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If your child has told you that they are gay, it is probably because they want your support and love. Try not to question why they identify as gay and instead asking yourself "How can I best support my child right now?"
there is no reason a person is gay. they are born that way. that does not make him any less of the person you love.
He's gay because that is the way he was born. He has a preference for male over female partners and that's what makes him feel happy and loved the most.
It's simple. Your son is gay because he is attracted to males and probably their genitalia (if he's not asexual, that is.)
Anonymous
October 28th, 2015 9:25pm
Just because he is. There is no true explanation for why he is gay. As his parent, it's your job to support him.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2015 11:38pm
Its natural there is nothing wrong with him, he is born like that and the best thing you can do is be there and support him through this difficult time.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2015 6:46am
Simply, he was born that way, as you were born straight, as I was born with brown eyes. It isn't something that's simple to explain, & for some people to understand. But it isn't something he could change even if he wanted to.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2015 1:09pm
Your son is gay because thats just who he is. In a sexual way and love type of way he likes men. Dont be scared or ashamed of him thats just who you are. Also dont pressure him being gay right now is hard and people dont accept you as much. Try acting normal and make him love who he is. 😀
Because he loves who he loves and there race, gender, background and etc doesn't matter as long as he is happy. I don't know why he's gay but there's nothing wrong with being gay
There is no "reason" exactly as to why your son is gay. Its just something that he always has been and has just discovered or come to terms with.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2015 8:54pm
There's no specific reason as to why. Some scientists insist that it's genetic and it might be. A great argument is that the human race is trying to prevent overpopulation. There's nothing wrong or abnormal with it, hundreds of species show homosexual behaviour, but of all of them, only humans are homophobic. I'm not sure your question can be answered any other way. I hope it helped a bit.
Being gay is not a choice. Sexuality is fluid and there is no "right" or "wrong" answer. People tend to think of sexuality and gender as black and white or binaries but they are not -- there is gray area and that's what so beautiful about being a human being.
Anonymous
November 4th, 2015 1:52pm
Sexuality is not a chooce. He was gay all his life but he has just know taken a huge step im his life to tell you. It's very scary to come out to your parents. Personally Im still tring to come out to them. So why is your son gay, he's gay cause thats who he is. He's not a different person so you should still love and support him in his life. Being gay can be hard so he's going to need one loving and supporting person and you should be that person
Anonymous
November 4th, 2015 9:29pm
Because it is awesome to be gay. Nobody rubbed it off on him he is just attracted to men and thats okay.
Your son is gay because he was born that way, please don't shame him or try sending him to get 'help.'
Anonymous
November 5th, 2015 8:05am
i really dont think the question should be 'why' . like if he's gay. then he's gay. you can't really control who he likes. being gay isn't really all forbidden too. so if he IS gay, maybe you could support him for liking the same sex. it would really make him feel much better :)
Anonymous
November 5th, 2015 9:47pm
well we are all created differently, and its a personal choice every body chooses the path that they are happy with, he is still your son, still a person and you should love a person for who they are not what they are.
There is a lot still unknown about the "cause" of homosexuality, but science is clear on one thing, it is not s choice. Sexual preferences are mostly hard wired into who we are. Your son is gay simply for the same reason you are straight...because he just is.
Because he is. It doesn't matter why. It matters that he is gay and that anybody should support any sexual orientation.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2015 6:04pm
Your son is gay because his sexual preference is the same gender. People feel the need to portray it as something different when in all actuality, it's not. You should feel proud that your son had the courage to show his true self to you. Your son is just like everyone else, and I hope that you can see that.
he was born that way dear the best thing to do is love and support him through it all . Hes not sick or broken hes human :)
Anonymous
November 11th, 2015 6:06pm
Because he was meant to be different.
Anonymous
November 14th, 2015 3:20pm
these things happen naturally and we have no control over how we feel.as we hang out with people and get closer, our dependence, emotional attachment, care and concern get greater and greater until one day we wake up and realise it is called Love.
Sometimes, people go through thing that may cause them to feel different about a certain sex. Your son may have gone through a very traumatic experience which cause him to no longer have attraction to females. Or he just may simply find men fascinating and decide that a woman isn't a right fit for him.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2015 9:23am
He can't choose his sexuality, just like you can't choose that you're straight either. That's just how he is
It's biological. He is still.your son. And the only thing can do is show support and love. Accept him
I counter that question with yet another question: why are you straight? All sexualities are completely natural and normal. Also keep in mind that sexuality is fluid, especially throughout adolescence. Either way, you should love and respect him no matter what.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2015 9:42pm
he likes men
There are many reasons why some people think this is but no matter whether people think they are born that way or it is a choice it is obviously a part of them. As someone who is gay I do not think that I chose to be this way because I have tried to force myself to be something I am not and it does not work. Your son just falls for people of the same gender which does not even change who he is, it just means that you learned something new about him.
There really is no why. You're son was born gay and I hope that you can accept him. He needs that from you because you are his parent. Parents are supposed to to support their child with their decisions and their traits that they are born with.
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