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Anonymous
January 11th, 2018 2:36am
What defines a good life: is it one were you have all your material needs fulfilled, have a wife and kids, friends, a good job, good health, time for yourself, etc,etc. I believe there is a good life and the GOOD LIFE, being the second one that which makes you feel fulfilled, and the only way to know what that means is throughout a long period of self-knowledge, if you guide yourself by what other people or society say, you may be unhappy anyway. Basically nobody can tell you what will make you happy, you can only find that answer by yourself, that's my belief at least. Hope it helps
Anonymous
January 12th, 2018 3:36pm
Not everything given to us in life makes us happy and I know some feel a lot of guilt around that. The truth is, it's what we can make out of the lives we were born into, and learn that happiness comes within ourselves, or our souls. The soul looks past whether we have a good or bad life, and only attends to you. You are your own journey.
What others perceive as a good life might not be good for everyone. Think about the times you are happy and what is missing when you are not, because maybe you do not have the perfect life for yourself. And even if you do, there are times of sadness even for the happiest people.
Sometimes having a good life can bring happiness and contentment, but if you are having an internal struggle with depression, anxiety, guilt, etc, that can take over your emotions.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2018 2:29am
Sometimes it's not about having a good or bad life. There are a bunch of other factors involved such as your mindset. For me, I had a fairly decent life with some bumps in the road. However there were things in my past that I was raised believing and became a negative thinker. Remember, you don't need to have a bad life to be upset or miserable. You are as valid as anyone else.
Maybe personally things/actions you do are not making you happy. Try some new activities, hobbies, a new atmosphere
Happiness does not necessarily always make you content. Being content can certainly lead to being happy.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2018 1:22pm
A lot of the time depression doesn’t need a reason. You can have everything in the world and still be depressed. Depression is an illness not a choice.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 8:11pm
You may refer to a good job, a good relationship and all outer things are good. But if something it's off it's good to pay attention to it.
Often we can't explain why we aren't happy, it just happens. A 'good' life is subjective, and it can change. Perhaps there are things stressing you? Making you feel angry? Upset? This is all natural. If it becomes more of a problem it may be best to see someone about it (Doctor, Teacher, Parent... etc) All the best to you! :)
Anonymous
February 19th, 2018 11:52pm
You don't control your thoughts or your mind. If you are afraid of heights you can not tell your mind 'I am not afraid anymore', lets go climb trees or re roof that four story building. You have to convince your mind by getting a job painting high bridges....You can't know what will make you happy so you must keep finding things that make you happy getting rid of the ones that don't...forever.
Maybe because we are not living but we are surviving good. Maybe we are living the good life which is the product of someone else's imagination and not ours. Maybe we aren't following our heart's desire. Maybe we killed the dreams that our innocent minds built in the process of fulfilling society's aspirations.
Sometimes depression grabs ahold of all of us for absolutely no reason. This sounds like a situation where you may need to speak with a therapist to find out how to deal with these feelings.
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2018 4:15pm
Despite having a group of friends and a rather positive working environment, the only constant in life is change. And all these things that I cherish will slowly fade away if I do nothing to stop it and this thought scares me.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2018 3:42pm
Not being happy can happen for so many reasons. It can really help if you can pinpoint anything, and try writing them down to try to track these feelings and better understand them. For example, setting unrealistic goals, or being jealous of someone else can be big contributors.
You have to do some soul searching on what you feel is missing from your life. Sometimes you can have everything but lack one things and it will void everything out.
Felling low is usually a chemical imbalance in the brain and has nothing to do with how "good" others may perceive your life to be, and if you are feeling unhappy or low, you are definitely allowed to let yourself feel those emotions without feeling as though you need to justify them with trauma or bad experiences. Sometimes people just feel unhappy, and that does not mean there is anything wrong with you :)
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 6:03pm
This could be because of mental illness, your surroundings. Happiness comes from within. Sometimes it could be depression that is making you feel this way.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 8:03pm
Maybe because it isn't enough. This doesn't specially mean that you are selfish, it could mean that you're having a hard time dealing with things.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 6:25pm
‘A good life’ is very subjective. For you it probably means physical and financial well being. But sometimes, you cannot keep up mentally and thus fail to realise what is troubling you. It is okay. It is normal. Seek for help here so that we can help you.
Anonymous
March 14th, 2018 6:23pm
The definition of success is not defined by how much wealth you have... and I think people most times associate that with having a good life as well... But the definition of a good life could have different meanings for different people. Perhaps in your own terms you life is not as good as the world see's it to be. You ought to give your own definition of a good life, rather than the worlds definition thereof. And perhaps then you will find what you will be most happy with.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 4:11am
Happiness is not on the material of what u have or dont have happiness cant be buy by money happiness is inside of u and you choose if u want to feel it or not everyday u have the choice to choose if u want to be happy or not and by happyness i don't mean that everything has to be so perfect just like fairy tails no i mean when your day is going down or when you feel everything is goind upside down just remeber that u have the power to turn that bad day into something better because everyone has happiness you just have to let it come out of u
Happiness is not extracted from simply having a good life, ask yourself what it is that is making you unhappy and tackle it to find inner peace with yourself.
Because "the grass is always greener on the other side". Humans evolved to seek out new environments/territories and opportunities to ensure constant supply of food. We constantly think there is something greater waiting for us over the rainbow. This hope is enough to keep people motivated, but sometimes it can become problematic if it's makes you unhappy or anxious with your own life.
Depression could be biomedical or psychological. Having a happy life according to other peoples standards may not mean your life is happy. Your type of happiness can differ from someone elses. Ensure that you know what actually contributes to your happiness and feelings of purpose
Anonymous
April 21st, 2018 11:58am
There must be something in your life that you want fulfilled. Something which only you will find, when you go deep into your heart.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2018 4:09am
There is more to depression and sadness than simply having a bad life. I can attest that I have seen relatively wealthy people who are educated, healthy and pleasant to be around to still be not be experiencing happiness.
We have needs beyond safety, security and food and water. We also have to satisfy our relationship needs and we need to have aims and goals in our lives.
In other words, there's probably another reason you're not happy. And it won't necessarily have to do with whether or not you seemingly have the life you're supposed to like.
Seeing that your outside needs are met is a lot easier than seeing if your emotional needs are met.
Happiness is personal. You may have what appears to be a good life to others but still, suffer from dissatisfaction.
We can have money, nice things, and while everything may 'appear' to be right in our lives, you might not happy for reasons deeper than what appears on the surface. Have you considered journaling? Get in touch with a deeper part of yourself to get the answers. Maybe you have an inner child in there that needs help.
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