can remove it when you are ready scars you get from a blade is often permanent so being able to wash away my problems really helped me because I felt like I was a new person after the ink was washed away.

First and foremost, I’m so sorry you’re struggling. I too have endured my own struggle with self-harm. Dealing with self-harm alone is arduous and not recommended. There is a plethora of resources available for this and many services that will allow you to discuss these things with others. I found trying to deal with this alone made it worse as I was always able to justify my actions. It wasn’t until I sought help from a mental health professional that I began to make positive strides. Being honest and open with a therapist regarding this will ensure you are provided with the best resources available that will be effective towards helping you.

You need to realise what you are doing is unhealthy and you do need to learn new coping mechinisms. Not all coping meathods you see online will work for you but take some time to find what does work for you. It isn't easy to deal with it alone so expect some difficulty and this ultimately means there will be times where you have to resist those urges with everything you have and you might give in to these urges and relapse. This is ok. It is an addiction and is very hard to quit but it is ultimately for the good of your physical and mental health. It is ok to want to deal with it alone but if you can find someone you trust like a very close friend who might also be struggling with this as well and you guys can support each other. Good luck, I believe you can do this :)