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I can't get angry at the people I care about, is there something wrong with me?

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Profile: Aventurina
Aventurina
October 23rd, 2014 4:21pm
Anger does not mean that there is something wrong with you, nor with the other person. Anger is emotion, just like happiness, a visiter into our lives, which is there to give us a message about ourselves. Do not be afraid of the energy, but take the opportunity as to why it has been aroused within us. It springs up from our needs, and it can help us direct our lives into a better future. People that we care about, are often there to help us evolve in our lives. So in other words.. you have the possibility of using the energy anger generates, for you to either push forward in your life, or to show you what to avoid. It is Your Choice, what to do with it. :)
Profile: Mel
Mel
October 23rd, 2014 4:14am
No, there isn't nothing wrong with you! That's the thing about love, sometimes you still love them more than what you're mad with them. Anyway, self care is important and it's good to know when a relationship is healthy for you and when it's not.
Profile: Artemis6
Artemis6
November 6th, 2014 5:26am
No, there's nothing wrong with you. The act that you can't get angry at someone you care about shows that you care about the person more than what is angering you. :)
Profile: allnaturalCupcake94
allnaturalCupcake94
April 6th, 2016 9:29pm
It seems as if you are avoiding confrontations with people that you care about. Is that what is bothering you ?
Profile: Pandette
Pandette
October 27th, 2014 2:40am
Personally, I don't think there is anything wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with not being able to get upset with those you care about. I feel like you have an incredibly big heart and that is something to be happy about! :)
Profile: xangiiex
xangiiex
September 10th, 2014 10:43pm
There's absolutely nothing wrong with you! Feeling anger towards someone you care about or love is nothing to be worried about. You should try to speak with them about these feelings you're experiencing so that there is no weird void between you two. Talking about it all always helps, and you might even get to know how they feel towards you as well.
Profile: inna077
inna077
September 20th, 2014 3:43pm
There isn't anything wrong with you. Anger is negative emotion and sometimes we care about someone so much that they don't cause those emotions in us. That doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you. It actually may be good in some situations that you don't get angry - that means you can deal with problems in a calm, kind way. When someone is doing something that you find wrong/upsetting, you need to discuss it with them, and not being angry gives you a better chance at that discussion being calm and having actual, positive results, so I don't feel that there is anything wrong with you.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2014 6:11pm
There is nothing wrong with you, anger is a really powerful emotion and it can be scary to express this to someone you care about. Anger can be a useful emotion that helps us protect our basic boundaries, but it can also make us feel like we are out of control. Anger comes in many forms from the aggressive threats and hurtfulness to the more passive manipulation and evasiveness, none of them sound particularly pleasant to express to someone you care about, and as long as these people aren't crossing your boundaries, there is nothing wrong with not getting angry. When people you care about do cross your boundaries, your inability to get angry at them is stopping you from standing up for yourself, at this point it might be wise to take some time to ask yourself why you are unable to get angry at them and talk about different ways to make it clear to them your boundaries are not being respected.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2014 3:43am
There is nothing wrong with you. That shows that you have a huge heart and that's totally okay. You don't have to get angry at the people you love to be human.
Profile: here4you201
here4you201
April 6th, 2016 10:53am
Nope. There is nothing wrong with not getting angry at the people you care about. In fact, I see it as a sign of respect and that you are in control of your emotions.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 8:45am
That just shows how much you love them, there is nothing wrong with that. But make sure that they don't use your kindness as an advantage to keep on making the same mistakes.
Profile: CoffeeTeaAndHonesty
CoffeeTeaAndHonesty
May 8th, 2015 5:26pm
I shall answer you with my own question: Can you imagine how peaceful the world would be if everybody was like this?
Profile: RaleighC
RaleighC
October 23rd, 2014 1:31am
For may people, anger can be a hard emotion to manage and express. Some folks are able to express it easily, while others are left holding onto their anger and sometimes not even recognizing it for what it is: an emotion, just like any other, that will pass. You might very well be getting angry at the people close to you (it'd be almost impossible not to), but not realizing it for what it is. If you're angry at someone, it might seem like you don't care about them; so you don't express the emotion and eventually end up feeling like you don't get angry at them at all. There's nothing wrong with you other than not recognizing anger for what it is.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2014 4:50pm
No honey, it's normal that you feel that way, sometimes we all get mad at people we love but it doesn't matter we love them less.
Profile: PeacefulFruit
PeacefulFruit
November 2nd, 2014 9:42pm
Nothing wrong with that, in fact, good job! Anger is an emotion that we could all do without, it's very nature is negative and brings nothing of value to either party. Now just expand that ability to the rest of the people in your life and you'll doing the world a favour!
Profile: Manpreet
Manpreet
October 28th, 2014 4:48pm
Sometime we need to express anger for good will of whom we care to show them right way. You are just afraid of not to loosing them whom you care.
Profile: NikietaN
NikietaN
April 28th, 2016 1:56pm
Your love for them are so pure .. Nothing wrong with that. Just be very carefully of neglecting the most important person in your life ..~~~> ❤ you ❤
Profile: Candid0211
Candid0211
April 14th, 2016 9:31pm
It's actually a blessing You should cherish it. Anger is an emotion which we feel when we do not understand something or do not want to understand something. You probably do not get angry because you understand where your loved ones are coming from and have you empathise. Just one piece of warning/advice do not expect the same in return. You may or may not have the same response
Profile: YouMeanToMe30
YouMeanToMe30
April 28th, 2016 8:45pm
Of course not ! you are so sweetheart and you care truly about them ! you can control your anger ! Nothing is wrong with you my dear !
Profile: joyfulOcean19
joyfulOcean19
December 3rd, 2017 10:55am
being angry is like holding a burning coal in your hand with the intention of throwing it at someone, but you are only harming yourself. Be humble for that's the language via which you can teach anything! :)
Profile: athira
athira
October 6th, 2014 7:14am
it just shows that you are caring and love people close to you and sometimes its important to show your anger otherwise they will take you for granted
Anonymous
July 1st, 2018 10:22am
There's nothing wrong with it, it's actually good. Your love for them is far more than your anger, this shows.
Profile: brightshadow98
brightshadow98
March 20th, 2016 9:16pm
Not at all it can show the love and compassion that you hold inside and its good for you to feel this way as it is better than you getting angry at them
Profile: charlotte37
charlotte37
October 20th, 2014 3:50pm
no not at all thats perfectly normal. i cant either, its just because you love them too much to make them sad
Anonymous
April 10th, 2016 9:52am
No. Not at all. Not getting angry is the best way to show them how much you care. It's so hard for many people to hind their anger. Doing this is a wondering way to stay calm and show love.
Profile: SilentSerenityy
SilentSerenityy
April 8th, 2016 5:57pm
Not at all. You really love, care and most importantly, respect those people. You sound like a very empathic person who's so nice, you just can't get angry at others. Nothing is wrong with you. :)
Profile: Mary497
Mary497
June 10th, 2015 4:55am
Absolutely nothing wrong with you! It is very easy to rationalize the behaviors of those we love and care about, even if those same actions would make us angry if someone else were to do them. We naturally see the good in people we care about.
Profile: soulTaco29
soulTaco29
January 18th, 2018 7:38pm
Anger is an emotion that indicates someone has wronged us, is infringing on us or is causing us pain. A consistent lack of anger towards someone who continually hurts us (even if they are a loved one) might indicate a bigger issue. Perhaps we think so highly of them that we are neglecting ourselves. Perhaps we are worried that if we get angry, they will leave us. Perhaps we feel too uncomfortable with conflict. Despite what people think, anger can be a good emotion as long as it is appropriately managed because it reminds you that you have value and deserve to be treated well. A complete absence of anger can indicate a bigger issue.
Profile: peachicus
peachicus
November 4th, 2014 11:20pm
No there is nothing wrong with you in fact a lot of people find it hard to get angry at people they are close to but It's not a bad thing it just shows you really care about them, hopefully they feel the same back :)
Anonymous
September 7th, 2015 3:59pm
Maybe you just love them so much that the idea of hurting them is too much to handle, its just the idea that they mean so much to you. It's not necessarily a bad thing though!