I can't get angry at the people I care about, is there something wrong with me?
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No there's nothing wrong with you, i think it's hard to get mad at someone you care about, when you care about someone it's more easier to forgive than it is to be mad, it breaks my heart to be mad at someone I care about,
There is nothing wrong in it. You cant show your anger to a stranger on the pavement. But you can control your anger and help your loved ones to help you. Remember give respect and take respect.
There is nothing wrong with you. Maybe you are just feeling a little sensitive. Make sure to try and apologize to the people you got mad at. When you feel calm. And explain what is going on for you.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2016 12:54pm
No of course not! it shows that you love someone too much to get angry at them! Don't worry I'm the same
Its probably because you dont want to hurt their feelings and ruin the relationship. But you need to stand up and tell them even though at the end you may feel bad and have alot of guilt
Anonymous
May 25th, 2016 1:52am
No, of course not! It is just hard for some people to feel angry at the ones close to him, it just means you should talk about your feelings with them more often.
No, i think that is very normal because you wouldnt like to hurt them. Instead its good to write your feelings down first and decide on how to approach the situation calmly but firmly.
Anonymous
September 13th, 2016 6:36pm
Anger is a natural emotion. It is all about your response to the anger and how it shows up. Take a moment from the situation to gain clarity on your feelings and thoughts.
The fact that you can't get angry shows that you're a highly compassionate and strong person. Sometimes people who care a lot get angry more easily, in your case it's the opposite matter, you care so much about someone that you just can't get angry at them and that's ok! Consider that anger is a natural and sometimes even positive emotion though, there's nothing wrong with getting angry sometimes. Try to understand if you truly do not get angry at all or you're just not that aware about your true feelings, which can translate into passive agressive behavior sometimes. And if you do get angry sometime, have ways to cope with it, such as trough exercize, writing, punching a pillow. venting, whaterver that helps!
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 8:54am
Nothing wrong with that, that means you love them, expressing love rather then anger. Relationship is healther, more relaxing, and more open.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2016 6:35am
No, it is normal to feel a wide range of emotions with anyone. Not feeling certain emotions towards those you love isn't strange.
Anonymous
October 14th, 2016 6:13pm
There's nothing wrong with not getting angry at the people you care about. We just love them more than we hate them. It would also save us from hurting them as it could hurt us.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 4:27pm
No, there's nothing wrong with you that just means you really care about them and you should cherish that. Anger is a bad emotion, no one should try possessing it.
Look inside yourself and find out how you can see this as a strength instead of a weakness. There may be nothing wrong with you because you can't get angry at the people you care about. Some people seem to always get angry at the people they care about which possibly drives them away. Anger is a negative emotion and having something wrong with you is considered negative aswell so if not being able to express a negative emotion to someone you care about is wrong, then what would you consider would be right? There are times where it may be necessary that being stern with someone you love about a situation but you can be stern and concerned without being angry with them. Consider this the next time you feel you need to be angry with them but can't.
No. There's nothing wrong in it. You care for their feelings. You don't want to hurt them. Cause it will hurt you more.
No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! You're just a really great person, but please don't let anyone take advantage of that personality trait of yours.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2016 10:36pm
Not at all, in fact most people feel more comfortable about showing their true emotions such as anger around those they are closest with
No there is nothing wrong with not getting angry at the people you care about. You just have an exceedingly high patience level and have a great connection with those around you.
No, there is nothing wrong with you. The problem might be your own insecurity and your unability to place yourself above another person. You might also be afraid to lose the people you care about, by getting angry at them. Please know that anger is very normal in relationships with everyone. It's healthy and they'll probably even appreciate your honesty!
Not at all. In fact that is a great gift. You are a very loving person and you value your loved ones.
Not at all. The very fact that you care about them means you love them deeply enough not to get angry at them about anything. It shows you have a lot of patience, compassion and patience. Those are really good qualities. It is great not only to not get angry at people you care about but even try not to get angry at people you do not care about or anybody at all.
Not necessarily. If these people take advantage of your kind nature then you need to stand your ground if you're being disrespected. It's not about getting angry, it's about telling someone they've upset you and making them understand why.
There is nothing wrong with you. It is very common to have a hard time getting angry at people who care about you. In my experience, it can be hard to deal with because sometimes they may do something that makes you feel angry or frustrated, but you can't voice those concerns. I have this experience with my roommate a lot, especially if she does something that makes me upset. Sometimes it helps me to write out how I am feeling and discuss it with someone, and if afterwards I feel like I need to talk to my roommate about it, I can.
There is nothing wrong about being angry. In fact, it's very unhealthy for you (and the people you care about) when you don't vent out your frustration! You'll begin thinking very negatively, and that will put a strain on your relationships. Find out what's causing your anger, and talk to the people you care about on it. The goal is to arrive at a conclusion where you're both happy.
:)
Anonymous
March 17th, 2017 11:00am
Of course not. When you love someone, you accept all their shortcomings and already have an idea of what they are like and how they behave. In this case the anger is really directed towards the situation you are thrown into and not the people involved, because it is impossible to be angry with someone because of doing something that was of their nature.
Some people default to anger. others to sadness. So, nothing "wrong" or abnormal about that. If you find any catabolic emotion about the actions of the people you care about, you could ask yourself, "What do I want to change about their behavior and what need of mine does it point to? And what need of theirs does their behavior point to?" Thus starting to create a connected experience of life and finding a solution.
Anger is a natural human emotion. Emotions are not right or wrong. Its how you express them that makes it right or wrong. Emotions are great teachers. They teach use about what we like and what we don't. It may be difficult to be angry as those we love because secondary emotions to anger such as namely guilt may also come up. We may feel guilty for being angry at those we love. To allow yourself to feel the emotion anger over what a close relative may have said or done can teach you what you like or dislike. It can also teach you how to deal effectively.
No, of course not! That is actually an amazing quality, and you should be proud to have it! That just means that you will probably be able to have better friends, and maintain better relationships. Do not ever think there is something wrong with you - because you are amazing
Anonymous
May 4th, 2017 9:46am
There is nothing wrong with you. You are just afraid that your words might hurt them and they will abandon you. You can try telling them what you think about their behavior in a proper way. Do not be afraid to get angry. Sometimes getting angry is quite healthy in relationship which shows u care about them
Absolutely.not. although is not the best thing in the world to be angry at the people you love, it is sometimes inevitable to feel like that. Maybe it's because your under a lot of stress, or perhaps you can't handle your feelings properly at that moment. But plesse don't feel like anything's wrong with you. It happens. What you do next is what defines you. Do you stay mad or realize what you did and apologize? Better days will come and you will learn how to deal with your emotions.
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