I have a good life why am I not happy?

I think that this question is asked a lot. People think that you should automatically be fine because you have a good life. If you are unhappy, the common misconception is that it's your own fault, or that it's something you can control or maybe that you don't deserve to be feeling down at all. Mental health has a big impact on our happiness and it's a definite fact that it doesn't pick or choose who has a mental health issue and who doesn't. If feeling happy was a choice then everyone would choose it. It doesn't matter what kind of life you have, mental health is something that can impact us at anytime and take a massive toll on our happiness. It's nothing to be ashamed of, don't blame yourself for it. I listened to a TED talk recently about depression and anxiety, it really opened my eyes to realise that mental health is something people should deal with as a group- if one person is down, then everyone steps in to support them. It should be, what can WE do about this, not what YOU should do. I think that really sums up the point of 7 Cups to the fact that we make people feel like they aren't alone and that we care. To come back to the question 'I have a good life, why am I not happy?' I think that we should concentrate more on the 'not happy' part of this question- the quality of your life shouldn't make you feel bad for feeling anything other than okay. It's human to not be fine sometimes. Your mental health is so important and it's okay to want to concentrate on working on yourself. Everyone's experience of life is different, there is no wand to fix it all, but its really encouraged to talk about these things. Reaching out on 7 Cups, talk to a listener, explore the self help guides etc. There are so many resources out there to help you and support a person through a hard time that they may be experiencing. Sorry for the little ramble. Hope it helped someone out there. x

I have asked myself that question many times. Personally the conclusion I came to is that I need to live a fulfilling life in order to be happy; one with a higher purpose. For me, this means devoting my life to helping others in any way I can and finding the higher purpose in everything I do. Making other people happy makes me happy and helping to look after the environment makes me feel better about myself. I recently watched a film regarding this issue called ‘The way of a peaceful warrior’, which I can highly recommend (available on YouTube).

I'm married to a wonderful guy. Like seriously, he is calm, sticks by me, like a grounding force for me. After two years of looking, I finally have a job that I love! Like seriously love it. I work with kids as an occupational therapist and they never cease to make me laugh and smile. I live in "the happiest town in the USA", as some refer to it, Boulder CO. We're doing okay. Of course life is hard, but we are doing okay. I wish I could enjoy it, but I am constantly behind, overwhelmed, stressed out of my mind, and anxious. I have so little self confidence and I place so much of my value in what others think of me. It's impossible to be happy when you believe the worst about yourself. Everything could be great but if the mind is not at peace then you can't see it or experience it.

Many reasons can contribute to you feeling this way, and none of them have to do with you being crazy or with you feeling out of touch! Many people including myself, have have thoughts of this nature and more so been feeling as if we are blessed with a great life, yet aren't happy. I personally understand this great and totally get that you are struggling with this subject. I can't provide a direct answer, as much as I wish I could. This question has a different answer for everyone. But I can say is that there oftentimes is an underlying cause of other issues that we haven't brought up to the surface yet lie in our heads. These can be from things we feel but don't address, or other issues in our lives. No issues are too small! If you have these feelings that persists with thoughts of sadness and dark thoughts, I would suggest talking to your doctor for a referral for a psychiatrist or therapist. Have a great day!

What society depicts as a good life can often be a limiting factor in one's personal growth. Reflecting on your situation and the feelings connected to it are an important step to lead a happy and above all healthy life. Here are some examples of questions you could ask yourself: If there were no judgement, no 'but', what would you do? When are you the happiest? (around which people, activities, etc.) Where do your personal views on happiness divert from society's norm? Often one can believe that because one has a life others describe as good, one is obligated to feel happy. It can often help to think about mental illness with an analogy to physical illness. Even if you have a good life, you can get sick and you are allowed to be. Seeking help whether with professionals or the ones closest to you can help to reflect on your situation.

What do we mean by having a good life and how this is related with the feeling of happiness? Sometimes we link the sense of happiness to factor completely unrelated to the quality of our life. Often you can hear that people say they were happier when they were struggling with materialistic aspects of their life but they were full of hope, actions and purpose. When they were studying and trying to establish themselves. Reaching a materialistic comfort doesn't automatically provide happiness especially when there are some fundamental loss encountered or a lack of purpose that makes us feel unhappy or empty.

I have experience with this too. Some people have good lives but aren't content or are unhappy. This can make them guilty and confused as to why they aren't happy when their lives are so lucky compared to others. This guilty can lead to self-hate and other bad things, which would only serve to make you more guilty. And so the cycle repeats. This doesn't mean you are selfish or greedy, some people just aren't in their best place. If you feel happier in a less fortunate situation, or a more fortunate situation, this means nothing bad. You are merely more at ease in a different place than you are now.

Sometimes we believe that happiness is a thing or can be found in a person. When in all reality we are happy when we are doing stuff that energizes our hearts and fuel our passion. Think of happiness as seeing the positive in every given situation. Always try to remember that happiness is not something you can buy or receive from someone else. Happiness can only be found within you. It is possible to live a good/blessed life and still not feel happy. Why, because you may be receiving your happiness from something or someone. Try finding a hobby. If you don't know what kinds of things you're into start small. Let the domino effect lead the way. Most of the time one thing leads to another. Enjoy the journey!

I am currently reading the happiness trap by Russ Harris. In the first part he talks about the myths of happiness. On in particular that resonated with me was the idea that there are two meanings of happiness. One is the feeling of happiness, feeling good. The other is having a fulfilling life of things we love that has purpose. He goes on to talk about how as humans we experience a full range of emotions and really don't have as much control over them as we would like. He also describes how every emotion in our lives serves some sort of purpose and we need to accept them. So to answer your question, if you are not feeling happy maybe it is because you are feeling other emotions in your life that you have not yet accepted or figured out what they are trying to tell you.

Your life may look great to others and still frustrate you or lack something to fulfill you. The only one to judge the quality of your life are you and you should do that based on your feeling, not on social standards or by comparing your situation to others who got it worse than you. You have a right to be unhappy no matter how many people "got it worse"! When I feel like my life isn't neccesarily bad but also doesn't fulfill me, I - ask myself whether I have enough persons around me that I can trust and have a good time with - consider changing hobbies / trying something new - ask myself what I want my life to be like in some years, for example what I want to achieve in the next five years and whether what I am doing right now will lead to that or not However, you can also be unhappy without knowing why at all. If you feel bad for a while without being able to determine a reason or in a severe intensity, please consult someone who can help you! Stay safe!

Good and happy have two different meanings. If you have a good life but not happy with it means you are not living the life according to your values or dreams. First, define what a happy life looks like to you and write this down so you can refer to it. Then think about what you can do to achieve this or work towards this. Your life can be good in some aspects but not in other aspects. You need to reflect and analyse the situation in depth to get to the bottom of this. Be positive, have hope and go well :)

Having a good life does not always mean you have to be happy! Similarly, having a bad life doesn't ensure that you are miserable! Putting pressure on yourself to feel a certain emotion can be difficult and taxing to one's emotional state. Additionally, mood disorders like depression can affect anyone. Some people may be more predisposed to developing a mood disorder but that doesn't always mean they will, just like how someone who may have zero risk factors may develop a mood disorder. It is okay not to feel the way other people may be telling you how to feel. It is important to listen to yourself and find what will make you happy, not what other people think should make you happy.

Even the people who seem to have everything in the world can still be sad, there are other factors to emotions and depression that are not related to specific events. Even if your life is perfect, you may not be immune to depression or similar things because they can be caused by chemical imbalances in the brain, seasonal factors, or even genetics. It’s okay to feel sad, even if everything in your life is good, because you are human, and that means you can feel human emotions. You are no less valid just because things are going well, sometimes things just happen.

Being unhappy does not always have a clear reason. Sometimes, we just feel sad, angry, upset, or even depressed. Sometimes it doesn't matter that we have a good life, because life isn't what caused these feelings that we are having. Sometimes we just have these feelings and don't know what to do with them. Sometimes there is an underlying cause of the unhappiness. It can be stress, being overwhelmed, familial issues, stress at work or school, or even feeling upset with a friend. It's important to sit and talk through the feelings you're having in order to find the underlying cause, if there is one.

Thank you for the question. Perhaps, you feel that somethings are working well for you and somethings might not be. Remember that happiness is fleeting or a temporary feeling and life can be good even when you are not happy. Happiness is not a single measure of a good life because there are other factors that need to be taken into account. For example, personal identity, your values, family, friends, and more. Someone can have a good life and still may not feel happy sometimes. It also depends on what contributes to your good quality of life. Perhaps, there could be underlying stress that might be influncing how you feel in the moment or a recent event. Depending on what you believe is a good life and why you are not happy is something to think about. Great question! :)

There's no simple answer to that question, and as I think you know it takes a lot for you to answer yourself. What makes you happy? Is it reaching goals? Spending time with loved ones? A hobby you enjoy? If those things do make you happy, do they make you happy today? If the answer is no, then there might be an underlying psychological or biological issue. For example, a common response to the loss of loved ones is a withdrawal from other activities and a short depression. It's a normal part of grief that illustrates how regular people can experience unhappiness. However, if that depression persists, it becomes a major depressive episode.

I have found that personally I am the only one truly standing in the way of my happiness, I often dwell on the things from the past that have hurt me or the things in the future that I am not certain of. I have not allowed myself to realize that things have changed and that I am in a much better place in my life and that it's really good because of the things I don't know how to let go of. I cannot blame anyone else for me being unhappy because I've come to realize that I truly need to work on me.

That is such a difficult yet common question. I feel like the problem may be our own understanding of what a "good life" or "happiness" is. Do you really have a good life? Or do you feel compelled to believe so because you've fulfilled other people's definitions of success and happiness? Do you like your job, or do you do it anyway solely because it pays well? Are you happy in your relationship? Or do you merely stay because you're afraid of loneliness? Grab a cup of tea (or your favorite drink/snack), sit down with yourself, and ask yourself what really makes you happy, what drives you forward, and what makes you feel like you're expressing yourself.

In my opinion happiness is always evolving. What you want today is likely not what you want to do to. Sometimes we have to find ways to give gratitude for the things in ours lives to gain perspective. Sometimes this helps and sometimes this doesn't. Sometimes we have to do some soul searching to find out what would make us happy or what we find joy in. Sometimes that takes many forms such as hearing birds chirping in the morning or being be the sea. Sometimes it's hearing the laugh of a loved one. Each person is different and what is the right path for you is something that is specific to each individual. I am here to support you on your journey to find happiness.

It is difficult to say from just such one statement so I can give you only some general answers. Often this happens when we have a good life by society standards but this is not exactly what we want. For example, somebody may have a prestigious, well-paid job, but it is not really in line with what they want to do. This may happen in all spheres of life. Other situation when that often occurs is when somebody has lived through something really difficult in the past, often in childhood, and the emotions from that time are not processed, cut off and give such feelings in the here and now. But it's hard to say what your cause is just from the question.

Depression doesn't care about the house you live in, or how much money you have, or even how other people think your life is. The mind is the most powerful thing, and it can have control over you ONLY if you let it. It's common for lots of people to look around and simply not be happy in their hearts- this means you're looking for something to make your soul happy. I understand how you feel, you have to really soul search and think about maybe what the root problem is, and talk to people to try and find out how to solve that. You're not alone.

Happiness comes from within. Any external happiness is only short lived. You might get a million dollars and still not be happy. You might be, but it won't last longer than a few days. So try to enjoy every moment of the life that you have. If you truly live in the moment, you will realize how joyful things everything is! Try to dissolve any past or future thinking and be present with whatever you're doing. Sometimes our incessantly thinking mind loves to create problems even when there are none. So try to be your the master of your mind, don't let you mind rule over you! Also, practising gratitude will help realize how joyful your life is. Try not to focus on the lack :)

Being happy really comes from within you. External factors such as having a good life can influence your happiness but true happiness lies from finding satisfaction within. It’s little things like creative outlets or journaling that can help you find what you are really looking for to live a positive, fulfilling, and happy life. Things like journaling, dancing, singing, or other hobbies can truly be super meaningful and allow you to find true happiness. Of course having a good life helps; you probably don’t have to scavenge or worry about the staples of life: food, water, shelter. But finding what fulfills you is the most important factor in finding happiness.

True happiness isn't the same for everyone. It can differ for you, as it can differ for me, or anyone else. A good life can mean you have stability, but not true happiness. Happiness can mean enjoying every day, feeling content with how things are. You can have a good life, but still be missing that one thing that makes you truly happy. Some people search their whole lives for true happiness, so dont get discouraged if you dont find it right away. Keep searching, you will find something that makes you happy, and when you do, you'll realize it was worth the wait.

I know a lot of people who have comfortable, pleasant lives who also don't feel happy with their current situations. Usually, it's not that they're sad, but they feel like they've reached a plateau or wall in their life. At this point, the best thing you could do in their situation is find new meaning or purpose in the things that you do. Or, many of my friends found new careers or hobbies that brought them emotional fulfillment and happiness beyond material wealth. So I recommend that you take time to meditate on your life situation, think about the things that are most important to you, and go from there.

Sometimes it can be difficult to recognize all the good things going on in your life because there seems to be so many bad things happening around you. I would recommend taking time to focus on the good things going on rather than only paying attention to the negative things. Many times you're mood may be down because of current events or high stress situations, when this happens it is always a good idea to find hobbies you enjoy doing to make life seem more interesting and less of making it seem like you are just doing the same things over and over again because that can be exhausting.

Having a good life and being sad is normal, sometimes it's from something not being fulfilled so you feel empty or things happen that turn your world upside down but you have everything to help you but that isn't what you need.But enjoy the little things in life because its how you think and how you realized you wished something before it was to late. no regrets. people have depression and that's normal you just gotta learn how to cope in a healthy way and how sadness isn't forever that there is a way out. I believe in you. 💚🖤

It is normal for the human mind to be negative. Even when you are happy, our survival instincts can kick in and alert us to look for things that may not be right in our lives. This can result in feelings of unhappiness and can often cause us to reflect and come to the conclusion that we are not happy individuals. It helps to take a step away from what you are feeling and assess it objectively. Try to think about what has caused these feelings, and assess whether your thought process is rational. Often times, you will find you are able to correct your negative cognitions.

The answer is not a simple one. maybe the good life you have is not what you really want. Maybe the social status fit within the limits of "normal" but there is a possibility that you want something else. it is very important to try to find our own way in life. These days, when social media brings to the fore the beautiful part of the lives of others, it is very easy to fall into the trap and want to live the lives of others, but that does not mean it will make us happy. Usually, on social media, people post only the most beautiful aspects of their lives, trying to copy their style we risk becoming even more frustrated because the chances of being happy living the life of others is zero.

Sometimes, even if we feel like we have a good life, that general feeling might not be fulfilling. It’s important to not only see life and your personal lifestyle as one big thing, but as a million little things. Life is made out of so so many small things, feelings, thoughts, everything around it creates it. Showing gratefulness towards those many little things changes the whole pictures, and your whole happiness. Don’t underestimate the small sensations of happiness that you get from little things. Smile, be grateful, show love and be happy for the experiences and chances you get! xx