Why don't they understand me?

No one can understand you the way you understand yourself, because they're not you. It doesn't mean that they don't care about you. Or don't want to help. Often time they want the good for us, but they fail to understand us. They don't think like us. And it's totally okay. It's okay if they don't understand you, you know what's best for you. But if you know you're doing wrong and still persist on doing it, then it may be that other are understanding you but you're not understanding yourself. There's a fine line between whats good and what's not. Some people are trying to understand us, others are just forcing their opinions on us.

Sometimes we can feel misunderstood by the people around us. This can feel particularly frustrating if we feel we are doing all we can to express ourselves honestly and openly but the people around us just don't seem to understand. In times like these, it is often a good idea to get to know ourselves really well. If you feel comfortable with this approach, try to take note of your motivations, your goals, what you want out of life, who you want to be, and why certain things are important to you. When you know yourself and have clarity on the things that matter to you, you are better able to communicate those parts of you with the people around you. If they still do not understand, perhaps it is simply that you have not yet found the people who can relate to you. Don't give up in your pursuit! Finding people who understand you and communicating in a way that can be understood both take time, but putting in the effort is worth it!

Because each of us is extremely different. While there are outright toxic people out there, most of the time, people are having a hard time with their minds clouded with culture-induced prejudices, other preconceived notions, and their personal problem, Understanding you is something they don't have the energy to be bothered about, or if they are toxic like I said, they just don't try to at all. Maybe you can try explaining to them exactly what you feel. If they are still unbothered, you have all freedom to be angry at them or to distance yourself from them. It's all up to you. But no matter what, I hope everything gets sorted soon and that you have a good day.

Sometimes people can't fully understand someone else partly because they have never felt whatever it is that you are feeling. Or it could be at a point that they have never felt before if they have experienced it and don't know that that feeling or thing can go to that extreme. Also, if it is something that is about a controversial topic (religion, LGBTQ+, etc.), some people have grown up with whatever it is that they believe or have accustomed to believe and it is hard for them to fully understand why you are on that side. I personally am like one of those people, and it is hard to see why people see that way and not the way that I am, but if everyone understands each other or believes the same thing that everyone else believes, than this world will be really boring

They may not understand you as they have not been through what you are experiencing. When no one is busy and no one is stressed, sit down, tell them how you feel and what you are going through. Do it when everyone is calm in order for people to understand. If people haven't been through what you have, it is difficult to understand. If you do it when everyone is settled, it will make it easier to have sympathy. Make sure you got some sort of plan to make it easier for you and make you feel more confident and prepared.

Personal matters aren't always easy to understand from another person's perspective, but it also depends on the environment - are you around people who want to support? Are you trapped in a culture that prohibits vulnerability? I know that in order for me to be understood, I had to keep trying and finding the right people who would - that meant there was a lot who didn't understand, and that lowered my worth... a lot. I don't think I could get over that, but what helps is knowing that the ratio for help/no help can vary, and I use that as my anchor to keep me going. I hope you find a way to find the "right" people to understand you.

I can pick up that you are feeling really disheartened, confused and upset that people do not understand you. It can be an isolating feeling to feel misunderstood by others and frustrating when you do not know the reasoning if any behind how they think. You may want to ask yourself what you would like people to understand about you. Everyone has a different mind-frame and mentality. But does this make any one person right or wrong? Does this make any person superior or inferior than the other? You may look at the world and find that all these people fit in with the popular notions, thoughts, ideas and feelings. But out of the popular opinions there are people out there that do not think alike. As with any other trait, your way of thinking was shaped by your environment and the actions of people around you (family, genetics). You may want to ask yourself why it matters that others think differently from you or that you think differently from them. Are finding common interests, thoughts and beliefs a way to feel less lonely for you? There are many possible reasons why people cannot understand someone actions, intentions, thoughts and feeling. This can be miscommunication, lack of empathy or they are misreading the verbal and non-verbal cues or that they are just take a while to warm up to others. Misunderstandings are better to clear once a person is calm and willing to listen. Discussion of your own thoughts, feeling with this person in a non-judgmental, assertive way may be for you if you are interested in resolving any conflict within any relationship. A common mistake people make is to use “You did this” statements which can encourage the person to be defensive. You can think what positive action and intention you wanted them to demonstrate. For example, you would want someone who was disorganized to be more organized. If wanting further support please do not hesitate to communicate with one of the listeners or therapists on our site.

Feeling like someone does not understand you can be such a tough feeling. I hear you. Sometimes people do not understand, as they have not been in the same spot as you. We never can fully understand what anyone is feeling because we all cope and feel emotions in different ways. its definitely frustrating when people do not understand us or are not helpful. I hear you. Being understood is a great feeling and I understand you want that feeling. Know that 7 cups is here for you, and we will validate your emotions and feelings, We may not understand completely but we are here to listen and help the best we can

I always feel my parents are not understanding me because they have always do something that annoys me or assume my feeling all by their own. However, when I grew older, I start to know that I have to express my thoughts in order for them to understand me. I have to express my emotion and expose my vulnerabilities to them. In friendship, I also feel like my friends do not understand me at all. However, when I try to communicate my feelings instead of pretending everything is fine, I feel that my friends grow closer and closer to me. That is when I realize I have to communicate effectively in order for people to understand me.

Sometimes, it's just hard for people to understand and empathize with other feelings, try to make an emotional connection, give them some time, and create an environment that allows you both to understand each other. if you want someone to understand you, explain your emotions in the best way they can understand, mostly directly point out what are you feeling, what makes you feel in that way. Sometimes we get overwhelmed by our emotions and others just can't understand it, In such cases, it's better to share what is important and significant, meaning what they should know that could help you or make you feel better.

This is a difficult one. I struggled with this question for quite awhile, and spent even longer trying to understand the answer once I felt I might have found one. An incredibly painful realization I started coming to some years ago is that each one of us, unfortunately, is alone in many ways. Nobody can understand exactly what it's like to be you. Think about it - think about how complicated you are! How complicated we all are. The more we learn about ourselves, about just how complex everything about our being is, the easier it gets to recognize that nobody will ever truly understand. However, there are an incredible number of people who - though they may not understand everything - do understand very much. Maybe not about all of your particular struggles, but certainly about how to talk to you, how to respect you, how to be supportive towards you, and offer you things like kindness, compassion, and understanding. It may not always be perfect, but it will be enough to sustain you.

Its hard to truly know someone even when you are close whether it be friend or family. The first step that can be taken towards mutual understanding is to communicate in a way both parties can comprehend because odds are they cant read you mind. They only know what you tell them or show them. It can be difficult and frustrating to try to communicate but the difficulty is worth it if you are able to establish a better understanding of each other that will last longer than the frustration. Ultimately what I'm saying is try mutual communication and understanding.

How well I relate to this question. Sometimes the reason people don't understand us is that we are not completely identifying the problem. I oftentimes find I dance around an issue because I don't want to hurt someone's feelings. Sometimes people don't process things in the same manner as we do. We must make sure we are being direct and targeting the problem that we want them to understand. Sometimes we have to step away from the person and try again at a later time. I have noticed that I can get very agitated and angry when I feel I am not being understood. Then I shut down and do not give the other person a chance to grasp what I am saying. I get on the defensive side and immobilize everyone that is involved/

I know sometimes it feels you're locked in a small room alone and that nobody could even begin to understand how it feels or what you're thinking, but I promise at least one person does. It just takes the right person, but they're out there somewhere. It just takes hope and a bit of time to find them, as long as you hold on they will show up. Sometimes they've been there the whole time and you haven't noticed. But there's always at least one person who understands and cares about you, it's important you remember that. It can get you so far in life.

Because you aren’t speaking their language and communicating in a way that makes you heard and understood. Communicate in a way that makes your voice understood but also recognized for the value it contains. Every individual has the inate ability to express themselves in a way that is to the benefit of themselves and the world around them. But many people do not yet know the best way in which their voice can be expressed. Expression of voice and expression of ideals opens the soul to the world and allows it to fly like a bird into the world around it seeking to inspire and uplift all who see it. So let loose your bird of expression, do not worry about being understood.

The biggest question that I have been trying to answer is why people do not understand me. This is a lifelong process - of trying to figure out who you are, what you believe in, what your thoughts are, what your feelings are, and how you are acting and behaving in certain situations. For me, someone helped me with their own personal experience, which I am applying to my own life "it is how we react and respond to our situations and circumstances." Sometimes people do not understand us because of how we are responding and reacting to situations. However in my life, it is the other people who are over reacting, lying about my behavior, and being controlling. You have to effectively and clearly state in words, word by word what you say and mean. I am very literal, yet even so, people misunderstand me because of their own personality traits of them have a panicked personality or a manipulative narcissist personality, or just personality differences. It might not be you - if you are getting along with most people and it is just a select group of people that do not understand you. If the majority of people do not understand you, maybe you need to work on your communication skills, as I have found that I need to work on myself in social situations as I am on the autism spectrum and need follow up for Aspergers Syndrome.

No one will ever understand me unless they have been in my shoes. I am the oldest of seven children. Most of my siblings are more social and outgoing than I am. Therefore, I tend to stay to myself as they develop a bond that no one can break. We all get alone ,but it gets awkward later on in our bonding sessions. To sum it up, most of my life I have been sheltered from the world. I have also been told to close my mouth as a child when I wanted to speak. By doing this it became hard for me to express who I am and what I am capable of. I live to support others instead of myself, which I should not have to do. No understands me because they do not know me on a personal level.

they don't understand because they lack experience in what you are feeling. you are your own person and the best person who can understand you, is YOU! no matter what you can always talk to someone and if they understand, then, great! if they don't... well that just means that it's one less thing that they have to worry about. think about how you feel and why you feel like that, if you can point out a certain reason as to why you feel the way you do, then talk to someone else who has experienced the same thing! they might be able to empathize with you!

The beauty in life is that our experiences remain our own to understand and explore. Sometimes, it also feels the opposite of beauty and means that you can feel incredibly isolated in your emotions. I assure you there are many people out there who may be feeling the same things as you, maybe even experiencing very similar timelines and thoughts, but there are so many people in the world it is hard to appreciate who or where they are. You can attempt your best to explain how you feel and those who truly love you will try and understand, but there is some peace that has to be made with the fact that maybe you won't be understood by those directly around you.

i believe there are different reasons why someone wouldn't understand you; they either don't try to understand you, or they simply just don't. especially if someone hasn't experienced what you're going through or feeling, then it can be even harder for them to understand you or put themselves in your shoes.

Well, I guess my answer will be like some other people's answers here. I know it might sound classic, but it's true to my case. People don't understand me because I am unique. There is this drive in me trying to act like the mainstream to get their approval. But it doesn't last long usually. The stronger part in me, which is the unique-different me, will soon make me not at peace with myself. Then I stop looking for approval, because it hurts more being not approved by myself. From then on, I can continue my journey being myself. I am unique. It's okay not to be understood by others.