I feel like life is pointless. How can I find meaning in my life?
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Anonymous
September 15th, 2016 10:44am
doing things that interest you and give you joy is very important as it gives you a distraction and helps you forget your problems for a little while.
Anonymous
February 20th, 2016 8:08am
With Depression it can be VERY hard to find meaning in your life, being a victim of it myself i understand, so the point is to try to find meaning in the little things. Watch cat videos, volunteer to help people, try to make someone's day everyday, go to the park. It will be difficult i know but it's not impossible i promise you. You make life meaningful yourself, even if you have to start small.
Find something that you really enjoy doing, don't worry about what other people think even though that may be a challenge. If you try plenty of new things then hopefully you will find an area that you aspire to carry on with and hopefully in some way that will bring meaning to your life. It doesn't have to be about doing anything for the greater good, it's about finding meaning for you in something that you value.
You find meaning in the things you do. Make your bed in the morning, brush your teeth, or tell yourself the day will be a great day. Small goals must be set and you can use those goals to create small achievements in your life creating a purpose until you find something you are great at to create purpose for yourself. Life is worth living. All emotion is worth expressing because even the sad ones make the happy ones feel even better.
One of the things about depression is that it switches the link between motivation and action so you end up having to do things before you feel motivated to do them.
Surround yourself with positive people, who will support you and motivate you to do things you've always wanted to do, never be afraid to step out your comfort zone, every little achievement you make will thrive you to do things you never thought you could, you can do it!
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2017 3:18am
Pay attention to the people/things that mean most to you. If you're not sure what exactly that is yet, keep your eyes open for it. Also, evaluate all of your relationships in life and determine whether they're making a positive or negative impact on you. You don't need the negative bringing you down. You'll feel a lot better when you rid them. You'll find your place eventually, never give up! :)
Find your inner happiness and don't attach that inner happiness to someone or something. you should do and enjoy what makes you happy. Anything with positive energy in it that will want you to do it again.
Anonymous
June 16th, 2018 3:19pm
Set goals. Begin by setting small daily/weekly goals. Even if your goal is as simple as going for a long walk or to try a new recipe. I believe that in life, it is often the little things that make a big difference.
Life has countless possibilities of things to do. You could hike through the Grand Canyon, lead a musical in your hometown, start a punk-rock band with a few of your friends, or do any other number of things. That's not to say that the little things aren't important either, because a cup of ice-cream on a hot summer night, or walking around a park with a few friends, or even just watching tv is meaningful.
Find strength in the small things, even just getting up in the morning is a step in the right direction. Maybe stay off social media for a while as pressure to be like others can leave you feeling down sometimes. Do things you used to love, even getting fresh air and taking time to surround yourself with calm nature might help.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 8:18pm
Look around you for things that you enjoy, even the simplest thing could lead you through wonderful paths.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 12:11pm
The meaning in your life can be found anywhere. You don't need to be a successful doctor in order to feel happy in your life. Every person experiences happiness differently. Try to find what makes you happy. Start small, with petting a kitten and cuddling with a stuffed animal and then continue to grow, going on big vacations and buying a new house. Only you can discover yourself.
You can try and be diverse. Meaning. If you go home and find your self doing the same thing as a routine 24/7,change it up. You might be feeling like this constant repetition is boring but you might continue to do it because you're so use to it. Go out and meet new people. If you pretend to be happy, you might end up decreasing such negative thoughts in life. It will never hurt to try :)
Well, depending on this severity, I will say that finding professional help would be very important as well as focusing on self care. If you're having suicidal thoughts, please contact a hotline.
That being said, a meaning in life is really acknowledging those positive moments we feel. Life naturally has ups and downs. It's not a steady incline, but instead comes in waves. Knowing that, we can try to see our happy moments more easily. Happiness and purpose comes in many places- relationships being a big one, hobbies that fulfill you, and potential career, etc. If you've found yourself in a slump, make sure first and foremost to take care of your physical health. With that, try to keep a running list of small, positive moments as they happen. It will keep you looking out for them, and see how they most likely hit with more impact than the negative.
Anonymous
March 24th, 2018 1:32am
Remember that no life is pointless. Think about all of your dreams and aspirations. Set goals, and get yourself excited for everything that you're good at.
Anonymous
September 28th, 2018 5:00pm
Personally, I don't subscribe to the idea of "finding meaning" in life, since I discovered that meaning is something which I assign to life. What i do instead is find the AWE in life. Those are the things that make up my everyday existance: plants that fill the world with green and every other color, also the flowers and food, the beautiful sky and pure air i breathe. I find the natural world to be awesome, the animals that, like me, live off the plants and the oxygen that they generate from the sun. Existence is so incredible that to attempt to assign it meaning is just an exercise in futility. Revel in the pure wonder of life, and leave meaning out of it.
The thing about life is that it can be very confusing at times but it's an adventure that is worth your time. The important thing out of all this is to know that it's okay to feel like you don't know where to go or to feel like there is no motivation to keep you going in life anymore, sometimes it's okay to feel that way. Now, to find your motivation or your purpose you have to get out of your comfort zone, you have to try everything, sometimes we can't find what we're looking for because we are too scared that we are going to be wasting our time. I know that sometimes when you see people talking about how they always knew this certain thing was what they wanted to do, that this can be discouraging but it's okay to not know what you want to do because you will find it but in order to find it you need to experience life, you need to find your limitations and know your strengths in order to find what you love. you need to find who you are first in order to fins your motivation.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 1:03pm
i think this is such a difficult question. The answer is so personal to each and every person. In my experience one place many people start is by remembering what they used to enjoy, or what they used to find meaningful. They many not feel like it is enjoyable now or even want to do it, but sometimes just be "going through the motions" you are re-able to discover some enjoyment in life. This is always a better place to start when searching for meaning.
For others it may be that this is a time to completely re-evaluate their lives; to search for new goals and change direction. This is maybe a more daunting task but perhaps it can be tackled by first acknowledging what it is you are feeling, accepting that you are feeling this way for a reason and then being interested as to what that reason is.
There is always meaning to anyone's life. Find things that you enjoy doing, people you enjoy being with, and aspects in life that motivate you! There is always something waiting for you out there. Don't give up hope or become distraught if something doesn't work out. Life isn't always easy and there will be times when one can feel as if life really is pointless, nothing to do, you don't feel like you're important, no one cares about you. But the truth is that many people feel that way and one may not notice that because you're too wrapped up in your own emotions etc. But don't worry, life has something in store for you, you just have to break free from the negative bonds and see it.
You were born to learn, to discover, to decide, to experience, to live, to grow physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, materially, to give and to leave something good behind you.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2018 10:25am
Life has no meaning. And no, that’s not a bad thing. You see for thousands of years philosophers and thinkers and everyday people have dedicated their whole lives to answering this question. But most of them did not even come close to understanding the mystery of why we are here. Most people are living life completely wrong. They spend their whole lives chasing money while working hard at a job that doesn’t make a difference with people that don’t really care about them. Then when they finally retire they are old and weak and full of regrets that they can’t change. They prioritise the things that don’t matter and so hate the life they have created for themselves. To find meaning in life, you have to live it to the fullest (cringy I know but I mean it). Tell your crush you live them. Go to the class you’re scared shitless about. If something terrifies you and excites you at the same time then it is so important that you do it. Life is pointless, so it doesn’t matter if you mess up. So many people feel suicidal due to fear they may never amount to anything. What do they expect will happen when they die? They’ll live their dreams? How can you find meaning? Wear ugly clothes, get that job that your parents hate, get married, be kind to others, inspire others, do the simple things that excite you and always have. Go through life like a child with your eyes wide open. Realise that it doesn’t matter what grades you get. It doesn’t matter. Always wanted to write a book but everyone around you thinks your terrible? Life is pointless anyway! Find someone that makes you feel alive and spend as much time as possible with them (platonic too for my ace peeps). Try, don’t try, who cares? Find something that makes you forget time is passing and do it. Life is pointless so take life by storm. Die with no regrets. That’s the kind of person I respect.
Finding something to immerse yourself in is easier said then done, but that is exactly what I did and I managed to fight my depression because I found my meaning in music. Activities that can be done alone such as listening to music, running, cooking, whatever it may be would be a good place to start. You need to figure out what gives you that warm feeling inside when you're feeling your lowest. You need to find that feeling for yourself and it may seem sometimes that you don't have the energy to or you simply don't care anymore. But, when you find that thing that doesn't make you feel alone, I assure you, all those times when you felt like giving up, you will realise how strong you are to keep going.
I'm sorry that you feel this way and I understand what that is like but you have to understand that there is always room for hope. You have to find something that you love and invest yourself in it, give yourself purpose because you can find it in yourself you just have to believe that.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2019 3:48pm
Well, there are a lot of people in the world who are looking for there place in it. Once you find your purpose in life everything will become much easier for you to understand and why you exist. Everyone have a role to play in this world the only problem is that we have to find our own roles. It is a shame that life does not come with a road map. If it did perhaps more of us could stay on course and find our destiny. I just want to say to you whatever, you like to do in life is closely connected to your purpose. Keep looking, and searching for your place and one day you will walk right into it. I wish nothing but the best as you continue to pursue your calling life.
The meaning of life comes from within us, not from people or things around us. The harder we try to find the meaning through relationships, finances, academia, politics, etc., the emptier we may actually feel. It's not to say those things don't ADD meaning. They certainly do. But meaning in each and every one of our lives is more like finding inner peace, knowing our purpose, and loving ourselves unconditionally in spite of the hardships we may have been through or are currently facing. No one can steal these these from you, no one can give them to you, and you cannot buy them anywhere. Meaning in your life will not be the same from person to person. Each individual has a powerful impact on his/her/their circle of influence, but that circle may look nothing like the person next door or in the next country. Once you have set things in order inside your own temple, things begin to become clearer of how you can make a positive impact on those around you. Much peace and love to you throughout your journey!
Please don't hurt yourself. Is there a family member or friend who cares about you? What do you or used to enjoy? What productive things do you do? Perhaps look into some spiritual and or religious service. Perhaps attend a religious service. Volunteer. Go out into the community. Do you have a pet or child? You're breathing and your heart is beating. That is your purpose. Do you have and goals or dreams? What would you say to a friend if they had your issue? Go into nature. Breathe fresh air. Exercise. Smile. Don't give up. You're here for a reason.
There is so much meaning in every life- we just have to find it! For some people it's easy- they find something they love to do with no problem at all. But others need to experiment with different things, you'll eventually find something you're passionate about and that's where the meaning lies!
At some point in everyone's life, we feel this way. You are not alone. Find a passion to occupy your mind/time. This can be meditating, music, sports, or even writing. Finding a passion can really change your state of mind.
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Life is pointless it is up to you to give it a point ...... that can be a huge thing like curing cancer or something small like reading all you can ....... you can stick to a point for years or months or devote your life to it .... the meaning you find in life is the meaning you give it
Anonymous
December 17th, 2017 12:01am
At times, life can lose purpose and become pointless. This is especially true with depression in my experience. Finding that purpose is not easy. Reaching out to loved ones, and talking it through can help a great deal.
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