Is it okay to be confused around your sexuality?
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Yes, it's perfectly fine to be confused. Sexuality isn't clear-cut, and it's not always set in stone either, so it's easy to find yourself in a bit of a quandary. Just relax and do what you feel like doing. There's no need to put yourself in a box or stress yourself out unnecessarily thinking about it.
Of course! Human sexuality is complex, and often fluid, especially in women. It can change as you grow into it. Don't worry about it if you are confused.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2015 2:35am
Yes, it is definitely okay! Sexuality can be very confusing, and hard to figure out. It is best to take your time. You don't need to put a label on yourself if you are not comfortable doing so.
That is actually normal. Sexuality is a really complicated thing and it takes time and effort to discover. Take your time to go through this confusion as it is important not to rush into anything. This is because it will effect you for your future.
Anonymous
May 20th, 2015 11:26am
it is totally okay, because everyone sometimes think's they're gay .. lol just kidding but i'm serious, it's OKAY. Why wouldn't it? love has NO gender, i personally think we fall for a soul, but some people do indeed like boobas or anything else that i won't get banned for SORRY!!! but still, it doesnt matter because love is love...... dont blame yourself, enjoy the love you feel... wheter its a man, a woman, who cares?
Absolutely! Many people find themselves confused during the questioning phase. And it's totally ok. Take all the time you need, analyze your own feelings, emotions and desires, try to be as honest to yourself as you can. If you wish, look for support, either by the LGBT community or by anyone you trust. With time, you will understand yourself better! Wish you the best!
Of course it is! Sexuality can be very fluid, meaning it, along with your preferences, can change. For some people, one day they may prefer men, and the next, they prefer women. That is of course using binary terms. Someone could also one day prefer someone who doesn't identify with a gender. The point is, sexuality isn't a concrete thing. It is slightly different for every person, and has a slightly different meaning for every person. Some ideas may be more popular than others, but that doesn't mean it is right. There is no definite right or wrong answer. The trick is to find the best answer for you, and that might take some time.
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Yes. I think in our culture there is this idea that you have to rush to figure it out and then come out, and it shouldn't be like that. Take your time, explore, live your life. In time, things will become more clear. If a label fits and you want to use it, great. If you don't want to identify with any label, that's great too. You love who you love and you're attracted to who you're attracted to and thats 100% okay. Just let it flow and be natural.
Yes, it is okay to be confuse. It's how you figure things out..
Yes! There's a mix of them you just have to find where you feel comfortable, then once your comfortable you can then define your sexuality :)
Sexuality can be really confusing, and this is completely natural. It is deciding what you identify as, which can alter critical life choices in the now and future. Think about it, don’t rush into identifying yourself as something that you may not be, as others can hold you to it as well as judge you. Despite this, many will be super supportive of you no matter what!
Of course its okay it is normal to be confused you will find yourself and it okay to experiment with guys and girls.
Yes! This is a perfectly normal thing for people to go through and often when people are questioning they may want to experiment (bisexual) to find out which sexuality they are.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 7:43pm
Of course it is... You can be 13 and confused about your sexuality, You can be 40 and be confused about your sexuality. It's nothing on you, Sometimes we get confused on who we are attracted too or perhaps who we love is confusing as well. But no that is completely normal, Which will pass with time and eventually you will discover yourself.
Anonymous
October 3rd, 2016 2:21am
It is definitely ok to be confused about your sexuality. Sometimes you just don't know for sure. It sometimes takes time.
It's perfectly fine to be confused about your sexuality until you find something that labels you as you are :)
Anonymous
March 7th, 2017 1:51pm
It is perfectly okay and normal to be confused around and about your sexuality. For a while, I was as well. I went through an "experimental stage" because I thought I liked the same gender. It turns out I like both and I am bisexual. I'm not saying that is what will happen to you. Just telling you my experience. I think that in time your body and mind will decide with you.
Yes! Everyone has a little confusion about their sexuality somewhere along the line, whether it's just a quick thought or a long period of time. It's completely natural.
Yes, it is okay to be confused about your sexuality. I have been confused many times, even thought I had it all figured out at one time. Still to this day I am confused on my sexuality. And that's okay, because you will eventually figure it out.
Anonymous
December 4th, 2017 4:37am
Of course it is okay to be confused. And it is okay not to define it if this overthinking is hurting you. That is your life and your sexuality, we all get confused. You will understand and discover it eventually. No rush :)
Yes, of course it is. Everybody can go through a time where they're confused about their sexuality especially during the teenage years. You can usually figure it out after a bit of time passes.
Yes! This is perfectly normal, sexuality is very confusing and takes time to work out, and sometimes people never fully work it out.
I think it is definitely okay to be confused about sexuality. This is a very deeply intimate human experience. It is okay to not know all of the answers. It is okay to not know. It is okay to have things change.
Yes it is ok to be confused with your sexuality it can take a wile to figure that out just give it time
That is very normal, yes. Some never do label themselves with a type of sexuality and that is perfectly okay to do! :)
Of course! It's also okay to take some time experimenting to figure everything out, don't put pressure on yourself to know exactly what your sexuality is.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2015 5:04am
Yes! Absolutely. Sexuality is different for each person--no two experiences are exactly a like! It's perfectly normal to feel a bit confused or like your sexuality defies labels. Remember: The labels are there as a tool to fit the person, the person is not there to squeeze themself into fitting a label.
Of course it is. This might sound unusual, but most people are confused about which sexuality they have. There are too many label and too much uncertainty, and we still haven't named everything! Sexuality is a spectrum, and it's hard to know where you fall. Try not to worry about it too much and be comfortable with your preferences. Having a name for your sexuality might be comforting, but remember it wouldn't change much anyway.
Absolutely. Your sexuality does not have to be set in stone and you should not feel obligated to subscribe to any labels.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 1:33am
No, to the dungeons with you! Confusion is not allowed! We will send in androgynous androids to flog you with wet noodles until you are thoroughly un-confused! :)
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