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What does it mean to be Queer?

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NyxCain
October 16th, 2016 10:58pm
Queer is generally defined as having any sexuality/gender difference from being straight or cisgender. This can include even questioning your sexuality
Anonymous
October 8th, 2016 10:40pm
Being queer is usually defined as any identity that is either non heterosexual (bi, pan, homosexual, asexual etc) or not as cis ( trans, non binary etc)
Anonymous
October 7th, 2016 2:57am
Being queer is just another word for bisexual. And bisexual means that you're attracted to all genders.
KrisisKontrol
October 6th, 2016 2:05am
Inclined to be attracted to people of the same sex. This doesn't always mean gay. Bi, pan, demi sexual etc...
generousUnicorns0224
October 2nd, 2016 4:50pm
The literal definition of the word Queer is odd, however the slang definition can be used to describe someone who is homosexual.
chloeross
September 25th, 2016 10:44pm
Being Queer just means that somebody does not identify as either straight (heterosexual or exclusively being attracted to people of a gender other than their own) or cisgendered (meaning that they identify as the same gender they were assigned at birth, usually by a doctor) or both. Queer is an umbrella term and many identities fall under it but some use it to describe their gender or sexuality not in an umbrella term way but just as the label they feel most comfortable with!
Phillestertheangel
September 9th, 2016 10:57pm
To be queer is to be part of the lbgt community. It's basically like if you don't want to label yourself, a lesbian or bisexual or something. You can just call yourself queer. Basically- it means that you're not straight.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2016 10:51am
It's a term used for those who aren't heterosexual or cisgender. It's originally meaning "Strange" or "Peculiar"
Anonymous
September 7th, 2016 2:34pm
If you're queer, you're not straight. Anybody who is questioning, bi, pan, aro, ace, poly, gay, demi, or has a fluctuating sexuality is considered queer. Something to note is that queer is a slur, and though it's been reclaimed by those who are in the LGBTQA+ community, it's still a personal choice as to whether or not you use the term. If you identify as genderqueer, you do not identify as cisgender.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2016 10:22pm
Being queer is understanding that my sexuality is fluid. I am not straight but I don't want to label my sexuality.
bokchoi
September 3rd, 2016 1:53pm
To be queer is to identify as something other than heterosexual, cisgender. Being intersex and being confused about your sexuality and gender also counts.
CalmingSunshine08
September 2nd, 2016 5:56pm
What it means to be Queer differs from person to person. Generally being Queer means to not identify as being heterosexual, heteromantic and. Remember, not everyone likes the term queer, so don't use it to refer to someone if you don't have their consent or if they aren't comfortable with it.
GenderRolesTM
August 31st, 2016 6:45pm
As a pansexual transboy, I'd say being Queer is something we all as the LGBTQ+ community identify with differently. To me it means non conforming to the gender binary, or heteronormativity. Queer is often used as an umbrella term for everyone in the LGBTQ+ community.
peachicus
August 27th, 2016 8:12pm
Queer is an offensive way of calling someone homosexual and is generally used to upset people who may or may not be gay.
HopieRemi
August 24th, 2016 8:07pm
Queer can have many different definitions, depending on the person. Some people do not like the term Queer because for many years it was used as an insult for someone in the LGBT community but in recent years it has been reclaimed. It can mean being weird, different, or special. But in the end it is up to interpretation. What does it mean to you?
Anonymous
August 21st, 2016 9:53pm
The term 'Queer' is another word for gay or homosexual. This is when a male is attracted to males and a female is attracted to females. Homosexuals are a part of the LGBT+ community, where the 'L' stands for lesbians (female attracted to females) and the 'G' stands for gays (male attracted to males). Queer could also be used for the 'B' in LGBT+ which stands for bisexual which is an individual who is attracted to both the same and opposite sex.
Anonymous
August 21st, 2016 7:10pm
Being queer means different things to everyone, including me. I'm a pansexual agender and proud of it and being queer makes me feel like I'm accepted for who I am, rather than who I'm not.
MissMonMon
August 20th, 2016 11:55am
By definition, queer is an umbrella term for sexual and gender minorities who do not identify as cisgender or heteronormative. To identify as queer generally means to reject traditional gender identities and seek a broader, less conformist, and deliberately ambiguous alternative to the label LGBT.
cryingkoalas
August 19th, 2016 12:20am
Queer just means that you're part of the LGBTQ+ community, If you identify with any sexuality on this spectrum you can call yourself Queer. (:
Grangs
August 14th, 2016 4:18am
In today's society the word Queer means to be in the LGBT+ community. It is mostly used against gay men or lesbian women.
Flags
August 12th, 2016 5:52am
It means you are not in line to what some conservative folks see as normal but seeing as how progressives are starting to get courage in promoting anti-sexism campaigns, this will soon be one of the norms
Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 7:41pm
The word "Queer" is usually a very derogatory term that people use to describe somebody who likes the same sex. It's usually used in a disrespectful or hateful tone when spoken. It's an insult used towards mostly gay men but it can be used towards women as well.
Supergirl94
August 10th, 2016 6:03am
To be strange or odd. To be different than others at least depending on your definition of different or normal. Or by LGBT definition, An umbrella term sometimes used by LGBTQA people to refer to the entire LGBT community. An alternative that some people use to "queer" the idea of the labels and categories such as lesbian, gay, bisexual, etc. Similar to the concept of genderqueer. It is important to note that the word queer is an in-group term, and a word that can be considered offensive to some people, depending on their generation, geographic location, and relationship with the word.
Other
August 8th, 2016 7:32pm
It means that you are who you are and you shouldn't let the world bend or opress you. It means you are You.
maddy0908
August 7th, 2016 7:22pm
If a person is queer, it means that they are either not heterosexual, or they do not conform to the gender binary. Some people may choose to label their sexuality as simply 'queer' if they don't wish to use a more specific label.
bulletproofmayhem
July 31st, 2016 10:11pm
Queer is a term used to explain anyone who isn't heterosexual or cisgender. People questioning their sexuality or gender may call themselves queer because they do not know what to "call" themselves yet.
adoredIcicle46
July 31st, 2016 5:07am
To be queer by definition means to be odd or weird but socially it can mean to be attracted to the opposite sex or anything outside of heterosexual.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2016 11:11pm
It means to not be cisgender and heterosexual simultaneously. Some people think being queer also requires you to be out (like if you're trans, then you can't just pretend to be cis if you pass) and to support the LGBT+ community and have some modicum of pride in your identity.
SofiaAddilynn
July 28th, 2016 3:05am
The dictionary defines queer as an umbrella term for sexual and gender minorities that are not heterosexual or not cisgender.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2016 1:28am
Genderqueer: A term which refers to individuals or groups who “queer” or problematize the hegemonic notions of sex, gender and desire in a given society. Genderqueer people possess identities which fall outside of the widely accepted sexual binary (i.e. "men" and "women"). Genderqueer may also refer to people who identify as both transgendered AND queer, i.e. individuals who challenge both gender and sexuality regimes and see gender identity and sexual orientation as overlapping and interconnected.