How do I know if I'm gay, lesbian, or bisexual?
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It's all about how you feel. Gay, do you like guys if you're a guy? Do you think about having sex with them or going on dates with them, getting married to them? Lesbian, same thing just for girls. Bisexual, that's if you think about it with both genders. Its complicated.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 3:00am
You can base it on past emotions and experience, but it's what you truly feel about yourself despite whoever and whatever anyone else thinks. You will know what you are if you are true to yourself and are honest.
You are the only one who can really answer that. Everyone has different experiences- but above all you need to listen to your heart and head, and not be afraid to be who you are. Sexuality is a very complicated thing at times, and you are not alone for being confused.
You have feelings for the same sex or you have feelings for the same sex and the opposite sex. Gay is usually more for boys. It when a boy likes another boy as more than friends. Lesbian is usually more for girls, it's when a girl likes another girl as more than friend. And bisexual is when someone likes both girls and boys as more than friends
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 1:01pm
Feeling attraction to the same sex can indicate that you are gay or lesbian, if you are bisexual, you will feel attraction to both sex.
It depends on which gender you find you are more sexually attracted to, it doesn't matter what age you are, you don't even need to put a label on your sexuality, unless you think you need to
you just know. hell. i have known since forever. but coming out is a different story !!! that can be really hard !
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 5:35am
I figured it out by being attracted to specific people. But knowing the options also helps, to not be in denial - and there are many more than just hetero-, homo- and bisexual. I identify as pansexual because after many crushes and two romantic relationships, I realized the person's identity or biological gender are irrelevant to my feelings for them.
You have to take your time and think things through thoroughly. You could start off by asking yourself questions or imagining a situation. It could first involve a girl and then boy. Then you can see which ones feels better and who you are more comfortable with. E.g, imagine kissing a boy and then imagine kissing a girl, which one are you more comfortable with? Or another option could be that you experience things with both boys and girls and see which gender you feel better/more comfortable with.
Well, this is really something only you can determine. In order to find out look at the people you've been attracted to in the past, and see, are they consistently male, female, both, or other genders? Once you figure that out you can determine what label to use!
Many other people don’t discover their attractions until later in adolescence and some not even into adulthood. If you’re feeling confused, you’re not alone. It isn’t unusual to feel attracted to someone you’re close to or admire, like a close friend or a great teacher. But this doesn’t mean you’re gay, a lesbian, or bisexual. You also don’t need to be sexually active with other people to recognize your sexuality. One or two experiences with someone of the same sex may not mean you’re gay, a lesbian, or bisexual, just as one or two experiences with someone of the opposite sex may not mean you’re straight.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 9:46pm
If you are feeling an attraction to a person of the same gender as you, then you might be. You know when you fall in love with the person.
Well, there is a site I have here that you can find what you are! Those are not the only choices that you have-just dip your toes in the water of them all! http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2013/01/a-comprehensive-list-of-lgbtq-term-definitions/
Well, you may never know honestly and that's okay. Who needs labels? Just be you. And as you grow and mature if you form feels towards a female then be with them regardless of what you thought you were as far as sexuality and same goes if you like a man or any other gender. Love knows no gender so don't worry about how you identify just stay true to yourself!
Anonymous
July 11th, 2015 2:41pm
To know if your in the LGBT community you will have to find this out for your self, no one can tell you that your this way because THIS IS CALLED LABLEING. Be from my personal exercisers I can say its best to try and see you like it. Then you'll know...
Try dating the same sex and figure out if thats who you are and what your truly attracted too.......
Anonymous
July 11th, 2015 6:39pm
The best way to tell is how you feel. Normally to figure out how you feel is by experimenting. That is an easy way to figure out, but not everyone figures out that way.
Gay is defined as people who identify as men who are attracted to other men. Lesbian is defined as people who identify as women who are attracted to other women. Bisexual is defined as people who are attracted to both genders. There is also pansexual which is defined as people who are attracted to any/all genders because of their personality and not the appearance.
The only way to define yourself is how you feel. No one else can tell you who you are.
You feel a special attraction towards the opposite sex. You want to kiss that special someone that you've kept your eye on.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 1:20pm
Just follow your emotions and your heart. No anxiety, is our way of being. And before you are accepted, you have to accept the orientation.
You can tell by noticing how you view and think about the gender in question. Are they attractive? Do they stimulate you? Would you prefer that gender over the opposite?
Anonymous
July 14th, 2015 8:00am
The question to ask yourself is: would I be comfortable with dating men? Women? Both? Another thing to think about: There are many more genders other than just male and female! to be attracted to anyone no matter what their sexuality or gender is to be pansexual.
You'll know when you know don't feel forced to decide. But make sure you are happy with your choice
There is no rush to force this realisation, when the time is right, you will usually just feel like you know, but until then don't worry over your sexuality, the right time will come for you to address how you feel :) stay strong!
There are so many different ways to find your way and discover your sexuality. I think the most important first step is not putting pressure on yourself to immediately find a label. Labels are entirely okay, and often allow for amazing and supportive communities to form. However, trying to frame your sexuality in a certain way to fit a label isn't the only way to experience it. It's OKAY to not be sure. And it's more than okay to explore your sexuality in healthy, constructive, and respectful ways. No matter what your journey with sexuality is, know that you are not alone. There are others who are questioning in the same way you are.
At some point you start noticing how you feel about certain things. It happens slow but than all at once. One day you may be searching the internet and see a label that might match how you feel.
Think with your heart! Think about whether or not you'd want to be in a relationship with certain sexes, or both. Then analyze your feelings towards whoever you thought about, and maybe take the opportunity to experiment with whoever your heart brings you towards!
Anonymous
July 18th, 2015 3:45pm
Do you feel sexual attraction towards people of the same gender as yourself? Then you might be gay or lesbian! Or if you like for example both boys and girls, then you might be bisexual.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2015 8:50pm
You just know in one point in your life. Do you feel attracted to people in the same gender as you? If yes, there's a chance you're maybe bisexuall, gay or lesbian.
You just have to figure it out yourself. Look at blogs or poems or songs about the MOGAI/LGBTQ+ community, it all comes from knowing yourself and also being comfortable with yourself, and in some cases overcoming internalized homophobia.
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