Why is my daughter a lesbian?

Your daughter likes girls. There's nothing that can change that. Just like how people are straight, they like what they like. There is nothing wrong with that.

There is no exact reason why. Some people think it's biological, others think it is a state of mind. Whichever case this might be, she is your daughter.

Because she was born like that, just like you may like a woman or a man, she decided that what she likes are woman and it's totally normal.

Your daughter was born that way! While it can be hard for parents to process that their child is gay, they are still your child and you should still love them, no matter what. Chances are they were scared to come out to you and it's important to show your love.

1) Gay people exist 2) Gay people are randomly distributed throughout the population. Nature / nurture aside, it is impossible to know before someone is born if they will be gay. 3) Your daughter is a random person throughout the human population. 4) Therefore there is some probability that she would be gay.

Your daughter is a lesbian because she is one. There is no rhyme or reason to it. It's just how she is. More importantly, what kind of person is she? If she is kind, caring, loving, friendly, warm, generous etc etc then those are the most important character traits as well as the ability to love and be loved. Your daughter is the same person you have always known, she is simply romantically and sexually attracted exclusively to other women. Embrace what she is and hold her to your heart. Cherish what you have because all expressions of love are beautiful x

She was born that way just like how you were born liking whatever gender you're into. There's nothing wrong with it.

Why are you straight? Do you have an answer? No, right? Just like that, there's no answer for why your daughter is a lesbian. Just like you were born "straight", she was born "lesbian". It is a natural phenomena and no one has control over it.

It is simply because that is who she is. It is not a choice and it just happens to be that she likes other girls. There is nothing wrong with it and is completely normal. The only thing you can do is to be supportive and continue to love her as that is all she'd want from you.

A lot of people have already given the straightforward answer "because she likes girls" or "because she was born that way". They're absolutely right. However, coming from a conservative background, I can understand why you might feel like you did something wrong or that your daughter may have been corrupted in some way. It's okay to feel that way, but you have to realize that these are base reactions (almost animalistic) because of the world you were raised to believe in. It's scary to realize that your daughter may become someone other than the little girl that you have always loved. The most important thing you can do is remember that she hasn't changed. She has always been this way. This is the exact same little girl who you have watched grow up. The same girl you held when she was small. The same girl you've bonded with in a way you never knew was possible. The same girl that has made you feel virtually every emotion in the book. She's still her. Who she loves doesn't change who she is. I hope you can see and accept that. I hope you can realize we can't control who we love. And I hope you can't control your overwhelming love for her even if you're still struggling to understand.

She didn't choose to be this way, so word why is not an appropriate word for this. You might want to ask her when did she realise that, but her being a lesbian is not her choice.

This can seem very difficult to answer and possibly difficult to understand. Being lesbian, liking women, or being gay and liking men isn’t something that can be controlled. Imagine the way you look at someone you love. It’s just this overwhelming feeling, one that you can’t exactly explain. We all get this feeling, whether it be looking at people we care about or that special someone in our lives. The thing is, that your daughter did not choose to be a lesbian. She was born liking women the way that you may like men/women. If you have a significant other, or have been in love, you know that this feeling is not something you choose. It just happens—this beautiful feeling—a skip of the heart, butterflies in the stomach. I know that I didn’t choose to fall in love with the man I’m with, and nobody exactly chooses to fall in love with a specific person. It just happens. And love is beautiful, no matter who it’s with. And these feelings can not be changed :) love is love. If you mean more scientifically, some people have come to believe that there is a ‘gay’ gene in your genetics which decides if someone is what we call straight or gay (bisexual, asexual, Pan sexual, soforth), so it is predetermined before someone is born. This seems to be the most likely, but it is definitely not a choice. I could not imagine being in love with a woman, just like how people who like the same gender couldn’t imagine being in love with the opposite gender. I hope this helped!! (And I hope you’re doing okay)

People can't always control who they're attracted to and more often than not they feel isolated and unhappy when they discover that they are homosexual or any other part of the LGBTQ+ community. Your daughter telling you openly that she's homosexual is very brave of her and you should feel honored that she felt your relationship was good enough for her to share that with you. There is nothing you can say or do that'll change the way she feel about other females. If you want to be in your daughter's life the best course of action will be to show that her sexuality doesn't change anything between you, she deserves to be loved and to have a parents support. So many homosexual and bisexuals feel alone and that can be very rough on a person's mental health. Please support your daughter because I guarantee you, she probably already feels alone.

It is believed that sexuality is developed very early in life, as in it is a part of your brain. It can also be developed a little later in life. By the time someone reaches late childhood, their sexuality is defined, even if they do not know it yet. A person's sexuality also can not be changed through methods such as conversion therapy. Accepting a child for being something other than straight can be difficult. One way that you can try to have sympathy for her is to think about your own experience with sexuality. You didn't choose to be straight, it's just what felt right, so who's to say she hasn't had the same experience?

That's an interesting question, actually. First of all, I would like to applaud you for trying to find answers. That says to me that you are trying to understand her better. Secondly, if your daughter chose to come out to you (to tell you she is gay), that is great! It means she trusts you will react well. Being a lesbian, as far as i can explain, is like being straight, just for the same gender. There is a whole spectrum of sexualities and preferences. Sexuality is not a binary, that is to say, sexuality is not one thing or another, you see? Your daughter is a lesbian because she fancies girls, and that is just as natural to her as liking guys is to straight girls. There isn't really a choice to sexuality, just like there isn't really a choice in a favourite colour or eye colour or skin colour. Simply put, your daughter is a lesbian because she was born that way, and it as much a part of her as anything else that you love about her! If you want to ask anymore questions, I am here for you! (@Ciara2507). Thank you for asking questions to try to understand your daughter! :)