How do I know if I'm gay, lesbian, or bisexual?
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There's not a "method" to understand your sexuality. With time you'll be able to tell who you're attracted to and who you see yourself with in your future. Time is all it takes to know :)
Sexuality is fluid, but it's always more assuring, knowing that there's a certain word for the way you're different from the “norm.†However, it can be a bit tricky to settle on a certain label. Many people question their sexuality and there's no age limit as to when someone may figure out if they're queer. The deciding factor that most people rely on, however, is what sex they orient towards. More specifically, what sex they are sexually attracted to. If a male is attracted to another male more often than he is to a female, he may be homosexual. However, if he is also attracted to females (there is no certain proportion of attraction to each sex; ex: NOT 50% attracted to males and 50% attracted to females), he may consider himself bisexual. The same may apply to women.
Anonymous
February 10th, 2016 2:25am
You start to find out as the time passes, But you really need labels?, If you love someone it won't matter if they are the same sex or different. If you really want to know, you need to try going out with diferent people, experiment! It won't hurt you.
It is whatever your attraction is strongest towards if your bisexual then you will have equal attraction to both sexes where as a gay person will have an extremely strong attraction to men and a lesbian would have an extremely strong attraction to women
A little self exploration could help, try out new things it might help, you don't really have to label yourself but if you want to go ahead
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 2:41pm
If you feel compelled to be with somebody of the same sex or of either sex, or if you have fantasies of such, you might be homosexual or bisexual. However, in the end, you decide what label to use.
as a gay male myself I knew when I was attracted to men both mentally and physically and didn't feel this way about women. If you feel the sexually aroused by the same sex and the opposite sex your bisexual, if you just feel this way about the same sex you are gay/lesbian. Speak with a listener on here such as myself if you need to discuss it more.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 5:04am
It's safe to say that experimenting is the best way to go! Just to see what you lie and don't like!
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 7:04pm
if you feel attraction to girls and guys then you are bisexual, if you are attracted to people of the same gender as you and only the same gender as you then you are either gay or lesbian :)
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 3:38pm
If you like having sex with only guys and you're a guy you're gay if you like having sex with a girl and you are a girl you're a lesbian if your like having sex with both you're bisexual. Simple as that.
Depends on who all you seem to be physically attracted to. Coz emotional attraction may lie at timesome.
Do you find yourself thinking, in either sexual or romantic context, about anything other than the opposite binary gender of yours? If yes, then it comes down to your own gender, the gender of the person(s) you're attracted to and from that you can draw a conclusion of one of the above. Gay refers to a guy attracted, either sexually or romantically, to guys. Lesbian refers to a girl attracted, either sexually or romantically, to girls. Bisexual refers to a person of either gender attracted, either sexually or romantically, to both binary genders.
You don't have to be any of those things. All you have to be is comfortable with who you are and who you love. It doesn't matter who they are, what matters is that you love eachother.
I think I know that I am gay since, I was 3 or 5, you really don't know your different unless you were told so when every body starts to tease you, being gay, lesbian, or bisexual is a natural feeling, like your hair above your head . . . it grows naturally without you knowing it .
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 1:58pm
its simple go with what your heart tells you
Sometimes, I think labels are too much. If you find yourself being attracted to people of the same gender, then maybe take a moment to see who else you find yourself attracted to. If you find that labeling yourself causes more stress than comfort, then you aren't required to so. People can be attracted to whomever they find themselves attracted to, without having to defend those attractions.
There is no easy answer to this question, and yet at the same time it is a very simple question. Basically, if you find that you are attracted (sexually, romantically, etc.) to people of the same sex or gender as you, or to people of more than one sex or gender, then in all likelihood you are not straight. It's that simple. However, no one can tell you if you are gay or pan or any label. That's something that you have to discover for yourself, and it's something that may not be simple or even constant. Sexuality is fluid. I'm either pan or bi or queer depending on how I feel about the words on any given day. What does it mean practically? It means I am open to relationships with many types of people, and I accept that about myself. Accept yourself, love yourself, use labels if and only if they help you.
There is no one way to know if you are a member of the LGBT community, but the easiest way to know might be to pay attention to whom you are sexually attracted. If you are predominantly sexually attracted to people of the same sex, you might be gay or lesbian. If you are equally or nearly equally attracted to people of both sexes, you may be bisexual. Sexuality is a complex part of your identity and is composed of many factors. Don't feel any pressure to decide what your sexuality is before you are ready. Talk with people from a variety of different sexual orientations who are warm and welcoming to clarify how you feel about who you are. Keep in mind it is never wrong or bad to be who you truly are.
I don't think it matters if you know the categorization of your sexual orientation. You feel what you feel - I think it's fine to just take every person as they come - am I attracted to them? Would I like a relationship with them? Would I like to have sex with them? Could I forge a meaningful connection platonic or otherwise? However if it does make you more comfortable to give yourself a title or group or category to be apart of - there are many methods of doing so. I would suggest you check out some of the videos on sexuality on the YouTube channel "sexplanations" x
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 6:44pm
It is just something you know. Like you know if you like eggs or not. This is coming from a lesbian and a genderfuid person. It's not something you suddenly become, it is something you were born as. Sure when you hit puberty and those "feelings" come into you and you get confused don't stress, it happens to all of us, even some straight people. Just take life as it comes. You love who you love :)
Anonymous
June 25th, 2015 3:18am
Do you like guys, girls, or both. Its often hard to decide but overall it doesn't matter. You like whoever you like and thats okay!
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 3:37am
It depends on how you feel for others. If you have feelings for another person who happens to be the same gender, then you might be. Just be okay with who you are and realize that if you are gay, lesian, or bisexual, you are a great person.
More times than not, if you look at someone of the same sex and something inside of you finds that person attractive, you may be something other than straight.
If you find yourself focusing on a celebrity that is the same sex as you, that could definitely be an indicator.
When I was younger, I thought my fascination with certain celebrities was just me being a fan of their music or acting. No. Turns out they were crushes.
Look at some pictures of those people, do you find yourself attracted to them?
Anonymous
June 20th, 2015 10:15pm
You just knoww it, but maybe you dont want to accept the fact that you are not as your parents want you to be, as the world want you to be. But, you are who you are, and thats the best thing you can do for yourself, be you.
You will know because you will have an attraction, whether is be sexual or romantic, to that gender.
You feel attracted to members of your same sex, or, in the case of bisexual, by your same sex and the opposite gender, or even more, as there aren't two genders only. You have to understand what's sexual attraction in the first place, and learn to differ it from romantic attraction.
you just know. dont worry about the labels too much, focus on how you feel and what you look for in a partner.
Are you attracted to any other sex out of the opposite of yours? If yes then you are at least Bisexual
You are whatever you feel you are if you feel like you like girls and you're a girl you might be a lesbian if you're a boy and you like boys you might be gay don't limit yourself like that you're what you're
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 2:30am
A male who is only attracted to other males is classified as gay. A female who is only attracted to other females is classified as lesbian. A male or female who is attracted to both male and female is bisexual.
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